Grow up. It’s about your children, not you
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September 2020? Or is this a post from last year?
You could always stay home.
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Think about having your kids father there to enjoy Disney with them. Your kids will forever remember that. Sometimes you need to put aside your feelings be the bigger person and make the best of a situation. I coparent amazing with my ex n yes it does take time but I see the benefit for my boys. At the end of the day they are what matter. I know it’s hard but you can do it.
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You can Celebrate their Anniversary in a different Disney location, and send them pics and videos! It will be Epic!
All these people saying to ‘suck it up’ are hilarious!! Really. You don’t always have to be the bigger person, if he goes then you don’t and neither your kids. Don’t stress over other people’s stupidity.
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If it bothers you then don’t go …let your mum spend time with your ex and his girlfriend
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You follow your own intuition. You have a right to stand up for yourself as a Mama and a Woman. You are allowed to protect yourself from toxic people 
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Time to heal, time to rediscover and time to learn to love yourself
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Well the new girl gonna b in the kids life anyways 
. Now a days it’s so much easier to get along then to b bickering all the time. Go have fun make memories!!
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Save your money and take your kids another time …your mom is a jerk! She should have talked to you about it first.
There is no way in h*ll I would attend, nor would MY children! This is a clear violation of boundaries and blatant disrespect. Stay home with the kids! You do NOT have to sacrifice your sanity to make them look like the fake Saints they’re pretending to be!
I would not go. My mental health comes first. There are other ways for me to coparent with the father but inviting his gf clearly means my mother cares little about me. I am not going to pretend for noone that I can handle being at the event. If the ex and I had split couple years before then maybe I wouldn’t mind going but a recent split means I am not emotionally ready to accept this bullshit. They all could go without me. Not sacrificing my mental health for noone
And out of respect the gf should not go…even if the father goes. Its pure disrespect and the timing is bad.
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I’d go have a good time
Laugh in his face like he
Wasn’t even There
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If you also have a man friend then invite him along as well hmm
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I would let the ex &his girlfriend take them.Stay home&catch up on stuff.Or take a trip with a friend.I would be pissed if my mother invited my ex’s girlfriend!!!
You know hun, wierd is quite normal if it is in the best interest of the children. Maybe your parents see this as an opportunity to create a harmonious blended extended family. Maybe they want to get to know their grandchildrens potential stepmom. Maybe they want an important event like this to be EVENTFUL in that their grandchildren get to spend it with both parents AND their dads significant other. Im sure your kids have met her before- if she marries your ex then she will be their stepmother. And possibly give them step-siblings. Once you let go of the pain of your relationship with him, you will realise that it is far less stressful to actually get on. You and him share your babies and I’m sure it was not ALL bad. Cultivate a relationship where both of you have the childrens best interest at heart, where you are civil and respectful to one another, where his life and your life can interact on a social level, where friendship between you two is genuine, where hatred and pain is replaced with happiness and care. When your kids see that though each of you have separate lives, you can live a co-parenting life- then they see happy parents, less stressed parents and most of all they see parents making such astronomical efforts for them. And they feel the love. Dont hate the girlfriend hun- i am not saying love her- but i am saying that if that is who makes the father of your children happy, at least respect her position in his life. If you have a guy then i am sure your ex will reciprocate the sentiment. I know of a woman who cheated on her husband. Divorced and remarried. And then the husband remarried. Both couples carried on like family. Why? So that the two children involved had a functioning family full of love and stress free. Eventually the first husband died. And the second, though not his biological children, took over full daddy duties to the point of walking the daughter down the isle. My advice is that if your kids have no problem with spending this occassion with their dad and his girlfriend then you should let it happen. Maybe you will end up seeing your ex as ‘my babies father’ instead of ‘my ex’. You and him are done sweetheart. He is only their father now. And if you let it, a great extended family can grow from a broken family. BTW, not all stepmoms are bad. Give her a chance too. Remember, she cares for your kids when they at their dad.
Maybe your mom wants to include him and his new girlfriend so he realizes that he will always be apart of the family. After all he is the father of your kids, her grandkids. If you and him are on friendly terms then go and have fun. You don’t have to be around him the whole trip just enjoy your kids and make memories with them. Kids actually do better after a divorce if they see their parents still working as a team! If you want to stay home that’s fine but don’t punish your kids because you don’t want him there!
