Men are so clueless. I think he should take a long look at himself in the mirror. I have also put on weight. As you get older it just doesn’t seem important like it did back in the day. My husband is always sweet to me. He never comments on my weight. Hes just glad we are still together after all these years. It will be 30yrs August 5th this year. Stay strong sweetie.
Sounds like he’s the 180 lbs you need to get rid of! No man that loves you would ever be so hurtful. Tbh he sounds like an asshole and you deserve better!
I’m sorry that he made you feel that way. Whether he was trying to just say that top wasn’t the most flattering on you or was actually insulting you doesn’t really matter in my opinion. He needs to realize that the way he says things can be extremely hurtful and needs to apologize. If you’re hurt by it, he needs to acknowledge that and apologize. Not say you’re overreacting about it.
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I’m not even sure what to say.
If you have a good strong relationship with your husband, part of that should include being able to be honest with each other … about the good, as well as the not so good.
I’m sure he sees you are trying to lose the weight, and I’m sure he realizes that the added weight is frustrating for you. He might have been feeling that your choice of outfit didn’t suit you … and there could be all kinds of reasons he said something. Maybe he didn’t want you to embarrass yourself, or him, in public. Maybe he feels close enough with you to just be blunt and honest when something you’re wearing is unattractive to him. Maybe he realizes it’s a touchy subject for you, and he intended to say it lovingly, but with a sense of humor, and it just came out wrong. Maybe he thinks it’s ok to tell you this way, just the same as if he were telling you that you have lipstick on your teeth, or visible snot in your nose, or any number of other criticisms that are meant to be helpful, not to make fun of you. Sort of his own way of looking out for you.
I’ve been heavy all my life, but never as much as I was during pregnancy, and then right after. My weight has gone up and down over the years, but I’ve always been large. My husband has never said a word about it, other than telling me (during those times that I’m trying to concentrate on losing weight) that he just wants me to be healthy so I can be around for a long time with him.
Men sometimes can be awkward when they are trying to be helpful … and sometimes they can be blunt about things that don’t affect them the same way that they affect women. Women are emotional creatures … men are problem solvers. Sometimes we have to remind them that sugar is better than vinegar.
Talk with your husband. Work it out. Good luck with your journey!
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He’s an asshole for how he handled that…
It’s one thing to mention weight if you’re concerned for your partner and their health. It’s another to tear them down.
I’m so sorry he did that to you…
I think he meant that the outfit wasn’t as flattering as some of your others, but men’s thoughts pop out of their mouths without thinking because that’s how they treat each other with no one taking offense.
That said, tell him how you feel and what words or phrases make you sad so he can avoid them. Honestly, 99% of men need things spelled out very plainly and very specifically.
Good for you for working on getting healthier. You can avoid so much health damage by changing your habits to be trimmer. Brava!
Some ways I keep my weight down relatively painlessly:
I recommend “Tai Chi Chih: Joy Through Movement” on You Tube daily. It’s easy, gentle, doesn’t take much time, but has great benefits. I just wanted a moving meditation to calm me down, but I dropped my high cholesterol by 100 points, regulated my blood pressure, helped my Reynaud’s Syndrome, developed abs, and made my periods regular for the first time in my life. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ONjHjM4puGY
Play with your family outdoors, park further back in parking lots and walk more, and put on your favorite music and have a dance party. Little things add up over time. Maybe you can get to a point where you can bicycle to errands, or if it’s in your budget, get an electric bike to help when pedaling gets too hard.
I shop the periphery of the grocery store to avoid processed foods and snacks that pack on the pounds. Plan meals around vegetables, halve your carbs, and use meat as a garnish. Avoid growth hormones in meats. Substitute brown rice, and whole wheat bread and pasta for white, use some sweet potatoes instead of all white, and leave the skins on and eat them. A portion is HALF a potato; save the other half for another meal, like breakfast. I also like those mini potatoes about 1” in diameter. I can pop 3-4 in the microwave for a meal. Use lemon juice, olive oil & rosemary or taco seasoning and olive oil vs. gravy, butter, sour cream, etc. You can also use plain Greek yoghurt and Salad Toppings for a healthier “loaded” potato.
