Any money he gives you is for the baby and to make sure the baby has a safe environment so once you get child support you could pay it
As a mom of a 16 year old, Iâd rather the bf send money for diapers for his baby(among other items, wipes, clothing etc.) so yâall can stock up on a few things while he has a job. You never know what could happen to his job or him where heâd be out of work.
Theres no reason you couldnt look for a part time job for after school hours, even being pregnant. I worked my whole high risk pregnancy with my daughter, and already having a 6 year old. When my son was a new born I absolutely could not work and I was on bedrest . I was 18, in college, we lived with my parents and my ex husband worked offshore but respected my parents enough to send them money to help with several Billâs, and sent me my own money to get my own food to save them on their grocery bill. He respected and felt obligated to help my parents because they were providing a roof over my head, transportation to my doctors appts, and anything I needed. Itâs not who should pay Billâs and who shouldnât. Under the circumstances yall are adults, yall obviously didnt use protection while have sex and yall knew what could happen. Welcome to the life of being an adult and taking responsibility for your own actions!
Well I dont think its his responsibility it is yours to help pay bills. Youâre an adult, about to be a mother. Gotta grow up.
There is NOTHING wrong with your mother asking you to contribute. You canât get pregnant with your own child like you are a grown up and then play the I am a kid in high school card. Choices come with consequences. You or him, since you are now a family of 3, need to start helping to pay your own way.
Um just because you have a boyfriend does not mean he is responsible for you. Your mother is responsible for you until you graduate if you live her house. Iâm so dumbfounded with people now days. You want to baby and spoil your children until they become teenagers then you want to act like they are suppose to just flip a switch and grow up and start paying for stuff. These people saying you should pay or he should pay know they didnt help. Lol
You are your own responsibility, not his or your motherâs. She needs to get off her high horse
You arenât his kid so no, you arenât his responsibility. He no longer lives there so she should expect him to payâŚyou however should help your momâŚso if he sends money for his child, then yes, I say help her out.
I understand you are still in school but what I think is that you have made some adult decisions and I think you should help pay the water bill not your boyfriend.
I dont think your mom is wrong in saying needing to help pay the water bill but itâs not his job anymore hes not living there anymore.
I see both sides if I was you I would just get a job more money faster you can get out there also you could pick the bill up and get her to shut up
Iâm a momâŚ& never did any of my kids or their friends I had lived in my house ever paid a penny for anything⌠I donât agree he should pay it, if he isnât living there. Itâs ok, when he was though
He shouldnt be paying bills at a house he doesnt live in
Before getting pregnant you were her CHILD. Now pregnant, youâre an ADULT. Itâs time to grow up.
If I was mom in this situation. Iâd be charging him to(but saving to give back for baby supplies once yâall got your own place. Cuz that stuff ainât cheap). Because youâre an adult now. Bills are part of that. Youâre no longer my child. If you can make a baby, then you can be an adultđ¤ˇ.
Now if he truly leftâŚthen yes. Iâm gonna help my child free of charge. Cuz Iâm stepping up and being grandma/daddy cuz I ainât leaving my child foundering alone.
But he didnât leave you. Heâs just outta town(mine use to work outta town 95% of the time when my kid was young). So yaâŚyou and baby are his responsibility. Same as my man still paid our bills while he was outta town. Cuz we were still HIS family.
But ya. Youâre having a baby. Time to grow up.
Pay the water bill. Itâs cheaper then your own place. Just saying.đ¤ˇ
Sheâs your mom. He isnât your husband. Your more her responsibility at this point. Once you move out and live with him, then yea. But sheâs being completely unreasonable. Just tell her that he is trying to get money saved up for when the baby comes, etc. and you are still trying to finish school, so she should accept that. And just pay it. Anyone else saying well you live there, so you need to get a job. It doesnât matter either. I had my first child when I was 17, and my 2nd when I was 18. And I couldnât finish school while working also. I was having to change into my work clothes during my 8th period. Go straight to work, not get off until midnight or 1. To go home, do my homework for all my classes, study for my tests, go to bed about 3-4 when I finished. then wake up at 6-6:30 to do it all over again. I couldnât juggle that. So I dropped out and got my ged, worked full time, etc. you need to worry about finishing school.
