Sounds like you need to reevaluate your marriage.
How could you stay with him?
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Legally the wife or husband is next of kin.
Communication is the key
He doesn’t like you either
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Well you didn’t ask him?? Instead of Facebook ask him!!!
Sorry, why did u get married?!!??!!!
Yeah, that’s a NO from me!
If he doesn’t trust you then you can’t trust him. Point blank. I couldn’t stay at that point. That would have hurt me too bad and I’d lose all trust for him.
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Your husband doesn’t trust you 
girl get a new husband
Have you asked him about this?
The only people who should be next of kin are parents, children, or spouse. Period. The end.
If the parents or spouse is deceased, and no children, then whatever family member or friend is closest to the person.
In this situation, you’re still married and have kids. So nawww he’s being a poop taco.
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Why would you stay married to a person who feels that way about you?? I couldn’t do it
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could be he thinks she xould be impartial if ever there’s an accident and hard decisions need to be made. perhaps he thinks you wouldnt be able to follow his wishes because you love him too much. my 19 year old doesn’t want his father or I listed to make medical decisions for him because he thinks we are too close to follow what he would want
Um no… You should be his next of kin… Your good wife… Mother of his kids… That’s just weird… And the fact he told you straight up he doesn’t trust you?? So why is he with you then?? If there was any kind of accident… They would call his ex… Before you were ever to find anything else out… My husband is on mine, but so is my mom, because my husband doesn’t have a phone number. We share one. He should have you down. He should be able to trust his own wife.
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Oh wow. I would have to ask him the reasoning behind it, but in a non judgemental way
Surely there are reasons he doesn’t trust you ?
I mean you can be upset but the reality is that he can name who he wants as NOK.
The trust reason should probably be talked about in counseling. You can absolutely work through trust issues so don’t jump to immediately walking out simply because he has voiced his distrust. What you do with that information is what counts.
My sons father mom was next of kin and got money but son saw nothing it’s a disgrace his own grandmother never even met him wouldn’t even look at her grandson after he passed I know she wasn’t on his life but if he was the problem why make this poor lil child suffer more ahhhh
Have you given him a reason to not trust you? If the answer is no I’d take my children and leave respectfully.
No way you have kids with him not her your kids need to be taken care of too and if god forbid anything happens like does he have his and your kids covered in the will or just his ex like wow dam
Ummm and your still there?? He wants his ex back
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Do you have any idea as to why he would say that?
Next kin means what?
They together!!! He’s in love with her
Pretty odd!! I would give you everything to you if you were my only only I love and no one else. Smh.
Run. Run as fast as you can. Return him to sender.
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Drop him like a hot potato
Send him back to her then. If he doesn’t trust you, why did you marry him??
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1 it could be he trusts her to not take any medical measures to save his life. Sit down and communicate with him. Or get a lawyer and send his ass back to sender.
What doesn’t he trust about you? That’s the part I don’t get ?
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Honestly, I think you are over reacting. My wife and I have were together 4 years and it’s wasnt until I was diagnosed with MS and we were discussing NOk and such, that she even thought about who hers was(her ex wife, it has since been changed.) It’s honestly something most people don’t think about until they are asked or talking about it.
Having said that, if he is refusing to change it that’s that’s completely different story, and a huge red flag.
I would send him back to his x wife
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I’m not being judgemental but I read this twice and right off bat y’all need to talk civil conversation I read the simple part where stated “he’s always been mine” that sounds possessive which may be reason what’s more to the story talk one on one n figure out everything together
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Have you been up to some sneaky stuff? It’s weird that someone trusts their ex that they were only with for a year more than their spouse and mother to their children without cause.
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Y’all are way too quick to tell ppl to get rid of their spouse. They need to have a deep conversation about why he doesn’t trust her and maybe look into counseling.
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Why are you still married if he doesn’t trust you?
