You are married, you are entitled to half anyway! Make sure you make a will
Invest in something for yourself instead of a house he considers HIS. He isnāt the the dumb 1 and the only person benefiting from you 2 living together as far as household bills is him not you or your kids
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Same situation here, I will pay for anything in the house I can take with me when I leave lol. This has been a huge burden in our marriage, I wanted to buy a house together. Every time heās mad he tells me to get out of āhis houseā. Do NOT put any more money into it.
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If he does not put your name on the homeā¦there is big trouble for you if anything happens to him, and really, if anything happens to your marriage. You will have no home. Not trying to stir the pot, but YOU must protect yourself. And his refusal means something as well. 
See an attorney.
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If he wonāt add you, then you need to stop spending money to add additional value too to the house and property.
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Just because youāre married doesnāt mean you would get the house. The last house my husband and I bought we had to fill out a legal document tenants by entirety in order to ensure no other family members could contest the house going to either of us. We were not married when we bought it but we were both on the mortgage. Check your local laws on it and if itās not definitely yours for no one to contest I would get an investment property as a backup
Depends on the state, you donāt have to be on the loan, to get it or half if you divorce
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He may feel he doesnāt want to put your name on it because of what he went through with the ex in getting her name off of it- thatās no easy feat. Not that itās anything youāve done wrong he was just burned it sounds like. However, you should ask if he has put in place rights by survivor ownership for you so if something does happen to him youāll still have a home until you go. If not, it wonāt hurt to ask if he plans to leave the home to you in his will. If none of this suffices for you then find out what your states rights are as far as marriage and property. Maybe a good heartfelt conversation should be had about what this could potentially mean for your future if he does pass before you.
These things should be discussed anyways between blended families. Itās important
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Donāt matter if your name is on it or not you are married so itās half yours. Keep all your receipts of what you spend on the house.
30 years of house payments on his end, and his dad is on the loanā¦ 3 years with youā¦ I would make your own investmentsā¦ and because those items you speak of can be removed, means you can take them. The home is his. Once itās paid off, and youāve invested into the finances long run. Then I would contest the situation. Or at least have a will made stating you receive a percentage etc. It also means if you are on the home, if he died, where would his kids come in the picture if the home was left to you. Thatās another questionā¦
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Why would you invest in a house that doesnāt belong to you?? Answer that first.
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Equity. Look into it. My ex husband owned the house in his name only. However, when we divorced, I was owed equity on all improvements that I could prove I had made, particularly the improvements that raised the value of the property. It was quite a bit of cash. Definitely check it out with an attorney. Your future could depend on it.
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Ok so opposite here. Iāve been in our house for 22 years. Hubby moved in 10 years ago when we married. House is still solely in my nameā¦ as are all of the other bills. Itās a hassle to refinance and would wind up owing more. No big deal thoughā¦ if he wanted in on the house Iād gladly do it. Has he told you why he wonāt add you to the house?
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Hopefully youāve saved receipts 
ā¦ Iād speak to an attorney though
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Omgā¦ Iād go buy my own house tbh, have your own back and your babies x
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Iād not pay one more bill at alllā¦ til he adds youā¦ no billā¦ only ur car on and car ins . F that a whole
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If I made that much money that you do, I would go buy my own place. You have put in so much money into what he calls his house and will not allow you to have your name on anything. Lady get out of there because I am sure once everything is payed off, he has plans. So leave now.
And what if he dies then what?
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I would never put money into a house I donāt partially own. I also wouldnāt have moved into a home that was owned by my husband & his ex wife. I wouldāve had him sell it, put that money into a new home and matched it, so then youād be 50/50
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Marriage is suppose to have compromise and understanding. He sounds like heās been burned but he canāt treat you like the ex. Youāre not her but heās probably reluctant at the same time. Does he know how important it is to you? If not Iād start there. Donāt let this go on if itās something you canāt see yourself being okay with. He probably has his side of itā¦ however yāall need to come to some agreement. Hear each other out.
A quick deed is exactly thatā¦ you can go to the county and add your name for a nominal fee. There is no escrow or banking that needs to be done. Is that what heās worried about? With being married, does he have to be there to do it? Check your state and county guidelines.
