All the girls saying kick him out 
it’s called communication!! You mentioned his wife passed away recently? He is most likely feeling lonely and depressed and this woman he is sending money too has/is taking advantage of him for money.
Sounds to me like he needs to find a good outlet for his grief.
Just sit down and express your concerns to him. Don’t kick him out!!
If he can’t afford to keep his house, he can’t afford to send thousands of dollars to some young woman. Tell him.
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Need to talk to him , have his mental status checked by a professional doctor and get power of attorney for him if he is not mentally stable.
I mean you can’t tell him that he can’t send his money anywhere he wants. HOWEVER, you can lay down the guidelines to living there. Meaning either you don’t want him there anymore at all OR he has to pay you some type of rent for living there. It should have been discussed beforehand what he needed to pay you to live there so all this could be avoided.
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At the very least charge him rent
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Find out every piece of information you can find on his finances his bank accts , credit cards, cash , his bills, where the money is going & to whom. Have your husband take him to lunch or something & talk to him while you dig. Find out if he has early stages of dementia or alzheimers . Get him evaluated. Become his over seer , power of attorney, his care giver. Hunt down this person who is scamming him coukd be male or female ( who knows - if its internet communication). Get law enforcement involved. Look for elderly housing for him or build a room onto your home for him ( maybe he has enough income coming in to finance that idk)… Look at ALL your options but find Out everything you possibly can before you tell him anything. Then talk to him for any information that is missing to fill on the blanks.
Sounds like fraud I do this for a living pm me if needed I’ll get you all the help you need
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If he gets SOCAIL SECURITY he can probably rent an efficiency apartment or a room cant he
He needs to find his owe place and your hubby needs to tell him asap.
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He is being scammed big time you need to deal with that first, then deal with accommodation
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Tell him to go live with her.
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If he can afford to send someone 3 grand, he can afford monthly rent and bills somewhere. Hes grown. He can handle himself. Dont add negativity to your household… he clearly doesnt have his priorities straight. If he has money, he should either be helping yall or get on his feet.
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Ask for your room back and put a sofa bed in boys room for him dont make him to comf
Sounds like your father in law is being used as well as you. This happens to men so easily when they lose there wife of many years. They get lonely and think these girls who promise them the sun moon and stars are there for them when in reality they are just getting what they can take
Your husband needs to stop this before your father in law gets completely ripped off for every penny he has left. Trust me I know cos it’s happened to my father
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Notify this woman/person and quiz ‘why?’ How much $$ has he sent? . Record if you can. Talk to FIL and let him know you want to help him, but he will take the couch and he needs to see a doctor just for his health after losing his wife. Tell doctor first you need to know his mental status. Tell him since he has funds a room could be built for him. Talk with your husband first before doing anything. Your husband needs to get involved with his finances. They need to go together to his bank and hopefully change account holder status. Find out how many times he has sent money to this person. How old is he? Your accomodations are not fair to you or your husband.
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First of all, he would have got the couch or an air mattress…not MY room!
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It’s up to your husband, stay out of the situation. Let ur husband handle everything
Well it is his money and he can do what he wants with it. You really can’t be mad if you never asked him to pay half rent or half of the bills. You chose to give him your room. What you could do is be curious, make conversation and ask about this woman and why she needs all this money.
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He could be suffering from the start of dementia. Go with him to a doctor.
Confront him if he can give some bimbo 3000 he can build room out back of the house.
He would be sleeping in the couch!
Sounds like he is being used in a love scam and you need to get him out of it then he’ll have the money to have his own place again
Put dad on the couch and tell him why if he can afford to send some woman 3.000 then he can afford his on place. Its called not living above your means.
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Let him know you are aware of him sending money and let him know what he needs to do
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He is being catfished and or scammed. Call dr.phil
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Why did he get your room? Move him to the couch. Also he should be paying something. You guys are just enabling him.
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Tell him to get out and go live with girl. Shes a scammer and how stupid is he. Id also notify police.
With your husband sit down with your FIL and find out as much as you can about this person and have them charged with Freud or what ever you can have them charged with. If you can set up a nice granny flat out the back for him so you can all have your own space.
Talk to him about the 3,000. & take your bedroom back
Nursing home and your husband be his power of attorney over medical and finance
- Find out more about this girl. Sounds like he has fallen for a scam. AARP has some great info on scams & how caregivers can check for & get seniors out of this. Put a stop to the payments of course and report the “woman” (probably a professional scammer from a foreign country) to police and possibly Interpol.
- Get him screened for dementia.
- Get him into some grief counseling. Hospice, a religious leader if he has a faith, professional counselor or psychologist. Sounds like a result of grief.
You can tell him that he’ll have to pay 3,000 per month or he’ll have to find a new place to live