what in the hell girl leave him
Love isnāt enough to excuse abusive behavior. Thatās controlling and isolating. Itās interfering with your peace and employment. He can have a habit but god forbid if you do??? And he can allow someone to sexually harass him in front of you and not say anything and you feel you donāt have the right or safe space to express that?
No. Just NOOOOO!!
You need to sit him down after writing everything down and read it to him. Create boundaries for him as well. He has ZERO issue with making absurd boundaries for you, same applies to him. Period. If his kids are grown, he has zero reason to be hanging out with her and her boyfriend. Period.
I lived that way far too long and I learned what a backbone and boundaries are. Respect is a two way street and seems you are the only one giving it at this time. The insane ārulesā he has for you are just thatā¦ insane and also unreasonable. His insecurities seem to be the issue and there isnāt a damn thing YOU can do to āfix itā. You absolutely cannot stay living this way. If you sit down and go over what you feel is unfair and unwarranted, and he listensā¦ Iād bet money on the fact he will find some way to turn it back to you being the issue, not his behavior. Look up being married to a narcissist. It never works. They are too toxic if they canāt acknowledge their issue and how it effect you, they are too selfish for admitting fault. Donāt waver in YOUR NEEDS!!! If it ends, it ends. Start recording conversations and many post them on TikTok and it validates their feelings that their partners are abusive and destructive. You gotta be willing to open up and ask those you are closest to for their opinions. This way if you end up in court you have others who have seen and heard him. Trust me!!! And sadly when a narcissist starts losing control, they can turn super ugly and you may need video proof for an order of protection. I did. 
I wouldnāt stay much longer. Iād make a plan to be gone and in a safe place to start over.
Itās time to move onā¦ very inappropriate controlling behaviorā¦
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Heās an adult. You donāt need to explain that it isnāt ok. He is fully aware of it. As long as you allow it,it will continue.
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Awww. Sorry to tell u this but he is definitely cheating on u with her and her drunk self was letting u know what it was. She doesnāt still love him for no reason maāam
If u had to remove his hand from her ass my hand would have to be removed from his face
Heās knows exactly what heās doing. There is no explaining to a man who repeatedly disrespects you out in the open & then wants to try to make you feel guilty for his actions.
Iād walk away, let his ex wife have his ass back 
Because HE is cheating. Heās insecure youāre doing the things heās already doing to you.
Move onā¦ less stress !!
Donāt just leave heāll never change
Get out, doesnāt get better and your worth more and far better than That
Youāre married to a narcissist. Leave now.
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Iām going to be up front right nowā¦
LEAVE HIS ASS IMMEDIATELY.
Narcissistā¦ get out now. It will not get better
Let the ex have him back!!
Huge 
flag! This man is doing something grimy behind your back.
Hereās the neat thing, you donāt. Heās a grown ass man and he should see the double standard is unfair and harmful to your relationship, him touching all over his Ex and you āhaving to remove his hand from her assā is flat out cheating and disrespectful. Move on. You deserve to be treated with love and respect.
He needs no explanation. Sounds more like heās controlling. Maybe youāre trauma bonded and thereās more mental or physical abuse going on that youāre suppressing ? And where was this chicks man that night? And partners like this donāt like you doing things theyāre doing bc they know theyāre doing you dirty. My ex used to tell me things like this. One time I was out of work for a month and he told me if I didnāt find a job he would leave me. While he didnāt have a job and thr longest job he had our whole relationship lasted 6 months. I was the one always employed and he still controlled the money.
U wonāt have to explain to anyone how to love you the way u deserve. Run!!
send him back to the ex wife
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Girl you better run you deserve better. Now if I would take my own advice I would be ok. Sounds like my current situation but no ex in the picture.
If he does not care about your feelings then he does not care about you. Please leave him. (Yes this is experience talking)
He knows it isnāt okay, he just doesnāt care. He doesnāt respect you at all. So talking to him isnāt the fix all, you need to figure out what you can deal with and how to walk away if thatās what it boils down too.
Omg ummmmā¦
Ok let me explain this to you simply. He doesnāt love you like you love him. You deserve more.
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I wouldāve knocked her teeth out for disrespecting you.
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Then Iād leave him for letting her disrespect you.
Heās sounds controlling and it sounds like heās having an affair with her.