Have fruit or cheese for dessert (or just skip dessert except for special occasions), and get organic cheese if possible (no growth hormones to fatten you up or concentrated pesticides to give you cancer). If you must have chocolate, have up to 10 dark chocolate chips, and buy the good stuff (Ghirardelli, European) without the added fillers put in U.S. chocolate. Have your spouse hide the bag and deliver the 10 chips if you’re tempted to eat the whole package. Add fruit, nuts, granola or Grape Nuts, preserves, and/or or a little honey to plain yogurt vs. the pre-sweetened kind. Dried fruit, peanuts, and cinnamon are a yummy combo too.
Put fresh fruit out so it’s easily accessible when you’re hungry. Buy cut up veggies (or cut them yourself) for easy snacks & cut up any leftovers for soup: just add broth or bouillon and herbs, and leftover meat if you want. Skip the noodles and potatoes.
A bag of frozen vegetables plus bouillon/broth makes vegetable soup with chopped onion (or minced onion from the spice section). Add tofu & put in a blender for creamy soup. Adding tofu or unsweetened, condensed milk can substitute for cream in savory (or even sweet) dishes. Add cooked ground meat or seafood, chopped or dried minced onions, and an undiluted can of cream of anything soup, bake in a prepared pie shell for pot pie. You can add mashed potatoes on top, but you’re already getting carbs in the crust and maybe corn in the veggie mix. Bake at 350 about 30 minutes for a meal in one pan. Make 2 at a time and freeze leftovers for another day. I also add them to stews, sauces, pasta dishes.
If you like to cook, I tend to either double the vegetables or halve the carbs. Quinoa is a quick whole grain (put in pot, add appropriate amount of boiling water and let sit 5 minutes until absorbed), and a complete protein, so you can skip the meat. Eating less meat saves money you can use to buy organic.
Hard boiled eggs, almonds and mozzarella sticks make good low-cal snacks. Make wrap sandwiches or tacos with romaine lettuce leaves. Get salad bowl versions at fast food places, order or buy cauliflower crust pizzas. There are tons of snacks made with beans, cauliflower or other healthier options. A hot air popcorn popper is also great.
Skip all sodas except ones sweetened with stevia, get sparkling, unsweetened seltzer, a variety of flavored tea bags you can have hot or iced, use skim milk and wean yourself off sweetener in coffee except for stevia (try a few drops of maple syrup, honey or agave nectar, instead of artificial sweeteners which are bad for your pancreas). Add fruit to water, and only have 6 oz. of fruit juice a day. I trick myself by adding water and ice to my juice to make a full glass. Drinking juice is like pouring sugar into your veins. Hi-C, Sunny Delight, juice “cocktails” are all just bottles of sugar. If you want cranberry juice, buy the real stuff (very bitter) and mix it with apple or another fruit juice.
Be an avid label reader. Honey Bunches of Oats sounds healthy but it’s not. Regular Cheerios are better for you than the multi grain kind. Plain oatmeal and whole-grain pancakes or waffles are great with applesauce vs. butter and syrup. I make omelettes with spinach, salsa, sharp cheddar, and ham, bacon or sausage and roll them in whole wheat flour tortillas. Cut them in half & freeze. Pull one out on a busy morning, nuke for a minute wrap it in napkins or paper towels & eat like an ice cream cone in the car.
Middle Eastern, Korean, soup and salad, and true European restaurants have more vegetable and healthy dishes available (Cava, Sweetgreen, Panera). Pick salad bowl options at Chipotle, Macdonald’s and Wendy’s and skip the drinks. Just carry around a filled, reusable water bottle.
Bonus with all of this is that you help the Earth as well.
Diets and exercise don’t work unless you can sustain them for life. Think instead of changing your lifestyle like a house remodel that will last a long time. You can also make one change at a time and get used to it before you make another. That way changing your life is not so overwhelming.
Also get therapy/counseling/psychiatric help. As they say, “It’s not what you’re eating, it’s what’s eating you.” No 5’1” woman gets to 250 lbs. without some triggering trauma. Get that addressed and it’ll be easier to keep moving and eat healthy.
Best of luck! 
