time to ship him to the curb
Tell him to get out or get a job
Girl. You donât have a husband you have a man child. Lol time to send him back to his EX since he still wants to bring her up 7 years later.
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Youâre his wife, not his mommy. He sounds like a loser. He needs to man up and get a job or get out.
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Tell him to get on disability and go to marriage counseling if not them get out of the marriage!
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Sounds like he needs you and you would be better off and happier without him. And if your happy kids are happy.
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Annoying that itâs perfectly acceptable for a woman to do this and stay at home with the kids but when a man does is everyone jumps on the âleave himâ train 
End of the day if youâre not happy then yes, leave him but donât slag him off and say heâs a âmummas boyâ Or âyouâre his wife not his mammaâ because if the shoe was on the other foot youâd all be sunshine and roses!!
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It hurts him to work? He must be related to my ex. Well, at this point, if you donât make him get a job, or leave him, youâre just as much the blame as he. Been there.
And who gives a damn about run on sentences when someone is asking for help?
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Sounds like heâs dead weight and you can manage on your own. Put him to the curb.
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Does he do house work? Feed and take care of the kids? If he is contributing and making it so you dont have to these things whatâs the problem? If he isnt than kick him out.
If you are just unhappy than leave. I feel like there is more to this story but I could be wrong and he could just be a douche bag.
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Girllll, thatâs just an extra mouth to feed. He either needs to man tf up or get out. If you arenât contributing to my house hold I donât need you. 
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Maybe you guys arenât on the same path anymore. My advice sit down and open the air as to why he cant help financially even if itâs just small jobs. And then reevaluate yourself and decide if you are happy with or with out getting ur way. Itâs important for both of you to keep putting effort, focus, and compromise into things that need fixing. Life ainât peaches and cream you shouldnât just walk away when things get tough.
Uhhh you need to handed that man back to his ex 
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âIt hurts him to workâ haha Iâd kick his ass to the curb, and maybe if he got one job then you wouldnât have to work as much and would spend more time together,!! At the end of the day everyoneâs not feeling good, people have underlying health issues, no one wants to go to work because they love it and itâs fun you go to work and work hard to have a better life for yourself and especially your kids. He doesnât seem like he wants more for himself and that he knows youâll make the money so he doesnât make an effort.
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So what Iâm reading is you work, make money, heâs hanging with his boys and youâre not getting laid? Girl bye!
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Give him an ultimatum. Youâre his wife not his mom. You can obviously take care of yourself and your kids without his help, so hes just putting more stress on you.
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Why does anyone put up with this kind of stuff enough for it to be a question.
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Throw that whole man away!
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My man says âitâs time to get rid of that boy!â
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If you have to come on here and ask, then you already know your answer!! Go with it and let him go! 
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He gotta go hunny ainât nothing worse then dead weight! âSUPPOSED TO HOLD ME DOWN BUT YOU HOLDING ME BACKâ
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I mean why is what heâs doing any different than a sahm⌠Other than the sex issue and having friends over. I mean Iâd get rid of him but just saying lol as the stay at home moms say âIâm a maid, a teacher, a cook. Childcare is expensiveâ Im basically a sahm since my part time job pays shit but just playing devils advocate
If anything is because of his ex, itâs an invalid excuse, especially after that long.
If you have uber eats, grubhub, doordash, postmates, etc. In your area, tell him to sign up to be a delivery driver, they allow him to make his own hours and work as much or as little as he wants without a set schedule, so he had no excuse. Otherwise, start calling him a stay at home dad and start expecting him to do all of the things that a stay at home parent does, and make it blatantly clear that this is what you expect.
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Iâve been through similar except we werenât married and were only together 5 years. He worked but ended up cutting his hours down under 20 a week and finally I left and then itâs funny, he started working full time again. He enjoyed living off of what I put in but didnât really want to be with me and I finally got smart about it. As hard as it is to leave what youâve felt comfortable with for so long, itâs probably the best thing you can do for yourself. Good luck!
Are you asking us if itâs ok to break up with him? Bc thatâs your choice. He said he doesnât see you often but when youâre home he leaves. Something is wrong. You are being manipulated to take care of him and the kids and the bills by yourself. You donât deserve that.
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Ultimatum girl. Thatâs so unfair to you and the littles
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Iâm so sorry woman but leave his sorry ass you sound like your strong enough to take care
of you & your kids I hate free loaders.
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Get rid of him. It should lighten your load and he can fend for himself. Open your eyes.
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Is he caring for the kids and doing housework ? If so, he is contributing to the househlold. If the answer is no, then you have a decision to make. I made a list and figured out I was supporting a male who was using me. I also had 2 young kids. It was hard on my own, but really I always had been. At least there was no more stress from him.
