Great to see your little 20 year old sister gets to go out and away without your mother’s permission 
But your mum is an adult, she pays the rent, she pays the mortgage; and you have no right to dictate to her who she can and can’t spend time with and how. Her marriage may have just broken up physically, mentally and emotionally she may have left it years ago.
I suggest you get your own life and worry about keeping your ducks lined up before telling her how to live hers.
Your mum has done 20 plus years putting you kids first; it’s time you show some respect back and support her with her moving on with her life.
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If she wants her own space, she should move out of your moms house. Your mom is the owner, and also she is the parent not your kid.
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The “kid” is 20. Time to move out and let mom do what she wants.
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She’s grown, your sister isn’t a little girl she should get her own place like an adult. You seem to forget yall are her children not the other way around.
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It’s all fun and games until she brings a random psycho home. I don’t understand how anyone can meet someone online and just bring them home.
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You sound a little crazy. Have your adult sister get her own place?
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One, back the fuck off. Your mom is an adult. All of her kids are adults. This is 100% none of any of your business. It’s her house. If she wants to bring men over, she can. Holy shit.
Your sister is an adult get the hell over it. She probably asked if it would bother anyone because I’m assuming she broke up with your father, but look at you acting as if she was asking for her own daughter to make rules about where she’s allowed to get laid lol
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Lol that is your moms house. Not your sisters house. Your mom is a grown woman and if she wants to bring a man home, she has the right to do so without you or your sisters really putting your noses into it. She was respectful enough to have men over when the sister wasnt there so … no harm done. It’s not your business or your place to say anything at all. Period.
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Your sister is an adult so she can get out of that situation if it gets bad. Maybe she could stay at your house if you’re that worried? I totally get being concerned for your mom, because I’ve been there. Just try to get as much details about the guy if you can. Maybe ask for a picture to start up a conversation so you know what the guy looks like, but at the end of the day, she’s grown. 
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Your younger sister is 20 and your mom is being considerate enough to not have anyone over when she’s home, none of you are still young children and it’s her house, she should proceed with caution as s safety stand point but at the end of the day she’s a grown woman who has raised her children and sounds like she’s having fun and may be time u look the other way and be an adult
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Not trying to be rude any… But both ur mom and sister r adults. Time for ur sister to move and start her own life herself either with room mate or friend… I mean its her house. She pays the bills right? Rather ur sister is home or not if ur mom wants to bring home 20 men at once thats her business note y’alls💁 just my opinion.
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Your kidding right? Your little sister is on her early 20’s!!! Shes not a baby! Let her live her life she raised y’all already! Not being rude just real.
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Ummmm excuse me, your sister is in her 20’s she’s No longer a child, and she lives with MOM not the other way around. She has done her job and raised her children, that is MOM’S house and she can do as she pleases! The day one of my GROWN children thought they could dictate who,what, where or how IN MY HOUSE ,I would except the APOLOGY after they regained consciousness!
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It’s your mom’s house, and she obviously feels like she can do whatever without regard for your sister’s safety. She’s lied about it and yall have caught her. If you’re truly that stressed about your sister’s safety, and I see where your coming from, I would make other living arrangements for lil sis. Idk how old your mom is, but things were different when she was younger and if she’s had a very sheltered upbringing and then raised yall in a sheltered environment, like it sounds she did. She may not realize just how dangerous this world is now days. Growing up, I thought the world was WAY different than it is. I was very naive through no fault of my own. Life slapped me in the face early on and before I knew it, I was a divorced (from a drug addict. I had no clue he was one because I’d never been exposed to such things), single mother and domestic violence survivor. (I thought domestic violence was only in movies.) I see all these comments about its none of your business, etc… I know that ultimately are just worried and feel that you already know that it’s not. Best of luck and prayers of protection for your sis and mom
My MIL moved her bf of 3 months in with her 9 and 11 year old. So it could totally be worse
You dont get to have a say in what your mom does in her home just like she cant tell you what to do in yours. You sister is grown if it bothers her she can move
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So much for the “no negativity” 
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Shes in her 20s she dont like it she can move out
I could understand it if there was still a young child in the home, but this is just silly. If that’s what she chooses to do, then leave her be. That’s her house and her business.
Your sister is old enough to move out, make her own money and pay her own bills.
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oh my goodness.
I seriously read this as she was a little girl… your sister. so your all adults and she lives with mom.
assuming mother still being mom paying all the Bill’s she can do what she wants. it’s her place.
