If your mom knows the kind of ex he is not sure why she would want your sister with him. Remove your child from any environment you feel would be harmful to her. Build a good happy home for you and your child and let them be.
Lol mad for what , sounds like good ridden for you , and tbh if it were me I would have done the same I wouldnât have my baby there either
Youâre not crazy. I would make the same choice
They will eventually see the light. A zebra canât change his stripes
Sheâs your daughter!! 100%correct
If you feel that your daughter is safest not being around him for whatever the reason might be then you do what you need to inorder to keep her away from him.
But inorder for anyone to really give you advice then we would need to know more details like how he made you loose your oldest and why you feel so strongly that your daughter shouldnt be around him. As for your sister and mother its completely wrong to not listen to you or take your feelings into consideration. If you abused you then hell most likely abuse her as well.
It sounds like you need to ditch the family. Why Iâm the heâll does anyone think itâs ok to date family exes. He obviously still is trying to be connected to you. Weird
I probably would have knocked my mom out . Period
Your mom is in the wrong all the way aroundâŚand so is your sister. They saw the abuse and the sacrifices that you had to endure and they brushed it aside. You are her mother. Your right is to protect your child from all dangerâŚand if that includes your mom, than so be it.
Far from CRAZY!! You did the right thing.
O well ⌠sheâs not a real mother donât let her be the reason do you lose custody of your youngest.
How did you lose custody because of him? If heâs abusive and she knows it that sheâs gonna find out for herself. Your mom is 1000% wrong. She is endangering the welfare of your daughter.
You have every right to feel the way you do.
Protect your baby.
Fuck everyone else
This totally sounds
Like a Maury povich episode
Your mom and sister are the classic definition of toxic and dysfunction. Do what is best for you and your child. Sadly there are times when some of us have to leave family alone in their madness to save our own sanity and save our peace. Much peace and love â
What a crazy, toxic mess. Sounds like they are all crazy and you need to cut ties, family or not. Why would your mom be okay with your sister dating your ex, let alone someone who caused her own granddaughter to be taken from you and abused you? A tiger never changes his stripes.
You do whatâs best for you and your daughters safety, sometimes family is not what you need around, and at times is better alone than with said family.
Well honestly they would be out of my life for good! And why did you give up ur other child though? Was it best and what you wanted? Or you just gave up on that child?
your baby. you are correct.
You are not crazy. sounds like you need to stay away from all of them
I wouldnât worry about anything or anyone. But you and your daughter. Thatâs all that matters. Is you two nobody else.
You are correct and your mother is wrong
Throw the whole family away, wtf
Youâre not wrong. Some mothers are just plain stupid. Youâve done the right thing & itâs sad that your mother hasnât seen the pattern of abuse from your previous relationship with that man & wanted BETTER for your sister. Dunno how any mother would not want whatâs best for their child but at least youâre standing up for yours⌠Your Mom isnât standing up for hers
Protect the child first priorty
You are not wrong. It is your job to protect your child and not to please your mother.
You do whatâs right for you baby, momma
And shame on your sister I mean ex fiance wow just but he sounds like her problem now.
I donât blame you at all for pulling her from there . Especially when you told them your feelings about him being around her. No offense hun but your family sounds like itâs a toxic environment. Your mom could of just Said he wonât be over when sheâs watching her I mean its just for when your at work so it wouldnât be every day Iâm assuming. But like I said your doing whatâs best for your child and that wonât always please people but at the end of the day the most important thing is keeping her safe. Iâm also sorry about your oldest child hun
No, you arenât crazy! You sister is though for dating him after all he put you through. Heâll do her the same way at some point. And your mom should be a litter wiser about the situation. Your sister shouldnât have him there, just because heâs your ex!
Iâd cut ties with the sister and mom.
Youâre not wrong, and you do what you need to do to insure your childâs safety, and your mental health! Best of luck to you!
