It’s easy to sue but your mom wanted the surgery n she made it happen so don’t get sue happy…get her meds n bloodwork done/reviewed…that’s all n go from there. U can’t blame everyone else for your moms state…she put herself in that position by wanting the surgery if she’s still not happy maybe something got triggered psychologically…
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This sounds a lot deeper than just because of a bypass. She needs to also be taking vitamins. They are very crucial after a surgery like that
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Be an advocate for your mom, if you know somethings not right, find a new doc that’ll take your concerns seriously.
I’ve heard of this happening.
That weight loss surgery changes people and not for the good sometimes either
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What makes you think it was the surgery that caused the problem? You stated she has had depression and anxiety all of her life yet she was the life of the party but has been on meds all her life for it. Maybe they need to consider a new delivery method for her psych meds, I know it would change her ability to absorb in some instances. Are there intravenous or patch options for her current meds? Maybe she needs to switch meds entirely. Cycling through a medication is common, especially for women, given our ever changing hormones.
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I am a bariatric patient as well. Please have her get some lab work. Once going through that surgery, our bodies don’t absorb medication, vitamins or nutrients like someone who hasn’t had the surgery. She could be deficient in something. Personally, I suck at remembering to take my medication and a lot of the times, I’m fatigued. I have no energy and no desire to do anything. It’s been because my iron, Vitamin B, Vitamin D and protein has been low. It’s a cycle for me. I’ll be low, get back to taking my medications/vitamins, be okay for a little while, think I’m okay, stop my daily routine and then start the cycle all over. She may also have body dysmorphia, which is a real thing for someone who was once big and has since lost a lot of weight. It plays games with your head. Even though you’ve lost a lot of weight, you still see yourself as the “fat one” and that can cause depression because she may still see herself as big and feel like she failed with her surgery. I’ve been there more than once on my weight loss journey.
She needs to see a different therapist. She may be suffering from mental health or struggling with her new food relationship. And she needs for her doctors to talk to one another so she can maybe try a medication. If all the social events involve food that could be why she isn’t as bubbly. Also is she taking vitamins, drinking enough water, etc.
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Get a second opinion
Get as many opinions as you can, see as many doctors as you have to. If something is wrong with your mama don’t stop until you get answers.
I dont see how these things are related 
good luck to you both though. Hope you get it figured out. The past year has been so draining on everyone
There’s a reason for patient’s to see a therapist prior to surgery as depression can be exacerbated after having the surgery. Typically, most surgeons have you work with their psychiatrist as they’re more knowledgeable on the specific mental needs of a patient that undergoes weight loss surgery. (Of course this depends on the surgeon)
There are some things you need to consider- your mother may not have told the whole truth about her mental health while going through this process. She may have equated weight loss to happiness and said whatever she needed to to have this surgery.
There are many reasons for this increase in anxiety/depression. She may have unrealistic goals for her weight loss- causing her to become discouraged.
Her self image may not have caught up to her physical image yet- when you’ve been big for so long it’s hard to get used to being smaller. She may become anxious in settings that she typically wouldn’t have been prior to surgery- like going to the gym, or going out to eat.
Unwanted attention- it’s nice to be complemented on losing weight but when everyone starts noticing and making comments, it can make you more self conscious or feel more exposed.
What I suggest to you is have your mother follow up with a psychiatrist that specializes in people that have had weight loss surgery. Also, look into support groups for people that have also had the surgery. A lot of surgeons have programs such as these that may help. It may really help her to be surrounded by people and hearing others say they’re going through the same thing so she doesn’t feel alone.
Also be sure that she is taking her vitamins as she is prescribed. Sometimes these symptoms can be related to vitamin deficiencies. After having surgery, your body doesn’t absorb nutrients/vitamins as it did before (depending on the surgery) so it’s imperative to be sure she’s taking her medication as prescribed.
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It most likely has nothing to do with her actual surgery. She may be having more mental issues due to other things and depending on age, it could be that as well.
generally with gastric bypass you have to go through psych testing, at least in my state. they advise you of risks and rewards. It could be due to other things, but losing so much wreight can alter mind. it may balance out as things happen. but always have a therapist
Gastric bypass is a serious operation. It also affects how your body takes in nutrients. She is probably not getting necessary nutrients and especially those for mental stability. She should be taking extra Vitamin D, C, and B vitamins just for brain health. I hope her doctor made sure they told her that.
