Stand your ground. They are your kids. And your happiness matters! They have every other stinking holiday.
You’re doing good momma! Stand your ground and what you believe in.
My kids are are 6 and 3 my six year old told me last year she hates going from house to house because they can’t ever play.
Have it at home with your kids
I agree with you and If I was you I’d say too bad soo sad I’m doing what I want .hubby you wanna go that’s fine just have my kiddos back by a certain time cuz the rest the day gonna be spent at home with me .but you could also ask the kids what they wanna do ,stay home or run around like crazy to see e everyone .I’m soo glad my side of the family does Christmas usually the weekend before Christmas and my in laws do it on Christmas eve so we always get to stay home on Christmas
Say. " sorry we go to Church on Christmas"
Well on those days that I don’t want to go I’m sick and can’t do anything 
so we stay home
Pray about it. God will reveal His plan. Trust him.
Before Christmas is other family… On Christmas just you and your kids and spouse… Period… Whoever has a problem can get the hell over it. Seriously people. I love family time with my other family ofcourse that’s why we do that beforehand. Come Christmas morning it is myself my husband and our kids. Immediate family time. There comes a time when it’s about you and yours first not yours and everybody else
Invite all of them to YOUR house! Problem solved. Can’t believe neither of them thought of this!
Or do Christmas Eve with them and christmas at home just you your husband and children
My husband and I have never allowed anyone at our home until after 1 morning time is ours
so if your husband agreed to it and then suddenly threw you under the bus, you need to address that. Tell him you thought you two were on the same page and why he felt it was acceptable to throw you under the bus when both of you agreed to this. Then also tell him and if he never really truly felt that way in the first place, maybe strike a compromise. One year, stay-at-home, the next year go see other people. Just a thought.
Stay home and enjoy as you want!!
Stand your ground but maybe you can have them over to your place. My husbands family and my family are all going to gather at the same place so our kids don’t have to be drug every where
There is always Christmas Eve, and the day after Christmas. Why does everyone get so hung up on having to be with people on the 25th? People are selfish. I wouldn’t be driving around everywhere on Christmas Day with little ones…
Stay home with children, period! Hubby can visit folks
Argument maybe, stick to your decision. Will be thinking of you.
Uh, no. Once I became a mother, we do one family the day before Christmas and one family the day after. Christmas day is just for us. Period.
Stand your ground. You don’t have to do anything you don’t feel right for your kids. If they live in the same town they can come visit your home and let your kids relax and enjoy their Christmas.
They should come to your house!
Once we had kids my husband said to all parents, if you want to see us on Christmas come to our house but bring food because we aren’t cooking for everyone. If you don’t get along with someone, stay home.
We stay home with our children on the holidays too and I would not change it. My inlaws through a shit fit too oh well. They stayed home with their children on Christmas. I want to do the same thing with my babies. Its about our family and us making traditions with our babies.
Have them pick a holiday that they wont get upset about. You want one holiday to stay home and not do the family hustle. Families are hard and complicated. If you dont want to bother them or upset them or your hubby, tell them you want one holiday and let them pick which one. Is Christmas the holiday you want to divorce over? Nothing will break a family faster than in-laws. Figure out if your stay home holiday just has to be Christmas, or if it can be a different one. If it can be a different one, let them pick it. If you have to draw a line in the sand, then draw it. You can’t erase it once its drawn. Although, if he is lying to his parents about you being the bad guy, without permission from you to do that, you need to talk to him. That is going to be a problem, if not now, then later. (Although, my hubby and i have a system. If its my family, he gets thrown under the bus. If its his, i go under. Our inlaws do not want to alienate us, cause grandkids.)
We have 6 children and spend Christmas eve and day at home with our kids period. Other days after can be done with family for a few hours or they can come to us. Now my husband and I agree on this though. But there are lots of things we differ on, usually we go out to coffee and seriously talk and openly share why its important to us etc and often we do what makes him feel better regarding the kids because he works so much he doesnt get to spend a lot of time with them. Open honest non critical communication is always good. 6 kids and 10 years later that communication is our biggest priority
Invite them over Christmas day or do your thing with both sides Christmas eve and I would tell my husband that’s the way it’s going to be or he can go by himself I do t think he would do it but once
Stay home. Let then come to you. Done deal.