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He should go and leave his girlfriend at home
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Why punish the children? You have the problem with it. Not the children. Bring a friend for your self. Use the dad being there as your chance to maybe cut loose a little. Have some fun for your self one evening. If you don’t feel comfortable don’t go. But don’t punish the children. Its Disney. That’s kind of a big deal. Lol
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I think it’s a great gesture. No offence but suck it up for the sake of the family.
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I say make the best of it, don’t punish your kids but not letting them go just because you are not comfortable… search deep down why you don’t want to? Is it because how you feel about him? In reality during the trip you don’t have to hang out with him like that. I can assure you that he won’t spend as much time with the kids as you think he will… he and his gf would go off and do their own thing.
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Have any of you that are shitting on her actually thought about how you would feel if this happened to you? Like really thought about it and not just put up a comment acting like you are a perfect person cause we all know you are not…selfish or not she is entitled to her feelings and non of you have a right to tell her she is wrong! This page is supposed to be women supporting women but what I see is a bunch of women who think they are better then everyone else and its really sad!
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a mother that is not loyal to her own daughter, shame on her
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You go with you gut feeling. Without the grandkids it’s going to be awkward as hell for your parents lol let them experience the awkwardness and show your children that this behavior is not ok. If it was just him then of course go, but if his girlfriend is going afterall, then bye Felicia! 
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Don’t put yourself in an uncomfortable position if you don’t want to. Your kids are young - they probably won’t even remember it. As for your mom, obviously she hasn’t been through a divorce and doesn’t seem to understand what that entails. Please ignore all who tell you that you are being selfish. Why are women always the ones required to sacrifice for the greater good?! Why can’t your ex sacrifice and bow out? Point is don’t listen to the haters and do you instead.
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Just an FYI: my family insisted on having my toxic Uncle there for Christmas and Christmas dinner, so we just didn’t go. Let them hang with toxicity. My mother missed us like crazy. Lol we had fun by ourselves eating steak and icecream and watching Christmas movies lol 
I would never do that to my own daughter!! There are other ways to show him that he is still part of the family—a family vacay with his new partner is not it. Very insensitive to your feelings.
Don’t go.Let the kids go though, and let you parents and the ex have to take care of them. I know how you’re feeling. My ex of 25 years was invited to my granddaughters Wedding. Made me & her Dad very uncomfortable, as he is NOT her grandfather by blood. He was my 2nd marriage
Grow up, it isnt about you. Be happy the new GF wants to be part of your kids life. Some stepmoms are awful. You sound bitter. I invite my ex and his wife all the time. I want to get along for my child’s sake. Get over yourself
Yall are crazy…you can co-parent and put your kid first without having your ex and his gf at every event. Co-parenting doesnt mean up each others butts. They got divorced for a reason. Set firm lines with your parents and your ex, dont blur them, or make someone push you to do something “for the kids” your kids will be just fine and normal without all the “we are one big family hoopla”. I think that confuses kids more. I was married 20 years. I had custody. My kids are great but i havent spoken nor seen their dad in 5 yrs. They see him, i dont. Any person that says youre jealous or bitter, get over it…blah blah blah, ignore them!
Strange mum, she’s the one who needs to move on. The children’s father can take the children on holiday with his “new woman”. "I’m on your side sweetheart and you need to be telling her!!!
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It’s a big place, go and enjoy!
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Mother-in-law What the hell is wrong with her
I will stay home and my kids to
Girl-dont be petty. Take those babies to Disney. So the fuck what hes there too? It’s not about YOU.
You seriously got some strong ass issues if you gonna keep something like that from your kids because you don’t like who else is involved
Grow tf up, let your kids go, and be fucking happy. Damn.
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So sorry for your situation. Your ex is someone you will always be tied to for literally the rest of your life. Please for the sake of your children try to be ok. Your children will learn from you that its ok to love their dad and you even tho ya’ll are divorced. I am assuming your divorce was amicable and he is not a danger to you and your kids. Keep an eye out for the gf and see how she treats your children. Right now this is about your kids. If the kids witness you and the ex being ok around each other it will help them alot. I am the child of divorce. My moms anger and hurt got the best of her and she would say terrible things about my dad. Made us feel guilty for loving him. That drove us away from her and literally into my dads arms. He never spoke ill of our mother and didn’t allow us to say bad things about her because she was our mother. He never sunk to her level. You don’t have to be best friends but ya’ll have to get along and show your kids its ok. Good luck!