Yeahhh, I would 1000% cut ties with all of them. Sounds extremelyyyy toxic. Who would even date their sisters ex? Thatâs just weird to begin with, especially knowing heâs crazy. You did the right thing by removing your daughter from that, donât let them make you feel negative for keeping your child safe.
Not understanding how he caused you to lose custody of one daughter but you still have the other one. Something is missing here.
Your mother and sister are in the wrong. Your child comes first
Nah you have a toxic cycle to break, and this is the first step. Good for you keeping your daughter from this nonsense. I donât understand your mother, youâve already lost 1 child of course you donât want to risk losing another. How can she blame it on your ex when youâve gone through such a trauma? Youâre doing the right thing. Your daughter will have a better life.
No, you are not wrong. Get rid of his pictures and cut them all out of your life and your daughterâs life for your safety and hers. You can make family out of good friends. You donât need that rat race!
You are not wrong your choosing whatâs best for your child
Your mom is 10000% WRONG & your sister is a POS sorry not sorry. I would cut ties with all of them asap!
Of course youâre not wrongâŚ
Youre totally in the right. And as her mum youre putting her welfare first
Youâre not wrong. Do whatever you need to do to protect your daughter,
Ok your sister ainât shit like for real how could someone even want peen thats been in their sister already and second your the mom you knows whatâs best and they are both toxic
Your child your rules. Keep your child away
Your mother for allowing someone in her home that
#1 had grandchild removed from family
Your mom will beg for the child when the loser is out of the picture
Your not wrong. Your mother and sister are wrong.
Itâs your job as a parent to make sure your kids are safe and to not have them around people you know are not safe.
Your not crazy and you are not in the wrong, stick to your guns and do whats best for you and your child you are doing the right thing, Donât let your mother put things into your head if anything your mother is the crazy one and your mother is in the wrong for going against what you want for your child
Your mom sounds toxic. Good for you for getting your daughter out of that environment.
If he has an abusive past, then no you are NOT wrong at all. Your first priority is YOUR child, NOT your parents or siblings. Who your sis is dating and who is or is not previously connected to YOU is immaterial. This person has actively tried to HURT you in ways that could have KILLED you and while I do not envy your mother her position being caught between two of her kids ever, she should have respected YOUR say with YOUR child, ESPECIALLY given the past history of abuse.
I also, if I was your mother, would be EXTREMELY concerned about MY child dating someone that had previously been abusive towards ANOTHER of my children and would NOT be encouraging it.
Never know what angry exâs will get up to. Also sisterâs angry with others will do stupid things too. In general you know him. Can he be trusted around his daughter?
Youâre in the right. Keep your baby safe. I would completely cut off your mom and sister. Give it time, abusers have a pattern heâll do similar to her soon enough.
Your mom and your sister are mental-donât look back
Good for you take a stand and be proud of yourself
Not at all, you do whatâs best for you and your daughter
The only person in this dynamic who will suffer is your child
Is your child in danger from the father
I totally get why you feel animosity towards your ex
But I would be sad for letting this come between you and your family
Iâm not sure if your angry that your mom allows your child to have time with her dad
Or the fact that your sister is now with your ex
As we donât know the full back story (which is none of our business)
Toxic family. Cut them out of your lives. Move on.
Not crazy at all. Your daughter should always come first
First off your sister has violated! Wth is she even dating your ex forâŚeven worse a ex that was toxic to you and abused you.She should be ashamed.Your mom is just as bad.smhâŚfamily aint sh*t anymore.
You did the right thing by removing your daughter from your mothers careâŚkeep doing what you are doing by protecting yourself and your daughter from these fâdup people.
Your rules bump all the other stuff
Lines have been crossed. You are not wrong. Leave all of em alone!!!
You are right. She is wrong
I donât care how related we are, Iâm protecting my children at ALL cost. Period!
No your not crazy, the whole situation is nuts! Keep him and your sister, that has No feelings away from them!
Stand your ground mama
You are exactly right
They are wrong! You are not at all & if he abused you etc⌠why the hell is your MOM allowing this man to come into her home after everything heâs done to you AND your sister is most definitely wrong!! WTH
Yeah itâs time to cut your sister and mom out of your life completely. I cut out toxic family members and have been better for it.
