Sad. She would never be with my child alone again
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Dont let your babba go. My home my rules your home your rules simple
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Only let her have him during the day if she respects your rules. I would not let my child go and cry himself to sleep, water is ok sometimes but making sure he’s getting formula is important. Definitely no juice.
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Imo if you expect her to watch your child then that includes her ways not yours. If you have rules then you watch your own kid 
she obviously has done this parenting prior and obviously did a decent job if you are married to her son so I would say she is fine.
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Water and juice are fine for an 8 month old and letting a child learn how to self soothe isn’t a bad thing either.
I guess if you’re not ok with her taking him to stores then you need to keep him at home.
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If you don’t like the way she cares for him don’t have him go. It’s that simple. Yes it’s your child but it’s her house.
Plain and simple.
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No you are not over reacting he’s just telling youvto forget it because he doesnt want to get involved
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Well why not keep your son at home till the covid passes , all problems solved.
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I’m sorry but water and juice is actually fine. Watered down juice better. WIC (woman and infant children) start giving juice when they start rice cereal. Also they recommend water to help with constipation. The cry it out method isn’t for everyone but she might feel that he needs to cry it out a little before she goes in. Children need to learn to self sooth. But in the end if you feel that she is absolutely no good around your child then you need to do you and end the visitations.
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It’s your kiddo. You make the rules. If she can’t follow them then maybe it’s time to start restricting her time with your baby until she learns to respect your rules with your baby.
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My mom doesn’t get my daughter anymore because she was giving my 10 month old coke. 
She’s not allowed to have my child until my child’s a certain age. She can visit. But she’s not getting her. I don’t give a shit if she’s the grandmother.
My child’s not going if they can’t respect my rules
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Nothing she is doing is going to harm the child. If your uncomfortable with your child out during covid than child should stay home til its over. Theyre are plenty of parents out there that dont get the grandparents to get the kids for even an hour or two a year.
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I feel like you’re being very nice by even letting her take your babe still! I would never if they didn’t ask me if I was okay with something or ignored my wishes! Babe is still very young, what you say goes, period. While juice IS fine, it is not necessary and it isn’t okay for her to give her it if you already expressed that you don’t want her to. Boundaries and communication need to be set & unfortunately your husband needs to be the one to step up and talk with her about following your rules.
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She didn’t say she needs her to watch her son. She said the grandmother takes him just to hang out just to make that clear to a bunch of you. That whole her house, her rules??? It’s not like the grandmother is saying no running in the house and the mother doesn’t agree. If she doesn’t want someone giving HER child a certain food or drink, they should be respectful. I don’t know her reasoning behind water but as for juice, not everyone wants to fill their kids up with sugar. The crying it out method, some agree with it and some don’t. I think it’s okay as long as you’re not letting them cry and cry for hours but again the mother may have a different method.
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Keep Your child home on the weekends. Problem solved.
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If there isn’t something your worried about I’d thank my lucky stars I had a MIL that took the baby every weekend. The one I would insist on is the taking baby out in public. I’d stop that asap or not send him. That’s a health issue. Can’t make allowances there.
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The cry to sleep would have happened once, and . she would never mind him again in my view.
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If she doesn’t respect your rules/boundaries/parenting, then she doesn’t need to babysit. You can be there too.
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Crying himself to sleep, fine. Water and juice, also fine. Going out a little bit, fine too. Sounds petty to trip on someone who’s helping you out so much.
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My mother in law used to do the same type of things. We would show up earlier than expected and find her holding him in one arm and smoking a cigarette with the other or I’d run by on my break and find tea in his bottle at just a few months old. My final straw was we had a cold snap and she wanted to take him to a little carnival and we said no because it was too cold and he had been sick the week prior. I showed up to pick him up and no one was there and we couldn’t get ahold of them for hours and had no idea where they were. She took him anyway after we said no Her visits stopped real quick. She never watched him again after that day and we have no relationship what so ever now
You should count your blessings fb she even takes him on the weekend I can’t even get someone to watch my children over night. Self sooth is fine and juice and water is good for a 18 month old the dr will even to tell you need to get him on some. If you don’t want her watching him then keep him. It’s different if she giving him candy and keeping him on a bottle and baby him. You are being over dramatic and should listen to your husband. You she be thankful she takes him every weekend and you get that break.
