I’m assuming this is your younger brother or sister in law that has been staying with you. Is it safe for the child to go back home? If they are just wanting a free sitter, then I would take the child back and drop them off. Now if, it isnt safe, then I would call CPS and file for custody so you can get the extra help.
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GUILT TRIPS still work on some people. Your Parents are your parents… Sure you want to help them out and taking care of a sibling… SAVES them MONEY. START CHARGING THEM ROOM BOARD AND CHILD CARE SERVICES. IF it was reversed I’m sure they would be loving the Grand babies… and then shipping them home ASAP too. LOVE mine but LOVE when they get to go back home too…
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Take their child to them. Involve the authorities if you have to
Actually I’m in a similar situation. My in-laws have custody of their other sons young child and they like to project the responsibilities of childcare and used to be parenting roll onto their other son, (my fiancé) and we have 3 children and one on the way. I will tell you first hand if they are like my in-laws then it’ll be a loose loose situation. They get mad when he won’t watch her and throw all kinds of stuff in his face. It is the only reason we argue within our relationship is because of his parents. Its really a hard situation. It is simply not our responsibility just as its not yours. Good luck.
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Are they living with you too or just the kid? If they are all there, tell them to move out. If not, return the kid to the parents.
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Set a firm date (boundaries) and let them know that you are returning said child (if it is safe) AND that if they refuse to come get their child, it’s abandonment and you can report it to CPS. File for custody and have them PAY you support their child. No free sitters… I’d be annoyed- don’t have the child and expect others to take care of them!
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Request to claim younger child on taxes— the problem will resolve
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Stop taking favors doing favors
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WOW kinda surprised at those saying call CPS, that WILL hurt the child… maybe the kid wants to be with them and the the parents just use that as a reason… granted you do need to stand up to your inlaws
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This story needs way more elaboration. What have they done for you? Why did they drop the kid off? Is it their child? If so, that would be your brother or sister in law then wouldn’t it? Also, how does your husband feel? It just makes no sense.
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As long as the child is not in danger or uncomfortable with your in laws. I’d just shoot them a text saying “are you home?” If they say yes go drop off the child
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First, that is neglect and abandonment if the child is your in laws and they refuse to come get them. You are not responsible for their child.
Put your foot down and make it clear they either step up as patents or you’ll be forced to take legal recourse. (Ie: file for custody, child support, and cost of child care)
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Poor child is in the middle…sounds like nobody wants him/her. What is best for the child?
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Their kid Their responsibility to raise them not yours…Say we Love yall but we need our space…& drop kid off with its stuff & leave( dont take no excuses) Just set Firm Boundaries give them a Schedule or days they can come over…If you dont it will get worse.
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Move out of their house. 
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So many questions here, but all I can think about is… I hope this child isn’t hearing any of this. Imagine that child feeling unwanted with everyone in their life.
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Send kid home involve authorito charge room board child care etc
More info…what do they do for u, do they pay for the child,pay ur bills, come over???
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Do you all live in the same house? If not and they are deliberately neglecting the child (age) then let them know you have no other option except to turn it over to the right authorities.
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Do what is best for the child, if the do not want the child y’all need to be given full custody.
Just drop the child back to his parents and then go away for a week that way the parents can take responsibility of their child
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Their kid their responsibility. Honestly I would let them know that next time that I call and they don’t pick up their kid within the hour that I called them that my next call will be CPS for abandoning their child.
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Tell them to come and get there child as you are not his parents and give them a ultimatum, if they won’t get there child you will call child services…
there child is not your responsibility, he/she is there’s, if they get angry let them,they can’t dump their child on you because they don’t feel like parenting
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Call child services and file for custody since they abandoned the poor kiddo
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I don’t understand if you live with them or they dropped them child off?
You live there?
If that’s the case, you are in their space and the solution is to move.
If they’ve dropped the kid off and aren’t coming to get the poor kid, think of the kid. What’s the best next step for them? They are the only ones in this without a voice, be that voice. No it’s not fair but it is what it is.
At the end of the day it is up to your husband to address this with his parents. Time to sit down and do that.
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Tell more or you won’t get good advice
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Drive over there and drop the child off period dony call ahead don’t ask pull up and ring the bell and say here then leave and don’t say a word
The only person in this situation that is getting screwed is that kid. I know wanting your space seems important. But this is your spouses sibling. Obviously the parents don’t want the child but you could care less as long you they aren’t your problem. Send me the child I am okay with a 7th kid. We will show the child live and that he or she is wanted.
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Don’t answer the door don’t be available
- They never said this was a sibling. Could be a niece/nephew.
- Stop acting like it’s the OP trying to abandon their child. They didn’t have this child, and more then likely didn’t ask for this child, therefore this child is not their responsibility. It’s not selfish for the OP to want the parents to pick up their child, regardless of how much someone has done for them. They are not the in-laws door mat, and a relation to someone does not mean that they have to do anything they don’t want to do. And it’s not up to just the husband to say anything. If OP isn’t allowed to voice opinions over something that directly affects them, then they need to leave. I said what I said🤷
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Just say NO!!! They are using you and this poor child who they obviously don’t want. Shameful!