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Stab him hide the knife in your so called rolls! Who’s gonna look? You be your beautiful self
That was rude very hurtful words sorry for your pain
Your husband was very inconsiderate.
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Why would any real man insult the beautiful mother of his children, if your weight bothers you then he should support your efforts to loose weight, if it doesn’t bother you and your happy in your new body he needs to support that aswell
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Sounds like your husband is a jerk and you need a new one
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Oh no I would be so upset. That’s ridiculous.
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He’s a NASTY person get rid of him!!!
It was absolutely insensitive and he should apologize… however if you’re anything like I’m always beating myself up about my weight gain so if anyone says the slightest thing I become a wreck… I’m also not a crier or an emotional girl but my weight bothers me so much…
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Horribly hurtful and unnecessary.
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Definitely a jerk and I wouldn’t allow it . He’s a pos for that .
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No id feel the same way. Husband should encourage weight loss not shame you. Prayers for you
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I would definitely sit down and talk to him about how it made you feel and let him know that topic is off limits. You shouldn’t feel this way and it’s not ok. If you diet and exercise do it for YOU not for him. They don’t understand the struggle with kids work and postpartum and they may never so do it for you but let him know that was not okay ! I’m speaking from experience myself. If he doesn’t feel bad or is insensitive you may need to have another type of convo
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I’d laugh at his dick the next time he pulled it out for some FUN TIME!
Did he marry you for you or for your weight? 
I’m 56, we have been married for 33 yrs. I’ve gained, lost over the years, I’m at a 176 now. I have cushions disease. But, my husband is always telling me, I look good, never any negative comments! I knows that’s not common with many, but, u should do what makes u happy!
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Screw him! Stop allowing narcissistic people to dictate your feelings and disrespect you! Next, they all say, I don’t remember saying that. The hell they don’t. That goes for all the negative ones in your life. Cook supper and fix his plate with a leaf of lettuce. I bet he’s a 1 on a scale of 1-10!
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Men state the obvious. If you don’t want comments about your muffin top then don’t let it show. There’s nothing worse than seeing a woman look like she squeezed herself into a 10 when she’s a size 16. Dress so you don’t attract the comments you don’t want.
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How big is his penis? I’m sure he isn’t perfection.
Look at the rolls as you’re eating well, not going hungry. You’re beautiful!!! It’s all in how you yourself react to it. Don’t let the actions of others dictate how you feel about yourself
I’m so sorry! To hurt you so deeply is inexcusable. You need to pray about how to proceed. Also I’m 5’1 and your weight doesn’t sound healthy. Do whatever you do for you- no one else!
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I was called a fkg fat cxxt by my x. Now he is my x and he is with someone twice my size. 
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He body shamed you, and that is not ok. So no, you are not overreacting
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Hell nah! rolls are my favorite snack 
I guarantee you are gorgeous no matter what your size
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Divorce him and take his money. It’s half yours anyway.
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I know this may be an unpopular opinion and don’t get me wrong, it would make me feel a certain type of way as well, all women are beautiful but I would also be glad he felt comfortable enough to tell me if something is making me look less flattering. I guess it all depends on how he said and meant it. He definitely could’ve phrased it differently. Regardless, be proud of your body! It was an entire home to those babies of yours 
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Dress in clothes that actually accentuate your curves in a flattering way that u feel beautiful. That compliments you at the size u are now.
Weight will eventually come off but meanwhile it’s not mentally healthy to squeeze into something that isn’t working at this time.
Men don’t always have the right way of saying certain things.
U can definitely feel beautiful and foxy being 230 lbs at 5’1”. I was in the same shoes after baby #4. I just had a hard time losing the weight. Try maëlys creams.
It’s literally a shopping spree for a new size. Embrace it and buy clothes that fit right.
Doesn’t matter what size anyone is…muffin tops mean…that the outfit doesn’t fit. Too tight!
Also try detoxing and balancing your hormones to lose weight. B.c. Really make it difficult to lose weight. Try drinking a lot of water and hot lemon water. The fat burning cream. I have a code to get discount. It really works! . It’s a hormonal imbalance that is not letting u lose the weight.
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THROW THE WHOLE DAMM HUSBAND OUT THE DOOR!
