Just let them know you had no idea about them being together until after she was written up and it shouldn’t have any barring on what she did to get written up.
Considering he had numerous flings at the job, why would you marry him 
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Never sht where you eat
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Why would you want to be with a man who has slept with so many other women? Don’t think he’s worth the effort. Move on…
You deserve better! Good 
Luck
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Divorce him. He was probably still doing her.
“He slept with a co worker before he was with me”
Women in the comments:
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What’s the company policy on co-workers dating? That’s what you should have figured out before “all this drama” it doesn’t matter if it how many people at work he slept with the fact you married your coworker with the knowledge he slept with people at the same job (whew messy messy) then it should have been taken into consideration before accepting the position, maybe someone else can follow through with the disciplinary actions but you blaming your husband for things out of his control is pointless, just assume your husband screwed every woman at that job🤦🏿♂️ (damn is he the only man in that town) and proceed to act accordingly.
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I think it’s a bluff on her part and do not address this information passed onto you it’s a setup, you are being played all the way around.Let that stop with you.
Aww what a awkward position to be put in. I would probably be a lil bit upset too. That’s just to weird since he already came forward and told you about the other women he was with at your work place. Why not tell you about this particular woman at the same time. IMO…If he’s been faithful to you the whole time you’ve been together I’d probably just dust it off an not allow it to put a impact on your marriage. BUT… If he’s been unfaithful before that could be the reason he didn’t tell you {hence he slept with her after he already told you about the other women} ?? That’d be my thought on this situation. But if I were you I’d for sure get it in writing from him that he didn’t tell you anything about the relationship with her until after you wrote her up, then you were told by a coworker about their past relationship & you confronted him about it, just to make sure you’ve cover your own @zz & not hender your job! Plus I’d make sure he came clean with anything else that revolves around your work place. Cough it up & have a clean slate moving forward. Best of luck!
Why would you put yourself in such position and under such stress? You married him after knowing he slept with most if not all women at your work? what the hell were you thinking? Knowing he is the slu. of the office and you still went for it??? 
his azz should’ve gotten fired long ago and you need to find another job sweetie, good luck
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Never get your hunny were u make ur money !
Hes obviously still banging her while he’s married. A cheater always a cheater.
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Just my opinion…If he told you about the rest of them, but not her and is getting a attitude defending himself by "I didn’t have to bc it was before we were together " I feel like he’s been seeing her this whole time. Maybe telling you about the others was his way to not make you suspect her. I’d be pissed too, seeing it’s affecting your career now.
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quit find a job that respects your decisions
Guuuuuuurl, you done pissed in your own damn bed lol! Why would you marry a man who disrespected his own (and your) workplace by messing around with so many coworkers??? And a supervisor? Of these women??? Nothing but a soap opera and drama…quit and start fresh then go to couples counseling because his past is gonna come up again at some point and it sounds like his past may also be his present.
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This why I don’t date coworkers 
. Drama i had to explain once to a coworker if we dated he said ok then we broke up. It was ugly break up. We would have to see each other again and again. Not good for me and you. Plus I have my dad with us. He will side with me. No matter if it was my fault or not. No thanks. He said yup no thanks. Lol Plus your dad is mean 
. Lol
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I’m sorry but these women were before the wife. Not speaking to your spouse for a few days is not okay and very childish. Most companies actually have policies that violate company code for any relationships between employees. Why be upset about your husband having relationships before you? You knew he was probably with other women. Now if there is no evidence to support the write up for this employee then that can be a problem. And if he slept with all these women at the work place (again most companies would have fired him) it could be possible he lost count and didnt tell you all of them. No one is perfect and we all have pasts. Maybe if she isn’t going to speak to her husband and is going to be angry about his past relationships then maybe she should leave and file for divorce.
I think you need a new husband, but also think she is upset because it’s still happening
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You are under reacting
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To me your the office 
, seems your husband went through all dem pussies like a hurricane 
. To be honest find another job because men are slick you don’t know he’s still sleeping with the newbies. You husband surely have a reputation around the office. My take is why did he married you being that he practically slept with the whole staff?
Am I the only one that is curious how big this company is and how long he has worked there to have slept with a few before her, one secret lady and a marriage of being g together for 5 years?
