Them fighting words. My husband knows better than to say anything negatively about my body. I’ve been very obese at times and I’ve been at healthy weights. My weight will be a forever battle for me. I don’t care if he has .01% body fat, no one gets to make that sort of statement and not come across as an asshole. Love yourself and care for yourself, however that is for you!
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I am the same as you, I used to weigh less and had 2 kids and am heavier. My husband continuously calls me sexy and beautiful and still has his hands all over me. I’m sorry but this isn’t okay!
Rock that outfit girl !!! Go on a girls night out and let him set at home with the kids 
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Girl let me tell u something. I am 5’3 267 pounds, i can walk around naked and my fiance will still tell me I’m beautiful. Any man that thinks it’s ok to tell their woman that was not raised right. You carried 2 wonderful children for that man and the balls he has to disrespect you in that manner is disgraceful. He should be ashamed of himself for talking to you that way. You do you mama, put that brand new outfit on and rock it.
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Baby throw that whole man away.
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Oh I am so sorry. I understand how you feel I had a baby in 18,19 and 20. I have lost and gained. Now trying to lose via 3 sections. My stomach isn’t the same. But you are a beautiful mama. Your babies love you no matter what.
My husband just said your husband was a douche and that he didn’t have to endure the physical effects of giving birth to the two kids he helped to create. Completely uncalled for!
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I hope he looks like a male model. Your feelings are valid . You are not overreacting. He should apologize.
I’d personally tell him you could lose the weight real quick if you drop him . 
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Miss Ma’am! You have every right to be hurt. Someone doesn’t get to tell you what hurts. It was incredibly insensitive for him to point that out to you when you were trying to do something for him! Birth takes a toll on a woman’s body and 20 pounds is a ton of weight to lose and you DID THAT! Go girl. Keep your chin up and he should really think about what falls out of his trap next time
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Maybe he was a little to blunt. I’d be happy my man wouldn’t let me look bad but the same my bfs to Blunt. I’m 5’1 an use to being 100-105 the last few year. I like 110-115 an this past 6mths some reason now I’m able to gain weight an I’m 140 and feel so fat an none of my clothes fit anymore. For our height it says in books an doctors say 110-115. So I feel you all the way. Certain weights on shorter people just show more ugh my bf is as blunt as he is an I’ve learned to be the same back.
Don’t feel worthless! He def should be told his response is what is the problem. I would think if a part of the outfit is not flattering on us…we would them to tell us in a way that is not rude. My hubby will respond like, oh okay. That is a different outfit when I ask him how do I look. That tells me it is not really flattering on my body type. If I look great, he says you look amazing! Maybe you can have key phrases like that.
You’re not over reacting! That was a deep cut comment and he knows it! Be proud of yourself for your success so far. Not everyone is fortunate to carry small and go right back to prebaby body immediately after. That definitely wasn’t the case for me. 20 lbs is a big deal! Tell him to shove it. He should be proud of you. Sounds like he’s in a mood. Offer him a manpon. He could be a great guy all around but that was a jerk move on his part.
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He definitely should not have said that but he honestly may truly not understood why it upsets you so much at the same time.
As ur husband I feel like he should praise you for trying to lose the weight. It’s not like you’re letting it get the best of you. Just keep pushing yourself to do and be your best. Losing baby weight is hard and getting use to eatting normal after having children is hard too. You eat like a elephant when ur pregnant n I don’t think the hunger really subsides afterwards. You still feel like ur never getting enough. I’m proud of you for losing that much already. It’s hard to do anything along the lines of dieting and exercise. Just keep doing what your doing and try not to let it get the best of you but next time id tell him to shove it bc your beautiful no matter what
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Yeah there are way kinder ways to talk to your spouse. He was out of line and he owes you an apology.
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Im sorry he sais that and no ur not overreacting.
Im a lucky woman to have found a man who loves me and all my extra weight and the one time he said anything about me losing weight was cause ive been having lots of pain in my knee and if i lose some weight the pain would lessen or go away. But he doesnt want me to lose my big ass or thick thighs.
Again im sorry for what he said
So sorry this happened to you. I have been married for 26 yrs and was always on the heavier side. He would NEVER fix his mouth to say this. Words hurt worse than anything else. You are very much beautiful in the skin you are in.
You have gained a 100 lbs (I have too) Try to give him a break this time let him know how it feels to hear that. Tell him that you have a mirror and are self conscious enough already!Also I am sending you hugs! It sucks but don’t dwell. Love yourself you are a Mama and are beautiful 
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No you are not wrong for feeling this way.but you have to be determined to loose weight.no one can do it for you .i use to weigh 219 .i got down to 137 .it took me 6 years to do it .it is not easy.i go up and down on my weight.i do not stay at 1 weight .i eat 6 small meals a day .i eat what i want to but in very small amounts.i dont eat no chips no ice cream no cake .i do eat some Peanut Butter but not a whole lot .you can do it.dont give up .