I’d say she deserves a little more than respect than your whining about her having dates…
If you dont live there mind ya bizz hmmm
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If ur that concerned why dnt u let your sister move in with u,
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Definitely a safety issue but you kept saying she’s an adult and she is. So let her make the choice. As far as the early 20s daughter she can either leave while they are there or move out. She’s plenty old enough.
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Jesus all of these comments are rude asf. How about the people telling her to mind her business GROW UP. Be a little helpful and try to understand?? Just cause that’s not your situation doesn’t mean it’s not important or upsetting to someone else…i understand it’s her house and the girls grown also but I’m not gonna be rude about it.
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Read what you put on here really get over it
I think your mom needs to be cautious for her own sake. To meet someone in a night club or
Bar and bring them to her home is dangerous.
She could meet a creep and believe that he is ok.
Get to know them after a few dates, at least.
I stopped at “she’s in her early 20s” .
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Grow the hell up its your moms life not yours and her house if your sis dont like it move out. Yall sound like brats
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Your sister is 20 if something off happened or anything made her feel uncomfortable im sure your sister can speak up to your mother about it id say at least momma always waits till she’s home alone you said and its no harm no foul leave momma B
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Um ur sister is an adult. And what goes on in your mothers home in none of your concern. Not to sound mean but unless your sister or you or ur other siblings are paying the rent mortgage, you really have no say.
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PS Do not damage your self esteem.
I think you’re right 100%! Your mom is acting out of character, and maybe for a good reason. I think you’re showing a lot of love to be concerned about her dating in an environment she is not familiar. It’s not safe to bring randos to your house without getting to know them well.
She is feeling free and young again and men are giving her attention, and all of that is not just wonderful but it’s blinding.
I’m glad your being kind when approaching her and that she has listened to your concerns.
I think the only thing to do is help your younger sister find another place to live honestly. I can tell your mom will be upset but she will get over it. Your sister is older and it wouldn’t be unheard of for her to move out, even until this phase passes or maybe for good. But for sure for now.
Keep being supportive of your mom and once this one thing is handled, she may be more open and not feel like she has to lie to please you.
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And??? She’s a grown ass woman and so is your sister. Sounds like you are the one causing the issue. Get over it and stop being so selfish and fishing for excuses and let your Mom be happy again.
Mom is an adult !sister is an adult ! Your mom isnt being date savvy and is doing her thing . your sister who’s 20 is old enough to decide if she would like to move out or stay home. Your moms probably lying because you all make her feel bad and belittle her decisions. I really think you older children need to mind your own business while she works this out for herself while it’s nice and caring you that you love and care about her you cant control the situation so please let her live her life as I’m sure she let you as young adults live your life with mistakes and all!
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Fair enough. Let your sister move in with you
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Ummm…your mom is an adult she can do as she pleases in her own home. Your sister is also a grown ass adult and if she doesn’t like it is free to move. I’m a little concerned that maybe you should seek counseling due to your preoccupation with your adult mother’s dating.
Did everyone here moved out by 20?if something goes wrong,God forbid I’m sure a pot of you all would say she,the mother could have done better,why didn’t her daughters talk to her,now there is concern being expressed they should mind their business?hmmmm
Totally reasonable to not want her to bring strangers in…people DIE doing this…but in the end its her life her house and her choices…if ur adult sister doesnt likr she is grown and can move
This is actually really dangerous though. Inviting strange men to her house isnt the best thing to do. Even if she lived alone I’d be worried because anything could happen. Everyone’s saying grow up but I totally get why you’re worried. Unfortunately though its not up to you. If you’re worried for your sister’s safety then find her somewhere else to live but mom is obviously gonna do what she wants
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This touches home with me because I have a sister that does this. Although she only has boys at home it’s still f-ing scary. She’s done this for years. Has but these men in front of her children. My sis had never had a job in her life because she’s so addicted to these dating sites. These men only want her for the “moment” then dispose of her and go to the next. Nothing these men have done has opened her eyes she feeds from the attention they give her on the sites. My sis and I don’t talk but I still worry something bad will b the end result to all this. She needs help. She’s says depressed. But I feel if she would get out of the house find a job instead of sitting in front of a computer it would help her depression along with a professional
Your sister isn’t little she’s an adult she can move out or speak up for herself if she feels uncomfortable about it… not your business not your problem you have no say you do not pay your mother’s bills it’s her damn house who the hell do you think you are acting like the parent be the kid worry about your self your little sister is not little she’s an adult and can make a life for herself … or stay with her mom Their choices not yours !