Agree with you !! We stopped the traveling and if grandparents want to come to our home they are gladly welcome but we do not hold the kids up on opening gifts be it 6am or 8am grandparents here or not …
Invite both families to your home
You and your husband had already agreed to do this. Stay the course and perhaps visit the grandparents xmas eve or invite them for xmas day after you and your husband and children have xmas morning together. I remember as a child seeing my grandparents for xmas dinner. Xmas morning was reserved for us kids and our parents. Hopefully a compromise can be figured out. As far as hubby throwing you under the bus…been there… your hubby is afraid to stand up to his folks. Regardless enjoy Christmas with your children and husband. Everyone else will need to respect your wishes and try an alternative. Good luck. 
I totally understand the feelings all around. What I don’t understand is the trying to make someone feel bad because they want to relax and enjoy their own family. That’s just mean-spirited. People don’t get how much work it is to pack up your family and little ones and “hang” over at someone else’s house. I say either make your rounds and keep it to like 1-3 hrs there or just invite everyone to your house. Dont make it even more stressful for yourself. That’s not what the day is about. As far as your husband throwing you under the bus - that’s a whole other discussion.
Valentine’s Day is for you and your spouse. Halloween is for the kids. The 4th is for everyone. Thanksgiving is for in-laws,family and friends. Christmas is for your immediate family and to celebrate Christ if your faith allows it. Tell your husband to grow a sack and enjoy two days of Christmas movies, food and games with his wife and kids.
Stay home and enjoy your family. They can come and see you. Let the kids enjoy Christmas at home playing. The grandparents need to understand that this is about the kids not them. Compromise.
I don’t put on clothes or leave my house Christmas Day. If they want to come see me, that’s all fine and dandy but I’m not going anywhere. I’ll make my rounds at thanksgiving but everyone can kiss my ass at Christmas.
Your husband, and his family, are children.
Staying in your home, making memories and having family visit is easiest on the CHILDREN…If they don’t see that, then tough.
Stand your ground, girl. Dragging kids around to houses on a busy holiday is stressful and makes them anxious, upset and grumpy. Adults can handle it much better.
When our kids was little we ran around trying to make it our parents house then grandparents for both Christmas Eve an Christmas it was a pain it was always cold the kids was young we was always running an tired not relaxing and to top it off it seemed they all wanted to do Christmas dinner or any other gathering at about the same time so we listened to a lot of hurt feeling and bitching so fast forward to a bout three years ago our daughter moved out an got married an had our grandbabies I told my hubby that we should start our own traditions since we now have grandbabies an he agreed on Christmas Eve we went to his parents house an then came home an we had spent the rest of the evening with our daughter her hubby an the kids an our son we usually buy pizza play games an watch Christmas movies my hubby will read the night before Christmas we just have fun sometimes our daughter an her family will stay the night an we get up an open presents an have Christmas dinner an they will go to her husbands family for their Christmas time , so all that being said we still have family who has hurt feelings over this an has voiced their opinions an my hubby an I could care less an both said we wished we would have done this sooner when our kids was little an we even told our daughter that if that’s what they wanted to do we understood that we knew what it was like trying to run every where with small children, I say all of that because we’ve already been there an we are glad we made a change an I think you can still have family time on the holidays but on your terms an what’s best for you an your family , you can’t please everyone but don’t make things more stressful for you if you don’t have to !! I hope everything works out and y’all have a stress free merry Christmas
Holidays are about family. If you live in the same town, it’s not that big of a deal. You are being somewhat selfish.
We usually host a big Christmas party/dinner on the eve. But we stopped because no one could show up on time, no one could remember to bring the one dish they offered to bring. We don’t run around as it’s hard one me. But… with my ex husband we went from relative to relative’s house on Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter. It gets old but they are a close family. I dont feel like that my husbands family is close as I originally thought. Regardless I love them, though my husband and I always have eachothers back we are always respectful to each other and listen to eachother and what ever is best for the family is what we go with. As far as inlaws my husband married me he cut the apron ties with his mother but she will always be his mom, though she respects the fact that she raised him to also respect his wife’s wishes as well. It’s been 4 yrs and finally things are normalizing. I guess cause we stay out of any drama that happens within the family. We stay as far away from that as we can, so no one can say we ( my husband and I) said or did anything.
First of all, ask yourself why the hell your husband doesn’t have your back?! I’d be more unsettled about that. My husband and I are a team and even if we don’t agree, he will defend me in front of others, including his parents and then he and I will work out the issue on our own. I agree that the grandparents won’t be around forever. Perhaps invite both families over to your house for just a few hours, maybe a brunch or early dinner, or do it as a potluck so you’re not stuck making everything. But honestly if you don’t even want to do that, I don’t feel you should have to. You spend the holidays with your family and your kids the way you want to spend it! End of story.