Of course it hurt!!! He ought to b glad it Wasnt me he told that too! Im not saying what I would do im pretty sure u kniw! One question!! Is he body building material?? Does he have a six pack or does he have a keg?? Those r his kids u had!!! Does he Calvin Klein models body??? That’s what u need to tell him!!! Yea he oughta be glad it wasn’t me!!!
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That wasn’t uncalled for, cloddish thing to say. I completely understand how that hurts. He is the rude, insensitive one. 20 pounds is a lot of Weight to lose. Do it for yourself or it won’t stay off. Love yourself. You deserve it.
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Your feelings are valid. There is absolutely no reason for this and I’m so sorry that your weight is being used as ammo to hurt you 
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Unless he says stuff like this all the time than he may not mean it the way you took it. If you talk about your fat rolls with him than he may have been trying to joke about it like you do. Let him know that it did in fact hurt your feelings because you are self conscious of it and that it was date night so the timing was not right either and then let it go. Men don’t always think before they speak. Now if he says stuff like this all the time then he doesn’t value you as you and only is defining you by your weight. If it helps any I still say that I’m working off the baby weight and my son is 10 years old! But I joke around because I honestly don’t care what I look like or what others think of me.
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I know how you could lose (I’m guessing) about 180 pounds. Throw the husband out. There’s no excuse to making a comment like that but to tear someone else down
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You have every right to feel the way you feel, and nobody can tell you otherwise. But to say that he was completely insensitive and intentionally hurtful is unfair without knowing your dynamic. For instance, my fiance and I are best friends. If he were to say something like this to me, while it may sting, I know that he’s just pointing out what’s not flattering. Just like I do to him when he tries to wear shirts from his younger thinner days. We’re not doing it to be mean. We’re doing it so the other doesn’t go out in public looking a mess. I’d much rather my partner tell me I look non-flattering than see complete strangers point and laugh.
You go girl you have already lost 20 lbs don’t give up and if he doesn’t notice your efforts and see some results and praise you then he definitely needs to check himself because I know someone else will notice.
He is being rude and insensitive. I’m not sure how to fix this, but my heart goes out to you.
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Feelings are not right or wrong, they are feelings. Your feelings were hurt and you have a right to feel
You are free to feel however you want to feel and only you know your spouse and yourself and how y’all take jokes. If it offends you then you have every right to feel that way and express your feelings.
I gained a lot of weight, my husband has too and we call each other names. We both make fun of our weight and each other’s weight. That’s how we get along. I’m trying to lose my weight and makes me feel upset but hubby and I know we can joke about our weight and other stuff. If you feel offended or hurt have a chat with him. Hopefully he will be understanding and take your feelings into consideration before making a comment.
No I don’t think you are overeating at all! I think that was just mean of him! I would be devastated if my partner said this to me…
No your not wrong for feeling that way! The same thing happened to me the other day and I was like you around 130 to 140 I had twins im now 230 and I dressed up put my heels on felt good and all he could say was “it look like you have gained more weight” 
my heart hurts so bad. I just wanted him to look at me and tell me how beautiful I looked. I’m so sorry it happened to you as well just always remember how Beautiful you are:heart:
Wow… I’d be pissed and hurt if I heard that come from his mouth. I’m a large girl too so I get it. Your NOT
over reacting whatsoever. He is your husband… he should not be saying those things to his wife.
I’d be like you don’t like it… find the door. Communicate to him you don’t appreciate to hear things like that.
Maybe he didn’t realize he hurt your feelings?? Some men don’t realize what they say
You’re not overreacting. That was wrong for him to say something like that to you. He should be more considerate of how you must be feeling considering all the above information. You are not worthless. Your weight does not define you and neither does your husband. You wear whatever makes you feel good.
You gave birth to two beautiful children and NO you are not overreacting! You deserve RESPECT!! Loosing weight is hard I know lost 50 and working on another 20!
I get ya girl. I’m very self conscious. What he said was totally uncalled for and hurtful he should be apologizing. I weighed 120 before I had kids and 150 full term…now I weigh 160 but i’m counting calories last few months, havent weighed and dont want to…I’m just gonna keep counting…
Men lack the compassionate gene sometimes perhaps make comment about when you have good support and an encouraging partner it gives you the motivation to keep at it. Him making comments like that only brings out a self distruct mode and lack of confidence which will then in turn hinder you goals of losing the weight you desire . I would have been hurt and cried if i was in your shoes aswell. Keep on doing you hun and hold your head high losing weight is no quick fix and the fact you are trying to do something about it makes you a superstar in your own story 
best of luck in your journey.
