I’m working on my ancestry tree and I am/was going to do the dna part because I would love to know more history. My mom called me today begging I don’t get it done that it would mess up our family and hurt them. I’m really not understanding how that has anything to do with anyone but me and I’m that case is there something she don’t want me to know. I’m feeling lost and confused right now. Should I get it or should I just leave well enough alone.
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My mom begged me not to get an acestry test done: Advice?
Id definitely get it. There is something she is hiding.
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Gonna guess someone’s been lied to about who their parents are.
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Get it done, don’t care about anyone else’s feelings. Clearly she thinks you’re going to find something out and she’s gaslighting you.
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If it’s that important to you yes. If your family is truly strong and a good family. It won’t change a thing
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She obviously dont want her dirty laundry being aired and i doubt she will tell you either, id get it done
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Sounds like your dad may not be your biological dad… and she she doesn’t want you to know.
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Ask her what is it you need to know if she doesnt want you to have it done.
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Yeah… Do it. Someone’s lying about something.
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Maybe your dad isn’t who they say he is or you have a sibling out there that they never told you about.
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Get it done. You need to know about yourself.
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Yes find out before she dies
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I would get it, I started to dig without that and I found out a lot of stuff. But also a lot that didn’t need to be dug up. Lot of stuff my grandma didn’t need to relive!
Get it you never know what you might find out
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Have the government ignore you but take what the LORDS BLESSING
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If you do get it done , please update us! I’m curious to know what she is hiding !!
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Get it done, sounds like she is trying to hide something
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Depends on weather or not you can deal with the outcome
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It could be complicated or it could be simple. Maybe you have a sibling you didn’t know about 
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Maybe she adopted u and she didnt want u to know I would get that DNA test cuz u have a right to do whats best for u
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Sounds like she doesn’t want anyone to know that your dad isn’t your dad. I’d get it done anyways. You getting it done won’t hurt anyone. Anything found out by you would 100% be on her, and she doesn’t seem want to take responsibility for her own actions. Hence her already trying to blame the test for it hurting the family.
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I would deff get it now that she said that!! Sounds fishy to me
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I’d tell her this is her chance to come clean and be honest. But either way you’re going to get the test done. Unless you don’t want to know? I personally would want to know the truth
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Obviously you and others have been lied to about something major enough to cause her this discomfort SO you have two choices.
A) don’t do it. Let it go and keep living life as you have been. But live with the unknowing and a possible lie.
B open Pandora’s box and proceed accordingly. You may learn things you don’t want to know or you may uncover some beautiful truths. Either way, I feel like this is the best option for you at this point.
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Get it. Her comfort isn’t your concern. Her behavior is all the more reason to do it. You need and deserve answers.
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Uh… you definitely deserve to know any truths to YOUR life.
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Now you HAVE to get it done!
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She either knows the dad you know as dad isn’t your bio dad or suspects it.
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it affects YOU. get it done.
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Depends, do you want to know the truth?
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It may show family insest and your part of the family tree didnt branch.
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I’d still do it. People wanting to dodge the consequences of their past decisions isn’t my personal responsibility/burden, especially if it directly involves me.
You deserve to know who you are and where you’re from.
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Girl get that shit done. You are your own person, go do it. She’s hiding secrets from you and this is the only way you’ll get the truth. This isn’t about your family hurting it’s about you, and you’re being lied to about something
Get it done, you have EVERY right to know who you are and where you come from!
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She’s either hiding your i or after it’s if the family has hid ancestry
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I had a friend do this and everyone told her not to and she did it anyway and some stuff came out that changed her life forever and not in a good way…there is an old saying…let sleeping dogs lie
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Yep. If anything is hidden in closet it needs to come out anyway
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If you get it done post back on here what you found out.
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Do it and let us know what you find out
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Well. You’re either adopted or your dad isn’t your dad. Could also be some things in your family tree that she doesn’t want anyone else knowing. Get it done or don’t. But take her begging you not to as a sign that you’re probably not going to like what you find.
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Do it and report back here we all want to know 
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Maybe there are family secrets she doesn’t want you to find out about
I would have a one on one sit down and maybe she will just explain the situation at hand
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It depends on if you think you can handle what you might find out. She’s asking you not to for a reason.
