I think his lying tbh
Get a divorce and find a man who doesn’t sleep around with co workers
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Let your husband talk to the lady then solve the matter among yourselves
People really be sleeping with EVERYONE at the office?!? I couldn’t think of one person. Eww.
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A man who thinks he is God’s gift to women. OMG. both a headache and a heartache. the first thing i will do is go to the doctors to have myself checked for std. He better pray hard that i am clean or i will have both his head on a platter.
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I would be upset too because this is effecting you professionally.
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Sounds like your husband is a h_e. 
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That’s a tough call. If you feel he betrayed your trust you’re going to have to decide if that’s something you can get over or not. You’re the only one who can decide that. Take time to yourself to really think on it all. You have the answers in you
Be careful who you Marry girls. And regarding this one, I have absolutely no idea what to say. Maybe go and get professional help?
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Do your job. Other personalities don’t fit in to job performace. Hope you documented well. And, although none of my business, omitting the truth is NO different than bald faced lying. Omission & commission are both lies. You may want to rethink your relationship with this guy. You cannot trust him.
Theres only 2 scenarios that sound logical to me. Either theyre still going at it oooor youve talked so badly about this girl that he thinks you knowing about them wouldve changed your mind about him in some way.
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So he told you about the others but not her? And she is de only one giving you shit… sounds like they slept with each other after you got together with him…
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Why sleep with co-workers anyway? Wouldn’t it make work uncomfortable once the fling was over or is it just me that thinks it would?
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These have got to be made up surely? Who would actually post this shit online for the whole world to see 
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Did he tell you before or after you got married? If it was before, you should have not let it progress to marriage
Stay focused on performance measurements and numbers. Everything else is an excuse
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Your husband is a 
it’s too much. He is a serial office pervert.
Uyanyisa nje shame
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Sounds like old boy got around way more than you thought. Of course that is going to be the case and those types of bitches will see that you don’t have a job. How they roll.
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You know the old saying. Shouldn’t eat where you shit .
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On the bright side…in our part of the world, we will soon be able to marry more than 1 man.
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Ur biggest mistake when u gave him freedom to be with other women even after marriage
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OMG what an idiot your husband is he just can’t keep his willy in his pants God knows how many others colleagues he’s still chowing right under your nose
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I feel for you, but whats in the past is in the past, everyone has ex lovers and so, but its weird he fu**k half of the office. That would be a nope for me… wish you the best of luck💗
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Seems weird to me for him to tell you about all the others but not her… Maybe it was never mentioned because it happened while you guys were together. “I didn’t tell you about her because it happened before you” okay… But why tell me about the others and leave her out? If it happened before you then why didn’t he mention it while he went down the detailed roster of all the others?
Her saying that you only targeted her seems like maybe she’s still up to something with him and thinks you found out and thinks that’s why you wrote her up? Idk it all seems a bit strange and I would question it a bit more from all sides.
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One lie makes you question everything. I would want to know exactly what else he hasn’t told me the truth about. Once my trust is betrayed, it cannot be retrieved.
Smh two places I do not date men.1 my work place ,and 2 were I lived
How can someone sleep with so many people that he has to see everyday and why have those women all slept with him knowing he’s basically dipped his wick in every hole in the office 
ewww. Anyway the fact he told you about all the others except her would make me concerned that something is still going on i would leave him i couldnt stay i also wouldn’t be able to work with all those women knowing they’d had a bit of my husband. With work once they’ve investigated the issue if you genuinely disciplined her professionally for her own wrong doing at work then your boss will see that and you wont be in trouble.
Divorce him once a cheater always a cheater I wouldn’t work at a place were husband of only 3 year has fuck almost every one there and he throws it your face and saying it was ok because it was before you and bullshit dump him he;s nothing but a pig
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He’s a dirty dick never mind work carry on professionally. Id get rid of the husband incase he brings something home from work u really don’t want!!! And do u really wanna be whispered about going oh yeah the supervisors husband has had every snatch in here ??? Nah have some respect and ditch the male hoe!!!
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Tell him, if you lose your job, you lose a wife and take him for everything he’s got 
He was probably still “seeing” her that’s why there was no mention… Come on, guys like to brag
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Maybe he didn’t mention her because of how much you dislike her? Maybe thought it would cause tension or something & so, never said. Or, maybe he regrets her & didn’t wanna admit it 
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As a union stewart I can say that’s a tricky situation! She would have to prove thats the case . That’s not easy to do but it’s also not easy to prove otherwise !