I just had a baby in February. I was 180 when I got pregnant. Mainly muscle. I’m Latina so I’m not meant to be tiny. My pregnancy was miserable. I gained 100 plus pounds. I was 290 by the time I pregnancy was done. My baby came very early. My body couldn’t handle it.
I’m now 268. I hate it. But my husband loves me and tries to get me to go easy on myself.
Pre pregnancy id probably agree with your husband but i can for sure without a doubt you are not over reacting.
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No. My husband doesn’t comment on my weight but I have a guy friend that does. I had surgery last Friday, and am pretty swollen still. He came over 2 nights ago and said “you’ve really put on weight. You’re a lot bigger than a few months ago.” I broke down crying. People like that are the ones who are worthless pieces of sheet. Kick him in his doo-das and laugh at his tears.
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It’s wrong for your husband to be like that, he needs to stay positive for you and love you know matter what size you are. We know that we are heavy we don’t need our husbands to be so negative we need them to be understanding and helpful! Be patient and don’t worry about it, as long as you are trying your best he should be supportive for you.
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He said something very cruel and is refusing to take responsibility. Maybe try marriage counseling? Im sure he doesnt look the same as when you married him either, right?
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A spouse absolutely should never say anything like this- no matter what weight you are, it matters what’s in your heart. I would divorce his ass. You deserve better.
You’re not over reacting. It was rude! There’s a certain way to say things and that’s not it. In a place where you can be anything be kind. That’s what he should have done as your husband. He should respect you and acknowledge your feelings at the very least. Lose a quick minimum 100 pounds by losing his ass.
have you seen your dr. and blood test,? maybe it might help. ths3 and ths4
Don’t listen to some of these comments, things change. And what he said isn’t right at all. I bet he doesn’t look the same when you met him. Tell him you know you put weight on and you don’t need to be judged by him and that you are losing the weight tell him to support you because comments don’t help at all to loose weight. Guys don’t think how girls think he thinks he is helping by stating the obvious what you already know. You had alright to be upset.
He was out of pocket for that remark. No you’re not over reacting at all.
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I would love to tell your husband off. He didn’t have 2 babies. Praying he gains 100 lbs. Love yourself, be proud of yourself.
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Not everyone can pull this off
But when he is acting like a little bitch
If he loves you he can love you at any weight. My BF never makes me feel bad , I know I need to lose weight and for health issues but I am me love me or dont . My man loves all of me , even when I am crazy .
Fuck him. You are a beautiful queen!
How much does your husband weigh, drop him and that’s all the weight you need to worry about …
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He could be genuinely worried about your health?
That was wrong of him to say I’ve been the same way though I had two kids before I turned 19 2 years apart and I went back down to my normal size of 120 well then I noticed as I was getting in the 30s my stomach started to put a little bit and then slowly got bigger and got bigger and bigger so back in 2017 I weighed 270 I’m 5’8 I’d go see my fiance in jail and he would be like you’re getting bigger you’re getting bigger and I had to hear about it every time over and over and over and I’d say no I’m not getting no bigger will actually I was so 2 years ago I weighed 270 I had a very bad thing happen with my family it was so bad I had to break down but after I got out of the hospital I thought I can’t eat I’m sick I can’t eat so I didn’t eat maybe one two times a week a little bit of something I was losing 10 lb every 7 Days about I got down to 224 I was proud of myself for being that small but then one day sweets got on my mind and I slowly started eating stuff ice cream stuff like that I could not stop from eating so my fiance he ended up in prison for life we haven’t had a video call or in visit but I’m scared too because of what he will say because I weighed 329 now don’t worry about what he said sometimes they just make stupid jokes they should have shut up to begin with it was probably just him trying to joke with you but I understand 100%, how you feel just don’t let it bother you or interfere with your relationship just let it go let it be in the past and explain to him you don’t want to hear something like that even if he’s joking he should understand that
The only weight you need to get rid of is your husband
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I’m having this same problem. I’ve always been so self conscious of my weight and it’s even worse with my third child I had this past August. Before I got pregnant with her I was around 145-150 but since it was a rough pregnancy and I have a neuromuscular condition that makes exercising nearly impossible it’s been really hard to lose the weight (I’m sitting right at 200lbs). And of course it’s summer time and he’s more physically active so he’s dropping weight like crazy 
I really have no advice but just wanted you to know you aren’t alone
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The most hurtful thing in the world is when someone you love points out your flaws. I’m sorry that happened to you.
