At the end of the day it’s your husband’s mother. And u guys won’t be able to see eye to eye. I recommend that u speak to your husband directly,
Telling him how u feel respectfully. It wasn’t a good idea to have your mother in law live with u guys big mistake but find a peaceful resolve too much is at steak.
but. u have to get him to be on your side in order to find resolve. He is the key to unlock the period of challenge u face right now
If she’s threatening to move out, let her. Take her at her word, you’re not a mind reader.
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She need to move in her own place or respect you and your wishes don’t leave your husband work it out
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I would pack up the kids and go tell hubby until he deals with her, you won’t be back.
Or if all else fails, walk around naked until they get the hint 
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Sad that your husband doesn’t see your point of view. She shouldn’t interfere in her son’s marriage, she’s causing strife-not good at all. She can get her own place/apartment and allow peace in your home.
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Marietasimanu Siueva it sounds like she’s doing something deliberately to hurt someone. A ea?Maybe if it happens to us i will have a family meeting to discuss the matter up front everyone living in the house. And if it’s causing problems between me and my husband then she should leave the house.theres plenty of houses for old people to go to live in. But don’t allow her to break your loving relationship with your children and hubby.
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Your house, your rules. Period.
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Set rules for her if she doesn’t agree try a compromise on some rules and if she still doesn’t agree kick her out and if your husband takes her side offer him to go with her if hed like that better 
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The answer is buh bye. If shes the religious type I would tell my husband that the bible says he is to leave his family and Cleveland to his wife. He can either tell her to find her own place or he with go with her to find a place for the two of them.
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Let her move out! She can pay rent some place else! If ur husband can’t have ur back, he can go with her. I can’t stand ppl coming to my house. Especially every day! That’s crazy!!
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Get a new renter if it’s the extra cash you need
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Talk to ur husband tell him how u feel, tell him u will compromise give her 2 or 3 day she can have visitors but u need days as well (whatever ur comfortable with) tell him he needs to deal with the respect issue! If he still chooses his mom doesn’t compromise or deal with the respect see if u and ur child can stay with friends or family let him know u won’t stay in a house where ur not valued and teaching disrespect to ur kids and maybe space will help everyone involved figure out what they really want
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Your house why doesn’t she stay in her room if she doesn’t like it! I would have outright told her not to speak to me like that infront of my children and if she doesn’t like it she can easily leave and if he isn’t happy he can leave too!
Its your family home, she should respect this and your family. She is no longer your husbands priority you and your children are
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Then let her leave when she threatens to, in fact pack her bags for her and book her a taxi too
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She pays rent she is allowed to have guests. that being said yall living together doesn’t sound compatible and you should tell her to please do so next time she threatens to move out
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Compromise. Set two days a week she can have guests (probably limit the number) and the hours (like 2-3 hours in the evening) or every other saturday for 4 hrs etc.
The only logical solution here is to get a new husband…and make sure he doesn’t have mommy issues
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Well let her move out?
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Set the rules if she does not ,boom evicted. 
Shoulda listened
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Tell her she gotta go. Your house your rules if your “husband” doesn’t like it kick him out too
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She feels that is her home as well and wants to have people over and feels she can. She needs to have her own space where she can entertain people and not bother you. This is her way of socializing and being comfortable in her own home. She may not feel comfortable going out and to other people’s homes. Speak with her and your husband about alternative place for her to socialize. She does have a right to have people over since she pays rent. If this is an issue then it should be addressed in the rental agreement, but you probably don’t have and written rental agreement. Maybe you should have set days in which people are welcome to come over and visit since it bothers you. I think the best solution is to have a separate place for her to entertain people while you are home. You all share the living areas and she pays you rent, so you both need to compromise on this situation. I do advise you to have a written rental agreement in the future to avoid problems like this from happening.
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She threatens to move out… let her go! I understand nobody wants company multiple times throughout the week especially when you have kids, a job, household responsibilities, etc… and then if they are at your house you more then likely end up having to offer food/drinks etc… I think maybe if all parties are willing to come to a compromise like Tuesday & Thursdays she can have company and then she go visit them at their house on the weekends 
. If not, I’d let her make good on her threat.
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Honestly, I would discuss it with your husband privately. But her paying rent kind of makes you look a tad um meanish. I get you have boundaries and all. But maybe then she should take them to her room sometimes? Or y’all can build an efficiency away from y’all’s space? And I would talk it over with your husband. When you’re married you become one. He needs to also see your side. But if you’re going to divorce for that then there is more to that story than you even realize. I wouldn’t leave my husband just because of that. And I would go to my room and stay there if I truly didn’t want the company. It’s like a catch 22 big time.
