Your mom is a grown woman…free to do as she pleases in her own home. Dating now days has risks…whether you meet the person online or in person. There are several people who are harmed daily dating people they knew for years. Your sister is not a child…she’s in her 20’s and should be living on her own. I can understand the concern, but in all honesty, all you can do is voice your opinion and leave it at that. Stop trying to control how your mom lives her life and be there for her. You’ve told her the risks…let her be…
You mother has agreed to certain boundaries, and then goes and breaks those same boundaries. This is not adult behaviour. Some would call this toxic behaviour. If this were a boyfriend, I would leave. You can do the same with your mother.
It’s time to protect yourself and to protect your sister. Maybe focusing on yourselves will show your mother how to do the same.
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I think you have been shielded too much. Shes 20 time to move out what is she even doing.
As sad as it is, it is your mom’s house and therefore can do as she pleases. Hopefully nothing will happen to either one, but if it does your mom has only herself to blame. Talk to your sister and ask if she can afford to live on her own. If she can help her find a suitable place. If not, then there is nothing she can do.
But I understand if stand you’re concern and what is on your mind what if they get raped bye these men are fooled with that would be bad news
I’d laugh if my kids told me who I can and can’t have in my house:rofl:
Did your mom trust you with your partner/partners? Either she has her own life, or she can be all up in your! She is your parent, dont get it twisted. She loves you, obviously its unconditional. You should try it! Its an awsome feeling knowing someones there for you even when you screw up. After all, thats why parents still talk to us!
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Your sister is an adult and should probably get ready to move out if she has concerns or doesn’t feel safe. Your mom is an ADULT and has dedicated her whole life to you guys. I get the safety concerns for her, but I think it’s incredibly selfish of your family to tell her what she can and can’t do in HER house. Now is your mom’s turn to live and find some happiness. She’s done raising children, although it seems like you still want to be treated and cared for like children.
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Yes… putting your mom on restrictions in her own house is unreasonable! She’s an adult that raised her kids… time for little sis to move out if she dislikes it.
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Wise words from Jodie’s mom on BABY BOY (the movie that is ) IF I WANNA BRING A MAN ALL UP AND THROUGH HERE I CAN THAT’S MY SAY NOT YOURS
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Maybe your sister should move out… And let your mom live. How much more yrs does your mom have to dedicate to her now adult daughter.
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I love all of these comments 
Agree 
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Are you serious!!LMAOOOOO you and your siblings need to mind your own business.
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your mom and your sister are adults. - and yes it is out of bounds for anyone who lives outside the house to dictate terms to your mother… no matter how you feel she is risking her safety - if your youngest sibling is 20 - your mom is at least 35 and she is probably more aware of the risks than you believe her to be.
if your mom wants to bring people to her home - you can’t stop her and since she owns the home and (I am assuming) your sister isn’t paying rent with a lease - there is no rental agreement to dictate that she can’t do so.
if your SISTER feels that she can’t live under these conditions - she needs to find a new place to live that she can afford. She can move in with you or one of your siblings. She can move in with roommates (friends or strangers) and be on her own - if she can afford it - she can move into an apartment on her own. But SHE needs to decide what she wants to do - and don’t pressure her to make a choice one way or another. If its a case of she feels she can’t afford to move out - she’ll need to get a job to pay rent somewhere - that thing that every adult needs to do at some point in their life. If she’s a collage student, she can talk to the financial aid office about types of aid that may help cover the costs of lodging (though she’ll still need to get a job, it won’t cover 100% of her costs and it will make her loans larger and she’ll have more to pay back)
the ONLY time when you should be advocating to protect your sister is if she is developmentally delayed and needs a caretaker. but if she’s not developmentally delayed, if she is a functional adult - you need to step back and only offer advice when asked.
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You absolutely are being unreasonable. All of you are grown up.
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Show some RESPECT. Step off child.
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Mind your own business. Of course you worry about your mom but she has lived her life for y’all, give her her own space.
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Stacey Smith I could not have said it any better myself!!! Yessss!
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If she was going to your house saying who can stay? Reasonable???
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I agree it’s your mom’s house I am going through a similar situation myself only my youngest daughter is trying to dictate where I live
They are all adults. No children involved. I’d be hurt and angry if my adult kids told me I couldn’t or shouldn’t bring people into my own home.
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I mean it’s your mommas house and your sister is an adult whom could be on her own and honestly should be by that point. Sounds like yall need to realize your mom makes her own choices. Its nothing to do with any of yall. Time to grow up and let her live her life. She gave yall her whole life. Let her have fun while she still can.