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Sounds like he slept with Every female in the place before her!! 
#seeyalater
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Just stick to the facts of why you have written the report. Now you know why your husband choose to move on from here. Stick to facts
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Mxm these husbands will kill you one day…
Damn your husbands been around like that? Specially coworkers? Lol instant red flag.
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He was not obligated to tell you zip! But he did selectively but it was none of your business. He has not cheated on you which is your business. This employee is justifying poor performance on the job by inferring you are prejudice. Document job performance and remain professional.
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It’s weird that he dipped his dick in everyone at work.
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He sounds like a gigolo x bye bye
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Well lots of ladies will never be disciplined which is a bonus for them but how can you do your job properly and have to justify your reasons. Take my hat off to you working with them all I would be hurt aswell
Save to assume he’s slept with most of them, like a dog in heat
I wouldn’t worry about the write up, obviously her complaint has no standing because he’s slept with all the women and she’s the only one you’ve written up…
Definitely use that stance because you can and it’s accurate
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I know this might be hard to do, but do your job. Write her up, and if she insists on grieving the matter, let her bring it on. You have evidence and proof that she is not doing her job, which has nothing to do with her past indiscretions towards your husband, those are 2 different situations. Then after the grievance has been dealt with, pack yourself up and leave him. Find another job, and distance yourself from those toxic situations. If she insists on bringing up the fact that it’s upsetting you that she was with your husband before you, make it very clear that what happened before we got together has no barring at all on her work performance. Don’t let either of them run you like that. Stick to the facts, and keep the drama out.
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Men like this are absolute trash and disgusting. Why would you even want to be with someone who’s slept/ been with so many people? You deserve so much more instead of this trash. Divorce him, I don’t see why not
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It was before you, everyone comes with a history, pretty sure you knew what you were signing up for when you got into this relationship. Looks like this worker has a bee in her Bonnet, probably because he chose you. True he went out with a few girls at work but he married you. Just do your job, if she isn’t doing hers it’s going to show, you have nothing to worry about.
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You will never be able to trust him! He’s made you look like a fool! I would go to the Doctor and get tested for STDs. You deserve better than him!!
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No you are not over reacting my friend, seriously its a issue, when he shared all things with you why didn’t shared this with you, Bustard he is
You have a strong heart love … He slept with everyone in short
Get a new job and get rid of your husband 
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To ensure a fair assessment of your document, just make sure the lady in the HR is also ‘safe’. You need to ask your husband if thats the case. Else, you may never know, they might just gang up against you professionally.
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At the time you wrote her up you didn’t know so deny her grievance claim
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What you don’t know can’t hurt you
Sounds like he likes to dip his wick in the company ink, run ,before he takes you down and then leaves you.
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No because your the boss so he put you in a compromising position… And if he lied about that when supposedly being very honest about prior work relations what else is he lying about… And maybe just maybe he cheated and it’s not from the past and she is salty because she thought it was more than a fling
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Don’t mix work with pleasure! Stick your professionalism, the reasons for the discipline and if things go further stick to the truth. Nothing you can do now it’s in motion
First of all he did not need to tell you about people that happend before you period BUT maybe he did not tell you due to hearing how you spoke about said women because if he had off it would of added fuel to the fire 100%, him sleeping with members at work is very simply put down to several things
1.he was single
2.easier access
3.familiarity
With you being supervisor an all this has kicked up maybe get your husband to write a letter addressing the issue for your boss from his side so it does not look like a scorned women an more of a petty way for the women to get of for being a lazy B…and not doing what shes being paid to do stay professional an do not listen to some of those saying divorce him etc all he did was not mention to save further hatred towards that individual…dont leave your job for such indescretions you have been classy&been a bigger women about it an stuck to your job…
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If he told you about others but didn’t tell you about her there’s a reason.
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Hmmmm…so na only him be man for that company bcos it seems he has slept with all the ladies working there …
And ended up marrying that is if he has paid ur bride price and if he has not u will soon be counted among those he has slept with
I am not comfortable with all the slut shaming.
