She’s a grandparent! They all do that! My daughter is 4 and everyone in my family still can’t wait for me to walk in so they can snatch my daughter up. I welcome it and them buying her whatever they want. When she was a baby my aunt when out and bought her a bunch of bottles till she found some that didn’t leak and was always buying her clothes. My granny would buy baby food even when we didn’t need it. I was happy they cared enough about my daughter to do all those things.
if i had a frkn DIL as ungrateful and rude as u id take my damn money back, take my son out to a bar, waste it all getting drunk n leave ur lame ass at home, n i dare u say smthn about it
I can’t help you on this. I just wish I had the relationship your describing with my inlaw… my mother recently passed away and what I wouldn’t give to have her right in the kids face enjoying every moment with them. Let her enjoy that precious gift. Someday she won’t be there
Do you have personal problems with this woman already or you just dont want her to do for your child??? So weird…
Ask her to back off abit
this is a puker post:nauseated_face:
Yes have a talk and then if she don’t listen do to her what she is doing if she is holding the baby or takes her from someone just go take her from her and then walk away not saying anything don’t need to be ugly but it might teach her is not right and don’t except the stuff she is buying leave it not your money baby don’t have to wear it hand it back to her but all in love if the talk don’t work praying for her to realize what she is doing is not right and praying for patients over you as well
If the bragging/throwing it in your face is done in a negative way then please speak up for yourself otherwise be thankful your baby has a grandparent who is so giving. Not all of us have that for our babies.
Yes she may be very excited for her 1st grand baby but doesn’t mean she should overstep boundaries but it’s up to you as well as your husband/bf to set those boundaries.
Just communicate with her to let her know that you are happy to see how overjoyed she is but to please be respectful.
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I actually started to do This My Grandbaby is 19 months her & My daughter lives with us But I realized I need to let my daughter parent it’s ok to help but she needs to Back Off Some FR!!Have A talk with your Husband tell him how you feel maybe he can tell Grandma To back off A little!! It is very very exciting becoming A Grandma we just get to involved!! God Bless & Congratulations
U need to set boundaries, she has no respect for you. If you let it continue it will only get worse…trust me on that! Yes its great shes excited but there has to be limits! And MOST people have no understanding on how damaging this can actually be for the child to spoil a child and flat out dont listen to you as your daughters mother
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I wish my husband was here to spoil our great grandbabies there are 2 he never got to see or spoil I work all the time and wish I had time to spoil them be nice take a deep breath and talk to her about it and be glad your baby has a grandmother who loves her so many dont
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It’s time to have a talk with her. I’m a grandma but my husband and I sat down with our son to discuss the ground rules. Our son is a single dad so he and our grandson lives with us which complicates things in some ways while making them better in other ways. Rule #1: Our son is the parent, not us. Even if his parenting style differs from our preferred methods, he is the parent and it’s important we follow his guidelines. The only exception is if his methods cause harm to the child. RULE #2: A little spoiling by a grandparent isn’t bad but excessive spoiling isn’t good. You don’t want the child to develop unreasonable expectations. You also don’t want to drive a wedge between the child and parents (parents say no, then grandparents override by saying yes). RULE #3: Remember the rules are established to benefit the child, not the parents or grandparents. It feels great to be “special” in the eyes of the child but if you’re doing things so you feel good and can be a hero, you’re doing them for the wrong reason. Every family member is a valuable player in the child’s life. I believe it’s just important that each member respects the guidelines the parents set because that consistency is most beneficial to a child.
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This is exactly what I hate about mom groups. Obviously she doesn’t like it and she doesn’t have to!!! If you want her to back off a bit, tell her in the nicest straightforward way possible. I’m sure she means no harm but that doesn’t mean you have to put up with it if you don’t want to. It’s YOUR child!!!
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I experienced this 22 yrs ago when my daughter was born, she was the first grandbaby too. My MIL was a pain and after holding my tongue, I had to tell her nicely but firmly that it had to stop. I told her that she had her turn raising her kids and now it is mine. If you don’t speak up, it will continue and then you are going to blow up at her and nothing good will come of it. Good luck, and be firm.
