what in the hell girl leave him
Love isnât enough to excuse abusive behavior. Thatâs controlling and isolating. Itâs interfering with your peace and employment. He can have a habit but god forbid if you do??? And he can allow someone to sexually harass him in front of you and not say anything and you feel you donât have the right or safe space to express that?
No. Just NOOOOO!!
You need to sit him down after writing everything down and read it to him. Create boundaries for him as well. He has ZERO issue with making absurd boundaries for you, same applies to him. Period. If his kids are grown, he has zero reason to be hanging out with her and her boyfriend. Period.
I lived that way far too long and I learned what a backbone and boundaries are. Respect is a two way street and seems you are the only one giving it at this time. The insane ârulesâ he has for you are just that⌠insane and also unreasonable. His insecurities seem to be the issue and there isnât a damn thing YOU can do to âfix itâ. You absolutely cannot stay living this way. If you sit down and go over what you feel is unfair and unwarranted, and he listens⌠Iâd bet money on the fact he will find some way to turn it back to you being the issue, not his behavior. Look up being married to a narcissist. It never works. They are too toxic if they canât acknowledge their issue and how it effect you, they are too selfish for admitting fault. Donât waver in YOUR NEEDS!!! If it ends, it ends. Start recording conversations and many post them on TikTok and it validates their feelings that their partners are abusive and destructive. You gotta be willing to open up and ask those you are closest to for their opinions. This way if you end up in court you have others who have seen and heard him. Trust me!!! And sadly when a narcissist starts losing control, they can turn super ugly and you may need video proof for an order of protection. I did. 
I wouldnât stay much longer. Iâd make a plan to be gone and in a safe place to start over.
Itâs time to move on⌠very inappropriate controlling behaviorâŚ
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Heâs an adult. You donât need to explain that it isnât ok. He is fully aware of it. As long as you allow it,it will continue.
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Awww. Sorry to tell u this but he is definitely cheating on u with her and her drunk self was letting u know what it was. She doesnât still love him for no reason maâam
If u had to remove his hand from her ass my hand would have to be removed from his face
Heâs knows exactly what heâs doing. There is no explaining to a man who repeatedly disrespects you out in the open & then wants to try to make you feel guilty for his actions.
Iâd walk away, let his ex wife have his ass back 
Because HE is cheating. Heâs insecure youâre doing the things heâs already doing to you.
Move on⌠less stress !!
Donât just leave heâll never change
Get out, doesnât get better and your worth more and far better than That
Youâre married to a narcissist. Leave now.
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Iâm going to be up front right nowâŚ
LEAVE HIS ASS IMMEDIATELY.
Narcissist⌠get out now. It will not get better
Let the ex have him back!!
Huge 
flag! This man is doing something grimy behind your back.
Hereâs the neat thing, you donât. Heâs a grown ass man and he should see the double standard is unfair and harmful to your relationship, him touching all over his Ex and you âhaving to remove his hand from her assâ is flat out cheating and disrespectful. Move on. You deserve to be treated with love and respect.
He needs no explanation. Sounds more like heâs controlling. Maybe youâre trauma bonded and thereâs more mental or physical abuse going on that youâre suppressing ? And where was this chicks man that night? And partners like this donât like you doing things theyâre doing bc they know theyâre doing you dirty. My ex used to tell me things like this. One time I was out of work for a month and he told me if I didnât find a job he would leave me. While he didnât have a job and thr longest job he had our whole relationship lasted 6 months. I was the one always employed and he still controlled the money.
U wonât have to explain to anyone how to love you the way u deserve. Run!!
send him back to the ex wife
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Girl you better run you deserve better. Now if I would take my own advice I would be ok. Sounds like my current situation but no ex in the picture.
If he does not care about your feelings then he does not care about you. Please leave him. (Yes this is experience talking)
He knows it isnât okay, he just doesnât care. He doesnât respect you at all. So talking to him isnât the fix all, you need to figure out what you can deal with and how to walk away if thatâs what it boils down too.
Omg ummmmâŚ
Ok let me explain this to you simply. He doesnât love you like you love him. You deserve more.
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I wouldâve knocked her teeth out for disrespecting you.
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Then Iâd leave him for letting her disrespect you.
Heâs sounds controlling and it sounds like heâs having an affair with her.
