He has someone that’s why he want his little sex house wake up girl. U may love him but if he wants this he has no love for you
I’ve been with my husband almost 30 years… I’m only 44 … he can go stay out in our travel trailer…hell I’ll stay out there 
piss me off enough … but a full blown apartment?? Go ahead, but here 
sign these divorce papers on your way out 
Girl he is definitely cheating or about to. No married man is asking for a separate apartment.
A shed turned into a manshack would be cheaper than monthly rent
Unless one of you is a hoarder, an OCD neat freak or in some way abusive, then he’s fucking someone else.
Get a lawyer and find out if their is infidelity. That request is a pussy way of saying I want a divorce so it is easier on him when it happens.
Well Darling, I’m a divorced. 20 years of Marriage and He’s asking for a separate Address? You can have all the HOPE in the world for you’re Marriage that’s He’s being Faithful. But MY experience has been They already have the New supply all Lined and Primed. I would speak with an attorney, And Hire a Forensic Financial investigators It’s AMAZING what is Discovered that could completely explain your Husband’s Odd request. I had a Co worker who was Married 25 years when her Husband told her something similar after thier youngest child left for Freshman yr of college. Of course an Argument happened as she was confused. This was THIER time to just be THEM and enjoy their new found child free life. Or so One would THINK right? 3 day’s after this conversation Her Husband unfortunately Past away in a Car accident. During a probate hearing she found out that the Investment property (rental property) apparently She and Her Husband had purchased a Vehicle, appliances, furniture, flowers, Jewelry, VACATIONS she was told were Work conferences. The Last purchase her Husband made the DAY He made his Odd request was for a professional Interior designer quote for a Nursery at said Rental property. Where her Husband’s pregnant Mistress had been Living Since the day the Property was bought. She also found out her husband had been skimming the interest of THIER shared IRA account to make the mortgage note.
My spouse & I have been together 18 years and majority of our relationship we have lived separately. He works a ton, especially working over nights and his sleep is important, he wasn’t getting sleep here with our 3 kids.
Sounds like he is looking for a way out and is hoping the. Separation will help smooth it over. I would ask him what’s really going on.
Sounds like he could possibly be moving on.Tell him you need him to be transparent even if it hurts. Either way, as much as he wants his space, your feelings matter too. Sign up for some therapy and begin working on you.
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23 years here I’d tell him to move out permanently
TBh I think he wants his cake and eat it No way!!! If he goes then it would be end of marriage no matter how much I loved him or he said he loved me Married people live together .
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Its out of nowhere so idk how I would feel. BUT sometimes people who love each other can’t live with each other. And as long as there’s love and trust… I wouldn’t have a problem with it. I’d love to have my own space again. Lol
He’s moving on get ready be prepared
My aunt & uncle were married for 50-60 years. He had his own apartment in the basement as long as I can remember. They’d go days without seeing each other. Maybe he just needs space.
Ummm, 22 years here with my husband… he’s not asking for his own apartment let alone bedroom or bed! Y’all need therapy!
Can’t have cake and a slice on the side, better or worse . Give him his out and serve the paperwork. Not a marriage in my view. Good luck
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I’m sorry… it Sounds like the easiest way towards divorce for him.
Get Moved out and then end the marriage to avoid it all during the process…
So yeah, this is oozing divorce. Please don’t be so naive to think this is a simple, nonchalant idea. Kiss (or kick!
) him goodbye and move on. He’s ready to live a single life. I’m sorry, I hope you find the right guy someday, or at least have peace living alone.
Let him have it .see how he go .sometime you need to give him a space . . Maybe he got enough of you . He’s only shy to tell you . In Japan they sleep different bed. Mine I see him only week end . But I do prepared all his breakfast,lunch and dinner . He live in another house that we own ,and i live in another house that I own . .we both work busy on our own job. I do like it .I can do whatever I want no hassle . We been together for 20 years .the way I look at it .it’s working very well… we have 1 child .he’s 18 now. … and we are all happy.
Man cave, different bedroom or a divorce!