And he’s still walking after that comment? My husband knows better than to mention anything about my weight. I gained 70 lbs with our first and I’m currently pregnant with our second and hoping I don’t gain another massive amount. Keep up your diet and exercise and that number will continue to lower.
Humm no sit him down and tell him that is his one warning if he ever disrespects you like that again he will be out on his ass bc women have enough stress on them not to add my husband thanks I’m fat to it my first husband was like that and I will tell you I lost the weight and then I was to skinny the best thing I ever done was leave we dont say hey hun you’ve gained some weight that shirt shows your beer belly no we embarrass the changes in them they have to learn to embrace the changes in us. Thank heavens my second husband has been great he met me when I was in the best shape of my life bc I was still trying to prove to people that I could be in shape since I had kids that I didnt let myself go but guess what I got pregnant gained 80lbs breastfed our son gained another 30lbs bc that is what my body does and he has told me ever time he sees me struggle you are more beautiful now then ever now I just re joined a gym and I’m going to start trying to get the weight off but not for him for myself and he says whatever will make you happy but I think your beautiful. And sometimes he goes with me. Noone should make you feel worthless or not beautiful they are suppose to make you feel like the queen you are you gave life and I that process your body changed so wear what you want and look in that mirror everyday and say I am worth everything I am beautiful I am amazing I have nothing to prove he can go kick rocks
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I am sorry he said that. It’s a struggle to keep our weight off. It was a very mean thing to say
That was a really awful thing to say. And you should be proud! 20lbs is a big deal!
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Your feelings are valid that was a mean comment and a real man knows better than to joke about a woman’s weight personally since I am a vindictive person I would remove all the snack foods and cook your healthy food and when he complains I would tell him you were so worried about my fat rolls so I’m choosing to be proactive to make us both feel better when we are in public together
That was very uncalled for .
He is an adult there was no reason at all for that insensitivity! Tell him to go look in the mirror and don’t come back until he is 100 percent perfect… ain’t gonna happen. Did he have babies no? He didn’t have to go through that so he needs to step up be a man and apologize for his actions . You are beautiful just the way you are and I’ll be dang if I would let him treat me like that. Tell him how it is. Don’t think you have to change for him. Do it for yourself and don’t let him make you feel any less then the beautiful woman you are. He needs a wake up call !! I’m so sorry he treated you that way.
It was uncalled for. Stand up for urself girl. Put his butt in his place and call him out on it. Dont let him get away with it. U are beautiful mama!
I would be so upset and hurt if my hubby said those words to me… your hubby is supposed to be your biggest cheerleader biggest supporter… your rock to lean on … not say things like that to tear you down. Im so sorry . Ps I am also a mama that got bigger after having two babies back to back and it is hard
You not over reacting, you are entitled to feel hurt and upset. But then again some men are insensitive.
Hats off to you for trying, hang in there and keep working on yourself, just be positive and you are going to lose the weight 
My husband said to dress up and go out without him and have a good time
He definitely made a oopsy. However idk him so i cant say if it was to hurt you or maybe he just didnt think before speaking. Maybe sit down with him and let him know how this comment crushed you and as your husband he should only be lifting you up not dragging you down. PrAying for you.
No one can tell you what hurts and what doesn’t. I will accept an argument that your husband making a comment about how you look is okay. However, him invalidating your feelings by saying you are overreacting is unacceptable and is never okay.
He’ll have a rude awakening when men find you gorgeous so go out there and be proud!!
I wish a mfr would. If your HUSBAND is with you for your appearances only, he’s not the one for you. Let ALONE you grew his children, gave them life, and back to back might I add. He should be reassuring you that he loves you and will love you no matter how much you weigh. And support whatever decision you choose to do with Your body.
Next time y’all go out, tell him to change his pants, tell him it outlines how little his penis is, and it’s embarrassing Bc you don’t want people to see how little he’s actually packing. 
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My husband believes in honesty. And apparently he is “helping” me when he says something like that. Apparently, I should be helping him too.
Hi, i might be the only male stupid enough to come at this.
So i might ask first, do you ask him to tell you how something looks on you often? If so, then this was probably first reaction response. However i have learned 96% of us men have no tact in what we say or how it’s said…
Also as far as him saying you are overreacting, well thats a hard one. Reason being is we don’t know y’alls normal way of communicating. Say you both talk openly about your weight, this comment might have been normal response. I hope i make sense. Either way sorry.
Ok but I just want to say we are the exact same back to back babies 18/19 and 130-140 I’m sitting and stuck at 224
If it were me I would lose the 100 pounds then leave his ass!
