If he isn’t standing up for you. Leave him. She’ll make your whole life miserable.
But also stop having her over LET HER KNOW, YOU KNOW what she’s doing. Put her in her place! You are the wife!
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Get them both in the room and tell her what you know and that it needs to stop today.
U knew this before u married him . Do u work? Have you “stolen” debit card before maybe he has an ex who did
You grab his phone & REPLY to her text.
“Hi MIL, MY HUSBAND & I SHARE expenses AND money, AND I regularly go thru his wallet AND phone whenever I need to. THANK YOU for your concern, but it’s not needed here. Have a lovely day.”
End. Of. Story. 
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It’s ironic and sad how it is your OWN family will destroy the family that you created… the same people who say FAMILY IS EVERYTHING…
- CUT HER OFF
- LEAVE HIM, SOON ENOUGH HE’LL REGRET IT.
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Delt with this for years, only to find out(after going through much mental stress,almost to the point of a heart attack) that it was his very jealous daughter behind it all!!! Please bring it all out in the open, and if he’s not behind you, leave.
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She is jealous which is the worst waste of emotion she cant & wont see what is making her son happy & he must be scared of her too. Keep your chin up smile be always yourself be kind & understanding with her, very hard i know but in time it will pay off & she will see she has’nt lost a son but gained a daughter. Ive been there same situation with an ex-partner. Be strong😘
I had to give up my integrity, and alot of my happiness because of an undermining m.i.l.she his his porn. Run fast . Don’t look back
Jesus on a cheez it. Send her a picture of his wallet in your mouth with him kissing you. F her, what’s the worst that could happen if you stand up to her?
Edit: there’s something he’s not telling you because that’s a really weird thing for someone to obsess over, I think you should being up the text messages at your next get together.
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3 is a crowd.
Talk to your husband. Really talk to him. He needs to make her stop. If not, you may have some serious decisions to make.
You can talk to her but I’d wait for her to text & I’d reply “Hi MIL, explain why your feel the need to speak like this to MY husband?” Call her out, in the moment. If that doesn’t work, you can do it face to face but, personally, if my husband didn’t stand up for me, I’d be deciding if I was leaving.
honey , i would leave after him and i went to a marriage councilor , if that doesn’t work than have a serious talk with his mother and find out WHY she’s doing what she is doing - if u can’t find anything out ,that’s when i would leave this way u won’t have to put with heartache any longer. this is telling me he is a mommy’s boy and will do whatever she says - leave him tempary !sounds like he not worth it to me!
Text her back and tell her to meet with you…do this on your hubbies phone.Then make sure hubby is there and have a much needed lets get this
straight now meeting.otherwise .get out
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Maybe, you need to ask her if you supposed to SPEND someone else’s husband money if not your OWN husband 
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“he really does not trust me even though i have bever given either of them a reason not too…she is super nice to my face though…” Can’t you see that your husband planted the seed. Please don’t fool yourself, you and your husband do not have a great relationship because you have TRUST ISSUES.
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Address this with your husband. If he doesn’t trust you & his mother is putting this in his head then why are you with him? Why be with someone who doesn’t trust you & let’s his family belittle you?
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Give this crap back to him, he needs to stop her now before she destroys your marriage,No Trust No Marriage
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I’d tell your husband that either he start defending me or he will be served with divorce papers. Tell him you two need therapy and his mother. So she can figure out why she doesn’t like you so much.
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Girrrrrrl , stand yur groundsssss make a stop to it or leave dnt waste yur time on a mummyboy that’s still breatsfeeding 
#Yuck
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Ur husband needs to have a word with his mother,this is just rong
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Why would she say that…
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Oh hell no lmao you need to sit your man down and address this shit ASAP. Once yall are on the same page, sit down with MIL and set her ass straight.
Call out the momma’s boy and tell him this will no longer go on. If u don’t she’ll keep it up and cause arguments to ensure and then u will be on the outs
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What would taking his money even do?? It’s your money for your bills or whatever as well… wtf?! 
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Learn about healthy boundaries
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Tryin to come between you two.
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He needs to put her in his place. I had a MIL who was like that, nice to your face but talks so much shit behind your back. She probably feels like you stole her baby from her and she’s jealous and can’t let him go. Next time you see her, let her know you know what she says about you and you’re not appreciative of it and it needs to stop. If it doesn’t, your husband should cut ties for a while until she gets the hint
Leave. You’re out numbered in your own home
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Take the text messages to HER,Kick her out of your life…!! She will eventually break you up…if you put up with this!! I would not allow my son or daughter in-law in the house if there was unkind words flying around… Totally stayed out of the messed up life …
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Run. He sounds more involved with his mom.
A mother in law without boundaries or respect for her children can easily destroy every relationship they ever get into to.
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Talk with your husband, straight out ask home about his mothers issue and ask if he truly doesn’t trust you or is it his mother that is putting it in his head. Communication is always the way to go.
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That’s her baby! She can’t accept the fact that she is not #1 in his life anymore! This is probably just the beginning. Try to calmly talk to your husband what she is doing. There will be more ways down the road she will try. She may not be aware how destructive she is,she needs help!