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I really think I need more information. I honestly am confused about what youre upset about…but forgive me, I’ve never had that kind of family to fuss and hover. My only advice would be to tell her… no one can fix a problem if they do not know it’s there.
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You should be thankful to have a grandma that likes to help and spoil. Some kids just have their parents or single parent with no help or support
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Ot sounds like she is just so excited and full of live.
- Let her buy whatever she wants. This is her first grandchild and well, we grandmother’s live to spoil our grandchildren.
- When it comes to hovering etc. Set a few boundaries with her, that is all. You dont need to be abrasive about it.
Make sure you write your concerns on specific behaviors and then address each one of them on paper and figure out what you want to say.
Most important please try to understand where she is coming from. Have open communication.
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I would love to have a doting grandmother for my son. Would love it! I had a loving Grandmother and I was way too young when she passed. She loved her grandkids with all her heart, even had many live with her, including my sister and myself. There are so many who don’t have Grandmothers like this…treasure it. And being her first, she’s probably just as in love with her grandchild as you are with your child.
As a grandparent I have to say it was a little bewildering at first…seeing this tiny person that your own child help create is the most amazing thing! And knowing they are part of you as well makes it so difficult to stand back and let the new parents have all the joy! Just know it’s coming from pride and a loving heart!
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OMGosh she’s excited. Be happy you have such a great MIL and Gma for your child 
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It’s her grandchild, it’s who she leaves behind … be happy she’s excited. She’s not competition, she won’t be around as long as you are. Some children dint have the blessing of Grandparents, try just sitting back and being grateful. Enjoy all the doting and love, it cld be the complete opposite. Learn to share! If she wasn’t that way, you’d be hurt and wondering why she dsnt care about your baby.
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It’s her first grandchild leave her alone!!! She loves the baby. Be happy she has someone who Loves her. Some kids don’t have Grandma’s to love or Grandma’s who loves them and buy them gifts. Taking her from people’s arms well juts tell her she has to share .Grow up and enjoy it and go take a freaking nap. Grandma got it.
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Need to sit down and talk with her. She can’t fix something she doesn’t know is broken. Maybe the two of you can come to a understanding. Maybe make a certain day if the week or every other week grandma’s day. She can come get her spend the day do fun things or just snuggle the baby. In return when your out with others she needs to back off a little and take turns. I get wanting to have all the cuddles but there needs to be boundaries.
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I honestly had to put my foot down because in my instance, the grandma tried to tell me she was taking my daughter And that she no longer belonged to me. I told my husband to get his mama away from my child then I picked up my daughter while he kicked her out of my house. She was a little too bold for me to handle but make sure you put your foot down.
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Boundaries!! I would sit her down and tell her this kind of behavior needs to stop. Its one thing to buy a gift or two, but damn spoiling a baby is just silly. The attitude and disrespect towards you needs to stop or she needs to stop coming around.
i have 5 beautiful grandkids and i am thankful that i can see them everyday and i wish i could buy them the world but my kids do appreciate all that i do for their kids and i appreciate the fact that they share the kids with me always , i am so Blessed .
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She is just excited. It will stop. Let her enjoy it. In fact ask her to watch baby while you take a long bath
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No you dont have to get used to it or let her be overbearing. Everyone has a time and place. I understand excitement and all but please respect me as a mother. You need to talk to her and tell her how you feel. Buying stuff is ok but dont go overboard and she needs boundaries
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Haha I dont think you can just sit back and relax let her spoil the child grandmothers wont be around for ever
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Save your money, give her a list if she wants to buy stuff? Lol I agree though, Grandma’s aren’t forever and it will subside once there are more grandkids.
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Leave your mother-in-law be. She’s doing what any excited grandma do. Be thankful that she’s saving you money!
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You should be glad your daughter has a grandparent who worships her. My kids only had 1 grandparent and she got to spoil them rotten as long as there’s no favoritism. Let her love you and your baby.
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Put your foot down. Set rules. If she refuses then limit access to your child.
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It’s called BOUNDARIES,
get vocal. She shapes up or ships out til she can get her act together.
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Sounds all too familiar to this grandma, I get the same treatment.
