My mother in law won't stop posting photos of my kids: Advice?

So do you not take your kids out in public? Pedophile looking at your kids on the Internet can see them at the grocery store so just an FYI you may want to put a bag over their heads.

Sounds like you the only one sexualizing your children that you don’t even know if anything is Happening with their photos that you should be worried about their photos We are not that important. Please

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Stop allowing her around until she can respect your boundaries

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You can report the photos via this link. You have to use a browser (not the app) to get the link to each photo and you also have to submit a copy of your child’s birth certificate to prove it’s your child and then they will remove the photo.

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Don’t give her photos to share. Keep them till the kids are 18 & let them decide.

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If your husband allows it, then nothing you can do. It’s his mom and his kids so you can’t control what the other parent allows. If there is a disagreement between you and your husband about who can share what, work it out with your husband. But you don’t get the only say🤷🏼‍♀️

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With all of the pedos out there I don’t blame you. How about teaching her how to set privacy settings so only family memvers can see the photos as a compromise? Make it all about the safety of the children not about your feelings.

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Sounds like she’s proud of her grandbabies ?

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Without her you wouldn’t have a man or kids. Grow up

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It’s not your place, what does your husband say, if he’s ok with it, then deal with it. If not have him tell her to stop.

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Is she not getting included very often and wants to revel in her Grandma time … Not everyone is lucky enough to have a person like that in their kids lives

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I am a grandparent to 2 littles ones, I always ask my son or daughter-in-law permission. My others kids are 17, 15, 5 and 3. I ask my teens permission and accept their no. I expect to be asked permission before anyone posts pics of my littles (or my teens if unbeknownst to them someone took their photo and didn’t ask) As a grandma I am not entitled to unilaterally make the choice to post pictures of my grandsons.

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There’s nothing you can do about it…

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She needs to respects her her daughter inlaw wishes, I am very proud of my 8 year old granddaughter and was told by my son and wife not to post any pics of my granddaughter on social media, and I respect their decision, her safety comes first.

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I’d just like to know why so many of you are ok with letting other people, family or not, have a say on what is or isn’t allowed with another person’s kids?!! Grandparents don’t have a say! It doesn’t matter how proud they are, if this Mother doesn’t want pictures of HER kids on social media, then that should be respected, period! A grandparent that disrespects a parents rules is teaching the kids that they don’t have to respect them either!

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I mean the only thing you can do is stop her from seeing your children. As in cut her off. You have every right to not want your kids on social media but she has every right to share what she wants on HER social media. There’s nothing you can do about that other than stop her from seeing them. Why not ask her to just share with family members? There’s security options for this. What does your husband say?

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Don’t send her any pictures or the dad?

I want my grands safe. I post none that mom has not already posted.

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I really wish you all would stop creating a narrative for this lady :joy:

  1. stop assuming the MIL is a good one.
  2. stop assuming dad/husband is involved.
  3. we dont know the full backstory, all we should be commenting on is what shes stated. and she stated NO PICTURES OF HER CHILDREN. why so many assumptions ?
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Nope I agree I myself don’t even post a million of my kids n if I do u rarely see their face . There’s too many evil ppl out there who save your kids photos n do go knows wat in other countries. If I found my kids were being posted by ppl without my permission I’d go off my head

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If I didn’t post pics of my grandson, my daughter would come running to my house thinking something was wrong with me.
On the other hand, if she asked me not to, I wouldn’t.

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Just ask her to set her privacy settings to only friends. That way public can’t see them. Oh, and stop being petty. As a grandma of 10, I assure you she’s simply proud of her beautiful grandbabies. Tell me how it hurts you for her to have their photos. I sure hope with this kind of pettiness, that you’ve never put a single photo of your child on social media, and I call bs if you say you haven’t. I assure you us grandma’s have absolutely zero malicious intent, and are simply beaming with pride. For some reason some of the younger generation put zero value on grandparents, and simply get a kick out of bossing them around and constantly complaining. I assure you that woman is wiser than you give her credit for, and you seem to have very little respect for her as you’ve made a whole post about your petty entitlement. When you chose to marry your husband, you marry his family as well. Stop putting the man you love in the position of tug of war. If you’d stop barking orders and have a conversation, maybe listen to what she has to say, she will respect you more and I promise you’ll learn a thing or two. Stop being one of those spiteful bossy mom’s that think she owns the child and shouldn’t have to share them with family. The more people that love your children the better. It takes a village. I’ll never understand the dictator type parents that care nothing about others feelings. What she’s doing is harmless, and deep down you know it.