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Dont take his comments to heart he probley just hasn’t grown up yet , leave him at home while you walk around the block being outside excersicing will help you feel better mentally and physically
Oh man that is so harsh! So sorry 
your husband sounds terrible, your not over reacting at all, I’d be so hurt to.
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Do what makes you happy and healthy both physically and mentally. If you want to lose some weight do it FOR YOU. And as per your husband I’m not advocating divorce but he has some work to do on himself because that was hurtful and mean! He could have said it differently like asked you are you happy, how do you feel. Again if you’re going to lose weight do it for you because a person like that will never be happy
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Fuck 
him and his attitude you deserve so much better than his bullshit. You got that weight making his kids so until he can make a whole human he can fuck off
Wow, regardless of what he meant - it was date night and whatever attire you chose was obviously what you felt most comfortable and at your best in. He should of been telling you how beautiful you look but instead he was busy counting fat rolls. I would of rolled out to date night by myself, not cool. (And he thinks you’re overreacting…he clearly isn’t willing to hear you and is dismissing how hurtful that comment was!) He needs to own it and be a man…
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I would probably have liked him to say it in a better way but I’d be glad he said something before we left and I saw a picture I would’ve been mad he let me leave the house looking like that
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We are so on ourselves about our bodies already no matter if we are “too big” or “too small” and hearing somebody else say what we torture ourselves with never helps. Sometimes though it’s not meant to be viscous and other people just don’t understand how and why it hurts.
Yes the comment is the issue, but his disregard for your feelings and reaction is the bigger one here. It doesn’t matter what it is, you have the right to feel how you feel when something hurts or upsets you and as your partner in life he should be more considerate to that, and vice versa.
Sorry you’re so hurt, I hope you can realize your own beauty and hard work is worth more than any comment. We all have to start somewhere! Good luck to you 
You need to throw out the husband and start from scratch. I’ve gained weight over covid after previously losing all my weight from my kids… and I am SO self conscious… all my husband ever does is tell me how perfect and beautiful I am… you deserve that too.
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Maybe you should let your husband read these comments! Also he is only telling you that you are overreacting because he doesn’t want to admit he was a total jerk. Coming from someone who has struggled with weight and body issues myself that is one thing I could never forgive. Let’s not forget that our bodies gave them the babies and that weight gain is a part of that miracle. We didn’t do that alone and they were worth every pound that is left on us! He should be thankful for your body no matter what it looks like it gave him 2 beautiful children!
Girl I know you will forgive him because that’s what wives do but seriously he needs to know this is not ok! I really would let him read these comments.
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Fuck him, that is fucked up. You don’t say shit like that to the person you love. He was wrong and you are not over reacting
He should be apologizing for what he said he should’ve known that would hurt even if he did think the shirt was unflattering. Not everyone has the same style that’s fine but you chose to wear that to go out he shouldn’t have made you feel uncomfortable with yourself. I hope you do continue in your fatloss journey and remember that most journeys take time and you are doing great so far from the sounds of it. Keep focusing on getting to where you are healthy and comfortable and try to put less focus on what anyone says or thinks. I KNOW that’s not easy but try putting on some bad ass music and getting your sweat on if it doesn’t yet it will feel amazing and that feeling will keep you going. You are more then what anyone thinks or say and you are okay where you are YOU MADE HUMANS that takes a he’ll of a toll on your body don’t beat yourself up it happens and it will get better if you make it. But regardless he was wrong and if you felt that way then that’s valid and not an overreaction especially if he knows damn well you are more emotional about your weight vs other subjects.
I don’t feel like he was pointing out your flaws or pointing out or picking at your weight I would want somebody to tell me if I looked ridiculous
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My s.o. did the same
I told him
Love me the way I am or leave me I had 2 babies in 3 years and takes time to get the weight off
I’m still beautiful
He hasn’t said anything since
It’s a bit overreacting at times but he needs to know
Best of luck
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Some men don’t think.