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You’re way or the highway girl. Weve never let our baby CIO and we didnt allow juice or regular food feedings until after 1 year old. That’s your baby and your choices.
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I used to think my MIL should follow my rules.
Until I realized if they are safe, loved and having fun… Let them enjoy Grandma and you enjoy the break 
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Then take care of him yourself. You can’t expect that everything you do or dont do will be the same in both places. Okay, you dont like her giving him juice. If he is over 4 months, it isnt a bad thing. You dont want her giving him water? That’s strange. Water is good for him. As long as he is happy, fed and full, what exactly is the issue. And who would she leave him with when she runs errands? You only said her. If there is nobody else, are you expecting her to not go do things she needs to do? I’m lost. But… watch him yourself in that case.
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if you don’t like what she is doing, then don’t bring him over. End of story. My grandson when taken a nap, would ry continuously, unless I held him the whole time, I asked his mother how does he sleep at home, She says he cries she holds him & lets him sleep with her. I told her, that’s fine, but once he starts to fall asleep she should put him to bed, Once she did this, he was fine.
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How dare her letting a child cry themselves to sleep it would be the last time she’d take the baby irrisponsible
Whether or not your rules are silly. (Not saying by any means that they are.). But you are literally setting the ground work for all future visits. If she can’t respect these rules she won’t respect the next phase rules and so on. She will literally dismiss every parental rule you have that she doesn’t deem important. By ignoring it and continuing to let him go without at least a verbal warning is just showing her she can get by with it. So it is up to you how you want to spend the next 18 years. Being taken seriously because it’s YOUR child or dismissed and disrespected.
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I think she is over stepping boundaries and you should sit down and discuss your concerns. I myself would feel very disrespected and quickly put my mother or MIL in check. Maybe have her come to your house until she can follow your parenting rules
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Nope. He wouldn’t be there without me again.
No we aren’t allowed to have feelings.
In my opinion if she can on respect what u have to say or the rules u set then she doesn’t need to watch ur little 1. I don’t let none of those things happen bc I find it to have a negative effect on babies. Also ur husband should b more supportive on how ur feeling about the situation
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I would be beyond pissed at letting him cry it out. And probably upset about not following what i would like my kid to have an not. Juice wont hurt him right now, but honestly isnt needed either, and what you say goes. I would not leave her a car seat when she had him, so she can hangout with him at home.if she had things to do go get him. I wouldn’t let him go with her alone anymore if she doesn’t listen to you. She is a grandmother, but you are mom and make/ reinforce the rules. It sounds like you’re boyfriend just doesn’t want to deal with it, and he needs to support you
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YOU are the mother of that child and YOU set the rules. By asking her not to do stuff that’s the polite way but if she doesn’t listen then she can’t take your child away. She can come to tour house and spend time at yours. Simple. If your husband got an issue with it then he can talk to his mother. Simple. I didn’t like when members of our family didn’t listen and did the opposite of what we were asking and I made sure they are aware of that…whether they like it or not I am the mother, we set the rules with the father and if someone doesn’t like it then tough shit…
Personally, I don’t think anything the MIL is doing is putting the child in any danger. Crying it out, watered down juice, both normal for children at that age. However, whether or not she is harming the child she is disrespecting your wishes as a mother, and that is NOT OK. Have you tried explaining to her that while u know she means no harm you have reasons for the decisions you make in raising YOUR child?
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Play and hangout at 8 months old? She gets him more than some fathers get to see their kids. Her house, she’ll do as she pleases. I would let her take him for only a few hours if u didnt feel comfortable with how she takes care of him.
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Well I run by my house my rules. When kids are at grandparents there house their rules. I trust my parents and my in laws 100% with my kids, they both raised kids. I don’t judge how they do things and they don’t judge how I do things. You can pull the my kid my rule thing and be mad but don’t cry when she dosent take your child(s) anymore and you don’t get a break.
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Can’t have the cake and eat it too. You want your weekend free but don’t like how grandma parent. You do have a choice to keep your child at home and away from someone that it appears truly loves the child. If she’s not abusing the baby let it go she knows what she’s doing. Don’t burn a bridge you might need to cross back over dear.