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And I just have to say that reading this really makes me upset to know that your husband doesn’t want people over but then again he’s going to take his mother’s side. This whole situation just sounds unhealthy. What needs to happen is your husband needs to grow a pair put his mother in place tell her that she needs to respect his wife his family and his house or she needs to leave. What’s the worst going to happen? She’s going to stop talking to you? Nobody deserves to deal with that just because their family doesn’t mean they need to treat you like crap. Everyone always thinks that they need to be emotionally mentally physically abused by their own family because their family and they have to when actually you have every right to stand up for yourself and just stop dealing with it. Counseling would be good too. But for now, take these steps
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If she pays you rent then she has a right to have who ever she wants over. You can either make her a private living room for company or a living space just for you but you can’t dictate what she does in her house. It’s important for the older generation to have company and a social life.
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If I was in a situation and I was dealing with this and my husband really felt this way and my mother-in-law then the marriage isn’t worth it and having those people involved in my life would not be worth it either. Life is too short to live with regrets
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I live with my Daughter an Son in Law. Not once have they Ever told me I couldn’t have my Gkids or other Daughters over. And I Don’t Have to Pay them Rent either. If they don’t want to hang out with us they go hang in their room. If I don’t want to hang out with them an their company I go to my room. We have lived together 12yrs also.
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Your husband and MIL sound like awful people - how selfish. I love all my friends and relative and love for them to visit but not on a daily basis. You should either take her up on her offer to move out and take her son with her or you should take your child and leave.
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Hubby needs to realize you are his wife and you come first not after his mother or her lifestyle and seriously you are too different to live together better she go.
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Make her an out door space… or shed to entertain … give ]2 days a week … old people not much time left … objects places not as important as people are … 1 day her friends … sit and discuss boundaries
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I’m sorry but if that’s your home him and his mother can go end of discussion.
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Oh my girl
Simply even if she paying Rent.
( she is only intile to her room.
Start taking a bath when company comes come out in your with open robe
Like mash potatoes your husband will realize you need privacy.
EXTRA COMPANY IS MORE WORK FOR DO NOW HE HAD TO HELP. BIG TIME WARE AND TEAR.
Take your kid and go! Mother in laws that are demanding in this capacity will never change their position. And it sounds like you have tried to talk about this on a few occasions with no resolve. If your husband isn’t willing to be your partner in this situation, and you feel strongly about it, reevaluate how you feel about the big picture. Let her move out. She can see her grandkids when she visits like any other grandparent. Overbearing is something I just can’t tolerate - but that is me.
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If I’m paying rent somewhere I would want the freedom of having people come visit me. It is your house but she is a tenant not just a free loader… this one is tough. Seemingly she has a right to have company over. She may be asking them to come over a lot just to get on your nerves though lol.
If this arrangement no longer suited your immediate family, she has to go.
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She pays you rent. She also shouldn’t have to live by rules, and not “allowed” to have company. Especially her own grandkids. She shouldn’t have to leave to go visit them, especially when she’s paying rent also. I mean I can kinda see, if she was living with you rent free.
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You and your husband need to sit down and have a serious talk on your feelings. Maybe even include a mutually trusted 3rd party/mediator. It is his responsibility to make sure his family is safe/comfortable in their own home. I believe you love your family, however your home should always be where you find the most peace and serenity, whenever you want it. And if anything or anyone conflicts with that, somethings gotta give.
I was in the same situation until my husband stepped in. I think your mother in law needs to respect your space. She’s renting a room this isn’t her home to invite everyone over especially everyday. It gets overwhelming trust me I know I’ve gone through it. I would have a family meeting and put it all out there. I wouldn’t get a divorce that’s probably what the mother in law wants. But your husband does have to grow up and respectfully draw some boundaries. Good luck. God bless 
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I would love to have my family around alot. And if she has her grandkids over they can grow up with your kids together and be close. To me that would be a blessing. And if I wasn’t up to socializing that day I would just excuse myself and go to my room.
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She can go pay rent somewhere else ! Your marriage will be over if you let her walk all over you. It’s your house you should talk to your husband about the situation and let him know that you are seriously done with the situation and if he needs to respect your decisios and your thoughts and your private time . Also with all this with the covid you should tell them it’s not a good idea to have company over every day. I’m sorry but if your husband takes his mother side than your marriage will be over soon if you don’t put a stop to it. !
Tell your husband u have had enough. If he loves u and the kids he will respect your feelings. If not tell him to take a hike and take his mother with him
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If she is paying rent and/or helping with bills, food and and upkeep of the home she should be allowed to have people over when she wants. Would you want someone telling you, you can’t have company when u want? Not sure her age but let her enjoy what time she has left.
