Find yourself a job get yourself together and when you have a sense of security go but if you care for that child even if he’s not yours make sure that you stay in his life as much as possible because it’s not the kids fault that his father’s a PIG no one thinks how this crap effects the children they have felling too it’s not just about you or him u see comments saying not your kid just walk out that’s heartless
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Sounds like you need to get you some side dick
Get a side man & now yall even.lol
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Where is your self respect? dump this douche bag.
There is no way I would stand for that! Time to start thinking about you & your future. Go back to school, get a job, this man will never change.
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Your worth so much more than this! If you wanna stay being “main B” then do it, however your worth is always gunna be that of the other chick… I’m the main bitch & I’m not sharing my dude with anyone even if it’s just occasionally.
I could not stay. That would be asking too much.
Go get you some side dick! Lol jk jk don’t
But eeww, leave him girl. Not your monkeys, not your circus. Let his side piece go be step mommy now and go live your best life. You deserve better and leaving him is the only way you’ll get it. Like you have no kids, that’s a bonus, go.
Divorce and move on. He doesn’t value you nor respect you. Tbh you don’t sound like a “main b” he claims, you sound like a live in babysitter he can use when he wants while he pampers the girl he ACTUALLY wants to be around with vacations… better to be single 
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Are you supposed to pretend it’s ok??
Girl, pick up your dignity, dust it off, and find some independence no matter how hard it seems. It will be way better for you in the long run anyway. Let her have him because the way she got him will be the way she loses him.
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You need to learn how to love your self, walk away from him.
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Find another guy to take care of you while living there and use him the way he does you 
obviously it’ll take time but hey even better in the end. You’ll have another guy who will make you actually happy and your hubby will realize you were using him after you found out. Win win 
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What do you want your son to learn about becoming and being a boyfriend, husband, and father?
If your husband is willing, try couple’s counseling. You both need to focus on what’s best for your son and the example you two are setting for him rather than immediate pleasures.
Do you get a side piece yourself? Is your life fulfilling with this behaviour? I’m too jealous a person and I know my husband, I he’s cheating it’s because he doesn’t find me awesome enough and my self esteem won’t be taking that hit. I’d leave and he can still pay all my bills 
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Ask him if he’s been faithful to you.
Why when you went for a physical, the Dr says you have HIV?
It’s gonna give him something to think about. While you find a new place and file for divorce and take 75% of everything he owns
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Cash out and roll the fuck out of there
Either leave that pig or get yourself a piece too see how he likes it. (are your homegirls really your homegirls giving you that advice?)
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Lose him. Seriously, he clearly does not want you nor does he respect you.
Get a good divorce lawyer.
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Fuck that you deserve some one who only wants and needs you, everyone has ups and downs it’s no excuse for cheating you will never feel good enough or completely happy if he is also going else where 
So if it’s not your bio kid - is it his? You free babysitting while he’s out playing?? Nope!!!
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I wish my old man would I’m not saying is that their woman not taking s*** they can have him they ain’t getting nothing I ain’t had what they’re going to gain
Is this post real? Girl I woulda BEEN gone.
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Well it depends on what you want !Ive been married 52 yrs,if my home girls gave me that kinda advice I surly wouldn’t follow that advice but that’s me.I mean yes it’s nice having finical in order but what’s it worth to you?I was 17 he 21 when we married.Even tho I was 17 I had high morals and standards.Before we got married I told him I needed loyalty ,no sexual or physical abuse to me or our kids,no drugs or
alcoholism in our relationship,but in turn I would do the same.My husband had a woman friend at work he trained her.She was also married and we as couples went out together a few times!I watched her closely I knew something wasn’t right with her NOT him ! !I had a good chat one night with my husband and told him I thought she was after him to break up our marriage! I asked him to break the friendship off luckily he cared and listened ! .6 months later this same woman he had been friends with divorced her husband,and broke up another marriage and married that guy ! !I can’t say I was surprised at all!Love begins with loving yourself first you deserve to be loved and NOT cheated on!Shame on your husband for thinking he can have another women the fact your raising HIS son says something about his character too probably always been a cheater ! !Tell him to come live in Utah the polygamists would love him here 
Good luck in your decision you deserve better !
