I dont think your selfish as long as yall didnt agree on it to not buy each other stuff my husband bought my Christmas and gave it to me last month this happens every year and he always catches me off guard with something else on Christmas day too but he tells me not to buy him anything that he doesn’t need anything i usually try to find something though i always buy him flintknapping calendars ( he makes arrowheads) for the next year but he knows those are coming so no i believe the spouse comes first along with the kids unless yall decided otherwise and agreed to it
Tell him take them back get what you want. Then from now on buy what you want put his name on it. When he opens it he will see what he bought you. It is what my husband and I did for almost 38 years of marriage. He never got what I wanted, needed, right size, or spent to much. So after first Christmas this is what we did worked great until he passed. Was our family joke.
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Start by telling him.
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I was going to say maybe he just wasnt raised on giving gifts but you said he gets them for his parents… Idk
Buy it for yourself and wrap it, make a production out of opening it saying thank you him it’s so thoughtful of you.
do you buy him presents?? and men arent mind readers… if you want him to do something about how you feel you need to open that mouth and explain to him how you feel… if you dont tell him you cant blame him for not knowing… hes your husband the one you should be able to talk to about anything… so talk to him!
Don’t get anything for him, but buy yourself several nice things!!!
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try telling him what you want
Freak him out lol buy something wrap it in paper he doesn’t know you have and don’t put
From .just to you and go up to him excited omg you sent this didn’t you ? I love it 
He cant read your mind.
Tell him how it makes u feel.
Then if he doesn’t feel free to whinge.
My hubby is a member of a mans only group and this is one of the major issues they have with their partners feeling upset etc. When they had no idea and how frustrated they get when they could have done something earlier if the other person didnt hold it in so much.
Valid reason.
My husband does try always to get me something but I don’t expect him to. But I would suggest talking to him. This man is your other half. That you can vent and tell all to. Maybe he doesn’t know how this makes you feel. It’s not like men can read minds. Or if woman can read their minds.
Sounds like he’s just a very un thoughtless person where you are concerned no respect your just a wife
My husband just gives me cash. That way I can buy what I like. Usually fabric to make quilts for my family. I don’t care for knick/knacks or things that clutter my house. I can and sew. This makes me happy. My husband goes and buys what he wants ( hunting gear) so we are both satisfied. Lol
My husband is always thoughtful receiving gifts for Christmas , Birthdays and Anniversary! I would tell him go jump into the river, you thoughtless Ass
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We have both agreed that our life together all year, despite it’s ups and downs is a gift to each other. Fortunately we have a very harmonious and loving relationship. So we do not buy each other gifts but do look for a special card and write each other loving notes. We keep all our cards and treasure them so very much .
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My husband never buys me something that surprises me for Christmas. Always what I tell him. I know he loves me and he does for me all year long and provides a wonderful lifestyle for us. I’ll take that any day over one day a year.
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11 months before my Birthday I’d talk about How I couldn’t wait to see what he was going to get me.3 months before Velentines, and Christmas I’d do the same…I even made up a anniversary date (was not married) because I felt I was a being cheated out of a gift And I do the same.I guess you can say He felt forced into buying me a gift.Heck that’s not being selfish…I deserved it!!!loved My Babe!!
My husband quit giving gifts or remembering special occasions the second we got married. No, it’s not “normal” but what can you do? I just go out and buy my own gifts! When he notices something new (IF he notices) I just tell him it’s what he got me for Chrustmas/birthday/anniversary. Does that make him lazy? Sure does. But I know he’s not gonna change so I’m not obsessing about it. You’ve gotta pick your battles and this is something I don’t want to fight about.
My hubs will buy me a gift for xmas amd my bday. Just one gift. But he’s never spontaneous 
I’ve gotten him bday anniversary Xmas father’s day. But nothing really ever comes back… I just deal with it now
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We only got stuff this year for each other cuz last year my daughter, 4, asked why daddy and I didn’t have anything under the tree and it made her sad. So we just got stuff we need like socks and slipper for each other 
My husband and I dont exchange gifts for birthday or holidays, and we haven’t for at least 10 out of the 12 years we’ve been married. If we want something, we get it. I don’t expect anything and neither does he. A couple times a year I will get flowers because its "unexpected ". Birthday and Christmas does not need or require a gift. I am happily married and I have my gift every day beside me.