Help pay the bills you live there-if you donât like being there rent you a place of your own-this is the life you have chose for yourself
Kinda funny how some say mom is money hungry for what one of the cheaper bills
And mom just needs help now
Maybe sheâs using alot more water maybe sheâs eating alot more food so more money is going towards food now so that leaves her now short on other bills and mom is living pay check to pay check as it is
Are you helping out with anything food, phones, electric?
You are not his responsibility. The baby is both of your responsibility. If he is working and paying his own bills somewhere else, of course he shouldnât be paying your mothers bills. You on the other hand, should be. However you work that out. You are going to be a mother, and need to start paying your and your babiyâs way through life.
You became an adult when you started acting like. Adult and got pregnant is is your and your bf reponsiblty not hers
She sounds pissed you are pregnant tbh this is her way of punishing you ie make your bed you lie in it
Technically you are still your moms responsibility until you are 18 unless you are emancipated pregnant or not, not your boyfriends.
I think this is a situation where you have to weigh different things. YesâŚyouâre in High School. Big props for staying in school and graduating. You are now also a parent. With your decision to become pregnant you made the choice to become a responsible adult and have the responsiblity for a child. You are 18. Legally mom is not financially responsible for you. Morally is a personal choice. However⌠mom is housing you. I assume sheâs feeding you and covering your other utility expenses. If mom asked you to leave (just a scenario not my personal belief) where would you go? Your boyfriend would be forced to provide for you 100% because you are pregnant correct? Many moms believe that not requiring help from their children or putting the strain on them that might create; helps put them in a position of being able to attain goals or success. Sweetie⌠youâre an adult. If mom is asking for help with one thing⌠given the help she is providing you and your boyfriend (because heâd be completely responsible otherwise) shouldnât be looked at as a negative thing. Be grateful and help your mom if you can. Or sit down and negotiate what you can help with⌠I know youâre young and have a lot of expenses most kids your age arenât just starting out life with. Youâre not them. If you canât work because youâre pregnant or going to school⌠I think itâs not to much to ask your boyfriend to help. Or the three of you sit down like adults and try to figure out who can do what. Your mom probably works hard or is on a limited income. Take that into consideration when you feel sheâs being unfair. Iâm sure she has struggles and reasons she doesnât express to you. Try and remember less stress on you is less stress on your baby. Handling this quickly and in a manner fair to everyone is the best choice.
Teen pregnancy is hard enough without parents (grandparents,) adding more obstacles to the mix. Im sure this young lady is already worried about becoming a mother at such a young age. If it were my daughter I would want to guide her and help her as much as possible, not to go party and be crazy but to finish school and become a good mother, maybe even go to college. Good luck to you sweetie. A baby, at any age is a blessing. You got this.
I think that you should help contribute since youâre 18 and having a child. The bf needs to send you child support
He shouldnât be having to pay anything if he isnât living there. He has his own living expenses to cover while heâs trying to save money in order to provide a home for his family. Your mum is out of order. If anything she should be asking you, not him as he doesnât live there but since Iâm sure sheâd rather you got your education, she should let it go
Legally she is her moms responsibility since she is still in school. Itâs not easy to be pregnant and get a job, most places wonât hire you if youâre showing plus the fact sheâs still in school means she canât work that much. This is what wrong with people, parents expect to only take care of their kids until a certain age or something happens then itâs âyouâre on your ownâ. What happened to helping your child through hard times and loving themâ:thinking:in other countries the children stay with the parents until they get married and they donât expect the help. âOh youâre 18, youâre an adult so get out and take care of yourselfâthe BF is trying to save money to move baby and her to live with him, her mother should be more understanding and help that become a reality. Instead her mother thought it was a good idea to let an underage girls BF move in with them since he would pay a billâ:woman_facepalming:t3:who could see that going wrongâ:roll_eyes:
He shouldnât be paying it but you should be.
Iâm going to say this. Heâs your boyfriend and donât live there so no he should not pay the water bill. But your the mother of his unborn baby he should help if he can. Babies are more expensive than a water bill. Trust me on that. But legally you are a adult even though your still in highschool. Because just helping with one bill is far better than paying it all yourself.