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No trust, no marriage. If you guys can’t get to the bottom of this and find a way for this to be changed I would definitely not stay with him… that just seems so disrespectful if you ask me. The woman who has his kids should always be first, especially since you are married.
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Holy heck girl…
why do you think he doesn’t trust you??
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If theres no trust, theres no relationship. I would let him go. Whats the point in wasting your time
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He would have been handed some fucken divorce papers
Thats a huge flag… youre the current wife and not listed as next of kin… Thats a serious conversation yall need to have …
Send him out the door. If he doesn’t trust you then why are you guys married? His kids should be next of kin not his ex. Why would he leave his kids nothing?? I’d be asking him that.
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I’d be gone! Why be with someone who doesn’t trust you? Relationship are build on trust and are a key foundation to a healthy relationship. Wow, I’d be livid!
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Why stay married if he doesn’t trust you. Let his EX have him back ! He is not in your. Corner
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Have you addressed why he feels that way? Sounds like there is more to then then stated. You both need to sit down talk.
Then leave… I damn sure wouldve… look me straight in the eye and tell me that, I’ll pack my shit and go.
What did you do to make him not trust you? And there’s always three sides to the story and you’ve only given us one
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Was he been employed at the same place before he met you? Maybe it was just one of loose ends he forgot to tie up. It could be completely innocent. Did you ask him about it?
Fuck that. Get out. If u don’t have trust, u don’t have anything.
Yes, you should be upset
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When you says, no kids no shares friends and his always been mine, that sounds possessive. If he can’t trust you I wonder if your behavior and or attitude might be to blame? Is his ex still his next of kin, or was she previously and he now does not have anyone but has not listed you? Just because you are married with kids does not mean you have to be the one he leave everything to, I would leave everything to someone I trust to make sure the kids are taken care of, whether that’s my spouse, a brother or sister, etc.
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Girl, LEAVE his trifling Azz!!!
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There needs to be a conversation because that is freakin weird. Unless you’ve given him a reason to not trust you. I would say maybe because of kids together but you stated that they didn’t share kids. If he doesn’t trust you enough to list you, as his wife, as next of kin, there are major issues. Have that conversation and gauge him.
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If he doesn’t trust then walk away… dats a hurtful thing to say to u… I’d file for divorce
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Why marry someone you completely don’t trust. That’s crazy
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Being listed as next of kin normally is for medical reasons has nothing to do with who has power of money that’s a will thing !
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I could see a family member my sister was listed for the longest time until we had our daughter as my if something happens not not my husband. But an ex hell to the no give him back theirs definitely something being untold here but that’s just shitty
Why are you guys married of he didn’t trust you.
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I’d be divorcing him. The only things I don’t trust my mad to do is cook or work on my car, he wasn’t taught either and I was taught both and I’ve been slowing teaching him things and he’s getting lots better at cooking… he doesn’t trust me to do a few things either like wash his hair or shave his face (I’m accident prone and would end up cutting him or getting soap in his eyes so I don’t blame him) 
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He told you he doesn’t trust you, what you still doing with him?
How did you get to marry him, were you the cause of his break up with his first wife? If you scheme to get things, trust becomes a problem.
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He has shown you where his loyalties lie…
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Have you asked WHY he doesn’t trust you?
Seems like there is more to this.
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UM. TF!
“Ohh ok HONEY, she can have you in that case since I’m so untrustworthy! If you need me I’ll be packing mine and the kids things”
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My mom is mine, not my husband. I didn’t want my husband to have to make that choice. My moms a lot more though. Also I knew when I gave birth if a choice had to be made my mom would choose my daughter, my husband would have chosen me. I would have wanted my daughter to be top priority.
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Have you discussed this with him ask him straight up why he doesn’t trust you and also what kind of contact does he have with his x wife
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Maybe he doesn’t trust you with large sums of money or medical decisions. My daughter is primary beneficiary on everything for me, she is 25. My husband even agreed! He said he would blow through any money before i was even cold.
