Time to leave and make a new life for yourself
Run !!! You deserve better !
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Sit down and tell him how you feel about it. He can get on the train of change with you or he can get left behind. Work on yourself. Start doing things you enjoy and fall in love with yourself. If he chooses to be left behind. Leave him. Run. Actions speak louder than words so don’t just take his word he’s changing. And trust your gut.
This is straight up
Cheating!! Be careful what you are letting him get away with, your showing him how much bs you’ll put up with. This will not have a “happy ending”!
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Telm him what u found n tell him he is a POS n LEAVE HIM.
The problem is not you, it is him. You need to sit down and have a serious conversation with him and you need tell him that you don’t want any bs explanations. You deserve to know the truth. And then you need to ask yourself some serious questions. You cannot be in a relationship were you feel that you need to change in order for him to be happy. If you want to change for you that is great, but never change for anyone else, because the problem is them and not you. Good luck and I hope you get the answers you need.
Get tested for STDs ASAP, protect yourself. There are female condoms too. How long have you been together? Kids? Might try marriage counseling if you’ve got a lot invested, alone if he won’t go.
Once/if you decide to leave, get advice from a women’s center or domestic violence hotline. Financial, legal, emotional and safety considerations, and you want to have all documentation secured first.
Good luck! Whatever happens, you will be fine. There are way worse things than being single. 
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Throw the whole husband away!
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Catfish him!
Be like… APRIL FOOLS BITCH.
then take him for everything he worth! Lol
This isn’t you issue it’s HIS ISSUE. Don’t doubt yourself, don’t let him manipulate you with excuses for HIS behavior.
How many years have you been married? How many children do you have? How young are they ?How invested are you in this marriage? Good things to consider for an easy exit or a strategy to get some intervention and some help.
You’re in a tough situation I wish you the best.
My boyfriend is 51… and wants it everyday… that isnt why for sure
He must be looking for someone or wouldnt be on these sites period.
This has nothing to do with the way you look. This is straight up cheating, even if it’s never been physical. I would guess that he probably has an addiction to porn. He’s probably looking at anything he can. He needs to change this or you need to move on. No one should have to live life with a feeling that their partner is not attracted to them. I’m sorry. You don’t deserve that. No one deserves that.
So. I agree with every one ,but somethings have to be done first. Like try working it out- counseling- straight talking- whatever! Try to salvage it. Cause everyone is not perfect though we think every one should be. We give so much grace to ourselves when we’re in trouble but little to no grace when we judge others.
Marraige is something done under God in covenant, and there are vows, “ for better or worse, through sickness and health”
U know! Stuff like that! Ppl don’t understand marraige ! It’s not perfect. And marriages vary by characters, personalities etc etc! No one is perfect.
So fight first! Give it ur best, but don’t be taken advantage of. Be firm and straight up! Demand change and keep tabs on it. Things don’t change??? Make a decision.
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You deserve better! Seriously! If he can’t appreciate his beautiful wife then leave his ass!
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I’m sorry you’re going through this. I know it’s easier said the done but leave!! You deserve respect and honesty. This behavior shows he is incapable of both.
You’re feeling unfortunately is correct. And i believe the word we are all looking for here is cheating. I wonder how he would feel if the rolls were reversed??? Try it. See what reaction you get out of him.
Bs…he’s obviously getting it from someone else. And he’s lying about it. Run away as fast as you can.
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No guy doesn’t want sex no matter what age they are that is bullshit. You need to do what’s best for you and take care of yourself. Nothing is worse for your self esteem than being with someone who doesn’t want you sexually. And trying to change yourself so he’ll pay attention to you is waste of your time. Life is to short for all that BS.
It only gets worse from here. It will ruin you if you stay. You will question yourself which will drive you crazy. I don’t think you should change for him if he doesn’t want to change for you.
This is toxic for your mental and emotional health. Please leave, I know it’s easier said than done but even if you stay it will always bug you and you won’t be able to forget it and there will be no trust!
You should of logged in a changed his settings. Like instead of searching for females turned it to searching for males
Why did this remind me of my daughters sperm donor after she was born I found him on several dating apps and sex sites be careful with that he could always be meeting up with people too not just browsing around and then god forbid bring you home something:nauseated_face: That’s not even a joke seriously you know what to do 
It’s time to leave him and find you a real man that will appreciate you and show you a good time every chance he gets!!!
I’m kind of curious how you found out he was on those sites unless you were on them as well? Please correct me if I’m wrong. Obviously theres a lot more variables that come in to play, I’m assuming. So, this actually sounds like addiction to me. What a lot of people dont take in to consideration is that porn or other sites of that nature (cam girls, onlyfans shit, live webcam, chaturbate, etc) can lead to an addiction of porn itself. It sounds ridiculous but I’ve been there myself, so I kind of get it. It probably has nothing to do with him not being attracted to you and it probably has nothing to do with him getting older and not wanting it anymore either. I think it boils down to the fact that masturbating to porn or other things of that nature is easier and takes less effort. So if your sex is literally the same thing over and over again (like most people), it becomes more of a chore than anything when you could instead just go fuck yourself and get off much quicker without the added hassle. I’ve talked to plenty of guy friends who have told me basically the same thing. It’s not that they dont love their partner or find them attractive but the sex just isnt where it should be. Have you tried spicing things up? Snoop and look into the content he is watching and try to improvise, if you want to. Role playing or something. I mean, I personally wouldn’t but I’ve also never been put in a position that warrants that decision.
All in all, (from what I’ve read) I dont think it’s a matter of your husband not being attracted to you. I truly believe he has some sort of porn addiction and that’s a harder habit to break than you would think. Maybe throw on some of the porn hes been watching and see if he gets in to it? I think he just needs some added spice and honestly, I wouldnt blame you if you didnt want to give that to him (him being on hook up sites is so disrespectful and in most people’s eyes, unforgivable). Good luck!
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Have an open conversation. First Ull need to figure out what you want and what is your boundaries. If you’re interested in compromising. Maybe ask him to have you to join. That often excites them. In return. Maybe have quiet night between you guys. If you want to feel wanted. Ask for an open relationship. This often either brings the truth out or you both a secondary person that can give what he can’t. Or walk out. Find a man who doesn’t need what you dont want and want the same. I hope I said it in a right way. Best of luck.
You deserve to be happy !!!
Time for you to find someone better than that nasty ass man whore girl. Fuck a man anyway all they do is give us heartache and they ain’t even worth it. Too hard to find genuine these days