Take care of your your baby yourself. The weekend is a long time for an 8 month old to be separated from his mother. Is this out of necessity, or are you using her for free child care so you can have your weekends free?
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She can come see baby at your house
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Oh no. He’s too young to be having juice and filling up on water. He doesn’t need all that sugar. I agree with not traveling and exposing him during a pandemic. Is he in a safe place when left alone? It’s ok if he’s in his crib being out down for a nap. Certain things you’ll have to let go but when it comes to her health and safety that’s where the line needs to be drawn and you need the support of your husband to back you up.
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Your baby your rules don’t let her have him
Then don’t let grandma have the baby !
My kid wouldn’t be at grandmas anymore until she respects me 
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Why does your son go there every weekend? Why cant you care for your own son?
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She needs to follow your rules or won’t have him again. I would lose it. You are nowhere near wrong for being upset. You need to address it.
Then watch your own kid. She apparently knows how to raise a child. If you don’t like the way she does it watch the baby yourself and just let her come and visit or you bring the baby over to her for a day to visit.
She wouldn’t be keeping my child anymore!!! Screw that!!! That’s a total slap in your face not only by her but your husband also since he seems like he’s siding with his momma!!
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Don’t let him go over…
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Why are you still letting her take him? He’s too little he needs you or someone more responsible. I’m a mother of two. There is ALWAYS an alternative. We may not like it but it’s there.
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Shes doing what worked for her. If u dont like it…dont let her have him so often. I’m sorry but I’d be so happy if someone took my kid that I would let her do her thing and I’d do mine x
U cant really complain. It is completely normal and we all do things different. What we do at mums we dont do at nan’s and auntie has other rules…kids adapt
I agree with others. Son wouldn’t be at grandmas until she respects your decision and your rules…
We are going thru the same thing with my bf mom!
We have asked her multiple times not to hold my son the WHOLE time he is with her(she watches him while we are both at work) and when he falls asleep to lay him down well she does neither. He is a year old and wants to play but she just holds him and makes him sleep for like 4 hrs while holding him the entire time (he doesn’t take naps for anyone but her)
We have asked her not to drive with him because she’s constantly on her phone while driving and by that I mean texting and SCROLLING on Facebook. And she still doesn’t listen. So she no longer watches our child…it has since caused problems with my relationship and I can not get along with my MIL because she continues to talk bad on me and doesn’t listen to me. So we do not talk and she hasn’t watched my son in about 3 months. She might see him for a 3 hrs every week if that honestly. It comes down to you and your family. Take care of your son and do what you got to do.
Then stop letting her take him.
Y’all always tripping…
Your kid, your rules!!
So dont let her take him simple…
Why is everyone being so rude she asked for advice for judgement where is an admin on this.
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What do you do if you’re alone with kids and have to go to the store? Leave them home alone? Btw, your feelings aint valid as long as you keep sending your kid to this “horrible” place🤦♀️ This shoulda stopped the 1st time she broke your rules.
Your not wrong for your feelings at all your child your rules let her know that untill she can respect them she doesn’t need to take your son he doesn’t need to be "crying it out " that young and shouldn’t be going out that much with this pandemic if that’s what you have asked of her
I would stop taking my kid over there if I didn’t agree with how my MIL treated him. I don’t expect anyone to change, but I can change how I feel. You are well within your rights as a mother to want to set your rules for your son. If you’re husband isn’t onboard then get him onboard or you’ve got far bigger problems than your MIL. I think as moms we assume that family is best to watch our kids and it’s so convenient, but it comes with a price. Go with your gut and what makes you comfortable.
Just keep your kid on the weekend. Take him for visits, the kid doesn’t need to sleep over.
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Easy FIX ! Take care of your own child EVERY DAMN WEEKEND 
She wouldn’t be keeping my son. My MIL has yet to watch my son (just turned 2) for any amount of time without me being there, because she doesn’t follow our rules or respect our decisions as parents.
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She has two options. She can follow your rules and see your son. Or she can not follow your rules and not see your son. 
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Stop letting her take him.
Well you want it all your own way dont you? Your own free time and dictating what she can and cant do when she loves her grandchild and has him for you. If you dislike it so much, be a mother and mother your own child.
