Ummm… is this a real post?
Your allowing him to do this. Your allowing this behavior 110%. This is degrading. I’m going to be honest if he loved you he would never do this to you! Been there done that and it’s not worth it. Not for your mental health or for your child. There is nothing that justify’s this behavior! Find your way out and don’t look back!
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Seriously, Respect yourself Enough to tell him , shes GONE, and we can go to counseling and try to work through this , or END it!
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This must be what it’s like to have a good size dick? Just tell your wife your pounding another gal and she don’t instantaneous tell you to go fuck yourself and that whore bitch you been fucking!! Oh and by the way shrimp dick I fucked your brother while you where at work today!! Some guys get all the luck!!
Is this a serious question? People don’t hurt people they love intentionally. If y’all are questioning your loyalty to each other, and obviously he is actively cheating on you then I think you know the answer. Unless you’re okay with it and it doesn’t sound like you are then you need to put boundaries in place and stick with them. If you want to stay with him then demand the side chick bounces and you two work on your relationship, but just know if he is admitting to it and is trying to justify it then he’s probably unlikely to change. He might eventually but not if he knows he’s never going to lose you, I would give him an ultimatum and see what he does with it. If he loves you truly then he’ll make the right decision but if not then I think you need to put your foot down and walk out the door. If you’re worried about the financial part if you’re a single woman then you should be able to get a job pretty easily and get a studio or one bedroom apartment to start with and just work your way up. I would much rather be single ( and I’m saying this is a married woman who lives on her own because my husband moved his girlfriend in with him to his house) and happy then miserable in a marriage full of infidelity.
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That man would be outta my life SO FAST! While the emotional involved with not seeing the kiddo anymore would be rough I’d leave. Not gonna double dip and have me be basically a live in baby sitter with a title.
Sounds like your home girl is the side chick
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Is this for real? Answer is get out.
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That’s abuse. Are you his mother that has to take care of a grown ass man? No
Well think of it this way he could decide to leave you and stay with her and you would lose everything anyways so this maybe something you can’t control. But what you can co tril is to leave now its scary but you deserve better don’t play this game with him
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Don’t be played for a fool get out let her have him for him to do this to you he doesn’t live you he loves only himself
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I match energy so we both would have something on the side.
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Get the hell out. Would you want your children raised in that? Would you want your mom to go through that? Or any of your friends. He’s awful. Get out
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Heck no I would get rid of him. You deserve way better. Kick him to the curve.
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Leave him. If he thinks u cheated but didn’t than he should leave not cheat, unless he fine with u having a side man u get to Vaca with while he cares for his child without you. Do u watch the child while he us gone on these vacations n apparently been Goin on awhile. I’d just leave n find someone better n pay my own bills
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So let him know that you need to have a side B guy also. he could be your A guy. Then get your boyfriend to take care of your other stuff
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I wouldn’t sell myself out just for a home and finances just to live in hell. Nope. Not worth it! Become financially independent from him. Don’t lose yourself in the process.
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You have already lost him! You just need to send his belongings with him to her house!!
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Girl… just no. To stay and deal with that just because he knows where home is? That would make me certifiably insane, and break down my self esteem, and that’s not an option. I’m worth much more than that , and so are you.
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Let him support you and your son while you find a new life without him.
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Leave him. Live by urself find new love… u will get
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Not even your biological child!? Honey!! Stack some money and get up out of there. No thank you.
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I think this is the moment where you need to truly understand your worth.
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TF outta here!!! It’s one thing if y’all decided this was okay TOGETHER. However he did this all on his own girl. I’d divorce him and take his ass for all tf he has!! ( I’m not one for wanting any money but to take care of the kids but this little boy you got here ain’t shit so)
Think for a minute about if/when the time comes that he decides the other one is more important than you, or the kid is raised and he conveniently no longer needs you. Then what will you do??? Only you can make a decision on what your life & your future will be…
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Kick him to the curb not worth it
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Smh, girl leave…he’s using a manipulative control method…it’s over sad to say…but I’m telling the truth from experience
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Imagine you had a grown daughter… And she comes to you in this situation, what would you tell her?? You are worth more than that. Trust me I’m coming out of a terribly toxic relationship myself and the final straw was me realizing I was worth more!! I deserved better. You deserve better. Remember that. God bless and good luck on your decision.
