He sounds like an asshole. I think you need to bin him and be honest at the meeting even if it means admitting your husband has slept with half the staff and you can’t do your job effectively if everyone blames your necessary work on former relationships because of him so he should be fired.
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Sounds like this man’s been through all the workplace. Not very professional on his part.
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Remain professional at work and ditch the husband. Girl you should’ve seen the red flags before you married his sorry ass. He’d already slept with every girl in the place and now his side piece is coming after you.
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Get rid of this cheap ass Christian Grey wannabe
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Why did he tell you about everyone but her though?
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He didn’t tell you cause he knew y’all didn’t like each other. Let lying dogs alone.
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Um… sleep with a coworker?
Everyone is so quick to yell divorce bc your husband slept with a lot of people before you were married good lord 
it IS suspicious that he didn’t tell you about her although you mentioned you had problems with her before and maybe that’s why he didn’t mention it but still not okay bc it gives bad vibes and makes it look like he may still be sleeping with her. He could also still have something going on with her and that could be the reason for the secrecy. The fact that he basically said its not your business is a problem. My husband and I have been together 9 years in October married for 8 in July and we share EEEEEEEVERYTHING with each other no matter how uncomfortable.
As long as he agrees to state that he had not told you, get it in writing and witnessed, you should be ok… and what a pathetic person she is for using that as an excuse may I add.
Sounds like u probably did write her up for it if you have to post this. Because i have been accused of unfairly writing people up before and every time my reasons and evidence proved the write up to be fair i was never worried.
Never…shit where you eat!!.. been thru that before!.. it’s a nightmare that will screw with you everyday…
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Use the other women as witnesses. Show that even though they’ve slept with him too you never disciplined them. Then I’d schedule an appointment at the std clinic
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First of all ignoring your parter for a few days is never ever good. If they are a true partner to you then you should never just shut them out regardless of the circumstance. Secondly, this just goes to show once again why you don’t 
where you eat.
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That workplace sounds like a porn industry hub.
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If the grievance is appropriate and you have evidence as to why you wrote her up I wouldn’t worry about it 
your husband…didn’t have to tell you anything about who he shagged I’d wonder why not her …I’d find a better job away from him
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This gotta be a Call Center. Everybody f***** in the call center.
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Yeah tell them you didn’t no about this gal then go on to tell them how many women he slept with that you no about maybe more fire his ass
Terminate that girl👌
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I understand, in my view, just explain to her that you didn’t know about her involvement. And tell her, you knew a lot of others who had involved while she was one amongst them, whom she might have not known. For your self satisfaction. Situation settled and she will be eating up herself. Regarding your husband, he’s all yours 
No you are not overreacting.
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No you arent overreacting, though it sounds like a drama situation. Dont bring up the personal issues but DO make sure you have everything in writing about the write up and the professional issues.
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Yr man naughty. Yr not over react
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I would seriously be rethinking my marriage if i was in your shoes, your husband sounds like he has a sex addiction, and he has had plenty of time to tell you about his relations with this woman and he made the choice not to… He is not trustworthy…
Find a new job, and he needs to as well… too much dipping in company ink
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You both should find completely new jobs and maybe move away from the area…this town is draining the marriage
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I wouldn’t marry my coworker if I knew he was intimate with so many people at our same job. Just all of that sounds like a big set up. Make it clear you weren’t aware and that it’s not even the issue at hand , and maybe think about where your husband’s loyalty lays if he has issues about any of this
If he told you about other women and not her, and then continued to defend why he didn’t tell you, that’s super suspicious as well just saying.
Your husband sounds like a man…slut…and I wouldn’t trust him as far as I could throw him. Sadly none of this sounds like it’s going to end well. Stop making excuses for him. It’s not normal to sleep with multiple women at your work place.
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Where I’m from, spouses are not allowed to work together specifically for this reason. Be professional about it, put everything on paper. At work, he is not your husband. Keep your marriage outside work. If there is a way for one of you to transfer or get another job then that would be for the best.
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I have seriously been here, I got my ex (notice I said EX) a job w me. He knew I worked w her n she knew I was w him they had been together in between 13 yrs of us not being together (longer story), THEY YES THEY decided not to tell me because they didn’t feel it was necessary but his homegirl decided to tell everyone abt it oh her sister worked there to and couldn’t hold water. So needless to say it wasn’t a very good situation but I promise you this no hoe (male or female) is gonna mess up my money. But thats not the only secret get rid of him I did eventually and been single since not just this but there was just to damn much
Crazy I just read your story on another group as well. Hope it all works out well honey, no idea how that may pan out with today’s society.