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She can post whatever she wants in all fairness, and why should she be able to be proud and show off her family she clearly loves. What about the pictures she has in the house on show for anyone that comes round?

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Keep reporting her on Social media I’ve done it

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I used to be a correctional officer at the state prison. Tell you mil this is NOT a good idea. If you could hear some of the things I have heard she wouldn’t be doing it. Another thing that is not good where our kids are concerned (and l’m guilty of the same thing)is putting their names on the back (or front) of tee shirts, caps, etc. You are giving sickos their name. They can call your child by their name and the child thinks they are supposed to know them. After all they called them by their name. Too much going on in the world we live in today. Please please please be extra careful. Don’t laugh at this. Don’t learn by something happening to your child. Then it will be too late.

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I would refuse to let her take pictures of your children - if she insists don’t let her visit them.

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Gummon lady let the grandma be proud of her grandbabies where I come from what Nan says goes :eyes::thinking::joy::joy::joy:

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She’s not wrong but also not right, if that makes sense. It’s best to ask the parent first.

My mom tried to do this. I don’t have a single picture of my children on social media. She would ask for pictures to see the kids (we lived far apart) and she would post them. I told her to remove them and if she couldn’t respect those boundaries she wouldn’t be getting pictures anymore. :tipping_hand_woman:t2: people don’t understand predators online and post way too much information I.e first day of school shit. Keep your kids safe. Cut her off for a short while to get the point across.

And she’s damn right aswell, they wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for that lady… just my opinion, that if she’s sharing her memories with her Grandchildren then not really a need to cause an issue in the family…

You’re only option is to stop associating with her. She can claim it’s fine but numerous police departments have issued warnings about posting your kids.

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If I ask someone not to do something in relation to my child and they do not respect my wishes, that person will no longer have access to my child. I do not care who you are or how ridiculous you think my boundaries are with MY child. You want a spot in their life? You’re going to respect the rules that I have in place or you can go pound sand. If I were you, I would report every single picture and then no longer allow her access to pictures. They’re YOUR babies and you’re allowed to enforce boundaries.

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Cut her off because she won’t stop. Soon it will be bigger things.

Get your husband involved. If she doesn’t listen to him , try to gather all gruesome stories about everything that can happen on social media where kids are involved. If she loves her grandkids, she must want them to be safe.

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I as well am not a fan of that myself. I would ask your S/o to speak to her about being more respectful.

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Well, they are hers, aren’t they?
Y’all super weird :woozy_face:

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Educate her to why you feel it’s important that she isn’t sharing visual content of your children on social platforms, and the concerns/reasons you have for the request of this not to happen?
I’m assuming you don’t share your children visually on social platforms and can role model this behaviour, to explain why…

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Stop giving her photos
I did. My mother kept putting my kids photos up and I stopped giving her photos. She kept asking and I said no.

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my only issue would be if the pictures are set to public. if it’s just to share with friends then i wouldn’t find an issue with it.

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They are her grand kids of course she wants to share them she loves them my mom and my mil both post pics but only friends can see them

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i love sharing photos of my grandkids if it’s not a public profile only friends what’s the big deal your mother in-law loves and is proud of the grandkids you should be grateful

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Meaghan Amaya I can’t believe some of the comments. Smh

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We would definitely need more information to give our true opinions because “why don’t you want her posting their pictures?” She sounds like a proud grandma to me and she wants to be able to brag and show her grand babies off.
Really I want to say “post the picture” because you never know what’s gonna happen and those Facebook pictures may be the only pictures you have access to 10 years later.

I freaking wish my mom was here to post pics of my daughter, grandparents aren’t here forever…

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You state you didn’t her permission, did she obtain permission from the other parent?

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Omg. You all that say cut her out and blah blah blah… there her grandchildren, get over it. Your being a controlling person. I bet you all post pictures of your children! News flash, there are people out there snapping pics of your children and you haven’t a dang clue!! There is no hiding from social media, no matter how hard you try!! STOP THREATENING TO TAKE THE CHILDREN AWAY FROM THE GRANDPARENTS!!! YOUR HURTING YOUR CHILDREN, NOT JUST GRANDMA!!