Take a deep breath, mama. As for the clothes and stuff she buys…let her…if clothes are too big or baby outgrws them before wearing, see if you can exchange them for things that fit. When it comes to her taking the baby away from other people, calmly and politely explain to her that is not acceptable behavior and that she needs to “share the love”. Honestly, I have 2 grandbabies and i constantly buy things for them…things they need and lots of books and educational stuff.
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Talk with your husband about a plan for him to talk with her.
Have your husband talk with her.
You and your husband talk about giving her grandma time once a week alone.
Be patient she will calm down.
Find something you can seek her support on related to child rearing.
She’s excited it’s the first one but if it bothers you that much tell your hubby to talk with her
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Sounds like an excited grandma to me😒 seriously let her spoil her grandbaby
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Devils Advocate: I’m the opposite. I’m 44. I have 4 kids. My oldest is 27 (yes do the math, I was young with her). The others r 15, 18 & 20. Anyway, my oldest has three under 5. I feel like a HORRID grandma because I flat out have zero time to see them or to babysit. I’m in the health field. I often work 12 or 16 hour rotations and there’s another 20 years till I retire. I WISH I had time to spoil them. Sadly I do not. I’ve got another in college and the youngest isn’t driving yet, so I’m a taxi to boot. Maybe the MIL is just trying to show YOU she loves and cares for them. i wish I had time to do anything with mine.
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First grand babies get this it gets better, after more grandkids
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She just sounds excited 
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I’m a grandma and I do my grandkids the same way so I don’t know what to tell u. 
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Let her get stuff for her…this will pass as more grandkids come along.
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You’ll have to get used to it.
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Wish 1 of my kids grandparents would show interest in my kids.
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She needs to speak up for her self and put her in her place
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Girl u got it made:rofl:
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Have your husband speak to her. If she ignores it, stay away until she learns boundaries.
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I will trade my MIL with you for yours any day of the week sweetie
Take a break from your mother in law
She is just being a grandma, I am just as bad just ask my daughter.lol
I think the mom needs a xanax
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If that doesnt die down would recommend telling her to ease up a bit. If shes snatching the baby out of others arms that is not okay at all and you should tell her that. Sorry, if someone including grandparents buys your child something then throws it back in your face constantly, they might be trying to be to much on purpose. Nothing wrong with a tiny bit of spoiling, but if it turns into her spoiling your child to the extent that it turns into her trying to give the kid whatever she wants when you ask her not to do so, stand your grand! Yes that can turn into her telling you no when you ask her not to give your child something you dont want her to have. Its your child if her being to much stresses you out say something. Ive seen this kind of “harmless” behavior from some grandparents before and it turns into them trying to control the child and verbally attacking the parents. If shes understanding and just honestly really excited for this baby then she will calm down a bit to make you more comfortable but, if she becomes angry and then gets worse after that shes trying to take control of the child. I would recommend putting an end to that immediately if that is case. Good luck to you and grandma.
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Your truly Blessed
I wish my kids had a Grama like yours 
Try to see the positive side of it 
That’s actually amazing. I have a grandmother for my kids who doesn’t notice they exist
Your calling that madness your the one with the problem lolololol
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Suck it and appreciate her!
My husband and I lived with my parents for a short while after we got married and then we had our baby 7 months later. Both my husband and my mom work all day so the evening is the only time they got to see baby. My mom would come knocking on our bedroom door and would push herself into our room to see baby. She’s also constantly tried to take him from my husband when he was trying to spend time with our baby. I finally had to put my foot down and tell her straight up that baby’s daddy comes first and he gets him as much as he wants when he’s home from work. She was butt hurt of course. I just have to be very blunt with what is ok and not ok. I would say don’t be a bitch but “be a bitch”. It’s your baby. Not hers
She buys stuff for her grandbaby? Say it isn’t so! What the hell kind of world is this where grandparents actually think they have the right to buy stuff for their grandkids? Well it’s obvious she has no sense of human decency, so just throw the whole damn grandma away.
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I can’t believe the amount of people here being so rude to mom about how she is feeling. That is HER baby,not grandmas. I understand grandma is excited. And yes,cutting her SOME slack is one thing. But for her to be taking the baby out of peoples arms? And she’s supposed to be okay with that? Absolutely not
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