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If she’s paying rent then why can’t she have someone over? I mean, I get not wanting people over… but it’s probably best if she doesn’t live with you anymore because there’s obviously resentment that she’s there.
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I don’t think the people defending this truly understand the situation. Every individual person on this earth has different personalities, levels of comfort with other people, different needs, etc. Some people don’t like people at all and prefer to be home constantly(my MIL is one of these types), while other people couldn’t survive without constant company. Most people are the in between tho. I know I LOVE company, but there has to be some limit to it. I feel the same way about my SO inviting his friends(OUR friends tbh). I love when all our friends come to hang out, it gives me joy and mentally makes me feel better, but it gets to a point where if they come over too often, I become stressed, overwhelmed, etc. This all boils down to the fact that I don’t like cleaning when other people are over, I need time in between having company over to really clean, wash laundry, grocery shop, tend to my family, spend time alone with my SO, etc. This woman has a right to feel how she does.
If MIL is paying rent, that means she’s being treated as a tenant, right? That means she should follow basic rules. In my apartment complex, we can have people stay with us for a total of 14 days, then they can’t come back for 45 days(spending the night situation here). There are rules about noise and disturbances for neighbors and etc. Tell her next time in a simple, calm manner that if she can’t abide by rules, leave. Simple as that. You feel overrun in your own home and your husband is siding with her. He’s going to stay on her side until she leaves🤷🏽♀️
I say it’s a catch 22 she pays rent so she should be aloud to have people over but at the same time I get u wanting to be alone from time to time and your husband should be siding with you period either all 3 of u sit down and talk and try and figure it out if it goes back to the same ol thing then leave but atleast try and fix it first
There are a lot of hurt/resentful feelings here (both you and your MIL) and your husband is in the middle. 1) you need to sit down with your husband to tell him how you feel (you like your space and that is ok) how does he feel about your MIL having friends over - You say at the top you both don’t want people over but then when you say something in front of her then he takes her side; 2) she is paying rent like a roommate so that kinda makes it her home too (even though you own it she pays to live there) - so she does have some right to “live”- what you need to do is establish where you and your husband are as a team and then together talk with your MIL. So let her know you like to have your space on the weekends as a family (her included) but maybe she can invite her friends over on weekday mornings (when you take the kids to school/grocery shop etc) or afternoon when you take the kids to soccer/ballet/music lessons. There has to be some happy balance for you all.
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I don’t know how old your MIL is but please try to remember one day she will be gone forever and it’s a small price to pay o give her a little happiness. Maybe you should speak to your sister/brother -in-laws and ask them to pick her up to spend time with them at their homes. Even over night to give you and your husband some alone time. That sounds fair to all concerned especially you. It would be great for your marriage.
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Wonder if you had no family?pick your battles. One day she will be dead and gone…maybe then no one will come visit. Sorry not sorry
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Problem? Just tell her ( be nice ) to find another place to live. There is no other way for it. If hubby doesn’t like it tell him to go with her. Dam there is not a house for two women. One or the other has got to go. That’s my opion.
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I’m so sorry you and your family is going though this but I have been there and done that just about the same thing The only thing you can really do is just ignore her and do what you have to do and see if this helps I really don’t know what to say just good luck honey
It isn’t just “people” it’s family.
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Ok she is paying you rent
she can have people over whenever she wants.
You can’t dictate who she can have over and who she can’t especially with her paying you rent.
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So, she pays rent like a roommate and isn’t allowed to hang out in her own home??
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I mean if you’re looking to try and “work on your marriage” they do make mother in law cabins that you can put behind your home if you have the space!
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Well, if I were you I would take her advice, but , id file for divorce and send her and your husband away. He needs to cut the apron strings and be a man, husband and Father
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Somebody has Togo!! And it wouldn’t be Me!!
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Maybe the MIL needs to schedule her visits 24 hr in advance, this way you know when she has people over and she also feels like she has a say too
Is time for her to move out and have all the company she wants at her own place 
It’s ur house kindly ask her to leave but if she pays rent how can u tell her she can’t have company when she wants only thing u can do is evict her
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I mean, she’s paying you rent which means it’s her home. If she was paying rent anywhere else she’d be able to invite whoever she wanted to her house.
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Hubby needs to man up and tell his mum to back off. Ultimately its Your House.
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I have read this story and many comments. I just have to say we don’t know the whole story as to why the mother in law is living there and paying rent and Who told her she had to pay rent? However putting that aside she is disrespecting the mother in front of her daughter and that is a HUGE PROBLEM. This needs to be addressed first. The husband is in a tough spot but their has to be a line somewhere. Next she has a right to not want company over and shouldn’t have to go to her room. Sometimes you need that peace at home to relax your soul and get ready for the week or the rest of the week. She never told her that she could never have company but just not everyday. How is that unreasonable? I say sit and talk about it and if she threatens to move out let her go, no need to keep the toxic in your house.