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stop being a door matā¦
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Quit paying for remodel?
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Pretty sure if youāre married, youāre on the deed anyway just not the loan.
For example.
I bought a house when I was single for 4 years. Got married and when I sold it, even though he wasnāt on the deed, we are married and he had to sign the papers on my house as well.
Just call a lawyer and check with your state guidelines on that.
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Stop putting money into that house until he puts something in writing that it goes to u if he passes first. Simple as that.
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Make sure u have a detailed account w receipts of what u have contributed then ask a lawyer where you stand
To be honest you probably shouldāve thought about that before you did all those things I hate to tell you unless you kept all the receipts we might be able to get half in the divorce lol but thatās all I can tell you
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Stop doing what youāre doing or invest it in a home of your own, for yourself and your own children. Heās obviously not thinking of either, in spite of everything youāve done.
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Depending on the state you are in could determine if you already own half regardless if your name is on the deed.
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Do you like in a communal property state? Look at the laws in the state you live in, you may not need to be in the title
Hope you have reciepts!
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If the house and the morgage is in his name
Count yourself lucky in a way
As for any inheritance
As he is not the father of your kids
Legally I think he can just leave every thing to his kids
Granted you are married and have put equity into the home
I would seek legal advice
Sounds like heās either scared that you guys will break up or he may want to guarantee that his kids get it all. I could be wrong of course. Either way he needs to tell you why or else Iād be saving up to buy my own home if I were you.
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Stop! Stop putting into HIS house. He wants to be selfish about what he clearly wants to keep as his then let his. Invest that extra income into something else like retirement for yourself. Something youāll need later and can leave for your children later too.
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Stop spending your money on his and his childrenās house. Get your own home meaning leave, your kidās will get nothing from all the money youāve spent. Get out now
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If you think you get nothing thatās wrong. You get at least half of the value of the time you lived there and keep receipts of all you added to it!
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I wouldnāt put another dime into something that he is unwilling to put your name on. No improvements whatsoever. Marital property is usually considered by what was earned together, not what was owned prior. So homes fall under that catagory. At least in my state, the home would still be his I believe. I do find his attitude very odd by the way
That would make me angry
Time to visit a lawyer
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Stop spending money of the house. Save all the money for a down payment for your own house.
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I would destroy everything, take all my stuff and start doing things with/for my kids.
But because I know I wouldnāt pay a penny on something that isnāt mine, I donāt have a better advice.
Good luck 
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I wanna know what youāre doing for work that you can spend 38k in 36 months for all the upgrades are doingā¦ Iād love to apply 
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Talk to a lawyer.
I think you may be entitled to equity in the home from when you married until (if) you separated. That is all. You need to keep all your receipts and documents. In the event he has the house left to his children, you may be on the street. Your children will not be entitled to anything and if you should die first I highly doubt they will even be entitled to the equity. Best to stop fixing up the house and invest in a good lawyer.
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Stop putting money into HIS house get a divorce on paper and buy your own house and put your money into it!!!
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Incredible just totally wow
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Unless there was a prenup I would think it is half yours
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Treat all the past expenses as rental payment and stop paying for anything asap.
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Stop paying! Save the moneyā¦ my ex husband refused to put me in anything for ten years even though I was who paid the stuff offā¦then he kept everything I was I left with nothingā¦
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Go buy your own home!!
Stop doing anything for the house and ask for your $$ back.
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Hate to break it to ya husband but yall married and unless he done a prenup whats his is yours 
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Buy life insurance with your children as beneficiary.
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I learnt my lesson. Built houses and renovated them. And I didnāt even get a cent. Money means more to people than morals. Well I know he is a lonely man and lost everything through his own selfish needs. His mum and sister got taken for a ride too
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Buy your own house & use your money for repairs on it. Stop paying his bills since itās his house & he wonāt add you to it.
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Treat this like a rental. Stop contributing any money towards improvements towards the house, that is the property owners responsibility. Save that money instead in a bank account that you are the sole owner and your children are listed as the pay on death beneficiaries. What you pay in groceries and utilities is in essence your rent. Buy a whole life insurance policy on yourself and list your children as the beneficiary. List another family member (sibling, parent) as an additional beneficiary as the guardian of your children in the event something happens to you before they are 18.