This is just the start he’s on his way to a divorce and his new g/f and let him go, you can’t make someone stay if they don’t love you, you will be better off in the long run, he’s doing you a favour as you will get someone else further down the track when you are ready
He’s moving out, not staying in the marriage
I can understand him needing his own space like a room or garage to go to but a diff apt is a red flag. Only he knows his reason but to me Think that he’s gently trying to move out to move on. Whether he’s seeing someone or not. This is a very unusual request for a happily married man to make. You should deff prepare yourself for what’s to come.
Nope. He’s 100% seeing someone else or he is done with the relationship. You don’t just decide after 20 years you want your “own place”…be up front and ask him. I would tell him he is either up front with you about what’s really going on, or he can gladly leave and not come back. Something is going on…
Something is going on with him ,definitely get some couples counseling, if he doesn’t want to do that, I would take that as a sign, and go to counseling for urself
Cool but you get one too. Tbh I’d rent the apartment across from the one he gets😄
Sounds like he is seeing someone else and wants to look single…
Something deeper is going on with him. Id do marriage counseling or suggest private counseling for him
Btw this is becoming a thing I read on Reddit today. It’s cheaper for y’all to live apart vs divorce since it’s 20yrs
He’s definitely seeing someone.
Separation at its finest…Duh😆
If someone literally doesn’t want to be with you why even consider staying g together?
If your finances can afford your residence & an apartment, you guys can afford a bigger place so you both can have your own space.
I’ve been married for 24yrs. Marriages have up & down, people change. However asking to get his own apartment is red flag in my book.
Because you’ve been together so long, he’s trying to find an easy way of saying he wants to break up, without saying he wants to break up. That way nobody has to pay for a divorce. He want a place without YOU in it basically. You know what’s up. I’d suggest he be honest with you, even of it hurts. It’s better for both of you to have a chance of finding someone new if that’s his intention, rather than being selfish and only thinking of doing it himself. If this was me though… divorce.
i giver him his walking papers hpw do u feel about that
Red flag. He’s seeing or wanting to start something.
Definitely not. There are only a few reasons why after so long someone would say they want to move out. I would personally hv a talk with him and find out what he says about it. He obviously wants to be totally separated from you but why is the question. I would maybe understand a bedroom to just hv ur own space here n there but an apartment, no. There is no reason enough for that if he still loved you and wantEd to be with you.
I’d be looking for a lawyer
My husband bought me my own place then told everyone I left him. A year later he filed for divorce.
He wants out of the marriage.
It’s till death so us part, not till I’m tired of living with you! 
Just divorce. He don’t want you no more. Sorry. Actions speak louder than words.
Yeah, let him.
Then ask for divorce and file for child support.
What husband/father does that?!
Act like you’re okay with it he will change his mind
POV: Honey I wanna get my own apartment and I’m totally not seeing anyone 
even though we’ve been together for 20 years.
Maury : An that was a lie
Now cmon we all know he’s seeing someone else . Just tell him to tell the truth . He doesn’t want you to get him for spousal support aka alimony when you divorce.
I Don’t know what to tell u. But my heart hurts for you. This is not a good sign.
Yeah, that’s definitely a thing to get out. They are making it seem all innocent and then once they have a cozy place to call home, and are settled, divorce.
come on man, don’t be dumb!
Go ahead and tell him to pack his shii. That would would not work for me.
I think the answer is No , don’t you . Own space at home maybe and even then …,.
I wouldn’t be okay with this. A large finished shed in the backyard sure but spending upwards of 3k if not more a month on a completely different living space absolutely not. Some serious communication is definitely lacking.
I’ve thought about separating rooms when the kids got out of the house just for space when we need it but that seems excessive. You guys need to talk.
Nope. If you dont want to live here and actively work on things, we are done. No way would I be ok with that.
Giirrrllll… he is seeing someone else. Period.
If he has that much money or has a good paying job call a realestate broker an start looking for a home with a in law home on the property an I would move in it an tell him its your turn to run this house hold I’m taking a break in the in law house don’t bother with checking on me if I need anything I will call someone that gives a damn been there done that it my time