I do this to my husband 
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Kick your mom out now before she truly does harm your child. 
I really think maybe your mom was just trying to have fun!! I know this kind of thing was a joke in our house back in the day!! Im not tring to be rude but this is where people coddle there kids to much!! I understand if there is other issues but your gonna uses the excuse that she dump a glass of cold water on you daughter head well sge was in the shower and really how did it burn her!! If you do this to your mom your daughter will probably throw you out for putting your grand daughter diper on wrong in 20yrs or for feeding her a piece of candy before dinner!! If your mad you need to say something behind closed door to your mother not in front of your child!
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Some of these comitts are crazy and now i see why kids think they are entitled! Youll all be sorry when they wont keep a job bc someone hurt their feelings or some crap
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WOW if the only thing bad that happens to your daughter is geting cold water thrown on her & you kick your mom out for it the next thing sheâll want you to do is shoot a man who says sheâs fat or ugly.
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Wtf! Thatâs not normal!
Omg are you SERIOUS. Did she do this to harm her was she just playing!???
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She has to go!! My mom came in my home.and turne it up side down⌠she is also a drug user who i thought i could help!!
Why is your mom with you in the first place, second, does she have a job, and third, can she find a place of her own or will she need help???
Was it a joke? I live in a home with all boys. This happens A LOT!
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Our whole family did this to each other when I was kid 
you had to hope it wonât your time 
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I meanâŚcold glass of faucet water? My dad used to dump ice water into the shower. Itâs a prank and unless the water was filled with dry iceâŚI think she over exaggeratingâŚit was a prankâŚ
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I would normally think this is a prank, but your motherâs response is alarming to me. What I consider to be a ânormal explanation â would your mom was just trying to be funny, play a trick, make your daughter laugh or just something light hearted.
Your mom saying that âshe deserved itâ sounds vindictive to me. For that reason, I would put my foot down and set boundaries real quick.
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So your daughter was in the shower minding her own business when your mom walked in the bathroom with a cold glass of water and put it on her? For no reason? Not that it would be OK, but if it was for a punishment at least as a reason, a terrible reason, but a reason on the last. I think Mom needs to go. No child deserves that.
Toxic is toxic regardless of DNA
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My mom is a heroin addict and if she ever did anything like this to my daughter she would be out in the streets in a heartbeat. The family I created is more important than the family that created me.
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My kids and husband do this to each other almost dailyâŚ
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My other daughters did this to my oldest as a joke everyone laughed not the first time its happened so im a little confused unless shes just mean to your daughter and that was just to be mean then yes id kick her out in a heart beat
Ok so Iâm a bit confusedâŚ
A. How does a COLD glass of water burn anyone?
B. What did she do to âdeserveâ that? Didnât hurt her, but still doesnât make senseâŚ
C. Why are you allowing a individual (blood or not) to disrupt your household like this?
My mother has a ARRAY of mental issues (DID/MD/bipolar ect) growing up with someone who deals with those problems & refused/refuses to take their meds on the reg is just as bad as living with a recovering addict. One of my closest friends battled with methamphetamine addiction & she did things that Iâd never dream sheâd doâŚthank God she got help, but those actions are still there. Just like my motherâs are, & the damages too.
My mother did things(mental abuse, physical abuse, flip outs) I didnât understand being youngâŚi didnât understand that she was sick until I got older, but when I was young, all I could think of was âwhyââŚ
Please, I implore you to find her another place to stay. It can start with a glass of water & quickly t,urn into something worseâŚ
Like people with mental health issues (who refuse meds) & addicts/early recovering addicts are unpredictable⌠actions, words, & allâŚ
Well this was done to me quite often when i lived on a house of boys though(cold waterâŚor ice) it was always a joke/prankâŚdont think your mom intended to do it to be meanâŚi was always told it was cuz i took so long and it never burnedâŚcold as heck but never burnedâŚidk cant say much due to it being done to me for a laugh or as a joke
My sister, dad, and I used to do this ALL the time. Itâs just a prank. 
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You must protect your children first & foremost!
As someone in recovery, itâs clear that this is off behavior. Chances are sheâs using again, and if you keep her there and anyone puts that together YOUR kid can be taken from YOU for allowing it in the household. Typical response might be that it was a prank. âShe deserves itâ sounds like paranoia that comes with crack, meth or any other stimulant.
I hope she gets the help she needs but itâs not worth losing your baby over.
Kick her out. You ha e every right to, sounds like you have given her chances and she is causing nothing but problems. Dont make your childâs safe place uncomfortable. Also she SHOULD NOT be going into the bathroom while your child is in there showering. Thatâs intrusive.