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Take a breath for starters.
Why don’t you want her posting pictures? You don’t have to tell the group.
But you need to be honest with yourself. Is her Facebook public? Is she friends with just random people? Is it that you simply don’t like her and this is a way to exert control?
It’s really important to figure out they why for yourself before you say or do anything. You may not care about your relationship with her and that’s fine.
But it’s not fair to your partner or your kids to put rules in place that affect their relationship with her out of spite or desire for control.
If it’s truly a safety or privacy concern and not an excuse then you have that conversation in an open, honest, and empathetic way.
Give her suggestions for being able to show them off that still protect their safety and privacy.

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The ones offended here are the Grandmom’s thinking they have any rights to the grandkids. I’d tell her this your last warning to stop or you would be around to take any pictures

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There’s a big huge video out there on why you shouldn’t post pics of your kids on social media. For example:

A mom runs a TikTok for her toddler, I think 3-4yo. Doing normal toddler stuff. But, when you search the account name some things that pop up include the words ‘[child’s name] suggestive’ or ‘[child’s name] scandalous outfit’

Certain videos (ie the child eating a hotdog, or wearing a tank top) are saved tons of times. Like 45k times. There are disgusting comments, sexualizing this literal child and saying she’s ‘so mature’.

It seems harmless to some, but it’s not. No matter what the picture is of someone can use it inappropriately. It could be of them eating, playing at a park, in a new outfit, swimming. There are bad people out there that will jump at the chance to steal those images and circulate them on awful sites for awful purposes. And on the internet, nothing is ever truly private.

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I personally don’t mind posting about my daughter but that’s me. Your child, your rules. If she won’t stop then maybe she doesn’t need to see the child for awhile. She will see that’s she’s getting away with breaking your rules and she will continue to break more and more of them until you put your foot down. My daughter didn’t see my MIL for a few months as a toddler because she kept breaking my rules and treated my daughter different than other grandkids. We slowly started letting her see her for short periods again and she slowly realized that we are the parents and we won’t put up with her crap. 7 years later and we get along quite well now

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Send her no more pictures, and cut her off. If the grandparents can’t respect your rules then she choose the path she did.

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She doesn’t need ur permission it’s her social media she can post what she wants

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Your just too petty, one day she’ll be gone and you’ll regret the little petty stuff. Mothers don’t last for ever wish my momma was around to post pics of my child. Some will never understand until their gone.

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She can share pictures of her grandchildren by text to her friends and family and not social media…there are other ways. I do share pics of my kids and Littles, but if they asked me not to fb them…I wouldn’t. It’s called respect. Period.

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Just relax… let her save those picture memories of her grandchildren.

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Grandparents rights…

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Show her a Google site about how predators search for children to kidnap pedophiles and child sex trade also ask her to turn the location off on her phone and never show their school or location in any picture

Everyone saying whi cares but at the end of the day, they are her kids and her boundaries. If someone doesn’t respect my boundaries, they aren’t allowed around me or my kids.

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If the kids aren’t naked in the pictures I don’t see an issue with the photos. I have told anyone who’s asked to share photos of my kid as long as they are appropriate I don’t care. I’m guessing your issue is that you are childish and know there are people your MIL is friends with that you don’t like and want to keep from knowing about your kids. GET OVER IT there are bigger problems in the world.

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I rarely post pics of my kids on fb. Too many sickos and weirdos out there. It’s also disrespectful when you’ve repeatedly asked point blank period!

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A well planned Kidnapping hoax should fix it

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Maybe she don’t want her children on social media… she has every right not to want them on here…. Just like my sister… she don’t want her children posted on social media… and I’ll always respect her wishes… they are her children, her rules/wishes… she shares so many pics of my nieces to me and never would I say well they are my nieces… I can do what I want …. She pushed them out… I don’t understand why family can’t respect and feel they are entitled because their grandparents or aunts, uncles etc…. 