Maybe his ex is overly calm in etreme situations and emergencies.
I am an emergency person for honestly, a few friends and family. Nothing about trust but i am rational in a crisis. Even as i weitethis i am in the midst of a huge crisis with a friend. Life or death crisis. I am her emergency contact. I have her bank passwords. I have been given complete permission to talk to medical, media, and attorneys not just on her behalf but on all things no matter how confidential. Her mom is not. Her mom will fall apart. She has been divorced a little over six months. Not her brother, not her sister. A friend. They cannot handle the stress. Right this minute i am on a subway for my commute. This is when i cry. The. I pull myself together and get her what she needs today all while working. Then i fall apart for my afternoon subway commute. No one else in her life can.
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Just because you have a kids and married don’t mean there is trust there…just saying…sorry
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Is kin for medical reasons tho…
I think you meant your ex husband because wtf ?
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I may be colourblind but I can see that red ass flag
If there is no trust then I don’t understand how you can even have a relationship
Send him back to his ex then, don’t understand stand his thinking, hope it works out for you 
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Legally you are next of kin
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Does he have a reason not to trust you? Look if it was be if be pissed but I don’t know your situation. Certain cases like this we get one side of the story. We never know the other persons side so it’s more than difficult to give a fair answer.
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That would not go over very well with me!!!
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How long ago did he fill out that paperwork? If it was before you two got together being a little upset is understandable. Guys don’t think about such stuff and changing it. If he filled it out after you got married then you need to have a talk with him about if he really wants you in his family.
O no pack him be on his way or pack his thing and throw in her yard now
Another guy out there will treat you better. Don’t be worried about this one there’s other dudes with the same thing
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Tell good pack up go back to the one you trust
That’s SO weird. Why would he NOT put you down? I mean have y’all children together!
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Get rid .why u letting your self be made a fool off
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I wouldn’t trust him he’s probably still seeing her
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Nah I’d bounce after that cuz wtf
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So he doesn’t plan on taking care of his kids and wife? Wow is all I can say
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Maybe you should give him reason to trust you
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Knowing nothing about you, I have zero input. He obviously knows something that we don’t 
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…he looked you in the eyes and said that?? Whew chile…smh.
He’d be my ex husband.
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So basically hes making sure his ex is taken care of but not you and your children! Girl run do not walk to the nearest divorce lawyers
Ummmmmmmmm this is off
Is this something new? Maybe he just forgot to change it. Didn’t think about/forgot it. Have you asked him about it? Talk to him, he’ll probably laugh and tell you it never crossed his mind and that he’ll take care and change it to you🤗.
Red flags
I would not ever stay in a relationship if i were put second to an ex.
Also I wouldn’t want to commit any longer to a relationship where I am not trusted for no reason or have to question my significant others motives.
And you looked him in the eye and said then we’re done right?!? And called lawyers today?
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Next of kin as I’m who they call if somethings goes wrong or he’s dying ? As in gets life insurance or to make medical choices if he’s unable ? Now I’m not saying that he’s right but maybe he doesn’t trust you to make the choice he would want for example turning of life support maybe he feels you would keep him on it with hope and that isn’t what he wants and he knows she’s just “pull the plug”
Then leave, since he told u he doesnt trust u. Trust is the number 1 thing in a relationship, and clearly u heard him tell u himself he doesnt trust u, so u dnt have a real relationship. Id cut my losses rt now and let him have the ex.
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Yall saying file for a divorce but yall not asking what happened to make him not trust her…something on both sides aint right
If this was me and my husband. The min he said he didn’t trust me. My response would be well there’s no need for us to be married. I’ll see u in court for child support n u can 1000000% trust that. I’d pack my things and children things n be out
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He still deals with or wants the ex that was disrespectful
Something smells fishy here. That makes no sense at all 
he doesn’t trust you? It’s him who is hiding something.