ew. leave him.
seriously, get a plan and leave his ass. like if he can’t love you and think you’re a goddess and hype you up endlessly through the ups and downs of weight gain/loss that everyone goes through, he’s not worth shit.
You are NOT overreacting. That’s abuse and he should be ashamed.
My response: “well, those pants do nothing for your already tiny dick”
That’s a really horrible thing to say to anyone, especially your wife. Your spouse is supposed to make you feel good about yourself not make you feel worse.
I personally would want mine to tell me what they think of what I’m wearing before going out in public but he is not rude about it and this husband definitely was. There are nicer ways to say something doesn’t look that great on/fit them that well
Throw that a hole away! That is not a husband that is a bully and a tormentor and you do not deserve that! maybe you should start making comments about his “unapeeling appearances” or point out the things you find unattractive to show him how it feels
Hell no he shouldn’t be a jerk how would he like it if made a comment to him like that
That’s horrible of him to say. I mean I like honesty but he could have worded it differently. I’d 
feel the same
You’re not wrong. Your husband needs to show compassion towards you and encourage you. Not tear you down.
Love your spouse no matter what! Getting ready to celebrate our 34th anniversary and we both have changed Physically but no matter what will love her more and more until Death do us part💖
No, that’s fucked up. I’ve been 250 & am now 175…my partner neverrrr made me feel fat or made comments like that
You would think my ex was the one that carried our 3 kids, he’s the one that got overweight 
So you gained 100 pounds and you’re upset that your husband noticed?
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Maybe he doesn’t like bigger women. You gained 100 pounds and it’s understandable why you did. He was attracted to the 130 you and that has changed. If he wanted a 230 pound girl he would have searched for one in the beginning. I can definitely understand both sides if this story. If it doesn’t work out with him in the end give me a ring. I like my women short and stocky.
And what’s he look like? Bet you he has a fucking beer gut
He’s a dickhead. Sorry not sorry. I’m going to bet he wouldn’t be playing Tom Hardy’s double anytime soon?
Idk I may be just playing devil’s advocate here, but let’s just assume the shirt doesn’t look as good as you think it does. Maybe he didn’t mean to hurt your feelings maybe he just meant to tell you that you’re fat was hanging out… my husband was never cruel but he would tell me if something look like shit on me and I always appreciated his honesty and not candy coating it.
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Quick punch to the jaw and his shit on the curb sounds appropriate tbh
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Must be worried he isn’t equipped properly to get past your gorgeous mama curves
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Wow what an asshole. After you birthed his babies.
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Throw the whole husband away.
No offense but he’s a piece of shit for treating u like that dnt stress urself ur beautiful n perfect make sure u set him straight on how to treat u
Oh hell no. Best weight to lose is His Disrespectful ass.
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No …he’s a nasty piece of shit 4 saying that to you…simple as 
Ouch!!! That sucks! I’d be pissed but would you rather he was honest or not? He could have approached it differently though.
Throw out the entire husband.
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Hello 
she didn’t ask for his damn rude thoughts. CLEARLY she knows wtf she looked like and was confident ! She didn’t ask if she looked fat or if you could see her rolls.
He clearly couldn’t handle it. Fk him don’t cook another meal for his ungrateful ass.
People seem to think it’s a flaw and no one looks in the mirror. wake up 2021 . We don’t care 
what we don’t need is a so called “loved one” being inconsiderate of their “loved ones” feelings. We didn’t just wake up fat. We have ate our feelings to get there. Keep ur fat shaming comments to yourself. You don’t like it piss tf off! Skinny or fat someone will always have some spirit breaking bs to say. Hello eating disorders.
Anywho- rock the outfit. U will probably need a new man tho lol.
He was totally.out of line
He’s a dick. I have land. Good place to hide a body.
Absolutely fucking not. Hes trash 
and don’t let anybody let you make yourself feel that way.
No you’re not overreacting.
A) It hurts you.
B ) He knows it.
C) When a person tells you that you hurt them, you don’t get to decide that you didn’t.
D) This is RUDE and unkind
and outright mean
and hostile
and disrespectful and by the way, it is VERBAL AND EMOTIONAL ABUSE.
YOU grew a human being - TWICE! - and it probably took fortyish weeks to do it each time. It doubled your blood volume, stretched parts of your person, and irrevocably changed who you are and your entire life experience. Who expects everything to snap back like nothing happened - A’s if he wasn’t part of that process, by the way!
Who the ACTUAL HELL does he think he is to criticize or complain or abuse you in this manner?
This is how people devalue and cause emotional erosion.
They control and subvert and gaslight with these words.
If you kicked his danglers and he screamed that it hurt would it be ok for you to say no it doesn’t, you’re over-reacting?
What about if he had an absolutely TRAGIC fall off the sidewalk directly in front of a garbage truck and it ran him over?