Sign an affadavit with a JP stating he did not disclose to you that he’d been intimate with her. Its a legal document that is taken seriously & can be used in any disciplinary action the company might try & bring against you.
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You are NOT overreacting! Find a new job and kick his arse to the kerb! He clearly doesn’t respect you enough to have been honest to begin with. It’s not just about your marriage, but also the taint that it puts on you as an employee. If it’s happened once, it’ll happen again and you deserve better than that.
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That Husband must be hot 
Chowing all the ladies 
. line up…Next…
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I would flat out let them know you had no knowledge of the relationship because you didn’t ! If this falls back on anyone it should be your husband he shouldn’t be sleeping with a bunch of co workers 
thats hid fuck up
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Well yes and no. You aren’t because your husband’s promiscuity (before he met you) is causing your job a lot more complicated in the way that these women are going to use that against you. But if you had written up this employee before and have a paper trail going then you can use that and say work is work and personal is personal and if you feel that in order to save your ass you have to lie about it then so be it. Anyways and you are overreacting because he didn’t have to tell you about his partners before you. It doesn’t really matter who he slept with before you. But I think it bothers you more that he hid this one because you have that gut feeling.
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Why are you with this male slut?
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Dumb as hell to get your meat where you get your bread.
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Why did you marry the office h##
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I’m personally sick myself because I used to be a player and you do Not deserve this kind of disrespect. I actually truly appreciate a good woman and I do have one Now and would not do anything to hurt her, you have my sympathy and you deserve better than that, that is for sure. I myself would not trust him and move on, there is better guys out there that you deserve. He’s a liar and a cheater and he’s hiding it because she is a reserved for falling back from you and there’s probably more than one. I’m glad I learned my lesson. I truly love my baby and do not want to lose her, we do anything and and everything together and We get along great. She is all mine and I am all hers. I truly hope you can find the same, there can’t be much better.
Why marry someone that has slept with multiple women at the same place?
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First of all if your husband slept with "girls " that’s your 1st problem!!! Stop calling women yes women a woman if someone over the age of 18 who usually drives a car has a license perhaps a job has graduated high school or college lives on her own pays rent Etc a girl is someone who is under the age of 18 who is usually still in high school still living with Mommy and daddy. Still has a curfew Mommy and Daddy are still paying the bills and her cell phone. This is exactly what’s wrong with the society!
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Typical lying men Get rid of him and find a new job
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I don’t know 
I wouldn’t be with someone at work for that reason. I will be looking for another job and he told you he slept with pretty much the whole work place so should not be mad and since you are a supervisor I’m pretty sure all these woman are going to used the same tactic and you may lose your job…
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I don’t think you’re overreacting with him. If he told you about the others then why did he leave this relationship out? As for the grievance, I’d have iron clad backup and references for the write up that way they can see that you were being professional and in the right. Also be prepared to answer questions about your relationship since it’s being called into question on your motives. The truth is the best way to go. This is one reason that some companies have rules about dating co workers.
Find another job ASAP!
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If your husband has nothing to hide then he can put it in writing he never told you too. Why would he tell you about all of them, but this one? Why would she think you did or did not know? He said he did not need to tell you? Thats all he said? Wow! He could have said that he didn’t want to talk about his past at all. So saying he didn’t need to tell you is bullshit. He did tell you …only some? You also said she had been giving you a hard time at work. Did he know about that? Coward! Maybe there’s a plot. Too much stress. He is not looking out for you. He is not truthful. He is a player. You should be hurt. You should listen to your gut. Not sure how you trust him at all. Sounds like he slept his way to the top and you deserve better! Know your worth. Good luck hun.
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You could just have your husband tell your bosses that you didnt know and your reasons for writing her up was purely based on proffessional reasons.
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To be honest with you soon as you started a relationship with him, even before you got married to him you should have gotten another job. Being the superior to your husband’s ex will ALWAYS end bad regardless of how professional you are being. They will use their history against you every single time true or not true creating more drama and bullshit than it’s worth. If you have cameras at work have them pull up the footage to prove her guilty of what you wrote her up for. Then find a new job.
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In reality they can’t bring your job and relationship into the equation unless you open that door. It’s unethical. You have to remember not to open that door. And if it is brought up your response was this is the first I heard about a relationship between the 2 of them. And it is irrelevant as it happened long before me so we aren’t here to talk about yours or my husband’s relationship but your work issues. As for your husband oh my. He didn’t tell you because he knew you might curb him since you already couldn’t stand this girl. This wasn’t an oversight he was outright deceitful for his own personal gain. I would make him own that. Being defensive and saying it was before you… well so was all the others. 
