His hella double standards are a no from me. And the whole ex gig is a weird red flag 
Uh. Heās cheating on you, promise has been for awhile, cut your losses and bounce. No dick is worth that headache
This sounds crazy one sided. Some people will only love you as far as they can use you. My gut says runš¤·š¼āāļø
Heād be divorced as fast as he got married! Iād tell him go have fun with your ex
When things are one sided like that they donāt ever see what youāre saying or come close to understanding.
You cut your losses and run, I was accused of cheating by my husband who was, if heās not heās thinking about it, big red flag with the ex.
Why do you think you love him?
Sounds like heās more interested in his ex than he lets on.
We canāt help who we love but itās equally as easy to learn to love a new personā¦ā¦ maybe time to cut bait?
Youāre worth being someoneās ONLY focus and Desireā¦.
Donāt explain it ā¦ he already know babe ā¦
So why is it you say you love him?
Leave and let someone else love you the way you deserve.
I donāt know how you can brush something like that offā¦ this whole situation is toxic. Someone needs to man up and end it.
I would advise you to get into therapy to find out why you āloveā a man who so blatantly disrespect you and is so controlling.
Why the hell were they even with their kid at a bar drunk?
Anyways. Did he willingly put his hand on her ass or did she pull his hand and put it on her ass? Not that it really matters because everything you just listed is so disrespectful.
I could never be with someone who talks that way to girls. I can almost guarantee you heās cheating on you or cheating with ex wife.
This behavior will never change. You either have to live with it (which you never will be able to, itāll eat you alive) or you need to move on.
Hell no. Fuck that!!!
Hes more than likely sexually involved with his ex.
Heās feeling up his ex wife IN FRONT OF YOU! Boy bye 
Heās a red flag 
and probably smells like a walking ashtray 
Heās definitely projecting his guilt on to you. Heās cheating. Leave.
Girlfriend. They sound like they are still hooking up. And gross to the 2-3 cartons.
I wouldnt put up with this. You can do better for yourself
Do what her boyfriend did and leave the situation 
Momma always said theyāll only do what you allow them too 
Put your foot down!
Iām sorry, but the moment I saw my husbands hand on another womanās butt that would be over. Drunk or not he still wants his ex.
He doesnāt deserve you!!!
Be happy and leave:)
You donāt have to explain that some things arenāt okay. He knows itās not but doesnāt care. The only solution would be to stop loving a man with your whole heart that doesnāt give a 
about you
A man like that is NOT going to listen to why itās not okay to act that way. He will turn it all around on you. Been there done that and you would be better off getting far away from him
He probably loves that his ex isnāt over him- and itās true we all get over our exās in our own time and healing process. I dk how u couldnāt see this behavior before u married him like how he thinks itās ok to say hello beautiful to anyone else but u
My exās would say they leave me if I smoke- I got rid of them and smoked lol ur not gonna tell me how to live my life- ex husband and baby daddy
Qwit going to places where his ex will be.
Yeahā¦get tf out of there now
I am saying this because I was in your shoes.
Run.
Take just the clothes on your back if you have to, but get out.
Please. While you still can.
PLEASE.
Wow I feel sorry 4 her boyfriend. How did he respond 2 all this? N yes ur hubby was very disrespectful 2 u by letting her behavior continue. Sounds like he enjoyed the attention.
Divorce papers is how you tell him itās unacceptable and you deserve better than that shit.
Hmmm heās a prick and probably still sleeping with the ex walk away fast!!
Please read up about narcissist. Iām not saying he is or isnāt. Only you know the depth of his toxicity. Just please read up on the signs and red flags. Knowledge is power. You deserve better.
you donāt give him an explanation you leave him 
Dump his ass he is just USING you and for you to let him get away with that demeaning stuff he is doing , well you just need to leave the Ass
Itās time for 
DIVORCEā:sparkles:
Man is cheating
Why explain? Girl, if you donāt find your self respect and leave this terrible sounding man alone! Let him go back to the ex bc no fān way am I gonna be an option or CONTROLLED. BUH-BYE 
You shouldnāt have to explain to him, he either gets it or not
If my husband was purposefully touching another womanās ass and I saw it (nonetheless had to STOP the behavior) - I wouldāve walked out of that bar and his things wouldāve been out for him on the lawn when he got home. BYEEEEEE
Red flags ā¦ red flags ā¦ red flags ā¦ 2 options deal with it and put your foot down or keep ignoring it and turn the other way ā¦ choose your poison ā¦ either way it wonāt be pretty
Says alot about your self respect lol
Leave his ass and move on! You donāt deserve all that heartache. A real man will treat you right. There are still good ones out there girl. Staying with him is holding you back. Quit wasting your own time and get out there and find the life you deserve! 
Heās cheating already or wants to! Leave him! He should have corrected his ex wife! He does not love you
Ummm?? No offense but why on earth are you even with this dude?
Leave him, youāll never be truly happy with someone like that.
Heās cheating.
My ex 100%
I donāt understand why people are laughing at this post. This woman is obviously being emotionally and mentally manipulated and abused. There isnāt anything funny about her pain.
Leave him, he has no respect for you!
Sounds like a narcissist. You better off to just get a divorce then wasting your breath. Iām sorry your dealing with such
He sounds like he has a guilty conscience. He doesnāt want you talking to the opposite gender, because he is all too aware of how he speaks to women. Red flags everywhere. He obviously wants his ex back. Leave.
Reread your post to yourself, girl leave him!
Prime example of narcissistic behavior
Iāll never understand how people put up with shit like this 
If I even saw this someone would be getting slapped aināt no questions about it!
Sounds like heās projecting everything he does on you.