You sound like a good mama! Youâre not crazy at all.
Your mother is wrong. You did the right thing and if your mom canât see that then yes she doesnât get to see her grandchild. Sheâs a bit dramatic for sure. She needs to calm down and stop letting a known abuser around your child. YOUR child not hers.
Your childâs well-being comes first. Tell mom if she doesnât like it so sad my call
Your child comes before anything else in this world. If you feel sheâs unsafe, itâs only right to get her out of that situation. Youâre not crazy, youâre being a good mom.
Keep soldiering on hun you are doing the right thing for you an your daughter
Throw the whole family out.
Youre not crazy at all. Everyone else is!
Is your ex he father of you daugher? I think you are correct to keep him away from both of you!
I donât care what the circumstances are, sisters donât cross that line. Thatâs total hillbilly mentality
You arenât wrong at all , you have to protect your daughter at all cost even if that cost you your relationship with your mom .
PS : you sister is absolutely disgusting and your mom is not much of a different, knowing what that man has done to you and still allowing him in her home is crazy .
Stay away from all of them
Youâre not wrong at all. First your mother is wrong for not respecting you at all. Why would she think itâs cool for your daughter to be around him with all the things you went through with him and second what the bleep is wrong with your sister. Dating your ex is soooo wrong and then for her to be dating a guy that abused you and made you lose you first child, her niece is wrong on the so many different levels. If I was you I would go around any of them because it seems to me theyâre worried about them and not what you went through with this piece of bleep
You donât need to explain anything when it comes to the safety of your child. Save all the conversations and only talk through text if it continues. Who knows if they will call CPS on you or the police. If they continue to harass you about it get a restraining order. Your child is your first priority not them.
Forget your mom, sister and the ex!! Do what you gotta do.
You are so in the right
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Yeah that whole thing with them forcing you to give ur oldest daughter up for adoption is messed up âŚthey manipulated u âŚtoo bad u canât seek a lawyer to regain custody of her also reading this kinda crap makes me madâŚ
You need to do whatever is necessary to keep your youngest daughter safe, and sister donât do that to each other. Do what is best for you and your daughter, if they donât understand that you donât need them in your life, family or not, it just isnât right. Be strong and stand up for you both and let them know what they are doing will not be tolerated
Run!!! The hell away from them
Thatâs messed up. Some sister you have there. Ghost them all.
No way! keep that child away from them all! Why did his behaviour mean you lost custody of your eldest? Just asking. Anyhow with the youngest, steer clear of that house and the toxic environment.
You are not wrong. Keep your child and yourself safe. Mom and Sister are toxic for real.
Do whatever you can to keep your child safe.
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You are absolutely doing the right thing. Be strong and stand firm.
There is a saying my husband and I live by: your life is like a boat on the open ocean. Make sure all the people in it with you are paddling and not drilling holes.
Your mom is being a hole driller. Donât let her gaslight you into thinking otherwise.
You All need consuling
I would feel the same way you are. Your in the right.
Your child didnât get taken because of your ex . If he had issues and u werenât unfit and left him your child would still be with u unless u were neglectful. Why your sister and mom want this man around after he abused you is sickening and clearly Iâd they donât see an issue stay away from them
First of all I canât imagine how weird it is for your sister to date your ex. Thatâs freaking gross. Also you are a great mom for putting your kid first. They will learn soon
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Smh Id dead her. Literally ghost em all
Wow. I would disown all of them
So what is your question? Keep the child away from all the creeps.
Why did ex make you lose custody of your daughter? Was he abusing the older girl? If so, he will do It again!
Neither your child is your best interest. With everything your sister needs to open up her eyes to the full picture . Glad u r keep your baby safe
I donât even have to know you, to know that your ex was NOT the reason you lost custody of your oldest daughter.
You were given a caseplan by DHS, clearly you didnât get sh*t together in order to get custody of your daughter.