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we all know that guy who has been a slutty pants. if you believe he has changed then so be it ,stand tall
Eh how many of his colleagues did your husband actually sleep with. I’ve heard of people having a fling with a colleague but this seems as if he’s slept with every female in your Company. Seriously one of you should have left the business when you got married. Also make sure he’s still not dipping his tip into anyone else 
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The red flags were waving when you married him…choices n consequences. Take off the blinders !!
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As long as what she did wrong was called for disciplinary action. Hopefully you have documentation of her being worthy of a write-up and any educations you tried to give her prior. Documentation is your best friend right now
If you wrote her up legitimately then you should stand your ground with it. Stand up for yourself and prove your case. Don’t let her use that as a reason to not be held accountable for performance at work.
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Secrets lies and problematic
If he was forth coming with everyone BUT her, I would want to know why. Definitely seems like there is more going on.
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This is why I will never get involved with a co worker…
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Heidi Richter same here I never sh** where I eat meaning I’m not dating someone I work with. She’s delusional to still marry this wh*** after finding out he’s slept with half of his co-workers. He sounds like community d*** yuck no way I would’ve married him. 
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Who sleeps with numerous people at their place of employment ?!?
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Sounds like he should be fired for sleeping with co workers. That’s usually policy in most companies…he’s a man wh*re and he should have told you. I’d Bring her into the office and say I wrote you up for these reasons. I never knew you had slept with my husband previously until you ran you’re mouth. But im justified in writing you up for your job performance. As for him, I’d move on. He’s evidently been with almost every girl in the office. Anytime you write up any of those girls. You’ll be dealing with this situation. You’re in a lose lose situation. Jmo I’d tell higher up bosses every girl he slept with so they know you’re not singling out those girls. Especially if you have legit reasons to write them up.
Well, it was before you and he didn’t have to tell you about anyone before you. Because, yes it was before you. And, you can prove you didn’t only not know about her, but can probably prove it was worth the disciplinary write up. Also, maybe he didn’t tell you, because you did already have problems with her and not like her. And he felt it may make those worse🤷
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I can’t say I know exactly what I would do in this position because it’s really easy to point fingers and say a lot of crap but these are my thoughts:
- If the disciplinary action is merited that means you would have followed the steps. Usually it’s starts with a documented coached, then a written warning, then an actual write up. Last can be a final write up and possibly a suspension pending termination.
- If you didn’t know the woman slept with your husband you may actually be able to use that to your advantage and honestly say that.
- In my mind, I think your husband might still be cheating because why keep that one woman from you?
- That you haven’t spoken to your husband can be perceived as childish and it lacks maturity. This is where I would ask that you try to control your emotions and have a serious conversation. Not one where there’s pointing of fingers… But one where you communicate that you feel insecure in your relationship now considering that this conservation of who he’s slept with was supposedly already hashed out BUT… There’s new information surfacing and you just want the truth. You don’t care because it was before you (allegedly) but this makes it feel like something was left out intentionally.
Good luck. I hope it sorts itself out.
You sure he’s not sleeping with her now? That would be the only way he would be honest about others. But not her.
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Should never sleep with coworkers. He was never taking the job serious. Listen dont lose your job over these hoes. As long as you have evidence as what this girl did that you wrote up then all will be fine. They may just have your husband move to another shift. Cant manage family or loved ones. 
stay strong gurl 
And honestly,she’s only grivancing bc she’s mad he married you and not her.
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After reading comments I suggest get rid of him before you get another job…that way he won’t know where you work or how much you’re paid.
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Sounds like he is still involved with her that’s why he didn’t tell you…
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I would have trust issues and be very upset as to why he kept her and only her a secret.
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Yes
You are.
Keep work at work.
If there’s legitimate reasons for the report then stick to that.
not overreacting but it sounds messy from the beginning
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Never ever get your meat where you make your bread … for so many reasons … this is an example of just one of those reasons
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I would never work with my husband. Just be cool 
she probably still likes him.
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That’s no good. Why tell about the others but not her? Ur feelings are valid. You have every right to be hurt, angry and upset. I’m sorry.
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Find a new job and anew man
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File your own grievance!! Say she is using that fact that she was a prior girlfriend as a reason to be dismissive about her job and not being written up. Then file a grievance that they are accusing you of being dishonest and emotional or holding grudges about things that didn’t involved you and that were in the past.
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You married company peen? 
You should ask for a transfer. You cannot supervise the men and women your husband slept with. Plus he got you looking real foolish in there Sis.