Your setting yourself up for bad things like kicking her out and she turns around and sues u for grandparents rights. Get her out and pay for a babysitter
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If they ain’t supposed to be in the house call the cops and have them removed if she will not tell them to leave it’s really that simple if she keeps doing it kick her out
Sounds like to me, they need her rent. It’s no longer her house she’s a tenent and have the right to have company. It’s her children she knew the relationship this women had with her kids before this occupancy happened. Did she think it was going to change?
This is hard
I think there’s too much we don’t know atm to make an ultimate decision, however that being said, compromise… I feel the comments would be different if we’d heard MIL side to this too
She pays rent and if her kids and grandkids want to see her they can. That’s not just your house.
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I would start walking around naked to make her feel uncomfortable for having people over its your house you walk around with shirt or pants if you so choose
To the ppl say well mil pays rent and?? I pay rent to my landlord but they have rules I have to follow just saying…
But seriously though what is up with all these horrible MIL’s??? Makes me afraid to get married myself
Why can’t she pay rent in her own place? Then she wouldn’t have all the rules.
Who is this person that posted this anyways? I don’t see any answers.
He’ll never take your side if his mom is in the picture. That doesn’t change, get out while you still can. Sorry 
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Grandma needs to move out 
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It is your home put your foot down and say no more
Well if you make her pay rent you can’t really do anything she pays rent.
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Let her move out, it’s your house and she pays rent.
Tell she haul she so n so… N uh husband cud leave if he want to… Wtf… Ummm deres a limit to everything… Once inna blue moon no problem but not every time so
Question??? Why do people post stuff on here when they don’t want any answers - maybe you should just stay quiet and solve your own problems. All you want is for everyone to agree with you - stupid.
Prayers n strength if you and your spouse can’t be on same side it’s not going to work!
Your house, your rules. If she threatens to go let her.
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She needs to move out.
She would go she should respect u
Do what you can live with and what hives you peace.
Think about a mother-in-law unit if you have room.
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Smh…think I’ll stay single a tad bit longer
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Build a separate apt or granny flat in the backyard.
She pays rent, then she can have people over.
tell her to live with the other family’s simple
Get your kids and leave !!!
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Tell her to find her own place…if this is YOUR home, you have every right to enjoy it
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Leave. With your daughter. Now.
If u have a basement make a rec room and let her have guest come n go visit her there. Make it her own special living room
Kick her out. If your spouse wants to he can go with her
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She sounds like a Narcopath, let her move out.
If I were you I would talk to my family and or friends, I would pack my things my daughters things and I would leave I would tell my husband your suppose to be my husband. He is and adult he married you he is suppose to cleave to you not to his mom. I would file for a legal separations (so he can not run up a bunch of bills and would have to pay child support) He has chosen his mom over you. Tell him until he decides you over his mom you wont be together. I would then tell him you have 6 months in six months if things do not change, it will turn to a divorce. You married him not her. If he want her to live close to you then you two should move in to a duplex or someplace where she has her own space and does not come into your space without permission. But once she told you to leave in front of your child she went to far. That is mental abuse as well teaching your daughter to disrespect you. If you do, do a situation as I described you should write EVERYTHING out and create a contract lease. But since she pays rent she does have the legal right to have whoever she wants over, if she wanted to walk around naked she would have the right. YOU need to take a stand because otherwise your mama’s boy will never grow up and you will always have to deal with this situations.
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Unfortunately you don’t have a man by your side you have a man child that is clueless on how to be a husband. He’s worthless and needs to go. He made his choice pretty clear and sadly you are not his priority.
Have her move out. You should never expect your husband to take sides. The best thing is distance from your not immediate family.
Tell her to GTFO. And if your husband isn’t going to back you well I’d be putting my foot down and I’d be asking my husband who he’s married to because it sure as hell doesn’t feel like me
No way in hell could I live with another women in my home. I’m very head strong & like things my way, in my home. I would have put a stop to that shit the first time it happened.
There’s no way in hell I’d deal with that shit. I hate having company over & can’t imagine having company everyday. I’d tell her ass to move & if he doesn’t like it, he can pack his shit & go with her. F**k them, that’s your home & she’s a guest, regardless if she’s paying rent or not. She’s paying rent for her room, tell her to take her guest to her room. How dare her tell you to go to your room like you’re a child. I’d be running from that situation ASAP or tell them to get the hell out