Speaking as a mother of 6 AND a grandmother of 12, I understand both sides. As a mother, I traveled out of state and out of country to spend holidays with family and it was WAY stressful for me due to weather. If you live in the same town, I do not see the stress in traveling, as you can leave when you please. However, if you have been going to both sides every year and you want to start your own family traditions at home, and for lack of a better term, “get your Christmas spirit back” by staying home, do it. Do it this year. Your husband agreed to it in the beginning and he needs to man up and stand by his wife instead of being a mama’s boy. And if the in-laws can not respect your decision, then they are the one with the problem. Take the break you need. And, who knows, maybe your spirit will bounce back and next year you may be hosting your very own Christmas at your place and the in laws can come to you. And, if they still hold a grudge and do not want to come, well, sometimes GOD closes doors for a reason. And if your husband holds a grudge, then it sounds to me like he does not really care how you feel or what you want and that is not good. And, yes, as a grandma, I know that I will not be around forever, BUT, that is no reason for me to not respect my children’s and their significant others wishes. I have bent over backwards and went into debt accommodating family before and NOW, I do what I feel is right for our family. Some may not agree, but they do not live in our house, so they do not get a vote.
I agree with your intentions. How about u host it and the grandparents take a back seat and come over as your guest.
Christmas is for family and that includes your parents and his. They’ll be gone one day and then you won’t have to worry about it… but just remember, your kids will one day be grown and how are YOU gonna feel if they feel the same way about you? How are you gonna feel if your son or daughter-in-law wants you to stay away on the holiday??
It’s one day, you won’t die!
Christmas is for you too. You could make some sort of compromise and even begin some new traditions. A marriage is of two and grandparents need to abide by what you both decide and not recruit your husband to bully you into what they want.
As a grandparent we understand that we have to celebrate holidays on off days. That’s just how that is and we are completely ok with that. Raising our kids we celebrated our way and now is their turn.
Maybe you can come up with a day right before of after in which you can spend a couple of hours with each set of parents and start something new, like a gift and a good deed or gifts and baking or something the kids and GPs enjoy doing together.
I am literally in the same situation. The one thing I didn’t want to happen was my husband and myself fighting about it…and that’s what has happened. My MIL is very selfish and controlling and was not willing to compromise so we could see my family as well on Xmas Eve. It’s gotten nasty…and I already know how she is so I expected it BUT I’ll be damned if she thinks she’s gonna pit me and my husband against each other over this. It’s about the my children…not her, not her parents, not her other grown adult children. I, too, am always the one to suck it up and be the bigger person. I’m over it. She doesn’t have the right to say the things she has said about it and not be held accountable. I hope you can find a way to come to some sort of mutual agreement. Just know you are not alone in this 
As the Mother of 2 sons, it takes getting used to not having both sons with us on every holiday! We’ve even gone to the movies a time or two on Christmas Day because it was just us. You’ll know once your own kids grow up and leave you.
The only reason I’m doing xmas at my family’s this year is bc I have to work so much and wont have make up time. Otherwise, I started spending just Christmas day with my [3] girls w no regrets. When you leave your own parents home, I feel it’s ok to start your own traditions just like we start our own families. It’s the spirit of Christmas that is supposed to matter, so spending the day at home shouldn’t be an issue to ppl. We did Thanksgiving the day after Thanksgiving this year. 
I hated holidays for the same reason you have started to.
My ex and his wife wanted to see what plans were for Thanksgiving so we could split it. I told them to keep the girls all day bc our Thanksgiving was friday… I didnt want them running around to 3-4 different families.
And let’s not forget the traffic accidents increase in holidays.
Girl stay home enjoy you’re kids they’re not young forever one holiday a year is nothing let them in laws say and feel how they want and the husband well he should have your back especially after he agreed with you in the first place. Merry Christmas
I don’t blame you I did it with 4 kids for years I got tired of going and being out late on Christmas eve and dealing with getting my kids settled down so we changed times of being with my in laws to early afternoon Christmas eve then late afternoon with my parents Christmas day. My kids are grown now and we still do it that way.
Screw them! You are doing what is best for YOUR family! If his parents don’t like it they can come over at a decent hour like 4pm and still celebrate with you all! Don’t back down!
It’s simply called boundaries and if even your husband can’t honor them then you’re in trouble. Just last night his mom threw me into a fit of tears because of her outright disrespect for my desire to be at home with family instead of catering to her. It’s a battle but decide what you’ll slide and won’t even if you’re on your own. And be careful about the kids.