Grown up, you will have baby soon. Life costs baby costs. You need to provide for your baby and you or your boyfriend depends what you arrange with him. You are not minor any more if you want to live with your mother you need to pay your half of bills
Personally, yes you made an adult decision and got pregnant from that decision, you also decided to keep your baby and finish school, big props. As your mother I would not ask for any money for bills. Finish school and have the baby are the focus points right now. Then if you are still living there its time to get a job and save to help your boyfriend and you to be able to afford a place. I would want better for you and honestly if sheâs worried about the water bill being higher it will stay higher and get even high, after the baby is born, so help get you out on your own and the water bill will go back down. Either way need to find a way to compromise until you are out on your own. Congratulations on the baby and for staying in school. Keep your head up!
Why is there a conversation about a water bill? Water Billâs are usually a very low bill. My opinion⌠he should not have to pay any Billâs he isnât living in. I understand you will be moving to where he is. If he is going to be saving to get you all a place this should be consideredâŚhe is away working not just playing around. Now⌠my opinion would be get yourself a job⌠parttime if necessary. Even though you are now pregnant you can still work. You are pregnant now so YOU have to step it up and figure out how to help with the household instead of just using the household. YOU will feel better about the entire situation in time. Maybe ⌠it is one way your mom is trying to teach responsibility because it isnât just you⌠you and him⌠but now there is a third person to be involved. Maybe look at this as a responsibility teaching time! You will be responsible for YOUR own and YOUR familyâs necessities. Donât let a water bill create a situation you canât return from.
Your mom is being ridiculous
He shouldnât have to pay anything. You should. That being said if you have no income, she likely said he should pay because you have no moneyâŚ
No your mom is being stupid, he doesnât pay anything unless heâs living there, but if your getting money then you should be paying something, if your not because your mom earns to much and has to âkeepâ you then no, she has the moneyâŚ
I think you should continue to pay. Him or you. Your an adult. If you cant afford to pay a water bill than what are you doing having a baby. Your in for a shocker.
Your moms ridiculous. I ainât paying Bills to a house I ainât living in, NOONE should. That is not his responsibility. As a mother, she also shouldnât even be asking for money to help cover her child. Adult or not.
Your moms wrong. Shes just upset and taking it out the wrong way. Youâre in her house and still in school
This is stupid. He shouldnât pay utilities where he doesnât live. Sounds like sheâs just mad youâre pregnant. I donât think you should pay it either . Youâre still in high school and about to have a baby. If it was my daughter I would prefer her to stay focused on graduating and having that baby. Once youâre graduated and had the baby then yes you should contribute to the Bills until you can move out .
Iâm sure adjusting to this new way of life is as difficult for your mom as it is for you, but in different ways. It sounds like there may be a bit of resentment on her part for dad not physically being present and helping out with that bill anymore. Maybe sit down with her and try and come up with some sort of compromise. Is there anything (within reason, obviously) that you could take over around the house to relieve some responsibility on her part? Picking up groceries, etc? Communication is key and trying to come up with some sort of compromise shows willingness on your part to ease some of her frustration which may help in the long run. Good luck mama
Your priority should be finishing school. Your mother should make that her priority and the bill is not his responsibility. Your mother should be doing everything possible to make sure you finish school.
You are your motherâs child and you are her responsibility not his. The child will be both of your responsibility. He isnât responsible for any bills in a house he doesnt live in.
Maybe itâs a test of character for your boyfriend. Asking/expecting him to continue paying a bill he was responsible for when living as couple and expecting a child will allow her to measure commitment, strength, and morals/values he will provide to you and upcoming child. You yourself are an upcoming mother which likely helps you to understand how much she loves and wants only for your happiness. I hope he measures up.
Your focus now before the baby comes is staying in school. Your mom needs to get a reality check. Your bf is not obligated to pay her utility bill. When you move with him he then will be obligated to pay the bills in the home he provides for his family. If something happens between you two and you break up your mom has given you a glimpse of whet her expectations will be. I donât think you would get off so easy as paying the water bill.
