Wow. Didn’t ur parents use to do that to u when u were kids. My kids would get a pot of cold water and throw it over their dad and who ever was in the shower for fun. I’ve done it to my grand kids as well.
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Gone face your child will remember she has got to go I remember me abuse im59
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Get her out, toxic person. I had to do the same thing with my mom
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We do cold water in the shower all the time around here… If it was meant as a joke talk to your mom and explain you don’t like it and neither did your kid, but also talk to your kid and explain grandma was just playing, that it’s a pretty common joke people actually do. It doesnt burn, it shocks the body and as soon as you step back in the warm water all is well. As far as the other issues i can’t speak on as you didnt voice them, but I can say as the product of a drug addict and losing my mom to addiction, I don’t regret allowing my mom around my kids. Whether we agreed on things or not. Talk to her… Sit her down and explain these are the rules last chance or you gotta go.
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How did the cold water burn her skin?
(Shocked her I’m sure)
Sounds like a pain my girls have done with each other.
Sounds more like your bothered by her past drug problem so everything is just going to get on your nerves no matter what you do.
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Your children come first. Confront your mom and when she denies it kik her out.
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Welll… if you were 10 what would you want… You have to make the choice… shouldn’t be hard
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My husband does that stuff as a joke, never to be intentionally mean. You should not EVER put up with anyone doing anything ill willed or mean to your child. You have zero obligation to her like you do have to your child. She is a grown ass woman and needs to figure her life out, with out both of you in it.
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Have u all tried sitting down and talking to each other about it all ur daughter mum and partner and urself and maybe see what u can solve. And maybe say this is the case mum. If u don’t abide by our rules. U have to leave.
Kick your mother out
Legally Granny has NO say about YOUR children or visitation rights…help her find somewhere to move ASAP.
We have done that to my son who’s 6, it’s a running joke to do it on one another in the house 
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Silly reason to throw your mom out.
It seems like you’ve already made up your mind that you want her out and you’re looking for any excuse to justify it.
She sounds like a narcissist.
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Pack her shit and show her the fucking door
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That was and still is a common joke in my family
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Wtf. I’m sorry but if she’s PURPOSELY hurting my kid or causing drama for no reason. She could get tf out. I wouldn’t care where she went. My kid’s safety comes first. Idc who it is
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Asked my three kids and they laughed and said the gram was just playing a joke… you should just kick her out what a horrible grandmother. 
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She needs to go. She is a danger to your child and this may have been your only warning.
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If it wasn’t simply a joke that your daughter didn’t appreciate… I’d send her off. You don’t need to be mean or nasty, but If it was malicious and nothing is done this time…who is to say what she does the next? You’ve already mentioned it’s been nothing but problems between them. Your daughter is yours to protect and she needs to feel safe in her own home, it’s not an easy confrontation. Best of luck!
Your mom shouldn’t be in the bathroom in the first place, much less pouring cold water on her even if she is upset with her. Get to the root of the problem, and if it can’t be fixed, then other options are in order.
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Damn I can’t imagine kicking my mom out… but then again my mom loves my children like her own she wouldn’t do that even as a joke 
that’s just mean cold or hot water for NO REASON? just for the shits and giggles?? What’s wrong with her!? (Maybe the drug problem from her past??) I was almost hoping you would add “she poured cold water because my daughter was being bad etc” but for no reason?? Not cool… she wouldn’t like it if she was taking a shower and you threw cold water at her, I bet she would start hell. Yikesss …
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Your mom is a woman who is causing problems and is harassing your child! Your mom is a grown ass woman picking on your child! If your child doesn’t feel safe in her own home you will have a lot of issues with her! She is your mom and you need to put her in her place! You tell her to straighten up or get the hell out!
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How did cold water burn her skin? Maybe you need to sit them down together and see what the problem is, and if it continues tell your Mom sorry but your daughter comes first.
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Maybe counseling would help if not maybe a home. Some people are so mean rush to judgement. Mom needs help. Do the best you can, forget about these people who are telling you to put her out. Do what is best for you and your daughter.
Did you ask your Mom why? I am a good Grandmother…I have 4 Grandkids. One is a 10 year old girl. I guess it could be a joke…but since your daughter was crying and upset…my question is did your Mother apologize once she saw how upset your daughter was?? And besides this episode does she act like a loving and caring Grandmother? I reread what you posted…sounds like she has issues with your daughter and that is strange. Do you have other children and is she kind to them. I’m wondering if she has a favorite and your daughter is not her favorite. Not that any of that matters just trying to figure out whsts up. If its not working out then try to help find her a safe place to live.