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Not everyones the same, if he makes you happy in bed n you enjoy it, so here you go at least hes good in something.
Kick him out be a adult not a Mom to him
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I want to side with everyone here but at the same time, I want more info. LikeâŚwas he working when you met? Has he ever held a job while you have been together? Make him do Grub Hub, pizza delivery, DoorDash, Uber, Instacart, etc. And if he whines he doesnât see you but then leaves when you get home or has friends overâŚgirl, he sounds like a damned teenager. You are NOT married to/raising another teen. Leave his arse. You are his wife. That means partner. Not mother. Quit mothering him. Let him fend for himself. Or if you wonât leave, do as suggested. Stay at home dad with all the responsibilities youâd have (including the demand on intamacy).
Kick him to the kerb
If heâs in pain, tell him to see a doctor. If he refuses, tell him to leave. Simple.
You must ask yourself this question,is this how I want to spend the rest of my life. 2ndly what are you teaching your children?
Is he taking care of kids, cleaning, laundry, ⌠Anything? If not divorce him. A spouse is supposed to be a partner to help you in life, not a leach and an extra mouth to feed.
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What does it mean because of his ex he has sex with her so you get left overs man you women sure put up with alot of shit.
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Wow you gotta ask for advice on this
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Might as well be a single parent, so chuck him out hes dead wood
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Seems like you donât really need that little boy and would be better off without him, Id have to say too da loo.
Get a job or get out!
So youâre telling us youâre getting nothing from the relationship except one more mouth to feed. It sounds like itâs time for him to go stay with his friends and freeload from them.
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I just donât get why woman wants to live with some one that donât work.you need to find your own Place and tell him good by.
I can do bad all by myself
Give him an ultimatum,either he gets a job or he leaves. If youâre gonna have everything on your shoulders anyway than whatâs the difference in him being there?
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Well itâs time for the talk !! Be apart of our lives and do your part or leave and do u boo ⌠Not saying You should end your marriage, but u need to know where u and ur children stand , give him a choice and if itâs not to your satisfaction, well I guess in the long run he will have to get a job ( lol )
Wow. I think Iâd tell him to hit the roadâŚ
Doesnât have a job but has friends and sounds like heâs still messing with his ex, and all you are is his cash cowđ kick him out or leave and find your happiness!!!
i had one of them once, now heâs an ex.
Itâs amazing what a little punctuation can do when youâre trying to read something. That was the longest run on sentence I believe I have ever experienced, which in turn, made this incredibly difficult to read as well as confusing. Phew!
That being said⌠your husband is a lazy bum. He sounds like a child. He wants to be a child⌠treat him like a child. Tell him what your expectations are and let him know that if those expectations are not met⌠there will be consequencesâŚ& most importantly you need to follow through with said consequences.
So sorry youâre having to deal with this. A spouse should never be the one to contribute to your stress or bring negativity into your life. 
Not to mention the example yâall are setting for your children⌠my gosh. Is this the kind of relationship you want your kids to have with their spouse one day? A son who thinks itâs acceptable to sit back and watch his wife carry the weight of the world on her shoulders alone? Or a daughter who is content with a man who does absolutely nothing for her and fails to meet her needs? Who essentially becomes a doormat for men because thatâs all sheâs seen from you growing up?
Our children are always watching us. More than we know⌠& I promise you, theyâre paying very close attention. We set the example for our children⌠you need to ask yourself⌠is the life that Iâm living a life I would want my children to live? Is everything that Iâm feeling & going through something that I want my children to have endure one day?
Is he staying home to care for the kids?
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Yah- you teach people how to treat you. Put your foot DOWN!
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Refuses to work? Sounds like his ass needs to go.
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Sounds like you have an additional child you are raisingâŚ
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Run and run fast take your kids and live the life you want youâll be happier
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So many issues in this post- wonât work, spends time away or with friends when you are home, an ex from 7 years ago⌠bye Felicia⌠get rid of him
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Sorry but heâs not a husband! Give him a choice he can pull his head out of his ass and find a job and help out or he can fuck right off!
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Get rid of him. Heâs taking advantage of you. He is scum!!!
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Unless he has serious health issues or something there is no reason he can not provide
Put your foot down get a job or get out
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That just shows you donât need him.
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Oh please leave him, he does not seem interested in being a family man or taking care of his family AND the fact that heâs saying heâs not having sex with you because of his ex, sounds like cheating! I think your so much better than that! Talk to him a lay down some rules and even doesnât meet them then itâs over
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Make him your ex-husband. If he feels well enough to go hang out with friends and stuff then he feels well enough to work. No REAL man will make his wife provide for the family. He sounds like a real slob and you and your kids deserve better.
