That would be a big hell no for me and throw so many red flags. A space at the home you’re in would be one thing but a whole apartment of his own would not happen. He’s either cheating, looking to cheat or looking for a way out of the relationship.
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Can’t you build a little man cave for him. Just a thought!
It would be a cold day in Hell. Yeah he could get his place and sign the divorce papers.
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Yep, and tell him to take all his stuff with him when he leaves. See your lawyer first.
Maybe he just needs his own space…man cave, game room, etc. But a full apartment…nah, something is off
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That’s a bit extreme. I understand may e wanting your own room or something buy a whole different apartment?? He’s definitely seeing someone else or is wanting to.
To each their own. Every couple handles their needs in their own ways, but if my husband said this and he were serious, I’d be moving on. Yes, I love him. Yes, we’ve been together 25 years. If he needs his own home to be away from me, then there is no reason for us to be together at all…but that’s just me. I don’t see my marriage going that way, so I probably don’t have to worry about it. 
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Depending on the age of this man. NOT GOOD
Well my husband an I been married 26 years, an dated for 6 years be for we got married. We are best frends, an he would never say crap like that to me.
I have never been with someone for 20 years… but even at 8 years I wouldn’t have asked for this. Nor would expect him to. I can see asking for their own “space” . Like a man cave or she she’d type deal. But asking for a whole apartment to themselves doesn’t make sense to me
There is an entire community called LAT, living apart together or Apartners. There is a facegroup you may want to check out.
This is not a new lifestyle and many decide to live this way. In no way does it necessarily mean that there is “ someone else” or “ something is up”. Many people are in very committed relationships but chose not to live together. You would be surprised! There is a lot of us. Don’t knock it till you understand why it works for lots of people.
My aunt and uncle have separate places they still live together but every now and then he goes there for a bit of space
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Def a res flag now his own room in a house yall share is different but hes wanting a completely separate house …no way would i ever b ok w that id divorce him before it ever for to him having his own apt
WTF. Just let him go. He’s probably just want to be by himself. You probably bother him all the time
I’d have to ask a few questions, such as: Can I have a key? Can I drop in anytime? Can I have a drawer for a few clothes in case I’d like to sleep over? If he hem-haws around and gets squirmy…then you have your answer.
That’s not your person sis. When you find your person, they will never want to leave 
It wouldn’t be ok with me but it’s your marriage. Put some real honey thought into it and decide if there are signs of a problem, then have a frank conversation with him about his reasons. So what you know is right based on that honest information. Ask him to stay or ask him to go for good. This is of course just my thoughts on the issue and not a recommendation. I’d kill for another day with mine…
Can’t he just have a man cave in the basement like a normal husband?! That’s just weird. If it were my husband it’d be an absolute, hell no!
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If he wants his own space gibe it to him tell him he isnt coming back if he goes he obviously thinks its time to separate and don’t want to upset you or he seeing someone else abd covering it up
That’s not how marriage works
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He’s married look thru his vehicle 
Absolutely not. After 20yrs? He’s doing something shady.
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See if he’s willing to get places next to each other. He either truly just wants his own space or he’s planning a soft breakup
My husband wanted to do this when he was wanting freedom to explore dating and not have to sneak around to do it. The time apart brought us back together but our relationship was only about 5 years old and we had young children. He got some strange then decided that living in the same house with his children was more important to him.
When a spouse wants personal space to this degree that is a good sign that they are bored with the relationship.
Now, you have to decide if you want to give him the space he wants without a divorce or file for a divorce.
In the state of TN if he moved out before a divorce filing that automatically gives you the house in a divorce.
You should talk to an attorney before making any decisions
Sell the house and get two apartments, side by side 
Heyyy neighbor 
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Ya um my dad used that line on his first wife so that he could be with his later to be 2nd wife.
There is absolutely another person in his life.
File for separation or divorce 
Give him a room that’s all his. He can decorate it, eat in it with food he’s prepared and clean it
I say hell no on this one
Yeah…NO! And if he does tell him to stay there! That’s not a normal marriage request.
