My husband and I just recently made a massive move to a different state we moved in with his mom and stepped dad everything is wonderful!!! But here lately, his stepdad is starting to weird me out. He constantly walks up behind me, grabs my hips in a “playful” Way, and says hey or whatever it’s just weird!!! Well last night I was standing in the kitchen with my husband’s mom who I guess is either blind or doesn’t think anything of it but my husband stepdad walked up behind me put his arms all way around my waist (like a husband would) and asked me how my day was!!! I really wanna tell my husband that is stepdad is doing these things, and it’s making me feel some type of way, but I’m also terribly afraid to start anything!!! HELP should I tell my husband
You should tell the step dad to not touch you and you feel it is inappropriate.
Um… SPEAK UP!!! If you are uncomfortable you have a right to say so!!
First just tell your fil you are not comfortable with it.
…have you said anything to the step dad…i meann you gotta do is tell him to stop being creepy. Don’t appreciate it…etc…
Tell the step dad when he does it! Push him off you!!
You absolutely need to tell him right away, and you need to speak up for yourself when his step dad does this. Firmly and loudly say “please don’t touch me/ put your arms around me. You are making me uncomfortable and I don’t appreciate it”
Throat punch him. Tell your husband.
YES. ITS YOUR BODY. Tell someone in the house you are uncomfortable and ask for help.
Tell him you don’t like it and to stop and also tell your husband too.
Def speak up 
first of all that’s creepy af, and tell ur husband 
I would speak to the step dad and make him aware the you have a personal space issue. My step moms family was kida odd like that but not in a way that was nearly as bad as that
Talk to your father in law in front of your husband so you have a witness to the conversation! Make it very clear you’re uncomfortable with the way he touches you!!
Tell him to fucking stop touching you. Wtf
Tell the man that is puttin his hands on you-just tell him you rather not in a nice way-if you say much he will make you move
Tel the step dad not to it and that it males u feel uncomfortable. And tell ur husband whats going on too.
Yeah I’d tell him I’d like it if you don’t grab me like that. That is weird.
I’d tell him to watch his step. Lol. Tell him this ain’t the 50s anymore cant just be manhandling women when you want to.
Yes you should ABSOLUTELY tell your Husband and maybe even talk to your Mother in law about it.
I’ve lived with my in laws and that’s never how a FIL should act. Super inappropriate.
Sounds like that stepdad is testing boundaries…
yes… tell him… and then if that man puts his hands on you again… just loudly and sternly… say… do not touch me anymore
The longer you let it go on the long and more hes going to push boundaries. I would for sure talk to your husband and next time the father in law does something like that step away and make it clear that you are not comfortable. You could even say sorry I do not appreciate or enjoy you doing that.
YOU speak up. YOU tell him off. YOU tell him to keep his hands off you because it’s inappropriate & you don’t accept that kind of behaviour. Make your boundaries clear because both this man & his wife, your MIL, don’t have a single clue what boundaries are. If it was me he would get a hot slap across the face & stuff your hospitality, we moving out.
Tell you husband n slap the shit out of step dad
This will be best handled directly and in the moment. The second he lays an inappropriate hand on you, call it out! Sounds like he is trying to see how far he can go and it will likely continue to escalate. Never feel bad for defending your body.
Tell your husband. NOW.
It’s your body! Try just shutting him down playfully. If that doesn’t work be clear concise and too the point
This sounds like an episode of Dateline I watched
Yes!!! Tell your husband, tell the stepdad to back off as well. When he does it, knock the shit out of him!!! You have to speak up for you!!!
Yes, your husband needs to know you are not the problem quickly.
Tell the step father you don’t like it, it makes you feel uncomfortable.
I would not only tell your FIL in front of your husband that it makes you uncomfortable, I’d tell him in front of your MIL as well!! That’s definitely not kool & the longer it goes on, it could get even more uncomfortable!! I’d definitely say something NOW!!!
Tell him first it makes you uncomfortable and you’d appreciate it if he didn’t do it.