Who is paying for the gas to take you to your doctors appts? Copays at the doctor, your maternity clothes? Your food, to help your child grow? Is the babyâs father helping in any way at all? He could at least help pay for gas for your doctors appt. You and him made a grown up decision to have sex, and make a baby. So since your still in high school, no job, no money, your baby daddy can help with something. It shouldnât all be put on your mother.
I think if youâre 18 you should be paying your own bills pregnant or not. Whether your bf wants to help you with that would be his decision
You live there so its ur responsibility not his
I had to pay my parent rent when I was 17 so⌠Pay the water bill.
I donât think itâs about money I think your mom is trying to get a point across. And yes you are in a way his responsibility he should be supporting you if you guys are together.
Lmao no, he shouldnât have to pay for anything. Thatâs her responsibility
She should be paying all your Billâs till you are 18. You are a minor. Therefore her responsibility
FAN⌠WHAT ARE YOU DOING TO HELP YOUR MOM? BESIDES USING HER UTILITIES, Eating her food, taking advantage of her.
I see both sides. If he was paying it and now heâs not then your mom is use to that and without it she notices it and still needs it. If he canât pay a utility bill for his family (sheâs family too) and save too, then whatâs that saying.
I think he/you should pay it. You decided to be an adult, you have to be responsible like one. You donât want to pay one bill at her house, then move out and pay all of them somewhere else.
I think your mums in the wrong tbh. Its scary becoming a parent at any age, but youre only young still. She shouldnt be making it harder for you. I know when I was 16 and pregnant my mum was one of my biggest cheerleaders, and I will forever be grateful for her guidance and love and support because without her I wouldnt be half the mother I am today. I think your mum needs to stop worrying about getting paid, and worry more about trying to guide you to be a better version of you for your baby.
Its not his responsibility itâs yours.
Why just the water, other facilities are for free?
Your responsibility youâre 18. I moved out at 18 had a full time night shift job in a factory, an went to school full time. Graduated pregnant in 2018, things are achievable when you donât rely on others youâre an adult.
Maybe sheâs trying to prepare you for what itâs going to be like to give all your money away to an infant.
It doesnât matter if sheâs still in high school, sheâs 18 and not her motherâs responsibility.
All you saying otherwise are wrong. She should get a part time job and help her mom with the bills.
Sheâs pregnant and made a big girl decision. She cant be an adult then pull the âIâm still a kidâ card.
Choose which one you want to be. A mother or a kid.
No you are their responsibility til you move out he does not have to pay bills in a house he doesnât live in so youâre mom is wrong
Youâre 18. The least you can do is help pay some bills.
I know your young. Very young. And still may be considered a minor. But you have decided to bring a child into the world. Which means itâs time to step up. And start taking care of responsibilities and Bills. As long as your under your moms roof, either you or your childs father should contribute to the household that youâll be bringing your baby home to.
He shouldnât pay any bills of anyones if hes not living in the residency.
In my opinion he is not obligated to pay any of the expenses.
If he is not living there he should not have to pay the bill. I see many people saying that youâre 18 and you need to step up and pay bills too but thatâs just not true. You are 18 and still finishing high school. Your mother chooses to let you continue to live there even though you are 18. If she wanted YOU to pay that would make sense but trying to have HIM pay who doesnât live there doesnât make sense.
Your both wrong. He isnât responsible for the bill⌠you and your mom are. Thatâs awesome that he paid when he lived there but he isnt there and he is being an adult working at fixing a situation for you, him and the baby. Why doesnât it say anything about you working also?? Your an adult now⌠going to school doesnât pay the bills (although I will say kudos for finishing school) go to work part time while finishing school kuz once that baby comes there is no excuse of Iâm too tired or Iâm focusing on school⌠just being real. Moms go through school, work full time, come home, cook, clean, get their kid/s taken care of, and put to bed everyday. You donât get a free pass simply being 18⌠if your home, you should be helping. I helped any time Iâve been at home with my parents. My mom has been on disability for many years now and recently thanks to an accident at work my stepdad got put on disability so I STILL help with things like example my phone since we have a family plan and itâs never been switched, etc etc etc. I recently had to come back to stay with my family due to getting into a car accident and losing everything thanks to injuries⌠Iâm not capable of financial help right now from not working yet (doctor ordered to wait at least a year from my surgery date) BUT I STILL help with everything and now that Iâm starting to get payments from insurance I ask if I can help with anything. Itâs time to grow up⌠being pregnant has nothing to do with any of it. Sorry not sorry. I worked over full time during my pregnancy until my car accident when I was 5 months pregnant and almost lost mine and my sons life. Iâm itching to go back to work and help my family and rebuild my life again. You need to go get a job even if itâs part time and help her and your boyfriend out.