Seriously why did you marry him?
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This is why you don’t mix business and personal together… really you can’t be mad at him because he is right he isn’t obligated to tell you every single person he slept with before you were even together. Second I wouldn’t have married someone or even started dating someone who has slept with most of the office before me because you were just setting yourself up to have your feelings hurt all the time.
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If you wrote her up for a disciplinary you must have evidence as to why ? I wouldn’t worry about it , your husband? I personally wouldn’t work with him I’d be finding a another job
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Shes a bitch for even trying to use that as an excuse instead of being woman enough to acceot accountability for her own behavior. Shes a huge liability if shes that childish to do something so shady. Hopefully you have kept records of her reasons for her writeups and this shady bitch cant use the excuse shes trying to use.
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You play stupid games you win stupid prizes… You got the man so take the severance if they offer it to you and find another job! This is the definition of don’t sh@t where you eat! I get that you can’t control who likes you but you should control who you entertain! He messing with multiple people at the job and you marry him? Even if he told you intimate details of every situation he was in with every person at the job there is still potential for this to happen. Maybe the reason he is tight lipped now is because this didn’t happen ‘after’ you…
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Good reading Tiffany Caesar Wyche . All I can say is hmmm🤔 kinda fishy to me.
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Why you still at that job. Apparently you love him more than the job
Time to get a new job
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He told you about all the other women, but clearly left her out on purpose, and now its affecting your work…girl YES you are allowed to be pissed?
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Is there any women left at work that he hasn’t slept with
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Jfc how many women there did he sleep with.
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Yep. I would be pissed, disgusted, and suspicious of why mention the others but not her 
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It’s never going to work love if you both work with people he’s slept with ! There’s always going to be some sort of problem!
I think both of you need to get another job because honestly ur job sounds toxic & both of u need to move on from there to be a healthy relationship in my opinion!
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This is the reason why you don’t date, marry, or have sex with anyone at work. 
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Probably not a good idea to get in relationships at work in the first place. I would personally find a new position somewhere else get a head start and get out of there. What an ass, I’d be so pissed but at the same point what do you expect getting with a guy whose slept with everyone at your work…
Wonder if there are more at work you don’t know about
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Thrown them both under the bus. If you love your job, be completely honest. You have never once singled this woman out for having sex with your husband, because you never knew.
I also think it was shit of your husband for withholding that information.
Talk to a counsellor asap…
Move out if you’re advised to…
In my view, this doesnt sound like an appropriate situation…there’ll be more muck coming up…we never know. Cheers and Take care
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He told you about all the other women before you, but did t have to tell you about her, because she was before you? What?
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Thats why you don’t shag
your workmates.
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Your husband is a heau. He really didn’t need to sleep with that many people at work… 
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You’ll be fine with the work thing if she actually f*cked up.
If it came to it, I’d highlight the fact that she’s been particularly difficult toward you. Until this point, you weren’t aware about their previous relationship as it was before you were even together and only now that she’s been reprimanded for whatever her issue is, she’s revealed exactly what her was her underlying issue was. The fact that he moved on from.her and married you.
Also get a new job.
Also maybe a new husband as your current one sounds like he gives about pinches fingers together tightly this much that you’re now potentially in a shit fight with your career.
Omfg hes a real player.not a good situation for u to be in.sorry he is such a player but theres probly more outside the workplace
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And that is why most organisations do not allow vama relationships at work cause of such things.at this point the only thing management can do is to separate all three of you.you people can no longer work in the the same place…
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Your fault for accepting him, knowing how many women he had sex with and from work where both of you work. What a nightmare. You should of stayed away from him. 
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And no you’re not over reacting , it’s okay to feel like that because this is rather a messy situation…
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This is why you don’t fish from the company pier
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Just going through liking all the comments with different words but the same message. 
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why tell you about the others and not her though
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Ewe what a slimebag with every new recruit it seems
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He is not the only man left in your life divorce him immediately who knows what else he is hiding from you
Euw 
lady his been quite around, who says he stopped?!!!
We are all going to tell you the same thing about workplace romances but that’s not a solution to your problem. I think you should take advice from a labour’s lawyer or consultant
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Is there anyone in your workplace he hasn’t been with? 
he a hoe!