I’d tell my husband. It has to stop entirely and he needs to apologize to the both of you
Fucking man up and tell your husband wtf…
You need to set boundaries sooner than later… whether innocent or not, if you are uncomfortable make it known… you can draw a line without being a jerk n those who love n respect you will understand
Tell him to please stop. Tell him that is in inappropriate and makes you uncomfortable.
Verbally tell him that he mis making you uncomfortable.
Pull the step-dad aside and firmly tell him to stop touching you, that it’s inappropriate, and you feel uncomfortable. If he brushes you off, tell him again that you dont like it and he needs to stop. Then if he touches you again, LOUDLY tell him in front of everyone to stop. It’s your body and you choose who touches it! Also tell your husband, and if he brushes it off, you’ve got a much larger problem, and you need to move out.
I would say nicely, “please don’t do that, it makes me really uncomfortable, and it isn’t appropriate.” My own father in law caught me off guard once and kissed me on the lips, I was very careful after that not to stand anywhere near him & if he started walking toward me I would often pick up my little son so there would be a barrier between us. These things were happening after I was already divorced & I would bring the kids to visit their grandparents.
Ask him once to plz not do that tgst it doesn’t seem appropriate to you and if he reacts badly or continues them tell your husband if he doesn’t put a stop to it leave
Absolutely!!! Shouldn’t no man make you feel uncomfortable it doesn’t matter who they are. He could just have a talk with him and let him know he’s making you feel uncomfortable.
Yes I should tell ur husband. This is way creepy.
How about you say something as he is doing it in-front of your MIL? “Oh, don’t touch me, you scared me” or “please don’t touch me like that” The first thing that man will do is run away. No man likes to be pushed away & he will avoid “touching” you in a “friendly” way. Say something woman.
Tell your husband and the step dad it makes you uncomfortable. Some people are pervs. And some just don’t realize they are out of line with personal boundaries.
Put in him his place next time. Let everyone see you do it. Should have said something from the start, but I know its uncomfortable.
YES, you Should tell your husband…and make sure he listens to you. No one has the right to touch you, to make you feel uncomfortable…(sorry for spelling)
I’d say something to my husband and tell him that you feel ____ and that’s why you haven’t said anything yet but it keeps happening. It needs to stop now. You’ll be standing up for yourself from now on and you would like him to support that. And you do that. If it happens again, it will, I’d attempt kindly, I’d really appreciate it if you dont touch me. It’s not only unwanted but disrespectful to spouse mom and my husband. Then go from there. You fight for yourself. I’d try to be kind at first, after that claws are coming out
I’d be breaking some hands, how creepy. You need to speak up about it, it doesn’t matter if it causes issues or not. He needs to know to keep his hands off.
Tell him he needs to stop or youre going to tell your husband. Record it if you have to for proof.
Tell your husband… Let him be your barrier… Protection… In a stubtle way. Hopefully that should be enough to end it
. If that doesn’t end it then his step dads true intentions will be brought to light and under no circumstances should you be quiet about it
I wouldn’t keep that from my hubs…that’s weird and very disturbing . Imagine if your husband kept something like this from you!
Id tell him.tell him to talk to step dad.step dad might not realize or care that its inappropriate.
Are you seriously asking this…
Definitely put some boundaries in place. That’s not appropriate behavior especially for a step dad in law. If you don’t feel like you can say something to his step dad yourself then you need to get your husband to say something.
Tell him not to do that because it makes you feel uncomfortable and just to keep his hands to himself. Tell your husband about it and that you told him not to do it again.
I meant under no circumstances should he do this
I would say something to him first in front of everyone before asking your husband to step in. The next time he does something like that to say please don’t touch me like that or that you only like it when your husband put his arms around you that way. If he continues to do it only in private then I would definitely make a bigger deal out of it and bring to your husband’s attention
Say something. that’s nasty af, you should also tell him to keep his hands off you.
I would deff. Say something out loud to where thee whole household hears you be stern n mean it. But at thee sametime ppl. Like him will most deff. Be mad at you because your speaking up,and then might tell you guys you have to find some other place to live at,So both ways just be prepaired. Its sad but true,hope that helps.