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I bet she was using food to cope. Taken away her coping mechanism is letting her feelings out.
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Get her to another Dr. My mother went through this surgery years ago. She should of never had it done, physically not well. We buried her 8 mo. later at 48 yrs.old. Get a good lawyer. Miss her so much 
Hope your mother gets well
It sounds like it’s time to get a new psychiatrist. It sounds like she needs a medication adjustment. Good luck. My daughter suffers fron bipolar disorder and anxiety. She was on the same medications for years. Things startd getting difficult for her so the dr is starting her on new meds. Sometimes the old regime needs to be tweeked now and then.
I had a vitamin D deficiency at one point I felt all these ways plus angry lol I started tanning at a tanning bed within 8 months I felt normal again it could very well be she’s lacking some type of vitamin her body needs to feel good. Just be there for her seek help from a Dr and she should see a therapist to cope with not being able to eat for comfort I’ve heard that physco therapy helps a lot of patients who have this surgery done without it they will continue to gain weight due to the feelings of sadness.
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Gastric bypass survivors always have vitamin deficiency.
Get a blood panel run find out what’s missing and they will mix her an IV with the supplements she can no longer absorb through her stimach
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Sounds like me a few weeks ago been to a lot of drs finally a dr put me on sintamint for Parkinson’s I feel like a new person never in a hundred years would I have thought I had it but everything says I do I’ll forever be grateful for my dr getting me on the right track
Go for a second opinion, or even change to a different doctor and psychiatrist. Give them her recent history. One would do blood work at least. Support group also if she would, professional counseling to help her through it. Don’t give up, sometimes it takes finding the right professional. Good luck. Many good suggestions in this thread also.
Check all her medications!!! Some of them have side affects that magnify exactly what they were supposed to correct. I have known a few people that were taking an anti depression medication and it made them confused, non social,
Repeat things as well as not remember things. They discontinued some of the meds and they are different people in a much better way. Now able to carry on a conversation , goes out and does things ect…
I’ve heard there’s rare times that anesthesia can actually effect people in negative ways, and or awake things in the body. This was word of mouth I heard it from, but it kinda makes sense
It might be something totally unrelated to the gastric band surgery.
Many turn to drugs or alcohol after surgery. Replacing one addiction with another. Is it possible she’s using something?
Find a lawyer and see if they think you have a case. My thinking is no you don’t, but I’m far from a doctor. Maybe she needs a new psychiatrist.
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I had a bypass also and about year after had the same symtoms. Lasted about a little over a year then kind of out grew it. I just had another one about 5 years ago never had a problem this time. Hope it will pass for your mon too it isnt any fun at all but the wright loss will give her a better life if she over ones this. Best of luck to you andyour mom!!
Try a new Doctor ,check her meds seems like she is suffering with some form of depression and anxiety .
I’m still having problems after gastric bypass surgery and that was twenty years ago
Your stomach and hormonal balance are related, its possible Its doing something what causes deoression. Maybe medication until her balance is back?
have her see a good psychologist and psychiatrist. may take a while but it can help
Maybe she covered up her problems by eating and being the life and soul of the parties.
I became very anemic- go to the Dr- needs a work up!
Get her b12 levels checked
You may never get her back the way you remember her. She can’t eat the food like she use to so as going out and cooking it’s not the same which mean she truly didn’t understand what was going to happen to her and change the way she did things. Try finding other things to do that she can enjoy
Get her checked out by a good internal medicine doctor. What is wrong may not be from the baristric
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Sounds like she might not getting enough nutrients. Lack of can effect the brains chemical Balance. All the best 
My first question would be is she taking her meds as prescribed? Also, how does food interact with those medications?
She should get her bloods done 
hormones too
How does she feel about her weight loss? Apparently not happy. Many people, myself included, begin to Regain the weight they lost. Maybe she is trying too hard to please someone. I’ll pm my number.