Girl go and kill them both…with kidness
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Honestly just go. It will be great for the kids to see that even though mommy and daddy aren’t together that you guys can be friendly. Don’t make the kids suffer and miss out on it. If you don’t want to go have their dad bring them and you enjoy some down time by yourself.
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It seems like she invited him for the kids. Yall arent together anymore he should be able to go with his gf because she is going to be a part of the kids lives now. It’s just something we have to go threw when we get divorced and have kids.
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Let the dad and his gf take the kids and you stay home
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I get inviting the ex - but his girlfriend?? I think you need to have heart to heart with her parents. Sounds like maybe they favored him over you on the divorce. Go for the sake of your kids. It can be difficult to co-parent, especially when the divorce is so recent. But this too will pass. Keep your head up, and straighten your crown. Your kids will need you there because this might be awkward for them as well depending on the age of your kids. I would never do this to my daughter.
Out of respect to you, she should have asked you first what you wanted. This is not okay.
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yes it is weird. its not ‘wrong’. that man is the father of your children. he was your husband for awhile at the very least. its better for your children to see your side get along with their father. refusing to go simply because he is there… will build resentment in your children later in life or even now towards YOU. if YOU don’t want to go, then dont. Let your husband and your parents take your children. No reason to punish them because you hold resentment for someone.
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Your parent should respect your wishes. I’m sorry that they are not. My husbands x if very jealous and showed up uninvited to “family events” she drinks a lot, is very confrontational and selfish. We just can’t get rid of her so I feel your pain. I tried to be open minded with her but every incident involving her is negative. Including her having a barely legal teen (she’s 40) that she was sleeping g with locked in her bedroom on her sons 17th birthday- and made sexual comments to my husband trying to make him jealous. She’s the ultimate definition of trash. Luckily my mother in law respects me enough to not invite her but Christmas she showed up anyways 
Get over it. It’s not about you and she sees both parents going as a good thing for YOUR child. This is a good time to try to bond with him and his new girl to create a better coparenting environment.
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If it makes you that uncomfortable, don’t go. If you can bare it, do it for the kids.
Go you may not even see them…
Then don’t go. It isn’t all about you. Grow up
If it bothers u that much…dont go
In all fairness idk the circumstances of ur relationship or divorce. That said if it makes u so uncomfortable then dont go.
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I’d let the kids go, but depending on my stomach for the girlfriend would determine me going or not.
How long has your x been an x? Is their relationship new? Those are the things that if personally be thinking my answer on
Dont go. Your mom is disrespecting you. I find it weird that she would invite your ex and his new girlfriend. I know he is the father of your children but the new girl has no business being there. I would not go nor allow my children. Its so wrong !!
Let the kids go & u stay home & have a vacation of ur own but don’t deny the kids a trip to Disney. I do understand it would b awkward for u & ur mom should’ve taken ur feelings into consideration forst but what’s done is done.
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As the male part of the equation, I took my son on holiday to Disney land fornthe first time when he was 5. For his experience and also so.she wouldnt miss out on the pure excitement of him meeting his idols, living the experience, I also asked his mother, my ex, if she would like to come too.
It was all about giving an innocent child who hasn’t yet been disheartened by life the most enjoyable experience we could and ensuring that as parents, we were there to share it with him.
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You sound extremely immature. Let everyone go and have a good time. get over your damn self and don’t hurt your kids because you want to be a bitter b****!
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Oh I would definitely go. Make YOUR presence known as the ex-wife and mother of these children. Put the new wench in her place along with him and enjoy the hell out of the trip. YOU have nothing to fear, you get to make their lives hell! I say go for it!!!