“Space” is a man cave at HOME. Sounds like he wants to be single
Sounds like he’s already gone from the marriage
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Sounds like the beginning of the end to me. I’d be asking some very specific questions if I were you
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Tell him only if the house next door is for rent lol and make sure you get a key. Better yet the house across the street lol see if that flies!
Could be a good thing, as long as he is paying everything.
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A man cave or a he shed, yes… and apartment = a divorce. He either has a boyfriend or a girlfriend … or something worse.
Yeah. No sis. This is sus af
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Then bye bye…get divorced. If you believe nothings up…I got ocean view apartment for you in Arizona…get alimony and split everything else…go your own way.
Let him go … But do nothing at all for him
Help him pack and include the divorce papers. He wants to live alone, he can be alone. He’s more than likely cheating anyways.
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We need the tea 
please update us
Uh something is going on:crazy_face:
That’s extreme, and unnecessary. He could’ve just got his own room. Even if that meant finding a new place with you. Somethings up, huge red flag. Don’t fall for his bs, there is someone else OR he’s leaving you.
this is the new “quiet quitting”.
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Omg. And you fell for that?
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If he needs his own apartment something is going on. If he wants to live alone then maybe he should be single.
I’m about to get my own. These people are driving me crazy:sob: (husband and kids lol) 
Idk…it’s screaming red flags hon. Can he give you legit reasons why he wants to try living apart?
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It’s kind of sad really. You are married but would be in your own places, thinking what the others doing, who they are with etc…it’s depressing.
If he not seeing anyone tell him to live-in a separate are of the house.
There’s a couple by me that are married and have separate houses. If it works, it works.
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Pretty sure that’s what a Shed is for!!!
Are you that gullible? Of course he is or is going to be seeing someone
Than give him own place…but seriously 
you will get your answer pretty quickly once his gone…
Also get a lawyer and do not leave yourself financially in the s**t…
His up to something…
Keep us updated
Have him move his things into another bedroom or build him a man shed,No to another apartment,waste of money,& end of marriage.js.
Awww in my opinion id be very upset, but i do understand everyone is different…we do sometimes sleep in different rooms…not that we angry or upset, just due to working hours…i play white noise…my fella does have a huge man cave also to go to … but i think to actually have another place to live in my opinion is a step too far xxxxx i hope u come to a resolution xx
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Its the comments for me. Micheal Lorren Jackson
Seems weird…I get wanting some space, totally normal. But to live apart? The only really plausible reason would be if he commutes insane amounts of distance for work. But even then, it would take a shit load of driving to offset the cost of another place
Nope something is up. I would never. In the meantime I would be saving… just me though
If you have a spare bedroom, tell him to move in it. If he gives excuses, go talk to attorney. There’s more to it than what he is telling you.
I thought that’s what the garage was for
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Lol…I’d be like BYE! Then file for divorce whats the point of being married then…
Everyone being negative…smh. If I could afford it I would get my own place and I’ve been married 16 years. Maybe he does want his own space…give him his own room. My husband and I have our own rooms, nothing wrong with that. What works for some, won’t work for others. You know your man better than anyone if you’ve been observant…you know the answer to your question already. Hope you guys figure it out.
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It won’t be 6 months in before you get served with divorce papers.
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Wow…this post Cannot be real … but it has to be made up… because, I would say, " Sure darlin, get your own place,…and your divorce papers will be served ,ASAP… but for now, you are FREE to go…call mama, daddy , brothers, sisters, friends, co-workers, cousins, to help you load up…Go, shoooo,…go on… you are free… thanks for wasting my precious TIME…GO, hurry…
If he wants his own space give it to him(if you can afford it)
Why not??
I’m sorry, but if you guys are really happily married, spending as much time together is what should happen, Yes, sometimes being with friends is also great, But NOT living apart!! I would say a He sled & a She shed or the let him have the basement for his space, or a space room, But again not a separate apt.