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Guess you better go get you a side B too then !
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Divorce and let him take care of his own kid. Prostitutes “get taken care of” too.
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Wait?! You are thinking about staying?
Honestly, divorce his ass and take half of everything because it is just as much yours as it is his!
He is making up an excuse as to why he cheats on you and pretty much blames you for his disloyalty.
If you stay, this allows him to believe your ok with him having a main and a side chick, it doesn’t matter who he is coming home to because if he loved you, you would be the only chick!
I don’t know what kind of friends you have to tell you to stay, maybe you need to check them too!
OR - take that POS to court and get the hell away from that business.
Value yourself, lady…and leave him for good!
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Leave now don’t look back
Honestly how this is written out. I would bounce and never look back. Js
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Whether or not he knows where home is… Don’t give ANYONE any reason to disrespect you. How will your child understand this if he/she hears about it. Be someone (s)he can be proud of and can look up to in making these kinds of tough decisions.
It may be difficult but really, it’s better you bounce out now or bounce out with so many regrets later. Pls make that choice wisely❤️
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You’re a maid and nanny with benefits.
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“Homegirls” dont tell you to stay and get cheated on. It’s time to pack up and go.
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If he loved you he would not cheat. He is disrespecting you. Its best you work on another place to go. You arenot the babysitter or his maid service you are his wife
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start sticking money away and get the Hell Out! and don’t look Back He is not worth it at all. RUN as fast as you can
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Love yourself and leave. There’s nothing to lose when it comes to him … he is the loser. Do not ever stay in a situation and allow someone to do these things to you.
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More so sounds like ur the side chick if he’s taking the other girl on vacations and always talking to her even when u guys are around eachother. You guys have a house together but he’s doing more and giving more attention to that chick… don’t let him use you like that.
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He can go, and because he wanted the best of both world he WILL continue to pay my bills and support his child. He will be broke after paying my bill and his bills. Who wants him now he’s broke
Get rid of his ass…it will be a matter of time he will be doing it ro her, then the next, the one after etc. Do you want to live your life and the kids follow this example, thinking it is acceptable to be a door mat? I lived 12 years this way, don’t recommend it
Not your bio? I’d leave. Also that’s not okay… if he is only doing cuz you think you cheated then he has no respect… it’s like u have a feeling she is gonna hurt me so instead of asking I’m going to talk to another woman…
I would not help take care of another one’s kid while they treat me like leftovers. Not my kid. Not my problem. Let the side chick figure it out… it sounds heartless. But I don’t stay with anyone for my own kids. I love myself and get out. I don’t fuck with that… men like that are just bored. He sounds like a narcissistic. He doesn’t love you… you watch a kid that’s not yours so he can go get some stink… how romantic right?
Or be petty. Text another guy and have him come over for a double date. Lol
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Honestly have some self respect and divorce him. He uses the excuse that you allegedly cheated to get away with cheating its teaching him to continue disrespectful behaviors if you stay with him. If you choose to leave the relationship she may end up in your position. Stuck with him cheating on her with the same excuse. I’m so sorry you are dealing with this. It’s not your fault. He is making the choice to do this. I hope you find strength and courage to do what is best for you. Find your self esteem and love yourself enough to put a end to him using you.
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Wait till you can sock some money away and then get the H— out of there. He will never change, and you deserve better.
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W.W.J.D ??? Talk to him…
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He’s a loser point blank. Get better standards!
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You need to think more highly of yourself…dump this bum, and take half of everything he owns and even what he thought he owned. This will not stop !
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Get some self esteem and self worth.
Always choose you. ALWAYS.