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My mother would never do something like this unless she asked me in advance and I was okay with it. Which I would not be okay with
There’s some weird ass people on here. Sorry, many relationships end. And when they end, there’s a new way of things happening. We have no idea how things ended with this marriage. Could have been a pretty bad breakup. We don’t know. And in that case, you need your space. For them to have a 2 year old, they didn’t breakup to long ago. And he already has a serious enough girlfriend to bring on a family trip? That’s also fishy. Maybe he was cheating with the chick. We don’t know. Sorry, when you break up, there’s separate lives now. There’s a new normal that is found. And the mental health of the mother is just as important as the kids. This womans Ex is her personal business and her mother stepped over the boundaries by going behind her back. You don’t do that. My mother would NEVER do something like this to one of my sisters or I. This was wrong on so many levels. There’s a transition period after a breakup depending on the situation. This was wrong to do without this womans okay.
are you guys not co-parenting? Unless one of them is a toxic person for the kiddos you guys should be working together to make those kiddos happy not fighting among yourselves. What could possible be the negative of having an additional mom for kiddos and having dad very involved in their life. He should not be involved in your personal crap nor you him but do the kiddos right and do it as parents not bitter ex lovers.
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I would go. Fuck it. Have fun and enjoy don’t let them ruine your time. It’s all about you and the family. Don’t have to talk to them. Just do you
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I am not sure what type of relationship you have with your mother but you should talk with her alone and share your concerns and/or ask her why she felt she needed to invite your ex and his girlfriend. I can understand inviting the ex but the girlfriend? I would suggest you address that in private with your mom and understand her reasoning. However, I am sure there will be awkwardness and some drama among the family. How does the kids feel about it? Do they know the new girlfriend? Does the ex have that type of relationship with your mom for her to include him and the girlfriend? There’s a lot of valid questions and that’s a conversation between you and her. Please address it with her alone so she can understand how you feel. Just my two cents.
Its their dad. Regardless of how you feel you go. That gives you a chance to see how the girlfriend is with them too.
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Families are made up of people who love each other and truly care about the well being of everyone…that is what it should be…
So you have to think about what caused your marriage to end…
If you had a loving respectful union…that is wonderful.
and if your kids are young, which they are…then they benefit you both there…if it ended in anger and hurt…cheating on either parts then no…
Maybe your Mom, only sees the good father…the past is the past…wishing you well.
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I’d be super frustrated too but in the end I think I’d try to put whatever the situation is with your ex aside and enjoy the trip with your kids and family. It’s a really nice gesture that she thinks everyone can forgive and forget for the kids sake but it’s so hard when your heart is the broken one. Your kids will have the memory of you being the bigger person always and that’s what’s important. Don’t rob them because you’re uncomfortable. I hope it works out for you.
Don’t be bitter, Go.
The relationship didn’t work out, now you have to coparent.
You don’t have to spend every moment with them Disney is a big place.
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Weird is an understatement !!! And why should she not go because he was invite ??? He shouldn’t go out of respect for his ex wife , Its her side of the family not his … Js
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It’s their anniversary they can invite anyone who they want.
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Please let the kid go to disney so many of us only dreaming about going to disney
Would someone please take Wendy Minteh to Disney world. Even if it makes you uncomfortable she shouldn’t have to miss the trip of a lifetime 
Kids have survived not going to Disney world.
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I guarantee most of these women wouldn’t want to hang out with their own family with ex husband and new girlfriend.
I sure wouldn’t…my kids happiness is a reflection of all of our happiness.
Maybe they should have went to Disney when their daughter was married to their kids dad …maybe they wouldn’t be divorced now…who knows.
I’m sorry your own mother is putting u through this. I understand trying to get along, but inviting him and his new gf along on a family vacation is just wrong if everybody isn’t on board with it. I would stick to ur guns and tell ur mother in no uncertain terms that u and the children will not be going on the trip if ur ex and his gf go. That u are extremely hurt and dumbfounded by her actions and total lack of respect for u. I would also tell her that u do NOT want to hear about the trip before nor after. If she chooses to bring it up after uv made ur wishes clear, walk away. My guess is that she is probably thinking u will cave on the issue because of the children and go. If u do, get ready for a lifetime of her boundary-breaking behavior. Good luck.
Who does that?
And who said mom can’t afford to take the kids to Disney World and it’s their only chance to ever go?
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Good idea I would not go niether cause it is wierd and awkward
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I wonder why they invited him and gf. It seems a bit off to me. I would think they would want to avoid pain for their daughters sake.
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Weather you like it or not how you act is on your character. Look at it as now theres more for your kids show them how to be adults by going and being respectful. I know it hurts I just went through almost the same thing. I have 3 kids who live with their mom she has a new boyfriend. I dont like him but I try in front of my kids they know I dont like him but how I act and treat him teaches them how to be adults
I would not go.Not worth the stress.Save up money and go just you and the children.