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Yeah time for your sister to move out. She’s grown. She’s accommodating your request but she’s a grown woman in her own house.
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She is a adult and your man has every ryt 2 b comfy in her own home with who she meets rather in her house than in strange place and safer
Btw… I know how this goes. My pops has been a widower for 7 yrs after 40 yrs of marriage. I give him all the space he needs because he’s a grown man. I know there will come a time when the parent will depend and need the adult children to do this… but now is not the time… appreciate it!
Mind your business!! Lol poor momma is just trying to live her life and can’t because y’all are up her ass. I can’t believe this is real 
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I understand where they are coming from on the safety issue. No matter what age you are, dating can be dangerous. Not just for the daughter’s safety but for mom as well. Meet those men in a neutral place. Do not bring them to your home. It is too much going on.
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The only thing I am going to say is this: just because little sister is 20 years old doesn’t mean that she is ready to leave the nest! Kids mature at different ages. All 20 year olds aren’t mature. This I know! I was 22 when I moved out! Stop thinking that every child is ready at the magical age of 20…some would prefer to believe that once out of high school, a child should be gone from the nest, ready or not.
child boo,find sis grown ass another place anyway…if someone wanted to hurt her they would do it,rather it be in her house or the olive garden parking lot…hush and mind your business
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Your sister is of age lol move out and let your mom find herself geez she is an adult.
To put it frankly your mom isn’t your child and if you aren’t paying for the home she lives in you don’t have any say in who she allows into it. I think it’s time to mind your own.
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Kid’s at any age don’t get to dictate to their mother who she can and cant bring into a house where she pays all the bills at. Seriously, you should let your sister move in with you since you feel the need to watch whose around her.
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You are 100% in the right in telling your mom that you’re gonna move your sister out if she doesn’t stop it! These Selfish freaking parents get on my last nerve!! She is endangering herself and your sister and it needs to stop. I have a mom like this so I truly understand.
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Your mom should use caution giving her address out!! If she wants to date and bring men home that’s her choice. I understand your concern about your little sister and if she really feels uncomfortable about it she should discuss it with your mom and if nothing goes as she would like she can either accept the situation or move out if she can afford to
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You all, including the adult child living with her, should take care of your own lives and let your mom enjoy hers! Leave her alone.
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Ur sister is a grown woman so is ur mother. Besides she brings men when ur sister is not around but over all it’s her house her kids r all grown deal with it! As for her not telling the truth she did what any mom would do kept the men away from ur sister like you had asked her! I think your sister needs to move out if y’all are gonna have unwanted opinions about how your mother spends her time as a free adult who has already raised her children!
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I understand your concern for your mother and your sister however they are both adults. There is nothing you can do about it but pray that someone does not prey on them. Do some drive-bys when you think that she may have someone over. Take a picture of a license tag as well. I have this issue with my daughter as a young adult dating and she lives out of town by herself with no family around. I told her every time she goes out take a selfie and send it to me. If she has someone over keep a couple of knives under books or couch cushions and most of all get a weapons permit. It is really truly hard to get back in the dating game again after you’ve been locked up in a marriage for years. Although you may want your mom to take some time if her and your dad just lived in the house like roommates that was enough time. They were married on paper but not really physically married.
Not yalls business if it is her house. Your sister is an adult. If she doesn’t like it then she can move out. You don’t know how long your mom was unhappy in her marriage and people handle things differently. At least she talked to all of her ADULT children, which she didn’t even have to do 
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Mind ya business, she was gracious enough to talk you all about it, but she didn’t have to. I wouldn’t have!
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Umm… it’s her house. She can do what she wants.
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Time for the sister to move out.
Your mom’s home her rules
I think its more of a concern she states she doesnt want something bad to happen to her mom plus her mom would be on her own and the man could rape or kill her mom and waits until the other daughter to come home. My MIL was dating a pedophile and we told her that her gtandkids werent coming around he was gone.
Honestly it sounds like your siblings have control woman do this everyday and excuse me 3.men in 5 months that’s not bad it’s your mother your talking about not your child if your so concerned about an adult child then move her in with you your mother has every right to have who she wants to her home. And perhaps she lies because she dont want any grief from you as you want your mom to work on herself I think you should work on yourself rather than being your moms mom, I’m sorry if you see any negativity I’m a licensed therapist and you all have very toxic reletionships
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You’re being a selfish brat.