Your mum spent how long being a mum and a wife, and now she’s single and her babies are grown up. I don’t understand what the issue is, early 20s?? The sister is old enough to understand or move out, this is something she may encounter even in a roommate situation. She isn’t even inviting them when she’s home, so I fail to see how she’s imposing on your sisters space at all. She’s your mum, but she’s allowed to have privacy, let her be vivacious and adventurous… it might be a chapter she skipped in her younger years and now has the mental fortitude to enjoy it.
Honestly you should be a little happy and proud of your mum for having the confidence to put herself out there and give new people a chance, that can be really hard after a big separation. It might be weird for you guys to see this change in your mother but change is inevitable now that she’s single, and it’s way better than her feeling defeated and lonely while you’re all off building your own lives that depend on her a lot less than before.
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Your sister is old enough to have this conversation with your mom on her own. She isn’t a child. And neither is your mother. Stressing about something you have no control over is pointless.
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It’s none of your business. Your sister needs to get her own place if she is in her 20’s. You say it is ok for your mom to go to a man’s home but not to bring one to her own home? Safety is safety. If she is of sound mind then you can’t make her decisions.
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Your mother is an adult BUT it is totally understandable that you and your sister are worried about the safety of not just her but yourselves. As an adult, your mother should definitely be taking more precaution. I’d hope she isn’t giving the address on the first time meeting the men but even if she was it’s her choice, her house and her safety. Maybe ask her to let you guys know when she’s having someone over and check in once in awhile so you both know that she’s safe. You have to learn to compromise. She deserves to live the life that she wants to live. She shouldn’t have to ask permission from her children if she can have people in her home.
I could see your concern if your sister was a kid. This is ridiculous if yall dont like move her out then it’s her life her house and u guys cant decide how she lives it she is not your child and this is what this post sounds like
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Hope she knows to use protection…for sex n physical advances not welcomed !
And sit her down again, since she’s doing the thing she thought she’d never do !
Your mother doesn’t need permission to date. Your sister is an adult. If she was a child, it would be different. Good grief.
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It is your mom’s house & she is feels she can have who she wants there.
At least she waits until her daughter isn’t home.
You’re 100% correct today’s world is scary & random strangers are unsafe.
Maybe have a family meeting, show video’s or even news stories.
To all of you saying sister should be on her own… Maybe she is in college. Maybe she only has part time work & can’t afford to live on her own.
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In the end, it is her house. If your sister pays rent, she definitely has a say about it though. Otherwise, I’d suggest that she find somewhere else to live.
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Your mother is an adult. Your sister is an adult. Let them be adults. Stop trying to parent your mother and your sister. If your sister is uncomfortable, she can move out. It’s really pretty simple. You can voice your concerns but that’s that. No need to continue pushing an issue that isn’t any of your business anyways. It would be different if your sister was a child, but she’s not so… Yeah. If she’s uncomfortable, she has a mouth of her own. You don’t need to be a voice for her.
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I stopped reading after you said your little sister is in her early 20’s. If she don’t like it then she can move out. That’s your mom’s house, your mom’s body, your mom’s emotions. None of you get to dictate or “take a vote” or whatever.
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Your sister is in her 20’s, why is she not living on her own or with you if you’re so concerned? Stop trying to parent your mother. FYI, People she does know could easily come in and do harm to her same as a complete stranger. How do you “know” she doesn’t know these men? Is she supposed to just be alone forever? Get real here.
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I stopped reading when the little sister whome I expected to be like 6, is actually in her 20’s, um no honey, your mother can bring men into HER HOME, your sister should be on her own in her own apartment. Sorry but this is selfishness at its finest!
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LOL tf.
First off, why tf are grown ass women still living with their momma!? Secondly, shes a grown ass woman thats been on a ball and chain for yearssss, shes raised her children and taken care of her family and now she finally and im sure has long desired the freedom… leave her alone and let her do her thang…
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I can’t even read the whole story. Mind y’alls business. You mother is grown with no minor children in the home so she can do what she wants. If y’all don’t like it because your sister lives there then have her move in with you or get her own place…she’s 20 not 2.
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I understand why you are worried but she isn’t doing it while your sister is there. Talk with your sister about this and does it bother her? Suggest an apt or your place if she is worried at home. If it doesn’t bother your sister then just let it go. Just be there if either needs help. My Mom went thru this too but she had another man which obviously was in her life. Not this Online stuff then.