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If it happened before your marriage then what’s the problem, he most likely slept with other people who you don’t know about, it’s called the past for a reason, so long as he hasn’t cheated since you got together with him then you should rise above it, stand together and get on with your life. If this person has done something within her work environment that led to her being disciplined then what happened between her and your husband before you was married doesn’t matter 
What he did before you has been done. You can’t change that. So long as he hasn’t cheated on you. I feel he didn’t admit about this woman was because you already had problems with her. Just imagine if you were venting to him about this woman and he turned round and said to you " oh I also slept with her" that would be adding fuel to the fire. I don’t blame him for keeping quiet to be honest. As for the woman, let her do her worse. She is obviously jealous of you and your husband. Be professional, do your job and enjoy your marriage. X
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You’re perfectly within your right to get mad.
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Sounds like a pattern to me
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Sounds kinda messy.Hubby is on a roll though😂
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Nope!! You have every right to react the way you did. He was forthcoming with the other women he was with in the department, why wasn’t he forthcoming about her? Since he has been with multiple women, who are you subordinates, it should have been discussed with the human resources department so it could be handled professionally and you won’t be in the predicament that you are in. Needless to say, since you are the supervisor, she probably isn’t the only one who will use your relationship against you. Best of luck!
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If he told you about everyone else, why didn’t he tell you about her?
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Those telling you to leave your job and your husband clearly haven’t been dedicated to anything in their lives! You don’t get divorced the second things get hard. Marriage is hard!! He didn’t cheat, he just had a past he wasn’t comfortable telling you everything about it. You can’t change the past, and he did what he did before you. If this girl is going to get messy and bring up 5 or 6 years ago because she got written up, HR will see right through that! Sounds like you are going to get looked into, but you haven’t done anything wrong. You weren’t purposely going after this chick, so there’s nothing to “report”. She will look like a total idiot when all of this shakes out. Keep doing you. I know you said you’re upset with him and aren’t speaking right now, but cut him some slack. We all have people from our past that we’d like to erase!
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Why do you want a male whore ?
Sounds like you married my last whore husband. I divorced him, and took my maiden name back, he was pissed about that, too.
I follow 1 simple rule. Cover your ass. As long as you have proof and documentation of why you write up any employee you should be safe. Claiming to not know is always a bad excuse in any circumstance. As far as your husbands motives, it’s hard to tell. If you don’t trust him that he is loyal to you, have one of your girlfriends try to seduce him and have another friend watch both of them to make sure she is telling the truth. If your husband doesn’t try to stop her from kissing her, remove himself from the situation, or tell you about it you might want to plan on a divorce or marriage counseling. I’d set them both up. I’d set up a few hidden cameras in your house. Tell them you will be gone for the weekend. Have your second friend follow them. Once they go in your house wait about 10 minutes and surprise them both.
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A good relationship has absolute trust and respect as it’s cornerstone.
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Why has he slept with every female in the office?
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There is a reason he didn’t tell you about her and it’s not because you didn’t like her. He either still has feelings for her , or they were seeing each other after u were married
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I believe the reason he didn’t tell you about her is they were still sleeping together. If he was being honest early on and had no reason to lie why didn’t he mention her as well? Now afterwards he want to say he didn’t have to tell her it was before her. Na Na then why would you bring. Up the others then thats super suspicious
As long as you don’t have kids, if it were me, I would tell him both of u need to leave that job or call it quits with the marriage. You should not have to work in that kind of environment and he obviously can’t be trusted. I would also suggest counseling, together and individual for both of u. I hope it works out for u guys, but even if it doesn’t, keep your head up and do what is best for you. Being in a toxic environment at work and/or toxic marriage is not healthy and you deserve better.
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Well you were likely gonna have to discipline one of his conquests sooner or later whether you knew about their prior involvement with your husband. True ,what’s in the past should stay there although you’re in a compromising situation it seems. Assuming you’re being honest and not taking into account any females your husband messed with before you you’re gonna need to be sure of your actions with subordinates. They shouldn’t get a break because you dear a retaliation claim. You also need to make sure you have their violations well documented and are able to prove them if it’s questionable. Make sure any discipline is comparable to what others have received in the past as well. If you’re fair and can demonstrate consistency with other workers it should workout. Even so I would look for an opportunity that takes you out of this position.
Happen the other way to me My-Ex Cheated the first time on me with a friend of ours I moved her home and a week later she phoned and begged for forgiveness which I did and we got married the next year for her to do it again with a friend of ours five years later,…so once a cheat always a cheat I feel?