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You have every right to know
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She’s hiding some skeletons in her closet
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You should do it, because that’s your right. But whatever the results are, don’t tell your family. Is what I would do. I’m assuming the dad you grew up with isn’t your father.
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Get it done, see what Mama is hiding.
I’d do it. Especially since it seems like she’s trying to hide something
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You do not belong to the man she claims you do. Do it anyway. Tell your “Dad” she cheated.
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You have a right to know. Do it.
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Depends are you ready find out some stuff I guess. But personally I would sure do it.
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I’d ask her to tell you exactly what she means or you will proceed getting it.
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My friend 54yrs old did the Ancestry and found out he had 6 siblings. His dad got around
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Do it I had a man come forward telling me he’s my dad and he has a terrible spinal condition. That could’ve been passed to me & my kids… You have to know. Better safe than sorry 
Mine showed that my Grandpa (Dad’s Dad) was NOT my grandpa. I found his family and found how my grandparents knew the actual grandparent. The DNA family has photos of my dad when he was little as well as my grandparents and their other kids. There could be some things that will throw off something and someone is aware. Maybe wait until people have passed?
A serial killer among ya tree bet
I couldn’t not do it after she said that. You have a right to know who you are, good or bad.
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You have every right to know about yourself.
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Do it. If there is some dna secret you deserve to know.
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I would go to your mom and tell that you have the right to know and if she still say no. I would do the
DNA. I wish my mother was still alive I have so many questions all she would say is a lot of people would go to jail
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That’s a weird red flag…it would hurt your family to learn about your own ancestry? That sounds like she’s hiding something for sure.
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Get it for ur own peace of mind now just don’t tell her
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Maybe you’re related to a serial killer and she doesn’t want you to find out? Hell idk, could be anything, but something doesn’t seem right to me 
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Yea my dad found out his dad wasn’t his real dad and all sorts of things I can’t even say on here. Do it if you want but prepare to open up secrets.
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This is about you and only you. If you want to get it done most definitely do it. Sounds like mom may have omitted some truths along the way, you have every right to know who you are.
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Do it, you could be a missing child from way back before D N A.
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Oh I’d definitely get it done
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Maybe it will hurt you to learn what every she doesn’t want you to know just thank about it before you do it
That would make me want to do it even more. There’s something she doesn’t want you to know, so just be prepared if you do follow through with it.
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I’d ask her to talk to you as to why and explain
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And the detector says “he is not your father”
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If u want to know you deserve to know
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That would make me DEFINITELY do it! You 100% should
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Do it. She’s hiding something from you
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Get it done for your own sake.
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ask her why & tell her you are going to get it done
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Please join the ancestry dna Facebook groups. Dna doesn’t lie, ur mother is trying to keep you from knowing her lie.
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Do it…and tell ur mom to come clean
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Ask her what it is that she doesn’t want you to know.
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You have every right to know about yourself. Don’t deny yourself knowledge for the sake of hiding someone else’s secrets
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Sit her down and ask her straightforward what you are suspecting
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Mom’s hiding something!
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Someone is hiding something
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That would make me want to do it even more honestly
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I’d ask her to explain why? Because clearly she’s not telling u everything! And I’d be getting it done to find out what she’s hiding …… I’d have a hard time trusting her with her not being completely honest with u
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Yes do it. Your mother has secrets. She never told you. You have a right to know. One reason for health reasons. You need to know. She needs to come to clean with you. She should support you. Even if it hurts the family. Do what your heart tells you.
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just let it go,you might find out things you dont wanna know.
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I’d do it and tell her right now is her chance to come clean about whatever it is that she’s hiding.
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Do it. She isn’t going to tell you the secret. Find out on your own.
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Was your mom a hoe?
I’m pretty skeptical and sus about these ‘tests’
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Probably your dad is not your dad and no one knows. Do it now just to learn the truth.
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I know doing a family history, I found a lot of good and bad and some I just couldn’t wrap my head around but glad I know
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Both kids got theirs much to my displeasure, it will be OK. My kids have different fathers and the whitest one has 2% African.
That choice is yours alone. However, I would just because I would want to know - especially if someone tells me not to, because then they may be lying to me and others and I just have a huge personal issue with lying.
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Sounds like you bout to uncover some secrets.
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Do it and ask yr mother if theres something you need to know
There’s obviously something she doesn’t want you to know. Give her a chance to explain.
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