Your body is a temple you gave life to two human beings, never be ashamed of how your body looks.
There wouldnt be much of a date night after that.
That was very hurtful and mean to say. He should know that you’re trying and making comments like that would make you feel worthless. Don’t listen to him. He is in the wrong and should apologize.
You are not wrong. Your feelings are absolutely valid. He was absolutely wrong in his approach. There’s a million ways to say the same thing but respectfully.
And his body is buried where? Asking for a friend.
So when are we all meeting to correct this mans way of thinking?
No man wants a fat wife. Do whatever it takes to get the
weight off.
If you don’t drop a picture of your beautiful self and let all of us hype your head up queen!!!
Throw the whole damn husband away baby!
Do 16:8 fasting and calorie deficit go on tiktok for help it’s helping me I eat all the tiktok healthy snacks and walk Walmart
I’m so sorry 
that comment would have hurt me too!
Let him have next baby says more about his self then about your weight
What a d!
Never ever would my husband say that.
I’m so sorry
You’re not over reacting at all
Is she looking for a divorce attorney? Cuz that would be my response
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Hang in there girl you’re worth it
Men just don’t understand women…tell him to kiss it…
I would have dotted his eye
Make it fuel for the fire.
It depends did you ask for his opinion
And that’s the day my husband would be killed 💁🏻♀
You’re absolutely NOT overreacting. It was uncalled for.
A few years back my husband made the same mistake and said my butt is so big it has its own zip code. It’s been years and I still remind him of his asshole statement.
Words hurt. Once said you can’t take them back. There are many programs out there so chose one. WW, Golo, Jenny Craig, Keto. Look into which one is right for you.
I wish more men would speak up
Seems tome there’s a lot of stupid bad behaved big boys
Sounds like your husband is the fat roll
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Even if I was happy with my weight that would hurt my feelings I’m so sorry
F*€k him!!! You are perfect just the way you are!!! If you want to wk out to feel good go ahead-do you-and feel fabulous about yourself!!! We all change after kids and REAL men know it’s all good and most time even better!!! Let me repeat 
him!!!
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My husband knows better than to EVER say anything about my weight…yours needs to apologize…what a jerk…
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That is a shifty thing to say to anyone! Let alone your wife who you are supposed to treat with respect. It is super disrespectful, and rude, and just plain mean. You are definitely not over-reacting. He is an asshole for saying something like that to you!
Men are dumb. He probably thought he was being helpful. This is partly in your mind because you are self conscious about your weight. Focus on loving your self and being proud of the lives you have created. You are awesome. Losing weight takes time. Just keep on working and be proud of yourself
My husband would be wearing his balls as earrings!!!
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No. You’re not wrong. And start throwing shit at his fuxking ass when he says your over reacting… demand apologies and tell him a few of the flaws you’re graciously overlooking because you love his stupid ass.
Maxi steps. Two months will fix that. This is what I need to do again but honestly it’s about 100 and does the job!!! I swear. Maybe try that? Meanwhile put that out of your mind. He’s just mean and probably low in self esteem with himself and putting that on you. 
My grandma always says a “joke” is how Someone actually feels. If he said it, He’s thinking it. I would have a talk with him & tell him how badly it hurt to hear that. Let him know how hard you’re working to lose the weight & words of encouragement are what you need
First off I want to say I’m so sorry you feel that way, second off NO you aren’t overreacting, he is 100% WRONG in this situation. We are completely different people because if it were me… I would’ve flat out told him to get the F*** out my house you stupid mother F***er
Honey no your not wrong, he was vary wrong to even say anything, I’d never say something like that to my wife , I’m so sorry
He is a jerk. Ask him how he would feel if you commented on the size of his 
? It is just cruel and unnecessary in my opinion…
What a selfish, narcissistic prick !! If he didn’t say sorry the first time, well he’s probably not going to say sorry the the second time.
I personally wouldn’t be hurt. I wouldn’t want my husband to let me go out looking a way I’d be embarrassed about. Your weight doesn’t have anything to do with your worth.
No…you have every right to be hurt. Comments like this cut deep. Date night with him should not be a time to hear nonsense like this. Is he a skinny mini? How would he like a balding head or a pot gut pointed out?
Would you have rather gone out looking ridiculous? Good on him. That is what our partners are for.
Wow! What a mean heartless jerk of a husband!!
He sounds like a asshole
If we all work together, we can probably commit the perfect m**der 
What a dick!!
Dear God, Let This Man Be Taken By The Geese
Men don’t exactly think. And maybe he thought he was doing you a favor. At least your making an effort at a healthier lifestyle. And you’re losing weight. I would just let your hubby know please be careful how you word things. You’re working the best you can. My husband just called me a fat cunt. My marriage is over now.