Would you even THINK of telling him it didn’t hurt?
No. No you would not.
And you know what? CONGRATULATIONS on working hard and losing 20lbs - IF AND ONLY IF - THAT IS WHAT YOU WANT.
Migod. That you even want to have a date with this questionable human is a gift and he’s going to complain in the most obnoxiously rude way possible?
Not even “oh that looks uncomfortable” or “that does you no favors” or “it’s not flattering” - which would be bad enough - but “ALL YOUR FAT ROLLS” ?!
No. No, my friend.
You aren’t overreacting… you’re just seeing him as he is when things are not as he wishes or expects them to be.
And when those things are to do with Y O U R body, he can stick his wishes and expectations where the sun doesn’t shine.
My apologies if this is harsh; he deserves it.
YOU deserve better.
Love & respect to you, exactly as you are.
You’re not wrong. He’s a jerk!
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Lose 150 lbs fast by kicking his ass to the curb😈
It’s disgusting how many Women on here are actually defending this d**k!
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My girl is chubby and I love it
He could have been nicer about it🥺 men honestly don’t think when they speak
Throw the whole husband away
F him.,. Leave him and go find a man to lick those rolls and buy you tacos
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My answer, “That comment shows your asshole!”
What a nasty prick! You poor darlin. Ignore him its men like him that make us feel insecure! Making comments like that to his wife is downright hurtful and he knows that! My husband doesn’t give a shit what I wear (7 kids 5’3 about 140lbs) and thats how a husband should treat his wife. When he says he loves you it should mean ALL of you 
The man is trash . Toss him out
Throw the whole husband away
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Be like Jill Scott. Hit his Ass with a wine glass.
That is definitely not okay… you have every right to be upset… what a pos.
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Maybe it’s just me but that’s a big fucking NOPE in my book.
Drop weight instantly by dropping 200 pounds of a worthless dude 
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id be …" you’re ugly , at least i can lose weight "…but yeah ill be mean back
serious note your feelings matter. 
Leave his sorry tail.
And he’s a perfect Adonis I suppose? Sending hugs xxx
KICK HIM IN HIS DICK! 
wear the shirt, be confident in the body your in! That’s beautiful
so sorry you were treated this way ):
Listen to your heart! You know you!
Eww. Get rid of him!
He should be ashamed of himself.
Should have slapped him😢
He’s gaslighting you, he’s a narcissist.
You doubled yourself in the span of a year. and you expect him not to say anything? Not sure why so many women gain so much weight while pregnant. You can still eat healthy and exercise while pregnant people.
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Find yourself a differant man
I dont think your overrracting
What an insensitive asshole!
Fuck him you didn’t deserve that mean bullshit he is lame asf
f u c k that dude! you deserve better.
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He was absolutely wrong
So very sorry he acted that way
Don’t worry with him.
That comment was just mean.
Ohhh I’m a biotch because that would of quickly been followed by… “Ya?? Well I dont comment on your small " penis” size 
if it can be called that.
Jesus! What a jerk! Im sorry he said that. Im sorry it made you feel worthless. You’re the mother of his children, weight gain or not he should respect you!
I was once in your shoes, momma. So I completely get the despair you feel from what is supposed to be your team mate telling you he’s unsatisfied with your weight. It’s hurtful, inconsiderate and devalues all the stress you went through physically, mentally and emotionally while literally creating life into this world. Our bodies are literally portals that bring life into this world and men disrespect our power by telling us how our beautiful portal should look to please them. It’s pathetic. Besides, we are all going to age and get saggy, wrinkly skin at some point. Are they going to shame you for the way your body ages too? It’s just superficial and unrealistic to expect people’s looks to never change.
As far as actual advice, I tried the keto diet about a year after birth and lost 100 pounds in a one year time span. Used weights regularly too to avoid the saggy skin look and it worked out well for me to help lose the weight. The funny thing is though, is when I lost the weight, he became concerned about guys possibly being interested in me and of course my new found self esteem didn’t help matters. In my experience, I learned that no matter what you do, critical people will always find things to be critical of you about. Through the hardship of what I went through, it taught me to truly not care what anybody thinks of you and to only focus on what makes you happy. If he’s displeased by your weight, let him be but recognize it’s his opinion and you don’t have to agree with it just because of his perspective. If you like the way you look and feel, don’t budge for him because he likely won’t even appreciate it if you do what he wants.
Just my two thoughts. Men, with good intentions, can sometimes suck at communication though. Instead of saying " how about we take a walk together tonight?" and make it about doing something together, they say " I really wish you looked like you did back when I met you". Like, what reasonable person wouldn’t get mad at something expressed that brashly? I don’t just go up to a guy and say " I really wish you weren’t so lame in bed ". No, we keep it to ourselves because our goal isn’t to go around hurting people that we claim we love.