All good advice here. Work something out that can somewhat please everybody. Remember the grandparents want to be a part of the grandkids Christmas too. Have them come over later to your house, ect. Work it out, it’s doable.
Have Christmas
Eve with the grandparents at your house then have Christmas day with your husband and kids at home
I lived the same life running everywhere. We decided that Christmas Day was ours to spend how we wanted. Our first Christmas as parents our daughter was 5 months old and it was exhausting and she cried most of it. We traveled all around having an hour ride home at the end. We decided right then we would set our tradition starting next season. Now my daughter is 20 and we have 3 kids total and we spend every Christmas Day at home. We tell everyone they are welcome to come to us but our children will be home enjoying their gifts. We open our home for friends and family. We have finger foods for evening drop ins. It’s been wonderful. When my FIL was alive he always came before they woke up. We called him Santa.
We picked different days to do the visits at the grand’s.
It is something they look forward too.
I hope it gets worked out. Sorry your IN-LAWS have such manipulating powers.
Maybe a conversation about why you made the choice— it wasn’t about you but about what’s best for the kids. Put them back at the forefront.
have parents and in-laws come for coffee and dessert. Or, visit one set of parents Christmas Eve, one the day after Christmas, you and hubby, kids just stay home Christmas Day.
We did the same, Kristin Fleming Robertson
Invite both sets of parents over to your house. What about siblings? Are both you and your husband only kids?
When my kids were about 4, 3 and 1 we started staying home on Christmas day so the kids could have a day of fun in a relaxing Christmas day kind of way you can’t get by rushing out of the house. We hosted Christmas Eve and invited everyone on both sides of the family instead. Not everyone could make it, but they were invited. We did tell grandparents they could come over on Christmas to our house, but to bring pajamas and there was nothing but left overs they could pick thru. My kids are 20, 22, 24 now and they absolutely love their Christmas memories. Now because of significant others in their lives, I switched Christmas with my kids to the Saturday before and we call it Fake Christmas (they named it) and it’s my favorite day of the year! My mom is currently mad at me because then she doesn’t always see them at Christmas, but I stick to my guns and enjoy my day with this fun tradition. I still host Christmas Eve and we go to the movie Christmas morning 
Good luck and merry Christmas
My Mother started the thing your daddy may not be here next yr. for a guilt trip and I told her we may not be either of we got on road at that time. That was I stated and stuck to it and it worked out great. She was a mast manipulator. I loved her but had it with that line. So stand your ground they will get over it and if not it was not going yo work anyway
I had this same conversation awhile back with my husband. Bc I come from a divorce family my whole childhood, teenage years, and young adult years was spent at so many different places. And bc my brothers and I lived with my mom we were “never” with my mom for Christmas. We were with my dad and his side of the family. It was not fun! For us and my mom of course had a really hard time with this.
Once my husband and I had kids I told him I do not want to go anywhere on Christmas Day. I just want to stay home and enjoy the days with the kids and let them enjoy their stuff. I said if family wants to come here that’s fine. We even planned to have a meal cooked and whoever does come we ask to bring a dish. It’s been working great! Started a new Christmas tradition at our one home.
How mean and selfish you are… you have no idea how lonely a grandparents world is w/o the kids or grandchildren on Christmas day. DO YOU KNOW HOW LUCKY YOU ARE??? I never knew either set of grandparents, all had died before I was born… both my parents are gone, my hubs has his both alive. my only child is 45 and has a 22 year old and an 18 year old. time has been split between households every single year since we live in the same town. I’ve waited for 2 hours for dinner for them because they were paying their respects at my SIL family places. I didn’t care… you will be there one day and I pray that you are not treated the way you want to treat your in laws… you can have family “private” time mixed in, pull up your big girl panties and figure it out… DON’T BE SELFISH… and if this is enough to cause your relationship with your husband to “split”, not a very strong marriage to start with…
Sounds like he is a mamas boy and can’t say no to his parents. My SIL is like that. He can’t say no to them for nothing sad really! Start your own family tradition let the grandparents come to your house
#1 Your husband should always be on your side.Stand your ground,they are only little once.We had to try to keep 3 sets of parents happy and it was hard
Why not explain more careful to the grandparents tell them you want to start a tradition of your own example have everyone in there christmas PJs and set around the christmas treee and read the birth of Jesus. all our life we get together and go to my moms Christmas eve and eat gumbo and all that good stuff kids pop fire works the men make a bond fire but we all know that is at 700 so i have christmas with my grown children at 4-6 i bake a big ham and all the trimmings and then the grands open up there christmas we all sit around watching talking ect,. Then we usally go to my daughters and spend the night to watch all the grands open presents we all are extremely close to each other so maybe you could invite the grandparents to your house
Why not start rotating between families on holidays so you only have to see one? My family does Christmas and New Years on a rotation. That way you only have to see one family at a time and still get some downtime with just your nuclear fam. As for your husband, he probably got put on the defensive by his folk and while I think he should always side with you, you have some responsibility here. If this was truly a joint decision HE needed to be the one to break it to his parents, not you. And if he dragged his feet in doing so you’d know that the two of you needed to work something out. That being said, No one should level insults at you and they definitely owe an apology.