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Get rid of his ass he is an insecure looser you can do alot better just have to believe in your self
He is not cheating…you know…he is just multiplying his options. Diversification. He takes care of his main investment but he is dabbling in crypto on the side with some of his extra money and time. The way I see it is simple: You can’t miss what you can’t measure, and you show can’t use it all. So if it is about ego and appearances to your friends, go ahead an create a hassle about something that is not inconveniencing you, or you can enjoy the life you have and realize that none of the people who are passing judgement and making comments pay your bills, buy your groceries, make your car payment, take you places when you want to go, and none of them can handle the responsibility of YOU.
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Give him a taste of hus own medicine and get yourself a bit on the side. Its a different story wen its you doing it.
Make sure you keep all this proof too incase you divorce but if you get a but on the side and dont tell him just let him find out. Maybe then he might rethink his actions.
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Boy bye! That sounds ALLL bad and you deserve better
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Wtf did l just read.
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Best thing I ever did was let the cheater have her. You’re going to be amazed how empowered you feel!
You deserve do much better stop being a second.
That’s a hard no.
If you allow it just to keep him, you’ll get exactly what you deserve for staying. Idk how else to put it. He isn’t going to drop her for you.
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He is no longer cheating If you know and put up with it. Move on.
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Your homegirls are stupid and we don’t listen to stupid
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Wait whaaat? What did I just read? Is this a real post?
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You want the same dip stick he is giving her? Mine convinced me it was ok…no it wasn’t. And not your bio child??? Omg RUN LIKE HELL
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Hoe long before he replaces you with her permanently?
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Handle YOUR OWN business. When you don’t depend on a man for anything you’ll see things quite differently.
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Start slowly packing important things you don’t want to leave behind… important papers, photos etc. Just a little at a time.
Then leave. It’s not your child and you can’t take him/her with you. Just leave.
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Not sure this is a real post. However if one of my daughters had shared this I would tell them to run as fast as possible from this situation. Then question where I had screwed up that they felt it was acceptable to be in a relationship like this.
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If you know about her and you let him continue his relationship with her, honey, you’re in a polyamorous relationship. And you’d also better believe that wherever she’s been is coming home on your husband’s goods. So good luck with STD’s/STI’s.
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You’re not a ‘main B’
You’re a sister wife 
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If you want him just to yourself then leave. I can’t share my man’s. If my man had the balls to tell me that I’d literally show him the door. You can do so much better than him. I know it’s easier said than done but women need to uplift each other and it sounds like your homegirls are just stupid.
You being here asking social media only means your d$mb a$$ isn’t going anywhere. And he’s not cheating while you know about her and stay with him. You’re accepting the terms of the open relationship. She isn’t a side chick. She’s his woman, just like you are. Either leave that man and his gf alone and let them enjoy their relationship in peace or leave him (which we all know you’re not gonna do 
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Damn there’s a lot of mean comments here— this is more sad than anything else and if this is a real post, she deserves to be treated with sympathy. 
You want sloppy seconds? What the hell is wrong with you? You have no ties to this man except marriage. You are just his childs caretaker. Get out. And make him pay alimony.
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If the child isn’t yours then why stick around its not your job to look after him its the father’s job. Am sorry but I would be mad if another woman was looking after my children not their father so yes I would say leave but if you want to be getting used as a babysitter then stay.
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Do you have any self respect? Girl, bye.
Omg “risk” losing everything? F that!!! TAKE EVERY FREAKING THING HE THINKS HE HAS. You are better than that crap
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If your friends are telling you to stay they probably fuckin with him too 
Not going to say anything mean to you, or put you down to get the point across. But I will say this… LEAVE!!!
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Your not his child’s babysitter.
Your worth more.
Move on ! Xxx
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Wtf you mean you stuck on what to do??? Leave his ass
You are crazy to even be on the same planet with that idiot.
You’re his Glorified babysitter hun. Get out
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Those aren’t your home girls. Your home girls would help
You pack your bags.