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You can put a lien on the house for the amounts you put towards the house. Good luck!
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Sounds like my first husband.hes a narcissist and had me paying all the bills,buying all groceries,paying for all updates on the house,but the house and cars were all in his name only
Sounds like you are on the same road as i am
Get out before it gets worse and it will get worse
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Itās his house. He started out in the house, most likely had to fight with and pay off his ex to keep it, why would he put himself in that position again. He wonāt let you pay on the payments because itās his house. Not being mean but if it were the other way around, everybody would be telling you not to put his name on it. The stuff you do to make improvements are things Iām guessing you wanted or felt the house needed. We rent and weāve dune tons of upgrades because we want the house to be comfortable for us. We arenāt getting anything out of it. Just saying, get over it
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Stop paying for starters. Youāve only been together 3 years. Why should he put ur name on his home that his children will inherit. Use that second job to pay for ur own house. Hopefully he canāt touch it. That house will belong to his kids and rightly so. You need to leave ur kids something from u. You havenāt been together long and I know youāve pull ur money into his home but u shouldnāt have.
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Go ask a real lawyer not fb.
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Honestly!
Quit your 2nd job and be home for your kids -
Ask him why he will not put your name on the property. Remind him you are not his first wife - and that you have willingly added assets to the property.
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Keep all receipts and take pics of everything you have done. You can sue him for the money amounts. I would prolly stop spending money, I would prolly leave him tooā¦thatās a control option for him!! I prolly would talk to a lawyer also!!! Fast!!
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Time is money too and it sounds like youāre wasting both at this point.
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You should have never spent all that 
since your name was not on the deed in the first placeā¦
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If it were me I would start a saving account
And let that man pay all the bills and house he wants to and build my own fortune with the money I save from not overpaying his bill
I would stop investing money into someone elseās home and just focus on my own eggs nest of saving for my children
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It wonāt matter if your name isnāt on the the house your married and have mutual interest in it. If anything were to ever happen heād have to buy you out to keep the house.
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Sounds like laws will differ by state. Consult a lawyer
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Either quit your 2nd job and spend time with your kids or start saving all that money for a down payment on your own house.
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Stop contributing.keep the receipts that you helped fixed n remodeled the hse.
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Stop putting your money into the house.
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dont buy or add or remodel another thing start saving all ur extra money in a seperate account with ur name only for ur kids for God forbid any time soon but for when u die and keep all receipts of the things u bought with ur money to be sold n money goes to ur kids
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Stop doing extra stuff around the house. The extra money you save open accounts up for your kids so when something happens to you they have something from you. Since they will get nothing from the house. Good luck
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Unpopular opinionā¦ I am divorced and dating. I have my home that I have worked very hard to maintain as a single mother. After my divorce (we owned the home together) I told myself I will NEVER not have a home in just my name. Something that is mine. Even if down the road I have something with someone else I will always have my safety net. Maybe he thinks that way, maybe he doesnāt. Sounds like yāall need some open, honest, transparent conversations to happen.
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Hes looking out for his kids id say. You appear to be the cook cleaner and pocket money supplier. You need to talk to him but maybe sell it and start fresh together
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The fact that you still call it his home is a red flag. Sounds like yāall need to sit down and work it out so u both feel valued and protected.
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Runā¦ donāt put a penny into it. It isnāt your home. So, stop helping someone else build value on something that doesnāt have any value to you!
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If you kept your receipts you can put a construction lien on the improvements And property ā so if anybody in the family tries to sell you get paid for all improvements with interestābecause of the lien. But depending on the state and you are married to him you are entitled, before anybody.
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Heās shown he doesnāt care about the value you added. Iād ditch him.
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Iād put a lien on it. Until he pays you or the lien he canāt sell it. 
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In some states it becomes just as much your home as it does his once you become husband and wife unless there was a prenup
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He doesnāt need to add you. Community property means itās half yours
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Put a chunk of life insurance on him. Let him know !! Donāt put any more money into HIS house. Nothing. If you want it for youā¦ then OK, but if HE wants it, then sorry, I canāt afford that. On the up side, as the wife, if he passes, you still get the house. You DO have a will !!!