Call the authorities!
call it in for abandonment
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Send the child to me, so I can give the child love and attention. Clearly, you aren’t ready to be a mom or even what this child needs, and that’s perfectly okay. But it’s also not fair. I’m willing to bet the child didn’t ask to be dumped onto you either. If it’s too stressful, you need to call the authorities and explain the situation to them. You won’t be a bad person, but this child needs to go to a family who would provide love and show the child that he/she is actually wanted.
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If you live in the same house then there isnt many options except find your own place.
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I’m sorry I’m sure its tough and I may be seeing it differently but if it were me I’d keep the child why make him or her go somewhere clearly they unwanted or neglected. Ask for help from them but don’t send the child back
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Are you living with your in-laws? If so, move out or stop complaining about the child being there! If they are letting you stay there, the least you can do is be a good houseguest.
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I’m thinking how the child must feel. Not being wanted is terrible even if they aren’t showing any signs they know what’s going on. You can’t force them to want what you do. You need counseling from someone knowledgeable.
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We are only hearing one side of the story. Get professional counseling instead of Facebook opinions. Social media is a poor place to resolve family disputes.
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Is there any reason why you can’t take the child home? (I too question that untold part re why he’s with you…) I guess if you’re willing to keep him sometimes, tell them you are bringing him home for two weeks, and then will pick him up for a week ~ or whatever rotation works for you. This way you’re creating the respect and space you want. You can’t wish or demand respect into being, you have to behave in such way that it isn’t an option.
I don’t think gratitude means you get to raise someone else’s child ~ unless that’s part of what was left unsaid somehow…
Or find other options for space ~ babysitter for a weekend away, or dinner, etc.
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Tell your parents that by a certain date, if they haven’t gotten said child, you will be returning the child to their home. Tell them you appreciate all they have done for you but that as a couple you need to have more privacy and independence from them to build your own life together. Tell them you don’t want to move away but this may be our option if they don’t respect your wishes.
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I would tell my husband he needs to deal with his parents. How old is this child that’s at your house ? Take this child to their home and drop them off. If your husband agrees. If not let your husband know he’s responsible for taking care of the child. His views might change.
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Your Husband NEEDS to stand with you, Both of you stand in agreement, hoping he feels same way, Call the Folks and let them know y’all wanna discuss this situation, you and Hubby Explain the BOUNDARY’S !
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Tell them you are filling for custody and child support and if that doesn’t work tell them you will call CPS and turn them in for abandonment. Sounds like you need to play hard ball
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Why is the child with you in the first place? Is the child not safe at home? If something is going on at the child’s house then it’s better for the child to be with you. Get guardianship and then you wont have to deal with the in laws.
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Be the hero here and file for guardianship and child support from them. Raise this child to know someone cares for him/her. Depending on how old, ask a friend if they can stay with them while you and your husband go to dinner. Get the child signed up for local camps, ymca or boys and girls club until school starts.
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Basically you’re saying your in laws have abandoned a young child and left him to be cared for by relatives.
DFACS will be very interested to know this info.
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So they have there child living with you and refuse to take them back call child protective services that’s not your prob
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You have a sit down with them. Be honest, be polite, be firm. All they did for you? Was that done out of love or because they expected a big return? Make expectations known on both sides. And ask outright are you helping us because you’re our parents and love us or are you expecting us to do…? Cards on the table. You’re not ungrateful but don’t be guilted or manipulated into doing something you don’t want to. Having said that, if you are letting them pay your rent and ECT then, yeah you owe them.
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Take child and his belongings and drop at their door. He is their responsibility!
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Take the child in and file for support, this child needs stability.
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Take back control of your life and set firm boundaries. It is time they lived you back and demand respect.
You can’t advise with out knowing the full details, I hope the child doesn’t relies their being left and it’s not wanted where it is . My advice is to make sure the child feels loved , I would like to know why they have left the child with you?
If you have the child/children ask for child support might wake your in laws up
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Is the child safe with the parents.if they are send them home and tell your husband to stand up to them. If the child is not safe go and get guardian ship of the child. How sad for the child either way not getting the same support from the parents as the other kid’s. I have grown children and have a teenager. Under no circumstances would I expect my older children to take my youngest.
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Maybe it could be people are struggling and makes it hard to deal with stress in situations, where they might be in predicament just like others could be do to financially reason, Plus pandemic or others reasons. Living arrangements, what ever that maybe.
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How hard to take care of child?if your willing get guardianship papers and love the child seems someone should that way you don’t have to be at there becking call
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What a tragic situation. Please have a little compassion, nothing is worse than being unwanted. A child can be a great blessing and a joy. Shame!
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How can you love someone who has no respect for you and treats you like trash. Pack up the kid and kindly and respectfully take them back where they belong. Please have some respect for yourself and your marriage
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How SAD for their CHILD !
I would do what the other commenter suggests, call Childrens Services, so they can investigate these parents, something is WRONG 
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Don’t call CPS or leave him at a place where he’s not wanted. Ask for guardianship papers and love him like your own. Know one wants to be a wanted.