I would definitely tell him. If he walks in and sees it, he may feel like you are a willing participant
Omg wtf please speak up about it this is not right.
Nope. His ass would be on the floor.
I’m really starting to think these posts are made up by the admins. No one would actually have to ask this…
YOU ask him to please stop!!
My s.o would be pissed af if i didn’t tell him and he just randomly saw it or something yes tell him
I would of said… whoa sir…I don’t think that’s appropriate … I may of even shot him a look and smacked him, And yes I’d tell my husband. Whatever you do don’t just let it go!!
He clearly sees you as an object at his disposal. That’s completely unacceptable so he needs to be stopped.
tell step dad hands off and tell your husband!!
Put that Bastard in his place u keep letting this go un answers he will think u want more u not ur husband has to stop this
Tell him to remove his hands say I only let my husband touch me like this. Tell him it makes you uncomfortable…
Tell step daddy to back off
Ummm boundaries for sure. How creepy!
You’re a grown woman for Pete’s sake! Simply step away from your “father in law” and look him directly in the face and TELL him to stop doing that because you don’t like it!! The only person that you like hugging you is your husband.
I would first ask father in law to stop, giving a hug is ok n saying have a great day or a pat on the shoulder is fine but tell him hey that’s just a personal touch for me. And if it doesn’t stop I would tell your hubby
I mean it’s a no-brainer that you need to tell your husband and his stepdad but the sad part is you guys will probably have to move because it may not go over very well. Frankly your husband’s mom seems weird to that she finds nothing wrong with her husband acting that way
Talk to the step dad.tell him you are not comfortable with him touching you. And to stop. And tell your husband.
Has your husband seen it ? Does he know? How does he feel if he does know?
Don’t let it keep happening. Then the family will think you like it or don’t mind it.
Yes tell your husband, matter in fact say it out loud to the person be like could you keep your hands to yourself.
You should not have moved into their house
My Ex’s father got that creepy. And I told him it made no difference they made me out as a liar. Then one day my ex and I were fighting one day and he said that he should let his father have his way with me and he would just turn and walk away.
I’d definitely tell your husband especially if its making you uncomfortable.
This sounds like the begining of a Beto porn. Tell him no, you are not comfortable with that type of touching.
Tell him before it goes to far
Tell step dad to step off
When he does it, I would abruptly move away and give him a look. If he still keeps doing it, say something.
Tell your husbands stepdad that he’s doing stuff that makes you feel uncomfortable. If it doesn’t stop tell your husband and let him take care of it
Wait so you haven’t told your husband about this?? Why the hell not??!!! He needs to be told asap! And not just that you’re grown, speak up. Tell his step dad to back the fuck off. You not saying anything is making it seem like you’re ok with what he’s doing 🤷🤦
Tell your husband and the next time he does it tell him you don’t liked to be touched by anyone other than your husband, and make sure you do it in front of your mother-in-law.
I would talk to the step dad your husband n mom. And explain that it makes you uncomfortable.
Be an adult and tell step-daddio to cut the shit; it’s neither welcomed nor appreciated. Simple.
Sounds like hes fishing to see how you react. Since you aren’t reacting or telling him to stop, hes gonna keep it up and probably step it up too.
Just simple tell him when he does it “please keep your hands to yourself” You don’t need your husband to say something for you, you have a voice. If anyone has anything to say just tell them it’s not out of disrespect it’s just you prefer no one to put their hands on you unless it’s your husband.
Tell him because that is very inappropriate and if she hasn’t said anything she never will. Trust me I have experience with this exact thing. Speak up for yourself
Talk to your husband!! He could help, and at the very least you don’t have to go through it alone
Speak up and tell the step dad that makes you feel uncomfortable.
Say something. I dont get why women are “to afraid to start anything” when a man is acting inappropriately towards her. Speak up or get out. If you dont like it, then you must be loud about it. Period.
Definitely talk to your husband. That’s not okay, and I get that it’s very uncomfortable. Please don’t think it’s okay, but some people are just overly touchy like that.
Tell that step dad arm length away. He will hopefully catch on. Draw a line and show him.