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That shit wouldnāt fly with me, Iād be packing my shit and leaving
You shouldnāt have to explain anything he should know
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Tarring you with the brush that tarrs himā¦ he is not trustworthy or he would trust youā¦
If they are that way to each other after they splitā¦ they will more than likely get back together and break your heartā¦ but they wonāt last long before they remember why they split in the first placeā¦ so you can then revel in the knowledge that they are having a shit time of it and you will have picked up and moved on ā¦ youāre asking because you know the answerā¦ you just need clarificationā¦ be a door mat or walk out the door xxx
Fuck him off hes a narcissist
You donāt. He already knows itās wrong, he doesnāt care. He doesnāt care about you or he would respect you and care about your feelings. When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
Her love for him will never die
And he will never complete Let her go
Get out now
So you love the father figure that he has made himself in your life? Because he is literally showing you that he can do whatever he wants but you canāt even look up at a man without him being upset with you and telling you what you can and canāt do. Leave.
Imagine youāre having this conversation with your daughter; what would be your advice? Would you recommend she stay and tolerate this behavior?
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No matter how much you love him, he will never love you enough.
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He only thinks ur cheating all the time cause heās the one cheating, helps him tell himself what heās doing is okay too. Iād leave,an ex that thinks itās easy to be all over someoneās elseās man is because he gave her the green light along time ago. Drunk or not. IJS
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Whatās to love if he treats you so disrespectfully?
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You had to remove his hand from her ass? And youāre questioning what to do? Beat both their asses and move on. Drunk is no excuse.
He knows itās not okay. Her boyfriend should have a big issue with this too.
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Ummmm. Iād be done. Heās letting all of that happen and then he had his hand on her ass? Itās a no from me dawg.
Make him your ex husband. No real man should take care of another woman. Also, he is most definitely cheating if heās accusing you so hard.
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Please tell me you already know how this is a huge red flag!! You deserve better. But you already knew that didnāt you. Save yourself, and find someone who respects you and shows their love for you. This is not ok and I think you know itās not going to last. Iām sorry this is happening to you. You are the only one who can choose to leave. Make the choice. Choose yourself! You get one life! Just one!
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Divorce would be a good way to explain it.
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Ummm he already knows itās not ok he also knows your not gonna leave him so the real question isā¦. What are you going to do about it!!!
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I noticed you said it was a double date. Where was her boyfriend and what was he doing while she was behaving this way? Or did he have enough sense and walk out. He knows itās not okay thatās why he would be upset if you did it. I would leave and find better and let them have each other.
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Accusations of a narcissist are actually confessionsā¦ listen closely.
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So heās pretty much a disrespectful POS ? Leave him and donāt look back
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Heās cheating already
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If he smokes 3 cartons a week Iām sure this situation will work itself out before longā¦ dont stress it
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First of allll, why didnāt you punch her in the face?
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You already know what to do ,you donāt need anyoneās justification, just do it . Always trust you gut .
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It will NOT change. You can deal with it and be miserable or you can leave.
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I am sorry but I think HES cheating.
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Ummmm u shouldnāt have to explain this is not ok, anyone decent would know already
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No wonder he has an ex, maybe he treated her the same way. No he seems like he doesnāt care.
If he truly loves and respected you. He would NEVER act this way. Now go find a real man!!
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Tell him not to slam the door on his way out!!
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What does the ex wifeās bf say? He shouldnāt be OK with it either.
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Ok what in the actual fuck is this 
Youāre not going to get it through to him. Heās a chauvanistic pig. And if you arenāt going anywhere all Youāre going to be able to do is lower your own standards to be happy. I canāt for the life of me figure out why you stayed with that so long.
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Go find a real man , not a manchild
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Ummmā¦ If you had to remove HIS hand from her ASS, thereās more going on thereā¦ get out while you can. You have to respect yourself, he obviously doesnāt respect you.
Leave his a** ! Wake tf up
You donāt explain it. Heāll never get it unfortunately. Just leave right away!
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Simple leave his ass. I could go on and on about whatās clearly wrong with what your just saying about him and what he does. So dump his ass and get somebody who actually deserves you.
Probably going to sleep with her if heās not already. I would not have tolerated her disrespect or his.
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Heās cheating on you.
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He donāt get it because he doesnāt wanāt to and he thinks you will never leave donāt walk run.