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Damn, tell them both to go to Hell. If he he’s going to listen to her and not put her in her place then screw both of them. Don’t live your life with that bullshit, it’s not worth it.
The debit card is it not attached to a joint account? If you all have separate accounts no need for you to have his. Mother in law is out of line!! I would tell my husband we are married I have NO REASON to steal from you!!! And if you don’t put a stop to your mom bad mouthing me all the time and treating me like a thief I’m going to tell her myself!! Girl don’t put up with a NO BALLS man!!! He can be respectful to his mother in telling her, but if you have to tell her no need to be respectful she isn’t respectful to you!!
You get in your husbands ass!
She is Trying to Come Between you 2 and Your Husband needs to say Something to her. If he Won’t, You need to Leave
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mother in law needs a life away from heer kids life. maaybe the same happene to her and unfortunately she taking it out on your, Hubby needs to grow a pair and tell his Mother to back off. she dooesn’t need o like you Hubby does and loves you, she needs to be apoken to
Talk to him. Like a sit down serious conversation… who do you want to be married to? Me or your mother?
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Your husband needs to tell his mother to stop talking bad about you , if not he can have his Mom as his wife and you can move on to a man who takes up for you and treats you right , don’t continue living like this it won’t get better from her as long as he allows her to be like that .
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Have a serious sit down with him and talk about this. DONT beat around the bush or he won’t understand. And if he loves you, he will understand and try to be better.
Okay so as a wife of a broken hubby from a narcissistic/abusive family. This is what it looks like. And this kind of marriage takes A LOT of work and communication between you two. It’s not for everyone but if you love him enough you work through it.
This response he seems to have it what happens when he is out of the narcissistic moms house but grew up getting respect towards women literally beat into them. When it comes to situations like this, their first response is “I’m going to ignore it and hope it goes away” cuz they don’t want to piss anyone off. Men in general aren’t good with confrontation
Talk to your husband. Ask him out right, what do you have to lose? Tell him he has a choice to make. Either set his mother straight, either except you as his wife and if she can’t say something Nice DON’T Say anything at all. The only one that’s going to loose is Her. Honey, you have to stand your ground. I’ve been married over 50 years. I had it out with my Mother in law even before I married her son. I hate it when parents try to interfere with their kids marriage, after all. Don’t they here things they can work on in their Own Life? Good luck Honey.
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Get her out of your life ! Sounds like hubby is a titty baby if he still does all this w his mom … put her in her place , hubby put her in place , or get rid of him !
Get out! Get out of the relationship
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Tell your hubby he IS A GROWN MAN. NOW AND MOMMY IS NOT HIS BOSS ANYMORE
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Tell your hubby tell his mom to get her own place THREE. IS A CROWD
This has disaster written all over it. I am not one to advocate for divorce; but something needs to happen here. The apron strings haven’t been cut and it will eventually destroy your relationship. Until he stands up to her and tells her to knock it off; there isn’t much that can be done. I’d suggest marriage counseling to see if they can help your husband understand why that behavior is so detrimental to your relationship.
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She is interfering in your life, tell her to back off
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Oh hell no!! Your husband should defend you no matter what, if you’re wrong or not. You are his wife, you are one team. Sounds to me, he hasn’t got off the tit yet 
and his mother is making it pretty hard. He needs to stand up for you and talk to her & keep a distance from his mother.
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Tell the mother-in-law directly. Say"I know what you’re trying to do! You can stop it, I love your son, and he loves me!"
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Find out why. We know your half but not knowing her end of the story is hard to give advice. She has a reason I’m sure
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Always 2 sides maybe 3 to a story All these answers are one sided lol
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Confront him and her.
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If you are married it’s supposed to be what his is yours and what’s yours is his. She needs to let her son be a man
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Idk the RIGHT thing to do, but I would confront her in a hot second about it. I would leave him out of it totally. She would know that I don’t appreciate being accused of being a thief OR having her meddling in my private marital business!
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Your Mother in law needs to shut her mouth! Plain and simple! She’s just a trouble maker! You married him not the whole damn family!!!
Ummmm leave? It’s amazing what people are seriously willing to put up with….
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Evidently she’s been told something or knows something to be acting like that, no telling what ur husband has said ,and we are only hearing ur part of the story, but if she’s acting like this for no reason then I’d straight up confront her about it
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Some mother-in-laws are just like this! My husband’s mom is veryyyy protective of him and before me he was in a horrible relationship with a woman that put him through hell. Once I came into the picture I was paying for her mistakes! I was not accepted and accused of things by both of them because I was constantly compared to her. It really took its toll on me and his relationship. Especially because he used to go running to his parents anytime we got into an argument and he would dramatize the whole thing making himself look like a victim. So I don’t know what exactly is going on with your scenario but there could be a lot more to this than what seems on the surface. You have to communicate with them both. If you don’t get clarity you can either leave if you don’t think it will ever change OR love him, be a good person and focus on you and your relationship. Eventually I let go and ignored the nonsense because I knew I had no control over other people’s opinions of me. I continued to show my constant love, support, loyalty and honesty and eventually (after 7 years and 2 kids later!) my in-laws love me. I think they eventually all healed from the past and saw my heart and how much I loved their son and wasn’t going anywhere! Best of luck to you! 