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Theres absolutely no way I would put up with that, like nooope! I would laugh, because the idea of putting up with that is laughable, but you’re legit asking and thats sad.
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Omg … get some proof a good divorce solicitor and get what you deserve …
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You are not a main chick sweetheart. You give him the ability to live the life he really wants. Wake up . Get out now or accept you are a glorified babysitter.
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so what if he has a side chick just get out and leave don’t be lazy and find a job take care of things by yourself now he doesn’t wanna be bothered anymore
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U deserve better… if he don’t treat u his wife then he don’t deserve u
Where’s your self-respect at gurl?
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Sounds like your the side piece.
If you gonna stay and take all that you clearly don’t care about your child and sounds lazy.
If you so worried about money then divorce him and take him to court.
Find some proof.
Don’t be his baby sitter while he fucks you and another female! Hell no!!! I would pack my shit stay with my gf or fam and leave them two hoes alone!! You don’t worry about getting an STD/HIV/AIDS?? Dip girl asap!!!
I am old school, who in their right mind would want to screw the whole football team, when the other girl is not with him what do you think she is doing. Sitting at home knitting. Just think about what he could give you, STD’s out the wazoo.
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Hey be the other women. Not we ife.
U gta ask ur self y don’t u wanna loose him koz He’s already cheating chik and now u know ur allowing an open relationship status thats the ‘as long as he comes home’ saying . He’s looking after u financially but u raise his son? Ur being treated like a live in nany It sounds like u need get out plenty of other men out there.
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You can’t have your cake and eat it too. By the sound of it he doesn’t care or want to stop. I think it’s time to move on.
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You need to go to therapy and figure out why you have such low self esteem enough to accept this dumb shit. Unless you already fell out of love with him and are only staying because he financially provides? Use condoms.
He don’t deserve you 
Get out of your comfort zone and have your own life
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Get a side dude too and live comfortably but in the mean time save up and start planning when you’ll leave. Move on with your life he might give u aids or herpes that shits for life
Your self esteem seems shot. You deserve better as human.
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Wow …
Tell me you have low self respect without telling me you have low self respect.
How could you allow that … why would you allow that … why do you think that’s what you deserve.
Know your worth and pack your shit and leave that BOY. Would you want your daughter to stay in a situation like this (if you had a daughter that is).
On occasion? They are vacationing together…
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You will be treated how you allow someone to treat you. Either you move on and live a happy life or be miserable knowing he’s cheating. To even question it is crazy.
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He’s using you to take care of his kid while he lives life with some other woman. I’m sorry you have such little self respect and that your friends don’t respect you either by encouraging you to stay in such a situation. I guarantee he does not think you cheated on him, that’s a tactic narcissists use to deflect blame. I’d suggest seeking therapy and learning to gain some self worth.
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Only you can answer that, honey. He’s telling you this is acceptable and he has no desire to stop. That’s fair. He’s being (somewhat) honest.
You have to decide what’s important to you - having a bank account and sometimes boyfriend or having your self respect and having to work a bit harder.
Only you can decide that.
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He sounds like a narcissist and his justification?he is gaslighting you.
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You mention losing everything, is he rich? Because I can’t see what else you’re worried about losing? Ask yourself if everything he’s offering you is more important than your happiness and self respect? Everyone is blinded by what they call love, but once they get away from the relationship and start finding that they could have been better off this whole time they realize they should have left a long time ago and then question why they stayed and put up with that crap that long. Put on your big girl panties and walk!
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Seriously?! Time to tell him goodbye!! If you meant anything to him. There would not be anyone else! Unless you both agreed to an open relationship in your marriage. He’s having a relationship with her. Walk away, start taking care of yourself because he’s not! You deserve to be the only woman a man wants!
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If you don’t wanna leave (which would be best) then cut off the sex and start seeing someone new. Your basically the live in nanny he’s screwing behind her back.
Sounds like your his live in babysitter while he goes and plays. Its really up to you, if you wanna continue to be that person. I watched a man do that to a women and eventually he walked out on her and she still had nothing and had a hard time finding the right person for her, because the good guys that wanted to settle down did.