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Your husband may be getting tired of the marriage as is… maybe your sex life has gotten dull or you don’t go out on dates anymore. Typical problems when you’ve been married for so long. Start trying some new things both as a couple and individually to help get yourselves out of a rut. I’m thinking perhaps he’s ready for divorce but he wants to make sure that’s what he wants first. Maybe give him time and you two will feel separation really does bring appreciation. Blessings.
If he gets his own place, that means you are separated. One step before divorce. I would recommend counseling. Do you have children? Does he want to live as a single person while you raise the kids? If he doesn’t want that to live together, I would make an appointment with a lawyer. I feel terrible for you but that is not marriage. I would bet my last dollar he is cheating or planning to cheat. My husband won’t even sleep in separate beds when one of us is keeping the other from getting a good sleep (snoring,etc).
Doesn’t a place of your own kind of sound good after 20 years?
He’s slowly moving out and away ! 
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This man is getting all his ducks in a row for the divorce! I hope you get yourself sorted before the bottom falls out of this marriage.
He is up to no good there is zero reason for him to want to live apart unless he is wanting a separate life and trying to let you down slowly
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Changing the vows to remove “obey” was good, removing the “join these two” kinda goes against the whole principal
LOL that would be about the time I would say it’s time for a divorce
Sometimes I wonder if my husband and I of 10 years together would be better off living apart? I feel like roommates. We work different shifts. If we’re home together, he has ALWAYS slept in the floor which I think sucks but he doesn’t wanna bother me cause he’s a very restless sleeper. We might be more excited to see each other if we didn’t live together maybe? I’m in menopause and as it is now, I could care less about seggs. Depends on your nams reason for his own place???
Nah. If he wants his own apartment then we are getting divorced. I’d be demanding half of everything, money, house and everything.
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Let him get it. Let him move out, drain your bank accounts, file for divorce keep the house, all the furnishings since HE left…
There’s only one reason a man asks to live apart from their spouse and I’m sorry but it isn’t just to have his own place. He’s cheating or wants to.
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He can just get a bigger house or created a man’s cave in the one y’all live in. That’s a problem for me
You people who say he is seeing someone else don’t know that. Plenty of spouses cheat on the other without another place. If it’s going to happen it will happen. Maybe after 20 years he just wants some of himself back. It means nothing. I’d let him have it, ask for a key and even decorate it for him. Bring meals and little surprises over. Before you know it the little apartment will be their little place that spiced things up again.
He’s seeing someone else.
U may want to rethink the he not cheating part
That’s very common nowadays shrugs
Lmao oh honey open your eyes! Of course hes seeing other people
Maybe he already has his own place with his other family
After 20 years? I’m sorry but something is up. There’s no good reason after 20 years to want to live apart
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Why an apartment? Why not a shed that can be converted into a man cave?
He is hiding something from you. I would be suspicious.
Tell him go for it then change the locks on your doors he’s wanting out or he’s seeing someone cause that is not normal on any level of a relationship
You can tell him he can have his own apartment and a divorce! He’s up to no good.
He just asked you for a divorce
He’s clearly talking to someone. To want to throw away money to rent and furnish his own apartment…something is up! That would be a big hell no for me!
I feel it’s a beginning to the end sadly. Sorry
Tell him bye and take the kids with you LoL
Nope, doesn’t sound right
Why would anyone laugh about this? There’s nothing funny about it.
Ya you can have your own place just as soon as you sign these divorce papers
I get wanting your own space but a whole different house is like a whole field of red flags.
It’s the only reason I didn’t know my ex was married. He had a whole separate apartment from his wife. The times when he was ‘working nights’ was when he was at her house.
She thought they were happy and he wasn’t seeing anyone either.
I found out when she called me while she was tossing his crap out the door.
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He’d be history in his own place! What a jerk!
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You don’t think he is seeing anyone?? Oh 1000% he is…
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Ummmmmm definitely doesn’t sound right…1 year or 20 years or 50 years … asking for a separate apartment is crazy and disrespectful honestly