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His comment was rude and disrespectful. You’re losing weight and deserve to be proud of that. Its not easy. …
I may be the odd one out. It may be he want you to where a shirt that is slightly loose which he is honest about it. Am 220lbs and 6’4ft and never wear cloth that is too tight. A shirt or gown that is slightly loose is more sexy and beautiful. I also had children back to back but that doesn’t mean I wear cloths that will make me look fatter
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I think the way he said it was gross. But, I think it’s overall a good thing to express to your spouse that they might be going down an unhealthy road. My husband and I both gained some weight during the pandemic, and let each other know. Respectfully, though. We’ve been losing it together.
Your husband is definitely a jerk for how he went about it.
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I feel all of this girl. You are not alone. We can lose our fat but they cannot lose their ugly hearts. Men suck.
I’m so sorry.
Words hurt, expecially from the ones we love.
He had no right to say that to you, I’m sorry he hurt your feelings, they are valid.
Tell him if he doesn’t like you negung emotional about it, he should have found a better way to say it, or to not say it at all.
Hugs.
Awe, I know that hurt your feelings. Would mine too. And don’t take this as mean please. But here’s the way I feel…yes I know you had 2 babies. Thing is have you tried to loose weight The right way? Going from 130ish to 250 is alot of weight just to have babies. Maybe time to see dr about it, there could be something going on with your thyroid. In the mean time sign up for maybe weight watchers for support, it’s the best!! Maybe you are not aware of calories your eating or maybe it’s just bad food choices. Heres the thing, I watched my size 8 daughter in law gain 100 lbs from July to the next July. They married in August,3 months later she was pregnant . So that was a shock to my son. He tries not to say anything and loves her. But it is alot to get used to since it happened so fast. Then she gained more weight after the pregnancy instead of looseing. He didnt sign up for his wife to be twice his size and I cant blame him. Just trying to say, take care of yourself the best you can, I know your husband loves you…but you also want him to be attracted to you like before the kids came. It has nothing to do with love, you just got to ramp up your game if possible to loose as much as the baby weight you can. Take time for yourself you wont be sorry… I see people saying dump your husband if he says fat remarks. That’s not fair. Unless you have a medical condition he may expect you to go back to pre baby size, that’s understandable. I dont see why people blame him. And no people dont go saying he should love her even if she gained 200 lbs. It’s not about love. He I’m sure loves her, it’s about her being responsible to take care of her health…
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I would not have left him standing!
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Not over reacting I would lunches my ol man in the mouth
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So I’m a strong believer in dressing for YOUR body type. There are ways to dress yourself WITHOUT showing “all your rolls”. So ima go with your husband wasn’t commenting on your weight, persay, but, more so on the fact that you didn’t pick out the best outfit that compliments your body.
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you have had beautiful children…you are a mum now…dont worry about extra fat…you are a wonderful lady…he sounds crap…
James Bond has a chubby wife
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What a jerk! Yay for the weight loss you have achieved! If you are strugglling you may want to get your thyroid checked. Sometimes pregnancy can muck it up and make you gain more than normal pregnancy does.
Girl don’t feel bad at least he told you that it shows all that cause he could of let you embarrass yourself. Don’t over think it. Just do you boo boo
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If you asked him for his opinion and he said that,that’s one thing,but to blatantly say that is wrong, especially if he knows you’re self conscious
Tell him your losing weight for your new boyfriend 
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2 babies back to back your body is used to feeding for 2 for several yrs. Time to retrain your habits. I do a 2000 cal diet. Now with doing two young ones your burning calories but not fat. Ask your hubby to do bike rides every other night so like 5 miles to start with now your hubby is toning up his belly and your burning lots of fat so mob 5 mile bike ride
Tuesday jog 5 miles
Wed 5 mile bike ride
Thursday jog 5 miles
Fri 5 mile bike ride
Sat jog 5 miles
Sunday rest
With 5 mile exercise and your 2000 cal diet 8m sure within a yr your weight should be 150 pounds and your legs toned up your abdomin should be nice butt sexy
Eat properly
Message me please I can help you
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My husband made a comment about my weight: Am I overreacting?
Not overreacting at all. Us mamas go through so much carrying and raising babies.
Your body is beautiful, love yourself! Lose weight for yourself and nobody else!