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That shit wouldnât fly with me, Iâd be packing my shit and leaving
You shouldnât have to explain anything he should know
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Tarring you with the brush that tarrs him⌠he is not trustworthy or he would trust youâŚ
If they are that way to each other after they split⌠they will more than likely get back together and break your heart⌠but they wonât last long before they remember why they split in the first place⌠so you can then revel in the knowledge that they are having a shit time of it and you will have picked up and moved on ⌠youâre asking because you know the answer⌠you just need clarification⌠be a door mat or walk out the door xxx
Fuck him off hes a narcissist
You donât. He already knows itâs wrong, he doesnât care. He doesnât care about you or he would respect you and care about your feelings. When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
Her love for him will never die
And he will never complete Let her go
Get out now
So you love the father figure that he has made himself in your life? Because he is literally showing you that he can do whatever he wants but you canât even look up at a man without him being upset with you and telling you what you can and canât do. Leave.
Imagine youâre having this conversation with your daughter; what would be your advice? Would you recommend she stay and tolerate this behavior?
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No matter how much you love him, he will never love you enough.
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He only thinks ur cheating all the time cause heâs the one cheating, helps him tell himself what heâs doing is okay too. Iâd leave,an ex that thinks itâs easy to be all over someoneâs elseâs man is because he gave her the green light along time ago. Drunk or not. IJS
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Whatâs to love if he treats you so disrespectfully?
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You had to remove his hand from her ass? And youâre questioning what to do? Beat both their asses and move on. Drunk is no excuse.
He knows itâs not okay. Her boyfriend should have a big issue with this too.
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Ummmm. Iâd be done. Heâs letting all of that happen and then he had his hand on her ass? Itâs a no from me dawg.
Make him your ex husband. No real man should take care of another woman. Also, he is most definitely cheating if heâs accusing you so hard.
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Please tell me you already know how this is a huge red flag!! You deserve better. But you already knew that didnât you. Save yourself, and find someone who respects you and shows their love for you. This is not ok and I think you know itâs not going to last. Iâm sorry this is happening to you. You are the only one who can choose to leave. Make the choice. Choose yourself! You get one life! Just one!
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Divorce would be a good way to explain it.
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Ummm he already knows itâs not ok he also knows your not gonna leave him so the real question isâŚ. What are you going to do about it!!!
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I noticed you said it was a double date. Where was her boyfriend and what was he doing while she was behaving this way? Or did he have enough sense and walk out. He knows itâs not okay thatâs why he would be upset if you did it. I would leave and find better and let them have each other.
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Accusations of a narcissist are actually confessions⌠listen closely.
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So heâs pretty much a disrespectful POS ? Leave him and donât look back
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Heâs cheating already
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If he smokes 3 cartons a week Iâm sure this situation will work itself out before long⌠dont stress it
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First of allll, why didnât you punch her in the face?
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You already know what to do ,you donât need anyoneâs justification, just do it . Always trust you gut .
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It will NOT change. You can deal with it and be miserable or you can leave.
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I am sorry but I think HES cheating.
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Ummmm u shouldnât have to explain this is not ok, anyone decent would know already
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No wonder he has an ex, maybe he treated her the same way. No he seems like he doesnât care.
If he truly loves and respected you. He would NEVER act this way. Now go find a real man!!
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Tell him not to slam the door on his way out!!
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What does the ex wifeâs bf say? He shouldnât be OK with it either.
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Ok what in the actual fuck is this 
Youâre not going to get it through to him. Heâs a chauvanistic pig. And if you arenât going anywhere all Youâre going to be able to do is lower your own standards to be happy. I canât for the life of me figure out why you stayed with that so long.
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Go find a real man , not a manchild
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Ummm⌠If you had to remove HIS hand from her ASS, thereâs more going on there⌠get out while you can. You have to respect yourself, he obviously doesnât respect you.
Leave his a** ! Wake tf up
You donât explain it. Heâll never get it unfortunately. Just leave right away!
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Simple leave his ass. I could go on and on about whatâs clearly wrong with what your just saying about him and what he does. So dump his ass and get somebody who actually deserves you.
Probably going to sleep with her if heâs not already. I would not have tolerated her disrespect or his.
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Heâs cheating on you.
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He donât get it because he doesnât wanât to and he thinks you will never leave donât walk run.