Heās already cheating
You need to learn to deserve do much better and demand it and he is not it. Girl you need to get rid of him.
OMG He sounds disgusting. Shouldāve walked away the second his hand was on another womanās ass. What does he do when your not around?!
Itās the hand on the ass part. I woulda been livid. Thatās a big nope for me.
Read what you wrote. If your sister or daughter told you thisā¦ What would you say??
You donāt need validation from strangers.
You will be the one that has to live with this.
girl leave that man alone and let his ex wife and their kids have him back 
Get out now while you still have loveā¦ because you will lose that too if you stay too long
Sounds like heās already cheating with his ex wife.
Well if you reread what you statedā¦ this doesnāt sound okay and this is emotional abuse ā¦ You donāt love him ā¦ you just are comfortable being in THAT relationship and you probably are just attached and leaving isnāt an option right now because you just donāt want to be alone. Which is normal ā¦ But the healing process can take awhileā¦ itās 2021 girl almost 2022 ! Times are changing you donāt have to put up with this !!! You gotta work on your mentality that you can do this alone with or without men ! Infact many women live happier and less stress than to continue a relationship that sounds like it wonāt get to anywhere other than pain, stress and drained and you gotta ask yourself āam I not good enoughā trust me you are more than enough but NOT to that person !!! You need to learn how to respect yourself !!! Because if he doesnāt who will??? Get a backbone put your big girl panties on and put your foot down !! You donāt like it ? Donāt deal with it simple ! He thinks he sees nothing wrong ?? Great but you do and itās best to move on ! Nothing wrong with leaving ! And a divorce ! Infact it can be the best thing to ever happen to you 
ITS YOUR LIFE OWN IT ALREADY !!!
Jerry Jerry Jerry-
Your to good for him!
You need to move on. I know from experience it isnāt going to end well. You deserve better!
Maybe if you went full psycho, heād be scared enough not to disrespect you in front of you 
Heās obviously got a guilty conscience
So, whatās good for the goose AINT good for the gander. Gotcha. 
He can smoke, you canāt. Never did I hear of that being a reason for divorce- but absolutely this control, now thatās a good reason for divorce. And his lack of boundaries.
Big time narcissistic behaviour, you need to look it upā¦ you need more support thanā¦ this. Us telling you to leave is worthless, you wonāt.
If I could say anything to you, itās TRUST YOUR GUT. Itās right. You are correct in all your concerns. And yes, yes you can make it on your own.
I didnāt even need to read it all. Heās guilty. In my experience if a guy constantly accuses you of cheating, theyāre either already cheating on you or thinking about cheating. Heās projecting. You caught him with his hand on his ex wifeās butt. Thatās literally telling you all you need to know. Drunk or not, doesnāt matter. A drunk manās actions are his sober thoughts. You donāt need us to tell you what you already know.
Leave him. Heās trash.
Im sorry, sounds like a case of heās being a dog. And probably not even with his stupid ex
Narcissistic people canāt be told anything
This manās hand is on his ex wifeās ass? Iād have lost my mind, how is he entertaining her flirting AND acting on it. Heās either cheating with whoever or super controlling, leave girl LEAVE !!
Nothing on that situation is okay. That is red flag manipulating and controlling behavior. Leave that man honey.
Leave that bitch that aināt a man 
Dont explain anything, he knowsā¦ he just doesnt care.
Choose your next step wisely.
You donāt, do leave though. Guarantee heās likely done more than flirt.
You already know the answer. Itās time to set sail.
So why didnāt you move on in with the exās boyfriend lol
You gotta do whatās best for you. In my experience, the ones who are like that never change and thereās a chance heās already cheating. Especially since heās accusing you of doing so. Your next move is totally your decision, but I do want you to know thereās better out there. I put up with crap for 10 years from my ex. I finally left and Iāve never been happier
Heās an adult, no explanation is necessary he already knows what he is doing is wrong
Leave you deserve better my love. Xxxxx
You deserve better. Thatās all I can say. I was in an emotionally relationship like this for 12 years. I wish I had got out of it years ago. I spent way to long being unhappy. There are men out there that will treat you the way you deserve and girl this aināt it.
Give him back to his ex. Heās clearly broken
Not for me. Iād be done.
Heās definitely banging his ex. 
You need to look at this situation as if you are seeing this happen to your sister/mum- whatās your advice?
Run. If he was respecting you. You would flat out tell heās ex to back off and he wouldnāt let her touch him also itās controlling to say that you canāt be on your phone and have a general conversation with someone. Also manipulation and blackmail by saying that he would leave if you started smoking yet heās allowed to smoke.
What? Who goes out with the ex to have drinks? I donāt care if her man was there. Obviously there is still a spark between them two. Give him back to her and let her deal with his jealousy!
WTF is wrong with you? Heās a piece of shit who clearly has no respect for you or your feelings. And let me tell you, sweetheart, it aināt going to get any better. Heāll just keep pulling this shit because you allow it. You want him to change? Guess what he wonāt. You want to change things? Then kick his stupid, useless, douchebag ass out of your life, things will change in your life real quick after that, for the better. Lets his drunken slut of an ex-wife have him, sounds like they deserve each other. A match made in Hell. Get on with your life and learn to have some self respect and love for yourself.
He is a grown ass adult. He KNOWS it isnāt okay. You donāt have to explain anything. The fact he had his hand on her ass? Uh, no. & you may love him, but given what youāve told us, he doesnāt love you or respect you at that.
Enough with the blindness
Sounds like a NARCISSISTS !!!
Let the ex have him. He knows better than to act the way he does and he sounds controlling, probably because heās cheating.
A drunk person speaks a sober mind
Please wake up to what. Is infront of you! The signs is clearly there in plain sight!!! Run!!!