You have rotten in laws
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perhaps, you should train your daughter - children can learn at a younger age than 5.
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thats not right i would take them someone who work on electronic stuff they my be same able
So you are living with them and they are watching the kid while you are away? Sorry their house , Their rules… I am sure this is an on going thing… Sometimes we have to learn young.
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can you move in with anyone else? you can tell they don’t want you there
Idiots…harsh and completely cruel…I wouldn’t even allow them around your children…how dreadful I feel very sorry for you and little one I’m so angry reading what I did.
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Sorry but she’s 5 yrs old n if they asked her to put them away n refused…im a gramma too n I wouldn’t have picked them up n away I sure will throw them out as well …im not guna risk a Fall jus cuz she didn’t want to put toys away…
she is old enough to listen shes not a toddler shes grown enough
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I’d move as quickly as possible!!
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I’d be very upset as well.
If my daughter ever did that the toys where either placed in a garbage bag or tote and she had to earn them back. And it continued this way till she learned pick them up and that would not happen.
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What happened to putting them in garbage bags and hiding them until they earned them back…? This is a little much.
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I mean. I told my step son to pick up his toys and he told me no. So they all got put in the dumpster
Why doesn’t your kid listen?
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Bet she picks them up next time tho lol
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I don’t agree with this method of “teaching” but it’s their place. Now you know they don’t have the same parenting philosophies so all you can do is step in for your daughter to keep toys tidy and mitigate any other rules they have. You’re going to have to buffer until you can get out of there.
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She’s 5 come on now if she didn’t listen put them in a bag and act like ur gonna trash them and just put them up for a while no need to throw the stuff away I’d be snapping
What’s the husband saying about all of this
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move out and replace the toys.
Really?? She’s. Only. Five,." I’d. Talk. To. Hubby. Tell. Him. to. talk to. them I. Would if. I. We’re. Them stow. Them. Instead ! She’s. Just a. Kid. How. They Be. So. Mean. ?I’d. Make. Them. Apologize. ,. &. Replace
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Rude and not necessary. Should have discussed it with you afterwards so that you were able to properly discipline and discuss clean up rules with toys/ or maybe keeping them in her room before they should have ever just threw them out in the pouring rain …
What kind of grandparents do that? I would have cleaned them up and put them where she couldn’t find them.
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Move out , keep them away from your children for ever,they are toxic
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They shouldn’t have been thrown in the rain but they should have been taken away, 
She should have been able to earn them back at some point. At least, that’s what we would have done.
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I’d take pictures for you to have of what they did and I’d get the heck away from all of them.
Move out of their or teach kid how to pick them up
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So many mean people out there. Help kids pick them up then put some away . So toys are more manageable
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Teaching a 5yr old consequence is one thing but being a straight up bully is another. Not just that but that’s throwing away things that they didn’t even pay for. Yes it’s their house but they have to show some patience-this a a 5yr old child who is still learning. You have to redirect kids & remind them. They are not little robots who will do as you say 24-7. All they did was show the kid that they’re bullies. They couldn’t try teaching a lesson of by losing toys or putting them? They just destroyed someone else’s things-that’s just hateful. Id move as soon as you can b/c something tells me they’re going to start bullying you & your husband soon.
Sad. But it is a lesson she has now learned. Next time she WILL do as she is asked. Sad, but true
So my dad used to do stuff like this when he was mad and break my toys and I have ptsd from his anger issues. I’d move
I personally think it’s wrong that your in-laws threw the toys in the pouring rain. Now I could understand if they had put your daughter’s toys in a garage bag or a tote and took them away for a bit until she learns to pick up after herself. I actually started teaching my daughter when she was 9 months old (yes I know it’s to young to teach her to pick up after herself) to pick up her toys when she was done with them. I would help her when she was little, but she grew up to pick her toys up after she is done playing with them and if she had the set amount of toys already out, she wouldn’t get any more until she picked up what she already had out. For example if we told her she can have x toys to play with and she wanted another one, she would be told to take care of 1 toy to get a different one out. There was never more than x amount toys out at a time.
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I think what they did was a bit drastic, but also where’s the ownership on the child. At 5, they 100% know how to pick up toys, esp when asked repeatedly as well. Use this as a learning opportunity for your child, to clean up her items.
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This is why I couldn’t live with other people. People expect perfection out of kids.