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I’d confront her in front of him on the texts. Make her uncomfortable. If she seriously doesn’t trust you she owes you an explanation to your face and you need to know where your husband stands. This is going to affect your marriage and you have every right to get to the bottom of why she feels this way then treats you differently to your face. Your husband needs to take your side in front of her.
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If you are bad with money I understand BUT IF THIS IS NOT THE CASE I WOULD TELL HER YOU KNOW WHAT SHE IS SAYING AND DO NOT UNDERSTAND THIS MAYBE HUBBY IS SAYING SOMETHING
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Confront the both of them together. Is he not sticking up for you either?
How do you know what she’s saying about you if she’s nice to your face. If this is all coming from him and he’s relaying this to you without defending you to her, there lies the problem.
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I would have a serious talk with my husband and tell him either grow up and remember I am his wife. He needs to tell his mother to back off and he needs to stop communicating with her at all and he needs to tell her why he doesn’t want to talk to her anymore.
Awful lot of “projection” goin on there, somebody somewhere did some money wastin that got this train rollin, but if it is her trip just tell her if you wanted to invade his wallet you’d use a good divorce attorney
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I can’t answer this because my mother in-law was the best!
Leave him!! He should have your back no matter what
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Bounce on out of their lives ! He will see what he had and if he didn’t, then that’s on him!
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Your husband needs to shut that down. If he keeps allowing her to disrespect you like that then you know how he really feels about you. He’s a mommas boy and let’s his mom influence his thinking and life.
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Ignore her and it. Talk to him and find out there’s any trust issues. Either accept it and stay, work they or and stay or leave. You’re married to him, not his mom
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Young one, you are all she probably thinks about - she is demonstrating trust issues because she’s trying to project them to your husband. Your husband sounds as if he just ignores her when it comes to you. He probably realized a long time ago - he’ll never win an argument with her- because she’s overbearing- he loves you - even if he doesn’t battle his mom over you. Don’t let her drama come between you or make you push your husband to against her - you are liable to make him decisions- neither of you may like. 
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I left my ex husband bc he chose his moms side over things and would tell his mom our personal problems.
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I would talk to his mother. Tell her you have seen his texts. You want to know what her problem is. Does she want her son back? Because he is married and there is no room for her in this relationship. If she has a husband, do the same to her.
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Sounds like she isn’t good enough for you… don’t let her bring you down. You can’t control her nasty attitude but can control your own … and would hope hubby would put her in her place and “nip it in the bud”
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Her talking like this about you isn’t the real problem, him letting her talk like this about you is. Your husband needs to have your back and tell his mum that it’s not OK.
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Your husband has to stand up for you in order for this to stop. How would she like it if you start sending him texts about not trusting her etc. I’m petty that way and would do it in front of her. Give her a reason for not liking me 
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If your husband never defends you, then y’all do not have a great relationship.
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Protect your peace and family at all cost, let her know you know what she’s saying about you behind your back, cut off visits with her until she can do better
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Your problem isn’t your MIL, it’s your husband!
Ask him why he allows this bullshittery to go on and WHY, for Heaven’s sake has he not taken up for you?
His answers will tell you what you should do next.
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Tell her to go take a nap and stay out of there business
so talk to the husband and find out. ask him directly. either he’s all in with you or not. find out
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You need to have the talk!! The one where you say she shouldn’t be bad mouthing you and he shouldn’t be taking it sitting down. HE has to defend you to her and ask her to to stop before you do and it gets ugly.
Get out why feel that way
Cut the umbilical. Is he his own man or not? 
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You don’t have to be around her and put up with her foolishness. But what about your husband if heoves you, he should defend you and tell her he doesn’t wont to hear and negatovity and foolishness while he is around her.
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He should be standing up for you.
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Move as far away from his mother as you can get.
I had same problem with an interferring MIL, not quite this bad but enough to make me really angry. I felt like my husband never understood what the problem was but even he eventually realised it was a big issue for me and that they were interfering. we rarely see them these days. They have to be kept at a far reach or they will start again.
You confront her. He surely won’t and he needs to defend you. Confront her away from him
Why is he relaying what she says to you? Sounds like she’s just saying this stuff to him. He needs to stop doing that. He’s creating a relationship problem between the 2 of you. Lose…lose buddy. Man up!
Tell him to speak up. He shouldn’t allow his mom to talk about you so disrespectfully. It should make him uncomfortable enough to say something. Tell him to find his balls and speak up.
I dont think your telling everything. Something happened for her to feel untrusting and for him to not stand up for you. The behavior of the mother of your husband and your husband saying nothing isn’t normal for normal people if your just the innocent good wife
The biggest problem is your husband for not defending you.
Your husband should defend you in every way
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This often happens with mama’s boys, no woman will ever be good enough in his mother’s eyes and things will never get better until he either stops listening to her or you find a new man who will treat you with trust, love and respect.