Have the grandparents stop in at your place if it is that important to them. If they insist that y’all go there, then they are selfish and are only thinking of themselves. Or ask the kids what they would rather do.
Do Christmas at your house with your husband and kids. If you are up for company you can invite them but you don’t have to please anyone. People will think what they want. Maybe your husband is afraid of his parents that is why he agreed with them. Sooner or later you will get fed up. Just do you
For 28 years I have spent most holidays with my in laws… no more. If you feel that strongly about it, then I would start my own tradition with my children and my husband can do what he wants. Its shameful that he didn’t stand up for you.
The MOST important part of ANY relationship is the KIDS… is always whats best for the KIDS. Ya’ll can have something prior to Christmas or after Christmas… ya’ll can save Christmas for what the kids want. JS
Start with thinking about how you are going to feel once you are empty nested and your children do want to spend Christmas with you anymore. What kind of compromise do you expect them to make? Ask yourself what your REAL agenda is in wanting to shut out all of your children’s extended family from their Christmas? Then do whatever you are going to do knowing that choices have consequences. Own the consequences.
Stand your ground and you need to call your husband on his shit. He’s too scared to stand up to his own parents even though he’s proven himself an adult.
I think they should all suck it up and come to your home instead of you running all over.
Instead of u running around tell them u guys are staying home and they are more than welcome to come to your house to visit
Children at that age should be in a stable environment they get over stimulated so easily and then have breakdowns. Crying, acting out, it is there way of telling you it is too much. Then an already stressed day becomes the dreaded day from well.
Husband’s never completely put this all together and if they do it have been a full year, his father’s upset was all it took to give him Amnesia.
Can you talk women to women with your mother in law. I helps a great deal if she is on your side. I would suggest.
Family members be incuraged to come to your house for the next say 5 years, one in the morning and the other in the afternoon if your place is small.
First things first take the burden off your husband’s shoulders and talk to mother in law. Make her aware and or remembered how this is the children’s day.
Also…that’s a shit move on your husbands behalf. We would having a serious talk about being a united front and a team.
I think you have at your home and they are welcome to stop by. Leave it in their hands to make decision.
I wouldn’t suck it up, all that’s going to do is eventually make you resent them and your husband. And honestly, if this situation is a breaking point for you and your husband, then I think some therapy is in order.
Your husband is wrong for not sticking by you and I think you should talk to him. Good luck ma’am
Start your own traditions, your in-laws don’t dictate your decisions. They’ll get over it. Stand your ground with them & your husband.
I believe in following your heart…holidays shouldn’t be making u stressed or not even liking them anymore im sure your kids can see that…what’s ment to be will be so if by you standing your ground makes your in laws upset they are being pretty selfish and everything works out how its supposed to
Invite them to your home. It works.
First of all was ur husband actually goi n g to do what u both agreed on or just said it to shut u up knowing if he didn’t go to his mom’s it would break her heart which means to me his a mom as boy or man. To me when a man and women fall in love get marred have kids they are starting like a new generation of life. I believe his mom could give a little. His parents could also come to ur home so the grand kids can open their gifts but leave after a couple hours. The same with ur mom but she understood. When urs or his parents should understand u guys have a new family and yes u should start ur own traditions. I want to tell you I was married to my husband Craig for 25 years. He was my soul mate late six years of his life fighting cancer but he lost. Time is very very sensitive and beautiful. My mother in law acted the same way ur mother in law did. Being a mom herself and ur father in law being a dad should give a little. I know they will bring up we aren’t getting any you get I would love to see my grand children every holiday. Again time ur in laws should understand ur husband their son is not a boy he is a man. He should of stood by you. My opinion may mean nothing to no one, I’m sorry I would stick to my guns you are right and they know this. I feel they are being a little selfish. Like I said u can have ur family Xmas and later they could stop in see grand kids watch them open there gifts this would be new tradition and great memory. Hope this help u. Been there done that. There were many of times my mother in law didn’t like me but guess what I got over it. It was her loss. Eventually my hubby understood and knew. I right. Good luck god bless. At least u still have ur hubby lost mine 2013 from cancer. I’ll have no more memories with him.