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Maybe you should allow your mother to be more open with you and be able to say hey I have someone coming over tonight while your sister is out that way you can check on her. Right now she’s afraid of telling you and you have no idea when a man is there alone with her. She’s going to do what she wants regardless so just support her. Your sister is a grown adult and your moms not even bringing the men there while she’s home. That’s between your mom and your little sister not you. All you can really do is support her and talk to her and tell her you’re not going to judge her but you want her to at least let you know when she’s going to be alone with a new man, outside or inside her house just so you know to check in with her after the date to check if she’s safe. But seems like you guys are getting to involved and trying to set rules for a grown woman.
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Do you monitor all your mothers conversations with these men? How do you know how long she has been in contact with them? How do you know she hasn’t been out on dates outside of the house with them? She’s prob lying to you cos your so judge mental about it all.
Stop trying to be her parent and let her get on with it
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Sister is in her early 20s, let mom live her life…
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The “kid” is in her 20s… Get over it and let momma live!
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You are kidding me ! It is your mother’s house, your sister is old enough to know what’s going on & speak up for herself if she is uncomfortable.
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Why are you feeling like you are your mother’s parent? Your mom spent several years being married (probably unhappily), and raising children. She’s a grown ass woman that can do as she pleases and doesn’t need her grown children’s permission! Maybe one day you will understand this. As for your sister, she’s a grown woman as well, and maybe she needs to spread her wings and fly away too! It’s hard enough getting divorced, growing older and have children that are out of the house with a life of their own. Let your mom enjoy life,date men, and most of all just love her! One day this maybe you. Does your mom pay her own bills? Is she on drugs? She raised you to know the difference between right and wrong…correct? Give her a little more credit than that
Your sister is an adult if you all don’t like than maybe your sister should move, it’s your mothers house and she is an adult who raised you! You are allowed to Express your feelings and opinion to her about safety but other then that you mind your business 
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This is none of your business. And tell your 20 sister to grow up and move out.
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Your moms house, your moms choices, your moms body, your moms vagina, your moms everything. You are her children, your sister is I’m guessing 21-25 seeing as how you said “early 20s” she’s not 2. Lmao. Damn you do not get a say, a vote, a voice, a nothing. Your mother has many years of experience and choices on you I am sure she knows what she is doing. You don’t get to judge her for the way she heals. Everybody handles these kinds of things differently. Your mother doesn’t have to “talk and decide” nothing with you guys. Take that as a courtesy on her part.
I understand. People are fucking nuts . Recently there was a man an hour away from our home town who had a step daughter age like 15 and they were talking and it seemed like the girl had talked to him in other ways he was trying to mess around w her saying he was scared because she was young I know your sisters of age but there’s a lot of WEIRDOS
And I’ve met some sick people I think the safe thing would be to go on dates in public and get to know them I don’t like one night stands if she’s wanting sex i personally like to get to know them first and build a friendship
A family home is a family home, all should feel safe there… I still lived in my family home till I was 25 as I was still in school. Your mom is only bringing them home when your sister not there… I understand your concerns as online dating is not safe but if that’s what your moms chosen to do she is an adult who has raised her children. Has your sister sat down and talked to her about how she feels?.
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I do agree that your mom is being careless, and if it were me I guarantee my daughter’s would be acting the same way. I understand you’re worried but the more you nag at her and push her, the more she is gonna retaliate. She’s a grown woman and she’s gonna have to learn the hard way unfortunately.
You have no right to tell her who she can or can not bring into her own house.
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If y’all dont like it move out. Her house, not yours.
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Oh wow this was painful to read. Let your mom live!
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You need to tell your sister to move out,and let mom be.Remind her of internet safety,I mean have a real talk with mom,and then let her live her life.If you truly think she’s not in her right mind,then have a talk with her doctor,preacher/priest.If she is in her right mind,and you’ve told her the dangers it’s on her if some thing happens.Your sister is old enough to move out,or come to live with you.
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You are all adults and so is she. You need to give your mom space
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Nothing wrong with a caring daughter worried about her mother. Especially after being separated or divorced after so many years some people just become too vulnerable. Lots of crazies out there.
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I understand your concerns for safety but honestly your Mom is grown and it’s her life and her house so you have no right to say anything or tell her what to do or not to do in her own house. Your sister is an adult if she is uncomfortable then she needs to move out, she also has no right to tell your mother what to do.