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Start stashing money, get yourself a new place, get out of this shit relationship and find a new guy who will love and respect you and your relationship
Loose what girl? Lose what? 
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Why is this even a question youl be fine on your own don’t settle for that bulshit move on
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You’ll be fine. Either you can try for custody even if he isn’t your bio, or you can let his side h03 take care of everything since the m4n seems to be so ungrateful
Play his game…I do…get the thrill of attention from someone who appreciates you. And don’t question him any longer. LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE!
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All unfaithfull men acuse you of what they are doing. They don’t realize they are telling you. They have to bring you down to their level, therefore they accuse you of doing exactly what they are doing…
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Go find yourself a side guy and let him know that now you are on the same level
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Sweetie if you allow that behavior he’ll keep doing it you’ve already lost him he’s not coming back should never allow someone to treat you so poorly
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Get the boy a healthier life.
I’d checkmate that asshole….sorry not sorry!!! He will sing a different tune when you have someone else getting your attention!!
1st-Get rid of the boy AND your homegirls!! #2-Find a real man that knows how to love, respect, & treat a woman!! #3-Find some grown women who actually care about and respect you!!
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Really? You think so little of yourself you let him treat you like that, leave him, warn him he has 2 weeks to get child care but don’t be a used by a waster of a man.
Do you not know your worth? Of course he blamed you for cheating because he was projecting what he has been doing onto you. Well either you tell him to hit the road or be okay with this cheating OR tell him y’all are clearly in an open type of relationship (fyi he will not like sharing you) and start seeing people. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander.
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Where’s the self dignity? If you stay with him you just desperate sorry but it’s true.
I wonder if some of these come from spam accounts or if the mods make it up for a good laugh because this can’t be serious
Lady, you are nothing more than a nanny to his son. Either kick him out or get yourself out. This is not a marriage.
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Think higher of yourself and don’t allow that shit. Tell him you either stop this shit or we are divorcing and you can help with Childsupport and alimony til I get on my feet again. Do it!!! You better than that demand your peace
Dump his ass and take him for everything!
Get Rid of him!!
You deserve better girl.
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So why not get you a side dude? You clearly don’t want to leave because if you wanted to leave you would have by now…
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I personally would live in a cardboard box than put up with this. But you already know what you have to do. Best of luck
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You shouldn’t even think that way,
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Why are people laughing at this post ? A woman needs help. Emotional and mentle abuse is just as harmful as physical and sexural abuse. To the Woman who made this post. I’m sorry for your hurt and pain. You don’t have to make any life long decisions now. Whatever you are feeling is normal and I promise you, you are not crazy. Reach out to family and friends. Also maybe consider some counseling. Not because you did anything wrong. In my experience though, Counseling helped me make the right decisions for my life and my Children lives too. I am a single mom of 3. You can do this! I believe in you. Don’t get a side dude! Go to counseling and allow yourself to heal. You deserve so much better! 
keeping you in my prayers.
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Girl unless this man had so much money u can forget about the way he act leave … u could literally start a new life with nothing holding u back let her play step mommies n look like a dummy
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If it’s something that you can’t envision being your life then you should leave. Otherwise you would be forcing yourself to be in and grow resentful and even more unhappy eventually.
Why do you think you have a say in this relationship? He tells you he has a side chick…that he wines and dime while you take care of his son…
He uses the “I think you cheated so I’ll cheat on you” he ties you up with the financials knowing that you’re afraid to leave because of that.
What’s to say next week he makes this side chick his main chick and tells you to leave?
Is he just keeping you there because he knows you’re good to his son?
Please leave because not only is he using you but he doesn’t respect you
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Get you a side dude!!! Then you both will be happy
Do yourself a favor and get rid of him. You deserve much better than what he has to offer. Somewhere out there is a man who will treat you with the love and
respect you deserve.
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No he needs to go. He does not take your marriage seriously and shows no respect. Don’t stay with him. Kick his ass out. Divorce him. Find yourself a good respectful man.