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We teach people how to treat us…
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What they do/or have done for you has nothing to do with their irresponsible behaviour. Especially if they do things for you without you asking for it. I had a friend who did that to me a lot, then put on a guilt trip for me to do things for her. The way I see it, if somebody does something for you because you asked , it’s only right to do something for them in return. But if they do things for you without you asking and expect you to do things for them, then that’s a control thing. Needless to say she and I are not friends anymore. Yes you love them but, sounds like they need some tough love!
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How old is thes child. And why does the parents
Wont there sun an darter in law to take cair of the child. The hold truth is not being told here. And what does the child say about every thing. I thank that all needs to have a family meatting
To talk thaings over and do what is beast for the child.
How young is the child? How did you get the child in the first place?
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Take their child to their house ring the doorbell and when they open the door leave
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You have to set boundaries, and make them respect them. Whatever they’re doing or have done for you, doesn’t seem to be done out of love but obligation. Stop relying on them. It seems as though this younger child is some how a burden to them and now they’ve passed their responsibility on to you. Unless, you force them to take the child back, they won’t. Stop feeling intimidated by them by their verbal assaults. Stop asking them to take their child back and give them their child back.
#HerSay
What if… Hear my out… The husband had a child before he met his wife and was scared to let his wife know so he told the parents to get custody and be the parents and now that hes settled down with wife (who maybe isnt ready for a child) has a house and can finally take care of his child the parents are finally trying to make him be the responsible dad he should be and theyre not gonna tell the wife because its the husbands job to tell his wife the truth… Lol
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It doesn’t make sense to answer a statement that is poorly constructed. Rewrite the question so it just makes sense. There are no bad guys until I can understand the problem.
Who ever parents it is needs to sit down and talk to them. First off thank them for all that they do. Then hit with them with y’all need some breathing room. And you are adults now.
Well age plays factor as well how old is this kid and is it kid not wanting to go home or them just absolutely not wanting to be parents? Idk how you would handle it but I’d feel bad because regardless the child is gonna have hurt feelings but I’d have a adult dinner with his parents and just say listen this isn’t our child and they been their long enough your not going to guilt trip me into raising your child and it’s sad as parents to neglect a child so…now the child will be there Monday and if you deny them that’s fine we will arrange courtship to where we take on custody of the child don’t let people guilt trip and use you ! I get you care for the kid but you also can’t be taken advantage of and if they don’t want the parental rights then take the child from them legally it’s neglect any way you see it
I need to hear more how old is the child how old are the parents why did you start keeping him in the first place their child their responsibility if there good parents to him tell them if you are going to have to keep him you need a set amount of money a month if you owe them money tell them an amount of money you will take from what you owe them each month not enough information to give an option or just say No we are not raising him
Say come get child , then turn in to CPS for abandonment…gotta stay firm with it
How old is the child? Why are they bringing him to you? Do they mistreat the child when he is at their house? Did they drop you husband at someone s house when he was younger? So much we don’t know to offer advice
You do not state how young the child is, but the parents are responsible for raising their child, not your husband and you.
Move there child back with them, if and adult get a job
Do you live with your in laws. If so move out.
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I can’t tell if they are living in your house or yours but one thing is clear that they don’t want you to have another one ! for your relationship to work something’s are going to have to change to many grown folks in one house is not good.
You could tell Child protective services to care for the child.
There is not enough information …are the parents both working full time and need someone to watch the child . How are you both managing child care or you don’t work and they assume you are available to help , but obviously that does not excuse them leaving him with you constantly .
Consider it a blessing that the child wants to spend time with you. You may be the only ones who show him love.
This story sounds a little bit strange…do you live with them ? Are you always babysitting for them?..it just don’t make sense
Who’s child is it? She doesn’t refer to the child as theirs or a sibling to her husband…
Why isn’t your husband dealing with his parents and his sibling?
That’s your husband’s sibling. Tell him to be a man and step up to the plate and take his siblings back to his parents house.
Who’s child is it? Is it your husband’s sibling?
Well if the kid is in your house and you aren’t living with the in laws then send the kid back. It’s not your job to raise the kid. They are using you and you are allowing it. Take the kid home. Not your kid not your responsibility. You have a right to your life. It’s not that hard.
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I don’t know, but the poor kid, unwanted by all…
Call children’s services. Report the parents.
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I’m confused 
they live with you and they have a small child
DrrrrOoop that kiD off!!
Have the in laws on the phone (so you know they’re home) while you heading over to their place. Bingo BaNgO yoU hOme lil buddY We LOVE YOU TALK YO YOU SOON … 
Nah… I’d tell them to come get their kid. They chose to have it they need to raise it.
Sounds like there may be "more " to this Story? Why is “their child” living with you guys and would it not be their Son who would be talking to them about this? This just "feels ", like other things going on here.
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Lock doors and do not answer phone or doors.
More info needed. Remember in laws are important.
make your own rules.
Tell them you love them however this mess is over give them the kid and leave it alone
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This question gives basically NO information on the circumstances.
Take their child back to them, are call CPS & let them know they abandoned an unwanted child of theirs.
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