I’m a big girl and I used to feel how you do but I’ve got to the attitude of oh well take me as I am 
I’m sure he wouldn’t like it if you made a comment for example if he was going bald or the size of his you know.
Love yourself!!!
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Just giving a guys point of view, I’ve said stuff like this to my partner before but in alot more sensitive way because I knew she had outfits that fit her well when she was smaller but highlighted her rolls once she got bigger. I’d tell her so she was aware in case she wanted to wear something that fit her body better at the time. But we had conversations about this kind of stuff and I had also put weight on so she would do the same for me because I’d rather know something fit me bad when I had a chance to change rather than notice it fit me bad when I’m already out and now I’m consious about my outfit. You are still very right to feel the way you do but he didn’t actually insult your body like these other comments imply, if anything he insulted your outfit, not great but not as bad as the former
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Id have fat slammed him and told him to tuck his titties in his shorts!
Omg that’s awful you shouldn’t be made to feel that way by someone who should love you for you no matter what. Your not in the wrong I would be very upset if my Husband said something like that to me. Don’t put yourself down anymore your doing something about it and he should be supporting you and encouraging you.
How was your response not “and your outfit shows every inch of what a c**t you are” ?!?!?!
Ugh. Don’t waste your time crying over someone who doesn’t have the good grace or social understanding to realise what is acceptable to say and what isn’t.
Assuming you liked the top, so rock it!! Wear it with pride 
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My husband made a comment about my weight: Am I overreacting?
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I’m sure he has his own “short” comings and I bet you never mention that…I’m sorry you cried, life is rough right now and we need all the support we can get!
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I know the feeling darlin’. I gained so much weight with my pregnancies. Bottom line is don’t allow him to.make you feel that way. Yes, it hurts but all you can do is love yourself. Our bodies are amazing and I look at the weight gain as a parting gift from my girls. As cheesy as it sounds, somehow it works for me. As far as dude goes, tell him if he can’t support you you’ll find someone who will. Moving on isn’t the hardest thing to do. Good luck momma.
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Guess what. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! Your size, their opinions, your doubt, etc is all irrelevant. True to you people will love you for you. So get out there, love yourself a little extra tonight and be the best you that you were yesterday, today and tomorrow.
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That’s actually so mean. I can’t imagine saying that to anybody, let alone someone I love.
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No I’m I’m the same height and am 210 I used to be 145 I just had my second baby in March before I found out I was pregnant he didn’t want anything to do with me because of my baby weight from our daughter in 2019 and didn’t want to due to my weight. I have been struggling ever since with my weight. He’s gotten better about telling me I’m fat by building me up now
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Wear the shirt! What he won’t appreciate another man definitely will!
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No man knows what it’s meaning to carry a baby out (and you did 2) and he wasn’t nice with “fat rolls” at all. If my hubby tells me I should loose weight I won’t take it too emotionally cos 1st I don’t care what he says ( I carried 3 children) 2nd I know it without telling me. Everyone of us different. He knows perfectly it makes u feel bad and he still did it 
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I would be devastate if my husband said anything like this to me. You’re definitely warranted in your feelings.
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Not over reacting, his ass would be grass if it was my husband. Definitely not okay that he would say something so disgusting to you, especially knowing all the work you put in to try and change it.
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I’d learn to clap back “I gained these rolls because I comfort eat when I don’t have orgasms🤷♀️”
But I’d totally confront him and tell him what he has said is hurtful and rude and you prefer not to hear that crap come out of his mouth because you wouldn’t dream of doing that to him when he goes bald and gets ear hair.
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I know it sucked to hear momma. I’m one of those weird women that wants my husband to tell me if my chub is showing. Sometimes I can’t tell. I don’t want to leave my house wearing something that shows my flaws. I totally understand it hurting your heart though and I’m sorry he made you feel that way. You are NOT worthless because you gained weight whether from having kid’s or not. Hugs
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Umm throw that whole person away. That was not called for one bit. You grew 2 entire human beings into life with that amazing body of yours. Please try not to let it get to you. You are more than your weight, and it does NOT define who you are. Sending love your way from someone who went through it in 2013 & 2014. Stay strong Mama
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