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Get a new job and a new husband
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Why would you marry someone that the whole office has slept with???
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Obviously he’s a hoe, deep down you knew this 
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Never find ur hunny where u make ur money 
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Why would you marry a guy who’s been with half the women you work with?? Surely you knew he was a player before you got with him. This whole situation could have been avoided if you had used better judgment and stayed away from this guy in the first place. This whole thing is your own fault and you’re trying to play victim. Gtfoh.
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Exactly why you should never work for the same company. This relationship didn’t seem to be secure from the beginning. Good luck
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Definitely sounds like she has issues with you! She clearly wants what you have and that’s why she don’t like you and then you took the man she wanted of course she’s going to feel like it’s personal however that’s only because it’s personal to her all you have to do is go into the meeting and tell them you had no idea about any previous relationship with him as he never told you! Yet I wouldn’t waste my time with a guy like that. He didn’t tell you for a reason what else didn’t he tell you.
Hubby is a liar… This is why ppl shouldn’t be in relationships at work. I’m actually surprised this was allowed.
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Sounds like he is the office bike is there any woman there he hasn’t screwed? Puts you in a very awkward position as a supervisor and for the other women as well. In your place I would be looking for another job and reevaluating my marriage because it really sounds like your husband can’t keep his dick in his pants
I would have been disgusted long before marriage. Sounds like he was quite promiscuous. Nothing good can come from getting involved with a guy who sleeps around and then you willingly supervise those very people. You should not be surprised. Time for a new job and possibly a new husband. He’s obviously not as honest as you thought and your situation was not taken into consideration when he withheld info. Good luck.
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Sounds like he was a mãnwh0rè before you. I used to sleep around. No shame in that. But,seriously, I cannot remember every last guy I ever had sex with. I have actually gone out on “first dates” with guys I hadn’t remembered sleeping with a decade prior.
If anything actually happens and you get called in for questioning explain he slept with so many people there it’s impossible for you to not eventually have to discipline one of them. It’s your husband’s issue for not feeling the need to not sleep with half the women you work with before you. Not yours. If anything your husband should be the one being removed from his position in the company because that is really just shitty work ethic. Never sleep with people you work with.
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Girl what? Why would you put yourself in that situation! He has been with every woman at your job who you supervise , I’m sure there’s more that he’s not telling you never mix business with pleasure I would kick his ass to the curb and keep it moving! It’s not hard to be a man and have morals. You’ll never fully have the respect needed to supervise or manage being that your husband has been with the people you oversee!
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Get a new husband he’s a loser
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Why are you feeling hurt, sad, and disgusted? Our feelings are always caused by our thoughts, so what do you think about this that is causing those emotions?
Does he know about every guy you were with? Every guy you kissed? Every guy who liked you whether you returned the affection or not?
Because 1. You’re right that the things that happened before you are over. There’s nothing either you or he can do about it. 2. Neither of you can control what this other woman thinks or does.
3. He had no way of knowing that she would make a problem out of it one day in the future. How would he have known what he needs to tell you “just in case” and what he didn’t?
I don’t want to make assumptions but I’m guessing you feel upset - not because he didn’t tell you but because it has become a problem and you feel caught off guard. Does that resonate?
Because of what is happening consider it a blessing you can honestly say you didnt know. If u need to defend yourself. Hold on to any proof that defends your truth
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Soo, you knew your man slept with woman you are in charge of, yet kept the job? Its a conflict of interest and im not surprised this happened at all. Also don’t be surprised if you lose your job. You literally should have already thought this through and found a new job. You are not a victim here. You obviously didn’t like the chick you think he’s gonna tell you he slept with her? This is why we don’t make hoes husbands!
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You don’t screw the crew.
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Evidently, he doesn’t adhere to not “Pooping” where you eat. I’m pretty disgusted myself with your story. He sounds like the workplace hoe. I guess the female would have to prove that you knew about it, which would be on her to do so to get anyone to take her case but his conduct has been pitiful. I’d need to reevaluate what exactly I married.
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This is a spaghetti of a mess! So, this is a God size problem and only God can solve it! Take this to Him or seek counseling. We don’t have the wisdom to guide you in your decision! Blessings
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Your husband and you are both stupid for mixing work and pleasure, the woman less stupid she only did it once, and I am sure since he mentioned all but one, hubby is still actively pursuing his female coworkers. Find a new hubby, and a new job.