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Lighten up, it didnât burn her! Thatâs been going on for decades, itâs a joke thatâs been played on your mom. Sheâs just played a joke on her granddaughter. You young people seem to look for something to be offended about!
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Kick her out. She is a full grown adult & she is not your Responsibility. She is causing physical & mental abuse to your Daughter. But be Prepared to serve her an Eviction Notice. Cause by law she can stay until served an Eviction. & I would cut ties with her. Until she can grow up & treat your Daughter with Respect & you too.
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Sometimes the help our loved ones need is the kind that we cannot provide unfortunately. If she is tormenting you or your family members, that is a serious situation and other options should be considered.
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Youâve gotten a lot of good advice. If you ever get to mine:
Growing up my mom did that same, she let her mom move in trying to help her. She also had past drug and physical and verbal abuse issues and neglected and drugged all her children in the back seat of her car so she could go into bars. Long story short- it didnât work. And now NO one speaks to her. I watched a man hold her gun point in our living room and she was forced to leave immediately. Then they tried again about 5 years later and she brought more problems that they had to kick her out again. They donât respect boundaries at all. And she taught me a lot of bad things as a child I would have never known or done had she not been in the house.
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Sit them down together and mediate them your daughter needs to be able to safely tell your mum she doesnât like it and your mum needs to explain if it was a joke or not and apologize.
A cold glass of water while sheâs in the shower. Probably a prank
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We did this to each other in our house growing up⌠Was all in good fun, a joke or prank⌠Jeeze
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You are ur childrens first line of defense if you donât protect them who will?
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Kids always come first. I miss my mother everyday but my son deserves a mom who will do anything for him and that included telling my mother to get out. It may seem like such a small thing but being picked on by your family especially your grandma is not okay
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Needs to leave. You are not her savior. Bad influence
Let her dump flour on grandma next time shes showering!!
âŚover a prank that people have done for ages? I could understand if there was more but over cold water?
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Why are you even asking advice about this??? Your child comes first!!
Tell your mom to get her shit together or find somewhere to go 
why is a grown woman even tormenting a child like this to begin with?? 
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Tell her to leave . Asap. Your family comes first
A prank? No, that is a passive aggressive move. Your mother needs to grow up. That said, you donât owe your mother a home if it is ruining your daughters life. Your daughter is your priority.
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Kick her out. I know you love her and want to help her, but she sounds toxic and you donât want to expose your daughter to that. I was exposed to some toxic family members and addicts growing up and it really scarred me.
Kick her ass out. Otherwise you are being a bad mom yourself . that is abusive behavior and you daughter and if you have other kids in the home they could have problems in the future from allowing your mother to stay there. And be abusive to them. They will end up with self problems because of the way she is treating them. I. Understand that is your mother. But as a mom you babies come first. Beyond all others. If she canât respect you , your kids , your husband and your home . she need to leave your home. You are not a bad person for doing so . you are protecting your children by makeing her leave . she sounds like a horrible person that probably needs to be in a rehab facility to help herself.
Iâd kick her out. No way in heâll I would ever let someone treat my kid like that.
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She is an adult and can take care of herself, your daughter is a child and relies on you to take care of her
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I think kids deserve the same respect with pranks that us adults expect. If it was just a joke okay but when youâre daughter is saying it hurts, which by the way could be something you might want to look into itâs why most on here donât understand how it could burn but it absolutely can if she has an underlying issue youâre unaware of, but if it hurts itâs no longer funny and the prank needs to stop. If pranking continues past the when itâs desired, especially when itâs inflicting pain, thatâs called bullying.
Iâd first approach your mother and explain this, if sheâs not laughing and she says stop then stop. If she gets hurt then you stop and apologize. If the behavior continues after that conversation, you are your childâs advocate, so yes mama would go buh bye.
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Your mom has nowhere to go⌠um theres shelters. Your child is your priority now, kick your toxic mother out before she does serious harm to your daughter. Sounds like mommy dearest is jealous of a child.
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I see both sides, Iâve had my time with toxic family members, and their drug use.
If it were me⌠Iâd take into consideration that it was just water. Not that that makes is ok, it def does not! Your child is young and that shit isnât funny. But, itâs not like your mother meant to harm her. Thatâs all Iâm saying. So Iâd sit down with your mother and very thoroughly explain how you feel, whatâs ok in YOUR house and what isnât, and let her know that things have to change or sheâll have to go. Period. If she sees your point and agrees, then great. If not, then itâs time to go. At least this way you know you tried. You stuck up for your daughter by addressing it with your mom. And youâre giving your mom the chance to do things right and keep her place to live. Thatâs all you can do. Best of luck!
- Your daughter is 10, why is your Mom going in messy game with her when sheâs in the shower? That would be my first issues of concern, every person should feel safe and comfortable enough to shower.