I can understand picking them up & allowing the child to earn them back with good behavior but to intentionally destroy her possessions is bully behavior & toxic.
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Why is it that when ppl disagree someone just has to creep a person’s page and want to bring a person’s job into things…crappy as many may be on all sides everyone is entitled to their views and opinions…personally being that spiteful makes u worse than the one with the twisted opinion…it makes u a childish petty person…im legitly curios about what goes thru the minds of those who do that.
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They are troubled and you need to remove yourself and child anyway possible.let the your Hubby explain
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Sorry, but they could have handled it so differently. You don’t ruin a child’s toys just because you are mad at them. They should have just been put up until she learns how to mind.
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There is no reason to maliciously break a 5 year olds toys. Yes, at 5 she is old enough to clean up but the punishment didn’t match the crime. Remove them for a while? Sure. Break them? There is just no reason to.
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Taken away… yes. In the rain no.
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Nope. You don’t get to destroy things you didn’t pay for because you want to pitch a fit. You have every right to be upset. I would be.
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That’s bullshit obviously they think mental
Abuse is better than just maybe giving her a little pop on the butt . Obviously they need to be without their grandchild since they can’t act no better than that ! That’s teaching your child they can act that way . Obviously the grandparents were taught it’s ok to act that way ! I’d take my kid and never let them see her again so she doesn’t grow up to think she can treat people that way cuz her grandparents act like that . I’d sue them for the toys
For a 5 yr old she should picked up her toys and put them away. I disagree with the way they dealt with the issue. I kinda have a feeling there is more to it and maybe fed up with some stuff. They’re not here to tell their side of the story
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Move out, when they come to visit ask them to put their coats, shoes, ect up and out of the way. When they do not do it, throw all of their items out in the rain. When they go to leave and ask where their items are tell them you asked them to put the up and they didn’t so they should check the lawn.
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Move and cut them off
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Well you can move and let the child do as they please. I have grandkids and if I tell them to get their toys up, they do it because they know if they don’t they are trash can bound!
The kid is 5 and still in the process of learning to become independent and responsible. But it is up to parents and grandparents to follow up behind the child until they have mastered the lesson. But kids can be forgetful because they are distracted with so many thoughts and actions to maintain their joyful experience. It should be expected and handled in a better way. This was an extremely toxic response, because they should have used a minor disciplinary measure to match the offense such as: time out, no dessert, less play time, earlier bed time, or an earlier nap time as a proper punishment. We would have to stay somewhere else but not before I told them off properly for wasting my hard earned money and traumatizing my child.
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move out shouldn’t be living with them anyways
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Best thing to do is get busy moving out. Then tell them you want reimbursement for the toys. Don’t let her go back.
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They might as well have lit them on fire in front of her. They were hurtful on purpose.
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Sorry for what they did. I would have a talk to them with your husband.
Tell them it’s not right what they did to your child’s stuff .
They could have told her let pick up the toys together instead of doing that. Is your husband sides with his parents on the situation you need to leave it a toxic situation. And all of that was very uncalled for. My daughter is 2 going on 3 and i teach her to pick up her toys and i help her out since she is still little. And at the age of 5 most kids are still getting used to cleaning up and need help
It’s time to start getting serious about moving out. Until then, arrange other childcare for when you aren’t there and make sure everything is up before you leave
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That is just plain mean.
This should have been handled differently. She’s only 5 years.
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Taken away yes. Thrown in the yard in the rain hell fucking no. See. The other day my 6 year old was throwing tantrums and tantrums about sharing with her almost 3 year old sister. And after she pushed my toddler off a chair my mom had had enough and told her if she wanted to keep acting that way she would get a trash bag and put all of her stuff in the shed. Ive taken toys away for her not cleaning them up. But never would ruin her toys regardless. Id be expecting them to replace them. Tell them how you agree that yes she was in the wrong and taking the toys away was fine
But to throw them in the rain and ruin them were exceptable
Tell your daughter that when someone ask her to pick up her toys to pick up her toys!!!
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Oh wow she’s only 5 years old! They should have just bagged the toys and left her with one or two toys for the week then given her toys back, teach her that they could break if left on the floor unattended and she wouldn’t have all these nice things to play with if they’re getting broken. Have to teach kids about responsibility and throwing them in the rain, destroying toys that they probably didn’t even pay for is not responsible at all that is just plain cruel! Kids at that age are still learning ffs… Have to make a game of it to teach them to clean up after themselves but you need to encourage them not just leave it to them to know to do it just because you asked 
I’m not sure where you live but is there any housing places that help families in need?