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Yes you are overreacting.
I get it, you guys talked before getting married and it was supposed to be a clean slate. Him sleeping with other women at the company … you can’t change the past. But that was the time to tell you about this other woman. Especially after you confronted him now! I hate that attitude of “I didn’t have to tell you”. But he did tell you everyone else though. He’s a straight up liar. If he didn’t tell you about this woman, who else didn’t tell you about. Suspicious about his reaction, he might even be cheating on you now! Get outta there!! What husband after 5 years says that to his wife!!! 
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…when you lie down with dogs, you get up with fleas.
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Loving all the girls comments, in my country we call those guys gunn men, lady maybe got carried away with his bullshit,she is is just another notch in his belt. Those girls in the office laugh at her everyday.
Wow he slept with a lot of women at work right there is it first sign
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Lord help. I ain’t making no comment on this matter:flushed:
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Get a new job its not worth the stress!
Sounds to me like he’s still hitting it with her esp if she’s the only one yu ain’t heard about
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Just saying yur man ain’t worth what ya paying for him $0
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Get another job. You knew. He may do it again. How much do you love him?
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Sounds like your coworker did what you wrote her up for and she’s trying to get back at you
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Y’all telling her to get a new job. She didn’t sleep with anyone. He did. He should get the new job and leave his past women. He should have told you and it definitely sounds like he is still sleeping with her. They have to prove that you knew that he slept with her. And if your hubby cares, he will tell them that you didn’t know. I would leave him if he doesn’t quit. Well I’d still leave him.
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Have solid evidence/s that back up why you’ve written her up. If attendance, get log in / log out logs. If performance, back it up with data. If behavioral, screenshots, cctv, etc.
If you didn’t set any process yet of documenting such stuff, make sure to do so moving forward. Goodluck!
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He’s a Ho Ho Ho let Him Go!!!
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How old are you? Are you for real?
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Sounds like he is a looohoooseher
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Damn…how many people did your husband go through at work?
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Run and don’t look back.
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That is why you never date someone you work with
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I don’t think your husband is the problem here. The girl you are disciplining is the issue. I think someone else mentioned that you need to prove whatever she did. You’re obviously not doing it because she slept with him because you didn’t know. The only thing your husband did wrong was not tell you about her, which must have been embarrassing and hurtful to you and therefore made the situation worse.
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I am so fixing to unfollow this page. Garbage!
He’s cheating with her and she’s trying to get you in trouble so she can “win”
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It was recent and she only buck heads with you cause she know what they were doing behind your back. Don’t be gullible he didn’t tell you cause he was still dealing with her. Most immature woman beef with you cause on the low she’s sleeping with your man.
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Wait a minute, all of you work for the same company! You’re a supervisor!! How is it you don’t know? (People talk) If he’s been with a number of women who work with you how have you not heard anything about him? I’m seeing red flags 
he told you about A List of women he’s been with. (that you work with) yet he failed to tell you about HER. Makes me think he is still seeing Her. “he said he didn’t have to tell you because it was before you” yet (he told you about everyone else) I get the it happened before we were together thing. But he gave you a list of women, you all work together. I’m seeing red flags waving all over the place. I would not have touched him with a ten foot pole. I’d serve him with walking papers then go talk to your boss and let them know what’s going on.
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The fact that he told you everyone else he had previously been with but excluded her is a little fishy and she sounds like she’s just trying to get out of trouble by placing the blame towards you.
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Now that’s what you call workplace DRAMA!!
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YES HE SHOULDVE WARNED YOU BECAUSE NOW LOOK AT THE SITUATION YOUR IN!! Bloody hell, how you gunna get out of that tangled web, Jesus 
first off your husband needs punishment here. The only thing you can do is go to your boss and tell them exactly what’s happened and how now you’ve found out and your devastated!! Your husbands a prick let alone a shlaaaaag.
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Don’t shit where you eat
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your husband at work sexual activities, that predated you, have your job questioning YOUR motives, you tell the review board everything!!!, and remind them that YOU always performed your duties with Integrity. then deal with your husband, you need to know EVERYTHING.
He’s not honest - cut your losses and leave
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As we say in spanish “mandalo a la fregada” he aint worth shit might as well find a better man. He should also be fired for sleeping with coworkers I thought that was against company polices to get involved with coworkers but yes run hes a hoe can’t make a hoe into a husband in this case
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