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Make sure you have a living will a health care proxy and there is another one also. Does he at least have you as a beneficiary to anything? God forbid my hubby kicks the bucket he said the house will be paid off and turned over to my name.
Stop putting money into a home that he isnāt willing to add you to. If you paid for remodeling I would tell him I paid for the remodel either put me on or pay back the money I have invested. I just donāt get how he can think this is right
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Use your money to buy a second home and rent it out. Gives you more income and donāt put his name on it!
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Youāre marriedā¦1/2 the house is yours legally. It doesnāt matter if your name is on it or not
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Stop putting all your money into that house.Normally I wouldnāt say your money because being married means everything belongs to both of you but in your case heās not wanting it that way.I would start a saving for your children or get a huge life insurance that covers any kind of death and put your kids as beneficiaries NOT YOUR HUSBAND. Make a will to back that up with your children getting everything.Its sad heās doing that but he may be doing it because of his last marriage idk but either way heās looking out for his you look out for yours.Dont put any money into anything unless itās something you and your children are going to have to keep.All that money can go to your children not a house that you can claim as your or your kids.You have no rights to it nothing.
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Why would you marry someone and put any money into a house knowing he isnāt adding u on it! 
heās separating you when youāre his wife
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Why are you putting in all this money on HIS home. Put your money in a trust for your kids.
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Go buy you a house for you and your kid because anything happens to him youāre going to have to move
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you can file a lean agenist said property keep all recipts and if something happens you your children can claim there share
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Why would you put money into a home that isnāt yours not a smart idea married or not if your name isnāt on it donāt put a penny into it.
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If husband dies house go to father if his name on it his a co singer l would take you an put it up in you children name if you by a house you pass away the house goes to him you married if in you name an someone goes to the other person l we ould talk to a lawery find out what be good to do to take care of your children
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Im sorry if I offend anyone but as a home owner I would be pretty gutted to just hand over half to someone who has only contributed 30grand directly into it. Yes u should get your 30g and whatever else is contributed after you get together but Iām getting the impression you feel entitled to half? 30g would of probably been his deposit so heās paid alot more over the years. Should of been sorted before you got married. Iām almost with the husband on this 1. You could of purchased your own home in the pastā¦you chose not too. We all come into this world with nothingā¦I chose to buy a house before I turned 30, not my problem if my future partner decided to party in his 20s etc. We all have choices but no I donāt think you are entitled to half. Split the expensesā¦he pays his mortgage and u start looking at your own home to purchase and rent out but I do think then if itās your house you rent out or whatever then you shouldnāt technically live rent free at his place. Married or not things should be fair. If they donāt feel fair then bail but I donāt think he should just hand over half his home after 3yrs.
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1st. You each have your own kids and the house you live in was already his to begin with. I think it would be some shit if his kids had to split an inheritance (home) that does not belong to your childrenā¦ 2nd you should have taken that money and put it into a different property and left that for YOUR children. Now, you should stop trying to spend your money on this home, itās yāallās but not for your children to profit from. Whereās your kids father? This is something that should have come up in conversation before you married him lol sounds like you keep pushing for that property but you knew he isnāt changing his mind.
Thatās when I get pettyš. Iād stop contributing to his growing equity and buy a house on ur own. Prepare for your future and your kids future. If he is being like that, fine. He can keep his house. Buy your own, a newer, badder one. Spend ur money on ur future and ur kids because he is obviously not thinking of yours. There is help for first time buyers and single moms. Lol you are probably better off. Manifest something better
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If you are married itās half yours regardless
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There is such thing like something similar to a prenuptial that can be done after marriage that way you can get ur own house and he canāt do nothing about it if u guys divorce.
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Put a lean on the property, for the amount you put into the home. If you two ever separate and he if decides to sell he has to pay you the money you put into the home.
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Iām sorry but my husband built a house, and has 2 daughters from a previous marriage sometimes he tells them itās also their house and that theyāll inherited when heās gone, we have a daughter together and he made the house cause I didnāt want to live with my MIL, anyways I tell him Iām not putting nothing more than my house chores to it because weāre not legally married and Iām not going to spend money on it if I donāt feel like itās also mine
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Why even be married thenā¦
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