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Get rid of him. He’s just saying that you cheated to justify what he’s doing. Your being played big time.
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YOU are the side chick
Actually you’re the nanny he’s seeing and she’s the main chick getting the vacations
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I would never tolerate that… red flags everywhere…
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I’m with all the ones saying find you a side piece too. Just saying someone does it to me, I’m doing it right back and probably 10 times worse. Lol
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You sound really stupid. Like in the nicest way possible though. I don’t even know you And know you deserve better than that.
Leave him!!! You will be much happier!! My abusive ex that ended up doing 3 years in prison for abusing me, used to accuse me of cheating when I didn’t, and would cheat on me right in front of my face. He would make me feel like it was all my fault, and it hurt me so much. All of the mental and physical abuse messed me up for a long time. It took me almost 3 years to be able to move on. I had to do a lot of work on myself, and my self esteem before I could find the confidence to be with someone else again. But once I finally moved on, it felt so good! The best thing I ever did was get away from him. Don’t ever allow someone to cheat on you, if it hurts you then it’s wrong!
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Kick him to the curb
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Leave him. You are being used. This is disgusting.
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GIRL! He can only get away with what you tolerate. You are better than that! Don’t let that narcissist bullshit play out!
If you aren’t okay with an open relationship, leave. If you are okay with an open relationship stay and tell him if he can have side so can you.
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Deal breaker for me but we’re all different…
Is this real? He’s cheating on you. I don’t care if he has millions. He’s cheating on you. He’s breaking vows. He’s hurting you mentally and emotionally. Pack your stuff and leave. File for divorce. Get the judge to grant spousal support if allowed in your state. Find a job and find happiness within yourself.
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It’s time to pull up those big girl pants and focus on yourself. Gather all of the proof that you can. Get a good lawyer and divorce him. He stepped outside of the marriage - you will get what’s rightfully yours and you’ll be happier in the end. You should not allow him to walk all over you and break your heart just so you don’t have to worry about paying bills. It will be a battle, it will be hard, but you can do it!You are worth so much more. Good luck x
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Is this for real!? I feel like we are being punked!
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Find yourself AGAIN,do YOU! Find out if this relationship is worth saving,if this marriage! He doesn’t sound as if he plans to stop! I wouldn’t let him KNOW but I wouldn’t plan to stay unless you need to save money to get bk on your feet. But frankly you have proof so he would have to pay for you to live an get back on your feet while going through divorce classes. But let’s be REAL here… I can speak from experience Two wrongs do not make a right. Fighting for your marriage is important but you also have to be able to handle the Rocky road ahead if you choose to stay! It’s not easy,it’s a nasty process and you will feel hurt an distance an even Gross! You will wonder if he’s doing it AGAIN.He WILL accuse you a lot, because he was the one doing wrong and it will hurt! But with time,hard work an the ability to rebuild trust it can happen! I had a choice to walk away or fight! I chose to fight for my family we had two kids together and we have two more Now. We are doing great,we can trust eat other with our phones,emails, and MORE. We open up we talk through the shit. But again it is not easy and you have to want it ,you have to make the choice No one can make it for you! Know this if you didn’t do what he’s done to you it will still hurt,it will still feel as though you DID,you have to want to fix this but he ALSO has to want it! It might take you walking away for him to see your worth! I KNOW it did mine an it was just as hard to stay as it was to want to leave! I hope this helps an wishing you the best on your journey 
THANKS! I am happy an been married 23years an looking forward to many MORE and I wish you the same happiness no matter your choice!
Leave him take him to court and get ur life back
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Girl!!! Babyyyyyy put on your big girl panties sweetheart and leave! He does not love you! I’m not being mean or rude. I’m telling you out of experience. If she cared about you, wanted you, and respected you as a woman, he would not have a side girl. You are only going to break your own heart. I don’t know you, but get to where you need to be. I am so glad I left my ex cheating husband years ago. You will achieve so many wonderful things in life that you never even imagined. If he cared about you, he would have sat down at communicated with you, not cheat. He’s using that for an excuse so he can get d*ck wet.