- Doing something like that is no form of punishment nor a funny joke. Your daughter could have jumped and slipped in the shower. Safety is important.
I understand that your Mom has had problems. Youâve had to deal with your own, through her but that doesnât mean your children should have to suffer. It sucks having to be torn between a difficult crossroads but be honest with yourself.
Take some time, drink some coffee or tea and think. Just think about what you went through, is this the kind of life you want your children to grow up in? Your the parent now. The adult. You get to decide what happens in YOUR HOUSE! If someone can respect it; what happens??? Your child/children get ONE childhood, just like you did.
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Bye bye mom!!! You donât mess with my kids!!
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Sheâs gotta go. Protect your kid
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I wouldnât kick her out for that alone but I would sit her down and say itâs her last warning and any other problems no matter how big or little and she will be out.
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Kick her out ⌠Your kids come first no ifs and or buts ⌠I dnt care who it is
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Have you tried talking to Mom? Lay the law down then if that doesnât work well toxic is toxic and you donât need that
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You and your daughter donât need that shit in your lifeâs . Kick her out put your daughter first her home should feel safe for her .
Your mum ainât your responsibility .
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Bye felicia. You never mess with kids.
Was she trying to play a (bad) joke or was she intentionally being mean? If she was being nasty, tell her to leave. If she was trying to be funny, give her a very strong warning amd if it happens again, bye bye.
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As someone who doesnât have much money, and a few with drug problems, you need to do whatâs best for you and your family. If you feel like your mother needs to go, then send her off. The family you created is what matters and thatâs who you need to protect. Itâs not your job to take care of your mother. Sorry if that seems harsh, I used to be such a push over. Until I was walked on too many times and decided my kids will NEVER witness me being taken advantage of or be put in uncomfortable situations. Home is the safe place, and right now, I think youâre daughter is not exactly feeling that.
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Could it have been a prank thing your daughter and her have going? My dad did the same thing to me once when I was a kid during a prank war to get back at me for wrapping a ponytail around the sprayer on the sink⌠if she was purposely being mean then she definitely needs to have a talking to and if you want to kick her out then do it
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Iâd kick her out my kids safety come first she sounds like a whacko
Your little girl needs to be protected from your mom! Get her out!!!
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Parent or not, ANYONE that would be disrespectful enough to do something like that to my child would be out on their ass. Thatâs your house and if you want her out then put her out.
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Yeah⌠i would of dragged my mom out for that. No questions asked.
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You really think you need to ask this? She is assaulting your child and you dont know what to do? It doesnt matter who she is, she needs her ass beat. Either give your daughter a better situation to be in or go be like your mom.
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Sounds like she got some mental issues to be honest⌠I dont mean that to be mean. My momâs been struggling with drugs too these days and she would still never do that to her grandkids
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Lay into her if she acts like sheâs not wrong. Tell her to pack her bags.
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Iâm sorry youâre going through this but, I have to ask the obvious wtf was she doing in the bathroom while your daughter was showering to begin with? Absolutely kick her out. She didnât âaccidentallyâ dump a glass of cold water on her and if it burned your daughter itâs because sheâs in a hot shower and it shocked her body. Please donât think Iâm being rude by any means I just canât find a way to make that seem acceptable in any way, shape, or form.
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Thatâs what girls in jail do on the day they are scheduled to be released
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My mother was also very toxic. Had to cut ties. For our mental health. Mothers number one role, protects their children. Its ok to remove your mother. That is a nicer way of saying she has to go.
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Yes its just water but thatâs just messed up!! I donât blame your reaction at all!
Not funny tell her to NEVER DO ANYTHING TO YOUR CHILD AGAIN. one chance is all she would get. Then itâs out the door she goes.
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Did you ask her why she did this? What adult does this?
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Prank, intentionally meanâŚit wouldnât matter to me the intention behind it. She made your child cry, she has to go. I love my parents but if they do something I feel is out of line Iâve always stood up for my child. The moment I became her mom my jobs been to protect her, I donât let anything slide when it comes to my girl.
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Kick her ass to the curb
Iâm sorry, but your daughter comes first. She should feel comfortable and loved in her own home. Same for you. You should be comfortable in your home. Your mother is a grown woman. Sheâs created her problems and needs to deal with them. I know you donât want to kick her out because good or bad, sheâs your mother. But, sheâs being abusive to yâall and you have to put your foot down. Time for mom to fly!
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Nah. You canât help someone who doesnât want the help. If it wasnât something before, the whole shower debacle would be the last nail in that coffin. Your momma needs to go
My sisters and I did this kind of thing to each other all the time. Itâs water in the shower. I donât see the harm.