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Question… WHY WOULD YOU STILL LET HIM GO WITH HER!? Is it really that difficult to have your kid on the weekend? My parents take my 6 year old and 1 year old maybe once every 6 months if that.
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That woman would never keep my child again.
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That’s easy, no more hanging out!!! It may suck that you don’t get free time but if it really bothers you and she won’t stop than control what you can… she can’t take him anymore.
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Don’t like it . Don’t let her take him every single weekend. That’s a bit extreme every weekend
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I am babysitting a 7mnth old baby who has now been on water an juice for a month now. With the heat there is nothing wrong with giving watered down juice…
Lmao, keep ur child at home!!!
Why anyone esspecially a grandmother would allow a baby to cry themselves to sleep in a room alone is beyond me. I’d be absolutely ropeable.
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I don’t typically comment but y’all are ridiculous. She had every right to be annoyed that her MIL isnt following her rules! While obviously when with grandparents certain things slide because hello grandparents BUT theres no reason for her to be bringing an 8 month old out during a pandemic and also theres no need for an 8 month old to have Juice. The CIO thing is personal, i dont do it much, but if my mom did when she had my son (20 months now) i wouldn’t be too mad, but the other 2 thing FOH! Id have a serious discussion and tell her she dont need to have him if she cant follow simple REASONABLE rules! Good luck girl!
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nope that’s your baby and she’s not following the rules. don’t let him go with her anymore until she can respect you and your rules for your baby.
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I would never let my son go with someone that lets him cry it out. That breaks my heart 
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If the MIL is a babysitter, than adapt to her way, or don’t send your child there, cause I wouldn’t want to help you if you always laying the rules as if I’m a child
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Please remember that some being harsh, will let their parents do whatever they want with their kids, they don’t even ask, cause it’s a free sitter.
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Don’t send him there for sleepovers then if she has him EVERY weekend I would say that’s practically a part time parent so yeah I can kinda see why she has been doing her own thing with him dont like it dont send him and look after your own kid problem solved.
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I would not tolerate that
Grandparents need consequences too!
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My kiddo wouldn’t go then
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You kid your rules straight up.
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Keep him home and let her visit
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If someone couldnt follow my rules i would not be letting them mind my child dont send him back until she understands you are the parent. Good luck!
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Your child. Your rules, period!! End of story. Don’t like what she’s doing? Don’t let him go.
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No at eight month your baby needs rest and a somewhat peace and quiet environment. I have a problem with juice however nursery water in small amounts I think will be o.k… I hope diaper changes are being done before a rash appears… I’m a grammie or meme😁 of four.9,6,3,2. Watching one at 8 months properly was time consuming I really didn’t feel like going outside except my yard
So I thing I would be looking for another form of child care. If in you home a nanny can🤔 No I’m not over protective however the times are changing and I’m not going to trust full. It seems like grammie needs time for herself if she travels all over. Good Luck
Its not recommended for a baby less than 1 yr to have anything but formula/ breastmilk for liquids. Cry it out in my opinion is an absolute last resort to get them to sleep. And i too would avoid public. She should respect your parenting decisions, simple as that.
Just stop sending him. I know I’m super picky about what my kids can and can’t do so they don’t go over to anyone’s house without me
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People who can’t follow your rules for your child, don’t get to be around your child unsupervised
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Don’t allow her to take your child, plain n simple
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These comments are over the top. It’s really quite simple. IMO, honesty is the best policy. Tell her how you are feeling. Give her the opportunity to fix the issue. Don’t threaten or be rude. Just talk openly. If these are really things you are not willing to bend on and she is not willing to change then you need to discuss with your husband how to have her enjoy your child in another setting
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I would keep him home
No you’re not wrong. You need to stop letting her take him until she can listen to you and respect you as the mother. If you don’t stand up to her now it will continue and become a bigger problem. It’s your child. Stand up for him because nobody else will!
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I find it very disrespectful for anyone to completely ignore specific directives you give about what to do or not to do with your kids.
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I would stop letting her take him …cant follow my rules with my child he can’t go there… tell her she can come visit instead
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You’re not wrong. You’re the Mommy. Just say no more visits until she can follow the rules
It doesn’t matter if she grandma , aunt, sister … whoever. What mom says goes . Period!!!
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Don’t let him go with her anymore but also, don’t ask her to babysit when you need her to.
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