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Was married for a long time never received a gift for Christmas Birthday Wedding Anniversary Was alway’s told you have money can buy your own
But to me that was not the point. I alway’s got him and our kid’s presents even after they grew into be adults then onto my granddaughter.
My husband doesn’t either I buy myself stuff wrap it up and put it under the tree or I buy myself something I want for my birthday. I let him know that he bought me.
If he can buy for his parents fine. But I know how you feel. He could a less show that he cares for you. Even if it is something small at less you know that he’s thinking of you.
Buy your own gift. Wrap it up and when he asks who is it from say you!
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How sad. I spent any time away from my wife looking for small gifts. I stored up birthday, anniversary, Christmas and just because gifts. We didn’t have a lot of money, but I just wanted to do it. As she couldn’t get out to reciprocate, health, but I didn’t care. It was all about me giving to her. Her response was gift enough for me. As for husband, he may never been exposed to giving from his father, so doesn’t get it.
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When my husband was alive we never bought gifts for birthdays or Christmas. If we saw something we wanted we just bought it
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I think only 3 dates a year he could but 1 gift for each. I love gifts! I’m blessed with a husband that does.Theres a book called the 5 love languages-& it’s worth a read.But, you can’t make someone buy you gifts.I think you should become before his parents.You are supposed to be his new life.
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Dang I could’ve wrote this myself!
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Do you buy him a gift? If so, don’t this year. Maybe he will feel sad about it. Then you can share that experience of letting him know that’s how you feel too. Good luck.
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Mine was the same way! He said you got a house with new furniture, you got a new car, you want anything else from me buy it yourself! He never bought me a wedding ring or any type of jewelry, but he buy it for himself! No Christmas gifts or Birthdays or Anniversary’s!
Buy your own gift and get what you really want. Wrap it and then tell him look what you bought me.
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Stop cooking and don’t decorate for Christmas and tell him you forgot!
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I always had to look a lot for them again…
We don’t buy each other gifts. If we want something, we buy it. If we see something the other might like, we buy it. He shows me everyday that he loves me in many ways, so I like our way of doing it.
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Leave him! It’s the thought that counts.
I would feel hurt as well, I think he should shower you with gifts.
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Start buying yourself Christmas gifts, wrap them, put them under the tree and open them on Christmas morning. 
Maybe he’ll get the hint after a few of those.
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My husband is like that. He doesnt always “remember” me. So when I go shopping I buy for me. Birthdays I’m lucky to get a card. But my kids more than make up for it.
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Honey get the debit card and go treat yourself! Or you could just tell him how it makes you feel. He may think that if you want something you should go get it.
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My husband and I never buy for each other. If you are upset don’t buy for him, buy somthing for you and tell him thank you for the gift.
This really hits home
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BUY your own from Santa
If you don’t resolve this your children will treat their spouses like that too. You don’t have to have any money to give each other something. A piece of paper that says I love you and “will you go for a walk with me?”
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I tell my husband how it hurts me and I always get him something for birthday anniversary and Christmas. This year my little boy wants him to take him shopping so he can pick out a ring for me Christmas and what do you know he won’t take him. I told him I would take him tomorrow and I will stand out side of the store.
It sounds like there is a deeper issue. You should talk about how you feel instead of bottling up your emotions. Send yourself flowers and get the gifts you wish to receive. Self care is a priceless gift to yourself
My husband has never been a big gift getter but now that my daughter is a preteen(for like 2 more weeks anyways) she says daddy u better get mom a present! I had her on purpose! 
Do you give him gifts? You need to talk to him. As long as you say nothing he will think you are fine with it.
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I’m in the same boat
I know the feeling…
It would make me feel left out also. Go buy 3 of 4 nice gifts for you, use his credit card, wrap them to you from him and put them under the tree. Wrap some for him and unless you tell the kids they won’t know. Be good to yourself if you want anyone else to be good to you. Don’t be sad have a Merry Christmas.