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Where the hell was her boyfriend? Also why the hell are yall going to a bar with his ex?
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Reading this shit makes me feel so bad for the woman in this relationship. Close the door! Leave that trash at the Bar and dont look back. Stand up for yourself. Own your life. Walk away and dont look back. Cast your worries away and say a little prayer for your angels to bring you your soulmate. Tell them your looking for a man that has eyes for just you and only you.
Your husband is cheating on you. Point blank period
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I probably wouldāve punched her within the first few minutes of that behavior.
You should let her have him
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If you take two seconds to read this back to yourself, youād see every single red flag youāve been putting up with. Things like this almost always never get better, and I think you know that deep down. 
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Mistyā¦just keep scrollingā¦just keep scrolling. 
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Look up Borderline Personality Disorderā¦and walk. No amount of love will change this. There is someone out there who WILL treat you better!!! (Regardless of what he tells you!!! ). But, you wonāt find that person if you stay. Trust meā¦āI have the t-shirtā 
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Sometimes I feel like these posts have to be made up 
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One thing I learned is those that do the most accusing have the most to be guilty of. The constant accusations are projection of his own guilt.
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Iām sorry, wtf did I just read 
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Have some self respect and LEAVEā¦
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He knows itās not okay, but he knows he can do it anyway. He probably got a huge kick out of it, triangulating you and the ex wife and feeling the centre of attention
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Oof, girl.
No. None of itā¦
-Never hang with an ex that has feelings.
-Let your husband know your boundaries as much as he does with his controlling accusations.
I would have left or Ubered home with her boyfriend than witness all this blatant disrespect. You two need some serious couples counseling, like months ago, if your marriage is ever going to even START to work. Bottom line: never stay with a man that does not know how to put the woman he now claims to love, first. 
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He is already cheating. Run.
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I wouldnāt waste one more precious moment of your life before I called the first moving company and attorney I could find.
You husband is still getting in on with his ex. 
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You let him , and you just take it , so of course heās gonna do it to you and heās probably fucking her , he would have put a stop to it but he finds it amusing, two of his favorite ladies fighting over him , and he can eat both his cakes 
Donāt be naive
Why do you even need to explain anything?? He isnāt a child
I wouldnāt tolerate that at all
Kids are one of the only acceptable reasons to have an ex still involved in your life. You donāt deserve that type of treatment and you need to learn to love yourself more if you think you canāt do better
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When someone accuses & makes a big deal every time, itās because THEYāRE doing it!! Grab one of his cigarettes 
light it up in front of him, take a couple of puffs, flick it in face, pick up your bags that you packed earlier & walk out!!! DO NOT look back!!! OH! And you shoulda beat her ass that night & gave him a couple of good slaps!!
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My husband knows better!! We donāt play this ish!! First of all, at a bar with baby mom??? Whoās still in love with him?? Donāt entertain this! Set some boundaries for yourself or leave his ass!!
Doesnāt sound like he loves you. Do yourself a favor and leave
Youāre wasting your time with him
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Both of them wouldāve gotten slapped that nightā¦They both were disrespectful to youā¦But hunny wake upā¦Itās best you leave nowā¦
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Ask for a refund. Give her back those damaged goods.
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Heās definitely cheating. Thatās why he says you are when you both know youāre not
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He sounds like a prick, you donāt disrespect someone you love, he obviously doesnāt love you but wants to control you. And if life that with a female infront of you, whatās he doing behind closed doors
He has you both right where he wants you. If this is a life you want, stay. If not, leave! Very simple!
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Heās a Narcissist. Get out while you can!
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Narcissist cheater ur a woman you already knm get out 
I mean this in the most caring way, but youāre allowing this to happen by staying 
please love yourself more than you love him and give him a damn good reality check, or leave. For yourself
Ma am. With all respect intendedā¦ Do u really wanna continue to spend time on someone u need to explain this toā¦ why would you, 
( not sarcastic 
). I had to ask myself this when I felt I need to explain to my ex , that it would be nice if I felt he liked me outside the bedroomā¦ why why shud I have to explain that to anyone especially the person whom claims live for meā¦ š
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š» not love for me but , it was a love of meā¦ that s not enough or love.
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Ummm, no need to explain. Just leave. That man is disrespecting you and trying to control you.
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