Get over it! You have kids together act like a grown up and do what’s best for the kids. It’s called co-parenting. My 2nd husband and i do things regularly with my ex husband and his girlfriend because it’s good for kids to see parents getting along even if you’re not together. You’re being very childish.
Y’all are in this together for the rest of your lives. I say unless it’s toxic get over yourself and allow your kids this. It’s not all about you.
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Practice co-parenting and get over it. The kids are going to love that they have both parents there.
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I say go, you don’t have to be with them 24/7 just do your own thing with the kids and enjoy your time with them xoxo
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This is where you step up and co-parent. Your children need to see that all of you have their best interest at heart. That all of you love them and can do this together. Feelings need to be put aside.
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That’s foul on so many levels. My kids and I would stay home
Go and enjoy Disney with your kids. I know it feels weird but this would give you a chance to see how the girlfriend acts with your children. You do need to know this if she is going to be around them.
You said we have kids so him going OK might be the only time you all could make memories for your kids together. For him going suck it up be a bigger person. As for his girlfriend how long they been together if it’s not been awhile like she has spent plenty of time with the kids too then she don’t need to go hell I don’t think she should period. Hopefully you and the kids go it’s a big place…
That’s weird ASF but I’m not screwing my kids (or myself) out of a free trip to Disney either way, so I’d just go and do my own thing with my kid’s…sounds like your mom is a narcissist 
Your kids will blame you forever if you don’t go.
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Nope. That’s a girlfriend, not a step mom. A family event should be family, imo. I just feel like it tarnishes the memory. Looking back at 10 year old pics having to explain who the person is next to their Dad because they’re no longer together and the kids forgot. Or they totally remember and feel the loss of that individual again. Or just mentally block the whole thing… And I think it’s important to teach kids that there are times where “family only” is a thing. And I wouldn’t do it if I was the Dad. Just because I’d feel like I was making things about myself. When I’m supposed to be there for them, with them. Not a partner who hasn’t even made it to fiance status.
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Well if she isn’t fazed at your Announcement I wouldn’t be.Stay home and take your children the next time
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What is so hard about co parenting for people to figure out these days? Is she making you share a room with them? Probably not. Will you have to share a bed with them? I doubt that too. Let your child see that not just parents, but families can get along even though parents can’t seem to stay together. Stop being so selfish and think about the joy and excitement that it will bring to your child to have the entire family together having fun!! Grow up
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I understand where you are coming from but with that being said, it is for your parents Anniversary and they are the ones paying so it really is their decision whether you like it or not. I do get that it is disheartening to you that they aren’t taking your feelings into consideration but again it is their celebration on their dime so I would say to go, you certainly dont have to hang out with your ex at all times and it will be beneficial for your kids in the long run that you showed them that you can maturely be around each other.
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I must of missed the co-parenting expressed in the status… it’s clearly not about this if the mother isn’t fazed about whether her daughter and the children go or not…
It sounds quite absurd to invite the ex and new girlfriend if it is going to make her daughter uncomfortable…
We as parents offer unconditional love and support to our children.
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Maybe your mom wants the kids to have both their parents there but then that would be disrespectful to the new wife who obviously would read more into it. So the mother probably thought what the heck, everyone’s going lol
She probably invited them for your kids.
She shouldve asked you first. Plain and simple. I am glad I am not surrounded by people who dont think about my feelings.
You need to speak up louder and say “I don’t want the ex and his gf on this trip bevause I feel…” Also tell them how thier disregard for your feelings hurts you too.
I’d go and try to get along it’s just for the day, the kids would love it and let’s face it that’s who you’re going for
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The gf needs to stay her ass at home.
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I think it all depends on the relationship the mother and father had between the two of them if the relationship was toxic while they where together then it’s proble not a good idea because the children has or had went through enough while the parent where together but if they got alone just things didn’t work out and they both came to an agreement to go different ways then it may be ok for them all to go but it all just depend on the life before hand and what all happen
When did coparenting become that you “had” to go on vacation with your ex husband & your own family. I’m sorry but I would feel very uncomfortable as well as this woman does. I think her mom and dad could have talked with her about if before he waa officially invited to see her feelings about it.
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