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Ask him why? Do you get him gifts. Tell him it hurts you. It is the thought that counts, no matter how small.
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I’d be pissed buy anything at any cost
Give him a list, tell him to pick out a couple of things on it. He can work off that list for your birthday, and any other holiday you celebrate.
Leave him was he dragged up or learned to respect women and show some appreciation for everything that u do for him thruw the year and make sure it works both ways u buy him something too x
Talk to him! Failure to comminate is one of the worst things that can happen to a relationship…lead with love.
My husband never bought me gifts,he always said I am not that guy.
You want it, then use my card and get it and that’s from me.
Yes I felt a little short changed but that was just him.
You have every right to be hurt. Tell him how you feel, he may be clueless. If he continues to not gift give after you tell him, then you have an issue.
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Wow that’s absolutely depressing! I’m so sorry. Maybe you should just bite the bullet and ask him why.
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Me and my husband agreed that Christmas is for the kids. I usually try to get him a couple things but I definitely did not do that this year. I like it being about our kids. He usually surprises me with something on Christmas and I hope he didn’t this year because like I said before I didnt get him anything!
word of warning my boyfriend did this and when i started buying my own presents and wrapping them so i had something he got so mad and asked if i had a someone else
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Closed mouths dont get fed period.
Communication is the key. Talk to your husband let him know your true feelings. How is he supposed to know how you feel if you dont tell him?
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You should be the first person on his list. I would be upset too.
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That is so sad. It’s not about the gift but the thought that he doesn’t think enough of you to get you a gift, but yet he gets his parents something. It may be time to for you to rethink your priorities and the people you allow in your life.
Ok let me just say this…Christmas is not about receiving a present…it is about celebrating the birth of Jesus…and the fact that people are even complaining is ridiculous…do u realize how many kids are out there in the world who dont get anything… I buy my husband stuff every yr for his stocking and I might buy one or 2 small gifts just so he has something…I could care less if he buys me anything or not…he works every day regardless of how hot or cold it is…and he does it without complaining…if I cook something he dont like, he eats it without complaining…so who am I to complain if he dont buy me something…if I did complain, then I’d be ungrateful… there should not be a price when it comes to love
Just buy it yourself. Men are a different kind of emotional being. Merry Christmas
Mine buys the stuff and buys me stuff but never wants us to get him stuff, but I always think of some nice expensive gift. Like he wants a new firearm so that’s this years gift from us to him.
Open communication is key. Tell him how you feel and be direct so there is no misunderstanding.
Kick his ass. He is tied to parents apron strings
Ask him to get you or make you something. I find it really rude since you seem like you didn’t agree on not getting each other gifts. If you said no gifts and still want one then just say “hey go to cvs and grab me something you think I’d like” it really is the thought that counts so to not even think to get you anything, I can see how you’re upset. People need to learn to voice their concerns. I can’t imagine be married to someone and not have that easy of a conversation. They came out rude but I mean it with the hopes that you can simply say, “hey why do you never put any thought into me during special times?” And it will be solved as simply as that
I think maybe he should say I’ll give you money go buy something for yourself from me to you
Hopefully this wasn’t something you both agreed to as a lot of couples do. You should let him know if you’re hurt by this otherwise your resentment will continue to grow.
If he bought you nothing when you were dating and you excepted it It’s hard to change a man even though it’s not right.
Stop whining. Get them from your boyfriend.
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Trade him in for a new
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He won’t know how you feel unless you tell him. Speak up!!!
That’s not very nice of him and well my own parents do that to me
No gifts, no sex. A relationship is a two-way street.
I would ask him about it
He’ll never know unless you tell him.
Just go buy what you wont.
Kick his ass to the curb!
Tell him. If he doesnt know you would like a gift, he wont get one.
My husband…said get the fuck on 
Girl, speak up or leave his ass.
Hold back the booty he will come around real quick
I think you need to be honest and tell him how you feel.
Why not tell him how you feel?
Don’t buy him anything!!!
Tell him how you feel
I’m a brat lol I would give him a list of stuff I would want 
men need to be told straight up
That’s horrible. Tell him it bothers you
Robert David Boswell
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