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My spouse and I use to do it to each other just playing around.
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Have you talk to her? Ask her why she thinks your daughter “deserves it”? If she thinks your daughter is doing something wrong then you should be the one to punish her. If she can’t follow your rules she needs to go. You have to take care of your kids first.
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I have not heard one ounce of empathy from … Some of the comments that you are receiving . When someone is sick you don’t threw them to the curb. Some of them probably don’t like their moms, just saying. Peace be with you and the final call is yours. I hopeI wasn’t to harsh.
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How old is ur mom and how long has she been staying with you dose she work she should have her own place I don’t find the cold water thing funny talk with her give her a time limit to be out talk to ur kids see if she’s done anything else see if they are uncomfortable around her I’m sorry that u are at this point but this is you and your children’s home not hers
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Your mom can go into rehab. That’s where she should go if she wants to get clean and no, your mom’s actions on your daughter should be your answer. Get her out of your house and tell her that no child deserves any kind of punishment like that unless YOU deem it for. You are your daughters mother not her.
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Your Mom needs to go to a shelter get counseling. Mental health help from drugs. She’s being a bully. You need PEACE & HARMONY IN YOUR HOME
TAKE BACK MOM CONTROL
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They are calling your mom a bitch ! So hateful. I didn’t read if you had a husband.
My husband literally done this to our 4yr old son in bath tonight and he thought it was funny after he realized it was cold not hot…i know we always want to side with our kids but she sounds a bit dramatic I’m sorry …sounds more like your looking for a reason to be mad and kick her out
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Why are people trying to make out like it’s abuse:joy:
?? It was literally a cup of water… cold water precisely so it wouldn’t of burned her. Fair enough if my mum did that to my daughter I’d be pissed and I’d confront her about it straight away instead of posting to a group! It’s not abuse stop throwing that word around!! My mums done that to me before and I wouldn’t ever consider throwing her out of my home if she lived with me. Some of you need your heads testing:roll_eyes:
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It sucks when it’s family, but toxic is toxic whether relative or not. My abusive stepdad and his buddy did that to me as a kid. They held the shower door shut and dumped a large pitcher of ice cold water on me. I cried and tried to get out frantically but they held it shut and just laughed. They were probably drunk or high. Was about 4 or 5 years old. Best thing my mom did was save us from him. Your momma instincts know what to do. It won’t be easy.
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How is This even a Question…?!
She Upset Ur CHILD. Granny Needs to GO…!!
It Could get Worse if U Allow her to Stay Longer.
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That’s out of line. My mama would be out of my house and never allowed back in my door. No contact with my child or I either.
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I can see why that would burn…your in a nice warm shower and then cold water would feel like going outside in the cold wind wet. Sorry but mother needs to go. An adult who continuously causes problems with a child is a bully. And in my experience after being married to an abusive drug addict…he did these kind of things when he wanted to get high but didn’t have any drugs or money. It gave him a “rush” of sorts.
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Maybe she was being silly and playing a prank?
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This is very strange behavior, and not an appropriate punishment if that’s what she was going for. My mother and mother in law would never act this way. She probably needs help, I’m not saying abandon her, but I wouldn’t let her live with me 🤷
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It sounds like she needs professional help not help from you. Now ypur daughter was probably being a little dramatic, cold water doesn’t burn you. It for sure gave her a shock and probably hurt her feelings. And it was totally weird and inappropriate for your mom to do that to her and then say she “deserved it”. I’d get her contact info to some mental health facilities or impatient rehab and/Or womens shelters and give her a deadline to be out of ypur home.
ALWAYS put your kids first!! 3 of my moms kids moved out (me at age 17 included) because she chose her crazy mother above us.
I told my mom straight up. You EVER just look at my son the wrong way and were done with you!!
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Wow my mom would do this too but all in fun. My sibling and I would get her back too. Always remember to lock the door lol
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Ur mom sounds like a child herself… That is something that my siblings would of done when we were younger… More like a practical joke… But bring it to her attention if u dont like it… Or fuck it you do it back to her… But i would fill it with ice and make it a pitcher… And see if she laughs it off or she wont do it again
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Remember your babies come first even if they are 10 because if she’s willing to do this what else is she doing or willing to do so I would sit down and ask your daughter because she should be completely comfortable in her own home and then talk to your mother either kick her out or explain next move Your done
She’s a bully. Don’t let you mom make your home somewhere you child won’t feel safe. Kick her out. Grown ass woman bullying a kid.