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Nope I would kick her out. Not your fault she has nowhere to go. She should have thought about that before doing weird mean shit. Itâs your job to protect and care for your daughter, not your grown bully mother
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Your daughter is your first priority. It is your job to provide her with a safe home. She is 10, she has enough âstuffâ to stress about being a pre-teen, having her Grandmother bully her in her âsafeâ place is not ok.
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Your mum sounds like an asshole
Awe.
Itâs actually quite simple. Youâre the mother here now, and your priorities are your daughter and for her to feel safe.
Sorry grandma, youâve gotta go.
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My mom used to always do that to us, I think youâre over reacting
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Sheâd be out immediately
OMG! You have never done this to anyone? I have filled a bowl full of ice, salt and cold water to toss over the shower curtain onto my now husband. He returned the favor a month or so later. My kids used to toss a fake tarantula over the shower at me just to hear me scream. Glad we have a sense of humor in our family.
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Your daughter deserves privacy first of all.
If it was in fun thatâs one thing if not she needs to apologize.
Boundaries need to be set or consequences weather itâs your mom or not.
Sounds like she needs so get professional help.
If you think sheâs using drugs or alcohol a visit to the ER is warranted for an evaluation.
If she refuses to get help you may have to call the police or paramedics to take her in.
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I grew up doing this and getting this done (by siblings). Opening the curtain is different topic but throwing water over the curtain really isnât a big deal,
Itâs supposed to be a fun jokeâŚ
We also have an open door policy, if it isnât locked then except someone to come in and use the bathroom while you shower. This is how I was raised and this is also how my kids are being raised. it was COLD water. It didnât burn her, it pissed her off.
I wouldnât make a huge deal about the Grandma going into the bathroom because if you canât trust someone that lives with you to walk into the bathroom while your child is showering, then that person shouldnât be living with you in the first place.
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CUTâ:clap:THATâ:clap:BITCHâ:clap:OFFâ:clap:
that is YOUR DAUGHTERâS home, and she absolutely should not have to be ABUSED in it
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Your first priority is your Daughter. If all she is doing is causing problems with your daughter Mom is the one who needs to get the boot. It can be hard but it sounds like it will be what is best for your daughter. You arenât obligated to help your mom. Let your family be free of that responsibility.
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I asked my 12yr old daughter as if I was in your position and she was the daughter, would she want me to kick grandma out? I asked her what if she was always mean to you? Her response was âNo, Iâd probably stand there for a minute, yell at her and then start laughing!ââŚBUT, I wouldnât allow it!
Hell no kick her out! No one hurts my babies. Your baby should always come first
It donât matter how innocent it seems, if she did it to disturb her and she was disturbed thatâs not right at all. Family or not sheâs saying itâs ok for her to get treated that way by other ppl also by her doing that. Since she is ur mother I would have a serious talk first n if she doesnât get it n feel sorry I would tell her sheâs got to go
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Find her a good shrink and have her take anger management classes. If those donât work then toss her to the curb.
It was water. Obviously youâve already decided to throw the mom out, how about go fuck yourself and your shitty non-Christian attitude. Disgusting what the world is coming to, throw a momma on the street for a prank??? WTF is wrong with you??? Gtf over your damn self. How gross would it be to show a pic next month of you with your mom at the fucking shelter having soup? Youâre a disgrace. Gross human , bad human!!!
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Never feel bad about doing whats best for you n your kids, if she has those issues and is acting like that towards your child you gotta let her figure it out on her own, you might see it as helping her but is it really good for you n your family?
You are your childs voice.
Sit back do nothing. OR do something about it.
Good luck. X
Having a drug problem is not an excuse to be so rude. If your daughter did something wrong then, she(your mom) needs to act like an adult and tell you and let you be the parent to your daughter. Pooring cold water on someone while they shower is an invasion of privacy⌠Honestly itâs up to you to figure out if itâs too far and or crossed any lines. If this is a first time offense Iâd tell her to let you handle the parenting from now on and warn her if these occurrences keep happening shed be out the next time.
What a straight punk ass move by your mother. She would be booted from my home ASAP!
Your kids come first! I kicked my mom out for yelling at my then 2 yr old son to be quiet at 3 pm so she could sleep.
Sounds a bit like a mental issue. You said previous drug problem but she may have other mental issues she needs to get diagnosed⌠Altimerz and deminsia will make some people act out like this
( yes I know those are spelled wrong)
Umm what? Yeah, she needs to get the hell out. Mental issue or not, protecting your daughter comes first.
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Dumping water isnt a concern. What concerns me is that she didnt even try saying she was playing around. She just did it to do it⌠I wouldnât be okay with that. But ask your daughter what she thinks.
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