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Five years old is a little young to be doing that. I’ll admit that I do that, after asking my kids a million times to pick something up or put something away, but my kids are between the ages of 9-18 and fully comprehend and know better. At five years old, when the child doesn’t listen, you physically take them by the hand, walk them to the mess and stand there while they clean it up.
I would say, for now, make sure to keep all of her belongings in her room and get moving on finding your own place… even if it’s not what you’re really looking for, just to get out of there.
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She is 5. They should have been confiscated but not ruined. Easily this should have been a conversation between the grown up for you to have a conversation with her about listening when she is asked to do something.
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If they were willing to do that to toys they didn’t pay for because they were upset they were in the way just imagine what they’d do to her when you’re not around. I wouldn’t leave her alone with them period.
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My mother did the same thing to my siblings and me. We grew up fine but mostly learned to pick up after ourselves. We were ages 6, 5, 3, and 1. Hard lesson but it got our attention.
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I used to throw my kids toy’s in the garbage if they did not clean up after I told them to (when they were old enough to understand) I should add that I worked with them and taught them when they were little. I only had to do it once and they learned after that if I told them to clean up they did it. I continue to do this to this day and they are now 18, 15, 13, when I clean house if there is anything left on their floor in their rooms (my 18 yr old cleans her own room) it goes in the garbage. This is how they learn and it’s called discipline and life lessons. I guarantee your child will listen next time your in-laws tell her to clean up her mess.
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It’s hard but sometimes it’s best to choose your battles. It’s wrong. God saw. God will replenish.
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How adult of them to destroy someones personal property to prove a point and get their way. When my kids didn’t listen and pick up their things I would put them in a garbage bag and they would have to earn them back. Helped them learn responsibility.
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Well … not the rain , but I would simulate throwing them in the trash … what this boils down to is. … Their house their rules !
i wouldve snapped tf out on them!!!
that is so childish - they must be older thinking that a 5yr old can comprehend stuff like that
id be so petty towards them now and not bat an eye
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Move or teach your child responsibility 
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Move and don’t look back
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At 5 she is old enough to pick her toys up. Instead of throwing the toys out they should have put them up away for a week. You need to teach your daughter to do things she should do when told.
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Although it was rude because it ruined perfectly good items. There is a lesson to be learned here. And your daughter obviously needs to learn this very important lesson, to listen when asked to do something and to respect the things you have by not leaving them laying around.
The in laws should have never ruined the toys, their point would have still been made by taking the toys away and keeping them locked up for a few days or more to teach the same lesson.
This is very childish of them. If they were trying to teach her consequences they could have easily gathered the toys…like they obviously did to put them outside, and put them in a garbage bag away somewhere instead of them getting ruined. When my kids don’t listen to me this is what I do until they earn them back. I’d be setting boundaries and immediately looking for another place to stay. Why ruin what you and your spouse have spent hours working for to provide your child. This was so unnecessary.
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Move into your own place
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Have your husband talk to them and move you out
a house is not made for 2 families,i’d be finding something as quick as possibe,I can see both sides,your un-laws didn’t have the right to throw her toys out but then they told your 5 yr.old to pick them up more times than one she should have picked them up,I know they have more than room they could have moved the toys to another room !!
They could’ve put them in a box or bag til things were worked out. Personal destruction of the girl’s property was wrong
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Work hard to move out.
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You find it toxic your daughter is not to lazy to throw her toys everywhere possibly causing an elder to fall and get injured but it to lazy to pick them up after being asked to do so??? You are the problem not your in-laws.
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I mean it was extreme but maybe teach your child to listen 
5 is old enough to pick up after theirself
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Good for those grandparents! Kids need to respect the rules and when asked to clean up their toys they should do it!
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Since your in someone elses home YOUR daughter’s toys shouldn’t be anywhere but in her playbox, grandparents home or not, it is not your home. So teach your daughter to pick up her toys when she is done playing or they get thrown out, she does not have to be told constantly or has maids.
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Ground her from them, yes. But to throw them in the rain, absolutely not. Has your husband talked to them about it?
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Agree with most of the others. I have a 5 year old and when told to pick up, she does.