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If possible have your sister stay with you in a safe place!!!
Umm it’s HER HOUSE!!! Gtfo!!!
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Maybe the sister should move in with you? Let your Mom be happy in her own way. You cant raise your parents.
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Omg gtfo she’s an adult who pay her bills and you want to tell her what she can and can’t do and who she can and can’t see ? This has to be a joke . And your “little sister “ who’s in her 20s and still lives in her moms home . Foh
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Let your sister move in with you if it is such a big deal to you. It’s your MOMS house, not the “family home”
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I’m confused… Your mom? Or you’re the mom?
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You and your sister are of age. If you don’t like it, have your sister live with you. Your mom is an adult who makes her own decisions and can live her own life. If you don’t agree with what she does, don’t associate with her but you don’t get to dictate her life.
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Who the fuck do.you think.you are ? Your sister is in her 20s! Your mum is not your child and frankly what she does in her own home is none of your business !
Lol it’s her house and you’re all grown ass adults,including your little sister. Stay out her business.
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Is it not also better she brings them to hers…instead of going back to random addresses with them? She is probably trying to act from a safety point of view not following random men to random addresses.
She is respecting your sister by not having her there.
She is trying to respect you by doing the same
I understand why you’re worried. Shows what a great daughter but it’s her life and her choice.
You can’t make it for her.
Nor can you control it.
She never has them around any of you or her grandchildren and tbh that would be the bigger issue.
She is letting herself get to know people again.
None of us can control what people think or do…or how they feel.
We are only in control of our responses to such a thing.
“I just don’t want you to get hurt mum. I just think it’s too soon to have people at your house” you have voiced this. She knows you care and that she is loved. But sooner or later the other daughter will be moved out, so she is starting to rebuild her life…on her own terms.
You just have to let it go now.
I would worry about my mum but she would know I cared and I was just looking out for her.
But it’s time to just let her live her life now x
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Let your mom live her life. You’re all adults, you have no say in your moms business. Your sister should be living by herself, not at moms house.
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You are all grown ups, I understand your concern ,but it’s your moms choice and life.If it bothers your sister ,who is also an adult ,perhaps it’s time to move
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A man in my town has just been given a life sentence after he was invited home by a woman he just met. He tied the woman up and then raped her 17 year old daughter and 11yr old son. He held them hostage for 3 days until the daughter jumped naked from the bedroom window breaking her ankle and got the attention of a neighbor for help.
I’m 100% with you on not allowing strange men into the home. It’s an unnecessary risk. She should spend time to get to know the man first.
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Maybe it is time for your sister to find her own place. She is in her 20s after all. Your mom wants to live her life and your sister needs to start hers
Your sister is in her 20s and grown your mom is for sure grown. Mind your own business and stay in your own lane. If your sister dont like it shes plenty old enough to move out. That’s on her. Why don’t you just worry about raising your own kids. And if a strange guy is there feel free to take you and your kids home while your mom enjoys her date.
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She is ur mother not your child. This is your mums home not the “family home” your all grown so damn well act like it. Your “little” sister is 20 years old. If she doesnt like it she can leave 
stop treating ur mother like a child and she would probably stop lying to you. You have no say in who she brings in to her house. Just check on her and make sure she lets you know shes safe etc. Sounds to me like shes enjoying her singledom and I’m afraid ur opinion on the matter is irrelevant.
You want your mother to be honest about her intentions, but you know she’s a liar and continues to do exactly what she says she won’t? How are you not taking this as her doing exactly as she intends? If it hasn’t stopped, it won’t. You are all adults, including your sister. Your mother isn’t going to change, so perhaps your sister should decide whether or not it’s a place she wants to continue to live?
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Wow, I can’t believe all the hate you’re getting from everyone else!
A woman was murdered in Seattle Washington because she brought home a man she met from an online dating site.
So many men would prey on your younger sister if given the chance.
I wouldn’t want her going home with them either.
This is what I would do.
Tell a friend who, where, what, when, and how about the date.
Meet in a public place that has lots of cameras.
Play pool, miniature golf, etc. She can end it if he’s a creep.
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I understand your concern from a safety standpoint and am a bit surprised people find this so humorous. Online dating has risks, people can present whatever image they choose. It really is an optimal place for a predator. You can and should inform your mom of those risks but at that point it’s up to her to make a decision.
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