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Well this is just my opinion only I could never have dated somebody let alone married somebody who is basically slept with all these women at the same office. This is why offices usually have policies against it because it causes problems. And my big question actually the biggest question is why did he tell you about everybody but her? That seems really strange to me. If he was hiding something like that what else is he hiding and did he actually stop sleeping with anybody else at the office? I don’t know I couldn’t trust this guy but apparently you did because you married him
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So many red flags 
honesty sounds like something is still going on between them so that’s why she brought it up . Personally if it got too stressful I would find a different job, you have a reason to be upset if he doesn’t see it then he’s the problem 
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Why is she just now saying something about it if you have always had issues? I wouldnt say you are ober reacting you were just blind sided by this bs and now it looks like they are still up to it because why wouldnt he have told you… now this bia is trying to use it to her advantage to get away with some crap after you being married for YEARS are you serious? If you were upset about it you would have done something about it a lot sooner unless she means shes still sleeping with him and is feeling guilty?
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Ugh. He put you in a very bad position
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Get an other man and an other job🤷
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Coming from someone in the same occupation 
depending on the reason for discipline, if my work threw me under the bus I would turn right around fight back. I get that things happened before you guys were married, but you can’t just NOT discipline someone just because of that. Sounds like she just wants to get away with whatever she wants. You have to be able to do your job effectively also. Shame on him for not saying something, but shame on the company for pursuing anything in retaliation.
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Wtf? How old are you 2? How long did you date before getting married? How long has he worked there? What kind of job is this where he has slept with half the females there? Is this a strip club? Is he the only man there? Is sleeping with him a prerequisite? I have so many questions…
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He put your job in jeopardy and he let his ex come between you. He told you about the others at work but not her. He has a lot of explaining to do.
Take him and them out the equation, did you discipline her for something that was warranted? Did you do it correctly? If yes to both then I’d not worry a bit. That’s her trying to get outta it. She did wrong and needs to be accountable for her actions. You didn’t even know 
. If done right then fight it all the way!! If done maliciously then hold ya hands up and retract it. Good luck xx
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I’d find a new husband and a new place of employment. Leave all that trash in the past.
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Im thinking because he knew you 2 had problems before you were together that he didnt wanna cause anymore by saying he slept with her as well. Not defending him at all he should have told you but it may have been to try and keep the peace since you ladies already had issues. Once again IM NOT DEFENDING HIM. But there has to be a reason why he left her out. And he either needs to tell the truth and you guys work on moving passed it or you 2 may need to separate
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Babe, if you knew your husband had been sleeping around with different females at work, why do you even marry a man who can’t even respect his work place. Look at the results… I am sure you knew better.
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What was the situation involving the write up? Did you document all the issues leading up to the write up? Did you follow the proper procedures before, during, and after? If not, do it now as much as you can currently remember. Her previous exploits in the office have absolutely nothing to do with her current problems, other than she’s trying to get out of discipline the easy most convenient excuse. Rather than take responsibility for her actions and own up, she is choosing to blame another employee, in this case, you. Anything she says to you, document it immediately and anything she does in the meantime. The more detailed, the better. If anyone higher up asks, you didn’t know about her and your husband, but even now, it has absolutely no effect on how you manage and discipline employees under you. They all get treated the same. Stay calm, stay focused. I would just say we are here to work, the issues are x,y,z, if upper management asks, tell the truth and you’ll be fine. She’s trying to start issues that aren’t there to deflect from herself.
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Just be sure you’re able to provide proof as to why the write up happened. If you can effectively show your superiors that she was written up then she cannot throw in a petty argument such as “she’s mad because I slept with her now husband years ago”.
Example: The company I work for requires proof. You have to show that the employee was incompetent/problematic etc with a paper trail. Employee was late, provide time stamps of clock in/out, any messages showing they stated they will be arriving late, signed paperwork between job/employee stating on xyz date employee was late to work and it was not planned/excused, contract with employee showing agreed upon hours that employee was hired for.
The fact that he slept with SO many women at work should have been a red flag to begin with
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Seriously? Your job is in Jeopardy over what sounds like a pretty shady man to begin with. You have a real mess on your hands. He admitted to “multiple” partners at his place of employment but excluded her:thinking:
You’re a supervisor? Hope you have undisputable proof of the disciplinary action but even then… If I was your manager/supervisor I’d fire ALL 3 OF YOU.
You put yourself in the position knowing he was screwing pretty much every female at work.
As long as you followed your companies proper disciplinary policies and can show valid evidence of the write up you should be fine.