Talk about stupid young people - pull your head out of your ass nobody has to support you and child in a home that you donât pay rent on dip ship
Find a job even part time and be a big girl since you made a big girl decision and got pregnant. You are grown now time to step up and act it.
I donât feel as if he should pay it, but you definitely should find a way to contribute.
Your mom is still legally responsible for you.
Ur 18⌠start paying ur way. U obviously have plans to leave to move in with BF. Since u arent working i see how she thinks ur BF should pay. Once ur living with him all those bills are yours to pay⌠pay the water show appreciation ur parents are still letting u stay at 18 and pregnant. If ur still eating there and getting everything else u need paying the water bill shouldnt be difficult.
From a manâs point heâs doing the right thing he loves u and your carrying his baby and your momâs taking care of u and the baby thatâs a small price to pay, donât put more pressure on yourself, your always going to need your mom help and sheâll be there stay strong
Your mom is wrong and stupid as hell.
Helping your mom with some bills since your an adult is the responsibe thing to do. She could be charging you for much much more. Rent per say. Time to grow up.
Your mumâs home! Your mumâs rules I guess! Help your mum more, cleaning cooking! Your an adult step up
Your moving out soon âŚso it shouldnât be this huge of an issue âŚif I was the mother I would just let him save save save for you and baby and the house/apt âŚbut if yall r tight on money âŚI think he should pay up âŚbc it sounds like maybe your fam has done alot for you and him âŚand his job sounds stable so why is 2 or 3 Billâs tht big of an issue âŚif your fam has your back âŚyou need to have theres ⌠n
Youâre not his responsibility while living under your mothers roof. Once you move in with him thatâs a whole different story. No one is responsible for another. Youâre not a liability geeze. You technically shouldnât be paying your mothers bills and nether should your partner. Mothers make ends meet all the way up until you move out and they do try their best. Not all mothers can work. If you do work here and there or you get money here and there from something just give her 150 for actually staying there. You really shouldnât be paying her bills honestly. Us mothers have more than just water bills and electricity. We also have rent and other payments to make like food, clothes from here and there for the children. Itâs not cheap nowadays so when you move out youâll feel the struggle but with your partner working within a stable job and yourself having a job it wonât be that hard on you both. Good luck though with school and the pregnancy
In my opinion you are an adult now. You are acting as an adultâŚyou should resume the responsibility of one.
Personally I believe she should let you guys save that money for the baby instead of technically paying an extra bill⌠If youâre planning on moving with him and heâs working for you and the baby he could offer to pay your half of it but not the whole thing.
Just me personally as a parent wouldnât expect that of my expecting daughters boyfriend.
I lived with someone for years who expected a million times more than your mother though so Iâd be grateful itâs just the water bill and not the mortgage and all the bills.
Iâve been where you are. She probably NEEDS the help.
He isnât living there so he isnt using any water so why should he pay. Say to her âif you had gone away for work for about a month and we got a water bill and said you need to pay this cos you where before you left even though you havenât been here and used any of the water and oh yeah we need your share of the food bill even though you havenât been hereâ
He shouldnt pay it. You should. Or at least chip in your share.
I think the point your mother is making is if you and the boyfriend want to be adults and make a baby, then you both need to step up and take responsibility. You need to contribute to bills. Just like you would if you were living out of home. I think thereâs more to this situation than just a water bill. If you donât like your motherâs rules, move out⌠simple
U R an adult now , no longer a child. I think U should help ur mother with bills.
Maybe your mum is struggling and needs the help?