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That was a mean and ugly thing to do, there are a jillion other ways to teach a child to pick up her toys…Unfortunately you are at their mercy now so you will just have to suck it up and pray that you find your own place soon…
I find it cruel on the in-laws part. But you’re in their home. Their rules
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So are they also baby sitting too
That was too dramatic,a 5year old is still a child and can’t act like an adult… Work Hard and move out soon things might get ugly…
It was not necessary to ruin her toys. They could have put them in a box or bag and put them up. I agree your child needs to learn to listen and pick up her toys, but there are ways to teach her and things to do that are just plain cruel. She’s 5. Five year olds sometimes need to have their toys put up so they learn to pick them up when told. But not ruined. My son had a reindeer pillow that my grandmother made him from a pattern for Christmas. He left it laying on the family room floor. His father told him to pick it up. My son didn’t hear him, so he didn’t do it right away. My ex-husband picked up the reindeer pillow and threw it into the fireplace on top of the wood. There was a fire. My son screamed. I dove toward the fireplace and managed to grab the reindeer pillow before it caught fire. I turned on my ex and told him that our son didn’t hear him say to pick the pillow up. He was good about listening because I had been working with him on that. I gave the pillow back to my son. He clutched it like a lifeline and sobbed. He grabbed me around the legs. My daughter came to me as well and looked at her father with big eyes. He cussed and left the house. I knew we would have to leave soon. It wasn’t long.
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Taking the toys and not giving them back for an amount of time is the adult, mature thing to do. The grandparents throwing them out in the rain and ruining them is an immature, asshole thing to do…. Shame on them and shame on all the other idiots commenting that that’s the right thing to do !
Their being bullies n towards her and acting very childish 
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Personally I’d get the h€ll out ASAP !! I hope she’s not left in their care ! That was extreme & mentally abusive !! They could have easily put them in a box or something & grounded her from using them for a short period of time to learn that if she doesn’t take care of them & do what she was told that she loses the privilege of using them - she’s 5 !!! WTH ??? … Destroying her personal items/ toys was just plain mean !! I feel so bad for your little girl !! They sound extremely controlling & abusive !! Hug that little girl tight & let her know how much you wish that hadn’t happened … I’d tell the in-laws next time they feel she needs disciplined to consult you first on how you want things handled !! I’d be livid !!!
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I don’t agree with throwing them outside. She’s only 5 and they probably weren’t the ones who spent money on the items! They could’ve took them away, but throwing them out in the rain was overboard
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Move. You move. That’s it
You are living in their house and for some reason they’re watching her not you or your husband I would say their house their rules
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It there house your problem’ teach them well’ you live there’ there rules you think!
I see both sides for sure. She should have picked them up at 5 she would know better. Bet she picks them up next time.
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I am so sorry at people’s comments on here justifying the impulsiveness of throwing the toys out and getting ruined. That’s not ok at all. It may eat away at you but let it go and just try to respect what they ask at their home but definitely yes find a plan to move. Living with inlaws is a bad idea unless you guys are tight. I hope things look up for you.
I would make sure your daughter knows that while she certainly should have cleaned up her toys, the way they behaved by throwing her toys in the rain was very cruel and unreasonable and she has every right to be upset with them for it.
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Wow. Some of these people are insane. Yeah… She’s five. Doesn’t mean you just throw her stuff out and ruin it. They could’ve bagged it up and stuck it somewhere if anything. You can’t just ruin people’s belongings just because they don’t listen.
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Nothing. you live under their house rules.
What jerks. I hope you guys get outta there sooner than later. My boys don’t pick up their toys, I put them in a bag in my storage. 
That’s it. Not ruin them. You should talk to them about it, tell them that it was inappropriate of them to throw her toys out in the rain and that you expect them to buy new ones now. That’s messed up. My boys are 5,6&9
I would be livid. That was hard-earned money being thrown in the trash, and the Grandparents are basically punishing the parents and child for that. I would cut them off immediately, they are NOT the ones who enforce punishments, that is the Parents responsibility only.
You live under their roof she needs to learn to clean up after herself dont wait tillshes 16 and you need a shovel to find her bed too late then
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She should of picked up her mess. Maybe they could of put them in a tote and took them but you would of given them right back. It’s not toxic to show a kid that they have to be responsible for their belonging and follow directions.
They should have just confiscated them and given them to you and explained it’s winding them up not wasted your hard earned money.
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