It was the past. Tho I do wonder why he was forthcoming with all the other women, yet not her. I’d be somewhat angry because he didn’t give you a heads up that he had slept with her also.
What kind of person has a conquest to sleep with every woman he meets. So I take it you prefer a man who treats all women as objects of conquest. And each one allowed it. Yet he will now raise his own daughters to spread wide for every man who comes along.
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If you can show evidence of her incompetence it won’t matter
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If you remained professional with dealing with said woman and continue to remain professional. It will certainly help. Now your husband… if he really loves you. That son of a bitch, no offense, should be willing to defend you and be willing to “testify” that he failed to informed you about said person. Or maybe he didnt tell you because hes still sleeping with her… behind your back and now she wants him all to herself and is trying to ruin your life and job? His response of… I dont have to tell you, tells me that he is still sleeping with her
And also, why would you mix work relationships and personal relationships? That’s really just asking for shit to hit the fan.
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There is always the one guy who always tags the office woman. Yikes!
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I wouldn’t have told you about any of them, because it had nothing to do with you.
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When it started out “ he told me the women he had slept with in the place where I work” should have been end of story. I would have said bye bye and took care of me and my job at that point.
What I’m hearing is that if he had told you that you could have maybe dealt with this person you wrote up in another manner, and maybe not be blind sided by her using this against you on your job thinking the issue was just the 2 of you, but all along she was holding an ace in a hole card to use against you that you didn’t know about… I’d be pretty pissed about that, because it really is 2 different issues and your husband’s messy 
fell in your lap. Mmmm! I think he should offer some type of resolution, or try to speak up on your behalf, like really you didn’t know… But! I betcha everyone else did, so then again its probably not going to surprise “your boss”. You’d be surprised what the bosses already know. Good Luck! I do hope this works out for you.
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F××k it end it and call it a day he will be better off without you
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The past is the past. Could be 2 reasons why he left her out, 1 being she really didn’t mean anything to him (maybe just a bed fling few times) or 2 he has feelings for her. But don’t forget that some females are vicious, evil, and jealous. Does she have a problem with you cuz you’re married to him? She possibly has feelings for him. This can go several different ways, unfortunately. I’m not gonna suggest leaving or staying cuz in the end, that’s your decision. Only you can make that choice. For future reference, don’t mix work and romance.
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- Why would he tell you about the others and not her? Seems sketchy…
- She can use that as a claim, but she better hope it doesn’t backfire against her and your husband since most places of business have a no fraternization rule. I’d just casuall ask HR if there’s one in place there and let her hang herself with her own rope if thats a workplace no-no…
- Also, if you have documented proof that you writing her up is legit, don’t worry about it. Present your evidence and take it from there
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girl all these women he slept with at wrk and ur ok with it because it was the past? nope! that was a red flag he’s bad luck and he’s still sleeping with ole girl
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Remain proffessional with regards to the discipline…im sure the reasons for the disipline is backed up by evidence. If she wants to lower the tone by bringing up details of her sexual encounters she will only show herself up…your husband sounds like the office slag which is embarrasing for you but remain proffessional and stand your ground .
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As a supervisor stand your ground. If your reasoning for the write up is legit you have no worries. As far as your husband… idk
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She shouldn’t have gotten with him in the first place. Too many red flags to begin with. The biggest is him sleeping with women at work.
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He seems too promiscuous & an embarrassment. If he left her out, they’re probably still messing around! I’d divorce him 
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why bother with marriage in the first place?? The fairytale of marriage is just that a fairytale as now you feel betrayed and a fool , those vowels you both took obviously meant nothing the trust has gone no loyalty or love whatsoever , marriage is buying someone you hate a house
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He’s probably cheating on you with her
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Seriously I didn’t hear the part where she came clean about all of her past and if it’s before they were together than it was before they were together right
Made that bed, lay in it!
Try to take it from office/ professional stand point. If she keeps on with the “she’s mad over the past narrative” just have your husband write out a statement… then you might can get her not only for the crap she’s doing but also giving you a hard time because she’s jealous yall lasted and they didn’t… it is weird he would tell you about everyone but her🤔
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Your husband is a man wh@re Leave him.
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You kinda walked into this one… Met him at work… He already slept with a few people. Just messy all around. Sucks that he left her out. Probably because they are still seeing each other
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I mean you could say you didn’t know he slept with her because you literally didn’t
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This woman is a moron
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