I see where you are coming from but i also see where your mother is coming from too and for the most part I have to agree with your mother! Maybe she is trying to teach yall responsibilities. Was there any sort of agreemnet when he moved in that he started paying the water bill or did he just do it out of consideration? I mean your mom had you, she brought you into this world to care for and raise, not the baby you are carrying, that is his child, maybe she is trying to teach you and him that. You are 18 now, it is time you started learning how to pay bills and take responsibility for your actions. Also, if you have the baby before you move out, that baby takes money to feed, wash cloths, bathe, etc. That is yours and the daddies responsibility, not your moms.
Also, are you working? If not then that may be another reason she is asking him, instead of you. Yall are acting as adults, making a baby and need to be treated as so. If for instance you lived there till you was 25, should your mom still pay all the bills? No! Its a water bill. Shich is probably the cheapest bill she has, be thankful, she is still allowing you to live there and giving you one of the cheapest bills she has. She could be asking for a whole lot more, since you will be soon using more electricity, groceries, water etc!
No as the people living in that house should only be paying it. Also itâs your parents job to take care of you till you graduate or move out
I was also pregnant at 18 and living at home and finished high school, but while in HS I had a part time job during the school year and helped babysit during the summer until I got pregnant. I moved in with my bf and at 6 mos prego he told me to get a job or move out. 23 years ago no one hired pregnant women due to liability. So I went back and lived with my mum. After hs and my son was born I got another job and my own place. I was 19 had my cna by the time I was 21 and my son was almost 3 years old by then. At 6 mos prego I became a single parent, but I did help my mum around the house just not with bills. Times have changed and things are different now. Youâre able to get a job or at least try to get one and help. I would of if I had been able to. Thatâs just me though. Anything is possible if you put your mind to it! Good luck hun!
at ur age pregnant or not u shd be helping out with something at least. the water bill is the lowest billâŚbe glad it wasnt the light bill ud be dying rite now lol!
Your mom is wrong for asking him to continue to pay because 1 your not his responsibility and 2 you live with her you arenât even li king together and hes doing what he needs to do ass if nnow for you himself and your child âŚidk your story but she can certainly ask u to help out
I donât think he should be paying it as he dosent live there. How ever if she wants you to pay it and you have money coming in. I think you should pay it⌠I lived with my mom when I had my first and I helped pay for food and took on the hydro bill. My parents paid all other bills. Your having a baby now, they donât have to support you both.
Why do you think you shouldnât have to contribute to the house you reside in? Youâre an adult, not a child. Yes - either you or him should be paying some bills. If heâs out of town for work, and youâre still together, why do you think he shouldnât have to help support his pregnant girlfriend?
Jas Bisset l agree totally with you
Split the cost you use it so does sheâŚ
You need to pay the water bill
Thereâs no way for her to enforce that. The best she could do is sue you for rent because youâre still living there. Should you help her if she needs help? I would think so. Should you have been more responsible? Definitely. Should you have to step up because you werenât? Perhaps. But thereâs still no legal way for her to enforce him paying her when heâs not living there. Perhaps if you set up child support payments, you could give part to her as rent, and the rest you keep for baby care until you move out. That would be responsible of you.
You are pregnant with his child,which he is responsible for.So yes the water shouldnât be to much.
Either your mom needs the help, but doesnât want to flat out tell you she does, or she wants you both to be responsible. Either way I think one of you should pay it. Welcome to adulthood.
I think Mom doesnât want to admit that she needs the help.
I think ur momâs wrong
Girl if your freaking out over a little oleâ water bill⌠at 18 and pregnant living off your Motherâs food, lights, clothes, toiletries, soap shampoo, laundry detergent, gas, etc⌠while your boyfriend ( practically husband works and saves money ) you are technically a family ( Wife & Mother) which mind you is a âADULT ROLEâ & Yall think Someone " owes" you Parent or not. Your sadly mistaken⌠you took on that Role plus your 18 your Mother owes you nothing. You BOTH should appreciate her help in this very bad predicament yâall have gotten yourselves into⌠Be Thankful your Mother/ Family cates enough to help you. You or him one pay the little ole Water Bill and Be Very Thankful for the Help⌠Time to grow up. If your moaning over a water bill you have a LOT TO LEARN & A LONG LONG WAY TO GO⌠PAY THE BILL AND SMILE