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Where the hell was her boyfriend? Also why the hell are yall going to a bar with his ex?
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Reading this shit makes me feel so bad for the woman in this relationship. Close the door! Leave that trash at the Bar and dont look back. Stand up for yourself. Own your life. Walk away and dont look back. Cast your worries away and say a little prayer for your angels to bring you your soulmate. Tell them your looking for a man that has eyes for just you and only you.
Your husband is cheating on you. Point blank period
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I probably wouldâve punched her within the first few minutes of that behavior.
You should let her have him
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If you take two seconds to read this back to yourself, youâd see every single red flag youâve been putting up with. Things like this almost always never get better, and I think you know that deep down. 
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MistyâŚjust keep scrollingâŚjust keep scrolling. 
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Look up Borderline Personality DisorderâŚand walk. No amount of love will change this. There is someone out there who WILL treat you better!!! (Regardless of what he tells you!!! ). But, you wonât find that person if you stay. Trust meâŚâI have the t-shirtâ 
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Sometimes I feel like these posts have to be made up 
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One thing I learned is those that do the most accusing have the most to be guilty of. The constant accusations are projection of his own guilt.
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Iâm sorry, wtf did I just read 
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Have some self respect and LEAVEâŚ
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He knows itâs not okay, but he knows he can do it anyway. He probably got a huge kick out of it, triangulating you and the ex wife and feeling the centre of attention
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Oof, girl.
No. None of itâŚ
-Never hang with an ex that has feelings.
-Let your husband know your boundaries as much as he does with his controlling accusations.
I would have left or Ubered home with her boyfriend than witness all this blatant disrespect. You two need some serious couples counseling, like months ago, if your marriage is ever going to even START to work. Bottom line: never stay with a man that does not know how to put the woman he now claims to love, first. 
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He is already cheating. Run.
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I wouldnât waste one more precious moment of your life before I called the first moving company and attorney I could find.
You husband is still getting in on with his ex. 
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You let him , and you just take it , so of course heâs gonna do it to you and heâs probably fucking her , he would have put a stop to it but he finds it amusing, two of his favorite ladies fighting over him , and he can eat both his cakes 
Donât be naive
Why do you even need to explain anything?? He isnât a child
I wouldnât tolerate that at all
Kids are one of the only acceptable reasons to have an ex still involved in your life. You donât deserve that type of treatment and you need to learn to love yourself more if you think you canât do better
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When someone accuses & makes a big deal every time, itâs because THEYâRE doing it!! Grab one of his cigarettes 
light it up in front of him, take a couple of puffs, flick it in face, pick up your bags that you packed earlier & walk out!!! DO NOT look back!!! OH! And you shoulda beat her ass that night & gave him a couple of good slaps!!
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My husband knows better!! We donât play this ish!! First of all, at a bar with baby mom??? Whoâs still in love with him?? Donât entertain this! Set some boundaries for yourself or leave his ass!!
Doesnât sound like he loves you. Do yourself a favor and leave
Youâre wasting your time with him
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Both of them wouldâve gotten slapped that nightâŚThey both were disrespectful to youâŚBut hunny wake upâŚItâs best you leave nowâŚ
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Ask for a refund. Give her back those damaged goods.
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Heâs definitely cheating. Thatâs why he says you are when you both know youâre not
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He sounds like a prick, you donât disrespect someone you love, he obviously doesnât love you but wants to control you. And if life that with a female infront of you, whatâs he doing behind closed doors
He has you both right where he wants you. If this is a life you want, stay. If not, leave! Very simple!
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Heâs a Narcissist. Get out while you can!
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Narcissist cheater ur a woman you already knm get out 
I mean this in the most caring way, but youâre allowing this to happen by staying 
please love yourself more than you love him and give him a damn good reality check, or leave. For yourself
Ma am. With all respect intended⌠Do u really wanna continue to spend time on someone u need to explain this to⌠why would you, 
( not sarcastic 
). I had to ask myself this when I felt I need to explain to my ex , that it would be nice if I felt he liked me outside the bedroom⌠why why shud I have to explain that to anyone especially the person whom claims live for me⌠
not love for me but , it was a love of me⌠that s not enough or love.
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Ummm, no need to explain. Just leave. That man is disrespecting you and trying to control you.
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