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Kids come first. The ‘she deserved it’ instead of ‘it was a prank I didn’t mean to upset her I’m sorry’ or even ‘i didn’t mean to upset her I’m sorry’. Is the difference for me. I would defiantly be mad and also let her know that stuff like that is not okay in the house. I would also kick her out if your daughter feel unhappy or safe in her own home.
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This doesn’t sound like it was done in a playful sort of way. To me this is an indication that your mom may not be mentally well, or safe to keep around your child. It could have been something else, much worse than cold water ie boiling water or acid, and what if next time it will be?
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Part of the problem is you even having to ask. Put your kids first. Every damn time.
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It’s not just cold water, though, is it? What’s the intention? There will be lasting scars. It’s messed up.
If she is so disruptive ask her to leave if she won’t follow your rules
That is not ok. She should be an example not another child. I would give her a timeline to get out. Kids should not have to try to understand why grandma did something like that.
I’d be really pissed. Kick your mom out!
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Uhm if any adult family or not BOTHERED my child ESPECIALLY while theybwere vulnerable (For instance NAKED IN A SHOWER) I’d kick thier ass then call the cops for child abuse!!
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That’s not a grandma or a very good mother to yourself obviously she has no card or concern for either of you , I feel maybe you should tell her to leave until she can get herself together
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Kick her out ! Period.
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Your daughter might need to come first if you can’t figure this out. Perhaps you might need to kick her out but only you can decide this.
Kids come first 100% every time, pack up her shit and out she goes the same day… Bye, Bye. Title doesn’t mean shit unless you earned it.
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Sorry Mom would have to GO!! My kids come first and I’ll be dam if I let her or anybody else mistreat them. Your job is to protect your kids from anything and amybody even if it is family members. She doesn’t get a past for being gramma, she’ll have you in a lot of trouble with social services if she accidentally hurt her. I think she should go!! Kids are first and that’s your daughters home no one should make her feel uncomfortable in her own home that’s the only safe space a kid has is home and as a parent your job is to make sure it’s safe and comfortable by all means.
That could possibly traumatize your daughter
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Your children come first period!! YOUR mom is grown an should be able to care for herself unless she has anything medically wrong not just a drug problem. My father has had a drug problem as well (meth) an has no where to turn before but I knew it was best for not only my child but myself an husband for him not to be here. I know you love your mom but remember drugs change people even the ones we love an care for. An she did that out of hate to your child an I couldn’t allow it in my home. I feel you need to do what’s best an It could be to kick her ass to the curb an let her hit rock bottom. Your daughter is going to resent you in the long run of not for not standing up for her regardless if it’s her grandmother. It’s our job to protect out kids!
That’s one of the oldest pranks in the world. Me and my brother have done it for years we’ve done it to our kids.
It didn’t burn her if it was cold she just got shocked. I hope you’re not making your mom feel bad for the situation
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My grandmother disrupted our house like this and was very toxic! My mom put her out! Your mom needs to go! That’s unacceptable!
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Time for her to go! She has some sort of mental problem and you don’t know what she is going to do next. Protect your child!
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Why was she even in there while she was showering?at the age of 10 she would want her privacy…its not right what she did tbh,I’d kick her out mom or not,kids come first
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Nope, kick her out. Fuck that, she can’t respect your daughter
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First of all;
She’s your Mother.
Does she have professional help?
You said (past) drug problem.
Did you ask her why your daughter deserved it?
All these should be taken into consideration and all issues discussed.
Than if they can’t be resolved help her find a place.
If she should move don’t cut her out of your lives. Be there fore support and maybe things will change.
May God Bless you and Guide you with love and peace. Ameen
I would ask her what the point of her doing it was and if she says it was just to be mean then yeah kick her out but if she was just trying to play a prank on your daughter than no i dont see the harm.
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Lol I’ve done this to my daughter AS A PRANK and every person in my household as a child has done it to one another AS A PRANK I think your over reacting
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It sounds like a prank. If she has drug problems, that is a great reason to get her away from children but for pulling a prank is a little overboard
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How is it a prank if she said she did it because she deserved it.