Just my thoughts. Sometimes men are just idiots with their mouths and just need to learn. Sometimes men are just narcissist dbags that just like to bring others down to make themselves feel better about their own mediocrity. Only you will know which category he belongs to in order to react accordingly.
Unacceptable behavior.
Ya hubby is being a complete dick, sorry. Us men aren’t exactly the brightest species n very few of us realise that we lose our GF the moment you girls become mothers. He got some growing up to do still.
Yeah that was ruthless.
Kind of a dick move on his part.
Get healthy for u he sounds like a dick
That’s horrible what an ass
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Nope he is being an
a$$
Tell him fuc off and die. Get a new husband, then you’ll lose over 200lbs. Men ain’t shit
Not wrong. He is an ass. I’m not gonna say dump him or anything but communicate your feelings and if he responds negatively and continues with the negative comments if you want to divorce him do it if you don’t want to suggest marriage counselong
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Want to drop a 100 pounds or more drop his ass and walk away
What an inconsiderate jerk!!
I hope he has apologised 
Give him a swift kick to the nuts. Then you won’t be crying alone. Sounds like you need to drop around 180 lbs of man child.
I would be ok with it …I wouldn’t want to go out with my fat rolls showing
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get rid of the dead weight (him)
Your husband is a douchebag. You had 2 kids, and everyone gained weight during covid. Fuck him.
Wow. I’m sorry but I’d kick his ass to the curb. Where will it end? Also, how much has he gained. (We know his ass did too).
The Lion the Witch and the AUDACITY of This Bitch
BiTcH being the husband
I probably would have punched him in his throat!
Awww that’s fucked up I’m sorry….
Your not over reacting thats shit
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Even when a man has nothing, he still has the audacity.
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Leave him that’s disgusting he’d say that
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Ur not wrong to feel that way. In fact, never apologize or feel bad for how you feel, ever. Even if people may say you are “wrong” for feeling it because point is you do feel that way and it’s valid to you.
What’s important is how you react to that. It’s the only thing you can control. And so even if you feel that way, doesn’t mean that’s how it is.
As for your husband… I’m sorry he said that but I’m hoping he didn’t mean it maliciously and was just being a man. Because as you know they are simple stupid beings lol so maybe he worded it wrong and didn’t use the right words and was trying to actually look out for you in his own weird way?
Regardless, remember YOU HAD TWO KIDS and that makes you and your body BEAUTIFUL. Excuse my language but fuck society’s beauty standards. Besides you realize you want to loose the weight and are actually doing something about it! That’s more than most and if no one has said it lately I’m proud of you and keep going mama!! You got this and you’ll be even more beautiful than you already are because you’ll be happy and thats the best kind of beauty in my opinion.
Feel better, cry it out, and then kick some ass! Hope this helps in any way, virtual hugs 
You’re not overreacting but if you’re consistently complaining about said rolls, and his way of telling you that was to spare you more self-loathing, I would just tell him how it made you feel and move forward… if he said nothing and you went out looking crazy you’d be mad he didn’t say anything…
That was a disgusting comment. You had every right to be upset. I’m sure he’s far from the ideal male form.
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My husband made a comment about my weight: Am I overreacting?
Mama… please straighten your crown. You birthed children. For 9 months each your body changed in more ways than any man can ever understand. It’s a beautiful thing! With pregnancy some of us gain weight, get stretch marks, our breasts grow bigger, hips get wider ( atleast mind did 
), all because our bodies do magical things. He doesn’t have to like your body but he sure should appreciate it. Because without your body, he wouldn’t have the children he has now. You might need to remind him that it’s natural for a woman’s body to change, that a real man understands that & again appreciates it. I’d also remind him that one day nature will take its course on his body too and his peanuts will hang farther down than he thinks…
So Queen you be proud of the body you have, change it if you want. But only do so if it makes YOU happy. 
Damn, you have restraint that i do not, bc i would have knee capped him for that. You carried his children. He should be grateful. I would continue to diet and exercise and once you get back to a weight you want, drop his ass.
You are most certainly not worthless. Your body housed and birthed 2 beautiful souls. You are much more than your weight!
His comment was thoughtless. I know it’s hard but try not to let his unkind words define you!
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Oh love, leave his ass. If he doesn’t appreciate your amazing body at 230 he doesn’t deserve it any other way. A real man would NEVER make you feel any less beautiful for your size. Big or small you rock your new outfit and be confident that there will always be a man out there looking to treat you right for who you are and how amazing of a mom you are. (I got myself a man who likes bigger women apparently because throughout my weight fluctuation he has made sure I feel loved, appreciated and sexy through it all)
That was very uncalled for. If he knows you are dieting and exercising why would he say something like that. You are not overreacting at all in my opinion. Btw you go mama you are doing awesome!
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