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Heâs dead weight that you donât need. You have enough on your plate with your child and working 6 days. Time to kick his lazy ass to the curb
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Give him an ultimatum. Get a job, or get out. Thatâs just what I think.
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Throw the whole man away
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Something drastic needs to happen. If I were you it would be job or find a new home. Plus, hour kids are absorbing all of his actions. I would not want my children to think itâs okay to sit around and not financially help. IF he truly have health issues then why doesnât the sign up for disability!!
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Iâm having the same problem 
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Kick his sorry ass as far away from you as possible. Move on woman your far too good for that
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Is this even a legit question??? Like damn⌠Tell dude to kick rocks 
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Chances are heâs cheating on you.
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Um you are being played
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Ainât no way in hell
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He will continue to do what you allow. I think its evident âŚhis priority is not his marriage/family.
He is not worthy of you.
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It hurts him to work? Okay does he have like a herniated disk or bulging of the spine or really anything debilitating? If the answer is no then heâs hurting you not helping you. Deadweight is deadweight and honestly if your working 6 days a week to pick up his slack the house better be clean from ceiling fans to base boards with dinner ready every night and the kids actually being raised. Fuck them friends tho thats unnacceptable. Ex from 7 years ago? Is the reason he canât smash more then less then minimum? Take his ass to the doctor and if that donât help then he can hit the road
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Unless he is being a stay at home dad (i know stay at home moms that cook clean and do everything for kids and family because it is more practical money wise for them to be at home then having many kids in daycare⌠so unless he is doing that to make life a little less stress⌠i would say sounds like he wants a free ride and someone to do everything for bhim. Run now!
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My gf is more masculine than your husband. Throw the whole boy away.
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Hell to the no! Tell him to get a job or leave⌠you deserve better x
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He needs to get a jobâŚ
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Id get a divorce and make him pay child support since the kids couldnât live with him if he doesnât have income. If there is no solid reason for him to stay home he needs to get a job
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I mean if heâs staying home and taking care of the kids, whatâs the issue? Unless heâs not taking care of the kids. I mean thereâs a lot of missing info here. If he takes care of the kids while youâre working, I donât blame him for wanting a day away from the kids either.
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Heâs not a man if he canât help support his family regardless
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It sounds to me like his not a man, but a boy! Expecting you to take care of supporting the family he created with you. He blames his ex, for not wanting to have sex with you. Clearly his not over her then. You need to drop him, cause clearly his using you as a free ride. ONLY PEOPLE YOU NEED TO BE SUPPORTING IS YOUR KIDS! Not his ass.
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Kick his lazy ass to the curb
Leave now or better yet kick his ass out Nooooo way in helll would I put up with a lazy man fuck no
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Hell no. To the curb he goes.
My man supports us, Iâm high risk pregnancy at 7 months he makes me not work 
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- Is he caring for the kids and taking care of the house? If so then it would be like heâs a stay at home dad.
- What does his ex have to do with anything in your marriage??? 7 years and sheâs still ( in a way ) in the pictureâŚ
Sounds like you guys need to sit down and have an adult conversation without fighting about whatâs going on and how it can be fixedâŚIF heâs not doing anything at all at home and just sitting there watching tv then thereâs an issue! As for the friends, tell the friends yourself not to come over and if they do then kick them out itâs your house! Mainly sounds to me like if you 2 could actually talk about it then something could be figured out but I only know part of the story and donât know what actually goes on in your house. If your truly not happy and nothing an be changed then leave or make him leave.
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Seriously? You really need to ask? This dude is a super piece of shit. Kick him to the curb
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Thatâs not a man. If hes not working and helping support the house hold you have another child. Drop him off at him mommyâs find a real man and dont look back.
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Why are you giving him a choice to have a job? Dont give him any money
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Run fast. Donât stop.
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You are married to trash. Throw him away. Youâd be better off
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Get rid of his lazy good for nothing ass. And make sure if heâs cheating (probably is) that you have proof so he gets nothing
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Kick him to the curb
What exactly does he bring to the table? Are you trying to save the relationship you have now or are you clinging to the memory of what you two once had?
So bc of his ex yall canât have sex more than once or twice a month??? Did I read that right⌠Throw the whole man away love, best of luck to you
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throw the whole man away
Did he work before you married him?
Its okay if he doesnt work. The question is does he take care of the kids? Does he clean the house? Does laundry? The dishes?
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Is he covering the at home part of sah parent? Next question, is there a medical reason heâs not working? If the answer to both those are no, drop him like a hot potato!! There goes a lot of your stress and possibly lighten your workload a bit
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