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Your daughter should absolutely come first no question about it
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sorry but my kids would come first your mother is cruel and i would be telling her to move
Past drug problems does not necessarily = currently on drugs
Cannot say kick her out over a prank
My uncle squirted my daughter with a hose once and she freaked out crying. I was never upset at him because he had no way of knowing she hated it so much and his intentions were never malicious. …
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I would keep an eye out if things kept happening then I would be talking to her… or making her leave but I don’t see the point why she did it if she was in the shower and she poured cold water on her… I mean she’s already wet … how did it burn her skin?! If things don’t get better I would tell her she had to go
Limited family or not, if my mother did something so childish to my 10 year old daughter I would chose my daughter over my mother, hands down. Specially if she’s been causing problems since she has been there. I came from an abusive mother, and I would never put my kids through the same. It is not your responsibility to care for your mother. It sounds harsh but your mother is a grown woman and your daughter is not. Your daughter needs you to protect her, even if it’s from family.
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First slap her in the face and then kick her out.
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If she did it for no reason other than to torment your child and is causing other problems in your household, then she needs to get the boot.
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That’s kind of an odd thing to do . Maybe she thought it would be funny
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Be greatfull you still have a mother.to take care of ( just saying)
Was she messing around or being an ass?
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I can’t see where water would hurt.
Ok Obviously people are not understanding ur post I wouldn’t ask social media for advice girl as a mother go with ur gut like come on ur kids come first God Forbid she do something hurtful when ur not around she a grown ass woman tell her get her shit together or she not allowed around ur children that simple ur mom hurting ur child and u really have to think about what to do seriously girl
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I am confused why you moved a drug addict with your child anyway. (Reguardless of it being your mother) That, in my opinion, in worse than pouring cold water on her.
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It wasnt a prank to the mom, she said the daughter deserved it. I wouldnt kick her out, but I would forcefully insist she relocate and make sure it’s ready for her and change the locks
This post is dumb. You know how many times my boyfriend and I have poured a glass of cold water on each other while in the shower??? It’s a playful funny thing to do to someone. Stop raising snowflakes 
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First off she shouldn’t be near a showering 10 yr old. Was she trying to tell her it was time to to get out?
Why is she even in the bathroom with her? If she did this to be malicious I would kick her out. If it was supposed to be funny I would make sure she doesnt do something like that again. But since she said your daughter deserved it I would asume she was being mean to your child on purpose. If someone is abusive to your child and you do nonthing about it you can be charged and your child taken by CPS. If another incident happens get her out of you house
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YOUR KIDS COME FIRST:100:
Over anyone and anything. And THATS THAT! 
Stick up for your kid,I would do the same back to her,and tell her to remember that your helping her out and doing things like that are not acceptable,and go to drug meetings to help her self start somewhere
Yeah get her out. She brought you into the world, it’s not your responsibility, blood usually is never thicker then water.
Kick her the fuck out
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Your children should come first before anyone else…
I just had to choose my son over my husband of 10 years… So if I can put my child first so can you
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Sorry, but your mother sounds more childish than your child. If it is affecting your child’s welfare than mum might need to leave
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Toxic is toxic. Your child(ren) will experience the toxicity and it will be up to you to manage that and help them navigate their feelings if she stays with you. Child abuse is child abuse no matter what form. Nobody, not even my mother could bring harm whether it’s emotional, psychological or physical to my child without me addressing it and removing it immediately. Your the mom now, time for you to put your kids best interest forward, otherwise I’d say your are willingly putting your child(ren) at risk.
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Wow you all are harsh ? It didnt hurt the kid , haven’t you ever done this kind of stuff playing around ? Our family does crazy stuff all the time ,unless it was done to hurt the child and the mom is clean and sober then I say let her stay , unless you really want her gone , and she said she has no family so maybe should try to work it out with mom .? Just my opinion.
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Get her out? Now. She’s toxic to you both. Kid comes first.
What the actual fuck ?
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Those saying she’s over reacting over a prank… If that’s a prank y’all did to each other then your messed up 
if someone did that to my kid id lose my shit on them. Thankfully no one in my family was that disrespectful that they’d interupt a person’s personal space in a private moment like a shower. Second it’s not a prank if it hurts someone and it sounds like it hurt the child. Stop making excuses for others doing things that are awful to others because you don’t wanna feel awful for doing so to others or others doing awful things to you in order to be funny. If my version of a prank with my kids is not funny or considered messed up to another child and their parents - then I respect that. The mother needs to go if she’s not respecting boundaries.
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