Your husband needs to back you up - his wife ! Nuff said !
make them come visit if they want to 
What in the world is a MIL…?
Maybe THEY can go over to your house
Stay home grandparents come to you.
Stay home in your house
Do what you feel is right.
Invite them to your home and then you don’t have to run around with the kids
You’re like Deborah on everybody loves raymond divorce his ass
Who gives a shit! Its YOUR marriage YOUR family. Dont let the bitch convince ANYONE that HER opinion matters becsuse it DOESNT. Yall are married joined as ONE screw her. I have a stupid selfish want things her way “husbands mother” too. Isnt suppose work her way
For a long time i have made it were the grandparents came to my house for the holidays. I wasnt about running around and i enjoy cooking. He should be on your side being your husband, he needs to stop being a pussy. You and the kids stay home and tell him he can go spend it with his parents if thats what he needs.
You need to open your mouth stand your ground and tell your husband how the cow ate the cabbage
Holidays are hard. Halloween, Easter morning, new years are all ours. We dont share with anyone. But christmas is different. We do Christmas eve at my MIL house and Christmas morning is at our home with just the hubs and kids. We take our time, have breakfast, and let kids play. Then we head to MIL for lunch (she lives up the street from us) and then we go to my mom’s house for dinner. It has worked well for us and has been the tradition for about 5 years. We get time with both our families and then just our family.
It is YOUR family unit. Spend Christmas your way! There is always Christmas Eve, the day after Christmas, the following weekend, or whenever to see the rest of the family.I do not think it’s selfish of you to want to spend ONE HOLIDAY with just your immediate family. In fact , it’s selfish of them to expect that it HAS TO BE SPENT WITH THEM (not to mention that your husband threw you under the bus!).
And let me tell you, I am a mother of three children and a grandmother of four grandchildren, and I RESPECTED the fact that they wanted to spend Christmas morning all to themselves
and start their own traditions. We still see each other and that’s all that counts, not when or where. Just do your thing, don’t feel guilty and work around the rest. Merry Christmas
I personally would never do that. Holidays are always about family to me. Its about making beautiful memories for your parents and kids. Don’t take that away from them. I think you’re being a little selfish
First, my husband would be in big big trouble for not standing up for me and throwing me under the bus. That’s NEVER ok. Then, maybe compromise and try doing Christmas (or other said holiday) on a weekend with them and the actual holiday with just your family. I’m in the same boat. My dad and my in laws all live in a 7 mile radius, and we’ve worked it out to spend Christmas Eve with my in laws, Christmas Day with just my husband and kids, and then the following weekend with my dad. It breaks up the having to see everyone at once, and spreads out the stress. It works for us, so I thought it might help you. You can also alternate. One Christmas is with the in laws and your family, then the next it’s just your kids and hubby.
You live in the same town as all the grandparents, so they see them regularly. You spend all the other holidays with them. Take this time to have your holiday with you and your little family. Stand your ground! They see them all the time. Can you invite them to come see you after you guys have enjoyed Christmas morning? Then you don’t have that stress and tension of running around.
We spend Christmas eve at his parents and then Christmas day at mine. But we dont go over to my family until later that evening so we spend Christmas morning at home doing our own traditions. I agree it’s a lot. But I do want my kids to be around family on holidays and create memories
I stopped running around with my kids on Christmas, too much time wasted in travel for the kids, we relax and if anyone wants to see the kids then they are always welcome but that’s the only holiday I really put my foot down about
We do Christmas morning at home. In the afternoons we alternate every other year at family. This year is spent with his family next year will be with mine. This is done for all holidays. We are both close with our families and this was the less stressful easiest solution for us
Make it informal and not stressful. Tell everyone to come for present opening in their xmas pjs and for cinnamon rolls and then call it a day. Imagine yourself when all your kids are gone and you have absolutely nothing to do on xmas morning when it was probably one of your greatest memories.
Offer to be the host. Let them come to yall. That way your babies will be home, you and your husband will be home, and everyone gets to see the kids. But I totally agree with you on wanting to stay home. Let them do the driving for a little while.
Christmas Eve with extended family, Christmas day with just my kids. I won’t change it for anyone. The kids won’t know the difference.