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I’d ask her one more time to take them down and stop posting, if she doesn’t then that’ll be the only way she sees her grandkids is through pictures on her Facebook🤷‍♀️

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It’s her grand babies but they’re Your kids and she needs to respect your parenting decision.
I don’t share my kids on social media, just my choice.
If I were in your situation after she refused she won’t get pictures and she won’t see them until she realizes and respects she’s just grandma not mom, Yous kids, your rules.

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Why are grandma’s not allowed to be grandma’s anymore? Having loving involved grandparents is a blessing. It truly does take a village to raise children. She is part of your village.

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I’m a grandma and I would never post a child’s pic if the parents were against it. She needs to stay within the parents boundaries.

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I’m a grandma and I DO not post my grandkids with out permission …usually my daughters will tag me in the photos themselves so I don’t have too !

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Quit allowing her to take photos of the kids. Report them to Facebook that she’s using images not of her own. They’re your babies and you have the right to protect them at whatever costs

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Report the photos, that’ll get them taken down

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Stop giving her access to your kids completely. If she cannot respect your boundaries as a parent then she doesn’t get the privilege of being in their lives.

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Do you post their photos on social media? Does your husband?

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You can report the photos.

Sarah Diveley all these comments :woman_facepalming:. All I have to say is I feel sorry for her as a mom but Facebook isn’t going to do anything… as we both know… yes they are her kids but if grandma took the pictures,she sent her the pictures or anything to that they will not do anything… only way anything will get done from what we were both told was we had to have a copy right on any and all pictures we take

Are they inappropriate…is there more to the story…or are you just a super control freak? :woman_shrugging:t3:

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Report the pics! Have FB remove them!

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I think there is legal action you can take

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Tell her she actually DOES have to stop because while they may be her grandkids, they aren’t her kids. Stop sending her pictures at all and stop letting her take any. I wouldn’t be allowing her anywhere near my children until she can learn to respect my rules. If that means she doesn’t see them again, oh well. Also, you can report them and have them removed because they aren’t her kids and she doesn’t have consent to post them.

https://m.facebook.com/help/contact/144059062408922

https://help.instagram.com/contact/504521742987441

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If she won’t respect your wishes she doesn’t see your kids.

Report the pictures to Facebook. She’s unauthorized to share them. Report every single picture & ask friends & family to do the same.

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My opinion is to ask what the parents comfortable with. It’s respectful. If they say no then no posting. Period.

Well as much as I love my grandkids if my daughter and daughter in law asked me not to then I would respect them. I love pictures of my grandkids.

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Your lucky my mil don’t post anything of my daughter but post things of their other grandkids

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What a rotten attitude to have towards you. I really hope this is an isolated issue.
Short of drawing lines in the sand with her, ask your husband to speak with her. Maybe he can get through to her about it.

The family we have around our kids are amazing and entirely supportive our parenting wishes. This I’ll do as I please attitude regarding children would definately not be something I’d put up with for very long.

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I’m lost :confused: and totally none of my business I guess I just don’t understand why it’s an issue that she wants to show off her beautiful grand babies she is proud of them I guess I should also add my personal post are private so I don’t have to worry with them falling into the wrong hands

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Block her and don’t send her any pics or let the kids near her to take pics of them herself if she can’t respect your boundaries :woman_shrugging:t2:

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You need to get over yourself. Why is it such a big deal??? She’s proud to be a grandma! Why are you being so controlling & rude??? Grow up!!!

I would just report the photos and stop taking the kids to grandma until she respects my boundaries.

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Block her and don’t send her anymore.

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If she’s not in their life but post photos of them then I would be upset because she doesn’t give two s**ts but If she is and posting pics of them then I think it’s so upsetting for you to be so selfish & bratty about her showing her love for them! I’ll never understand what these chicks do this for. Grow a heart!! So tired of seeing people act this way it’s beyond childish. If you excuse is so weirdos don’t see them we live in the real world you walk out your front door every single day & walk past people you don’t know anyone can be a weirdo.

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Explain why and maybe ask your husband to talk to her

Yeah I guess I’m confused do you post pictures of your kids I mean can’t the grandparents do the same what’s the issue I can understand if you don’t put pictures of your kids on social media that’s a different story I would love it if my mother-in-law would put pictures of my son yeah he’s not biologically my husbands but she’ll post pictures of our daughters all the time but refuses to post pictures of my son like she’s embarrassed by him. 

This right here is one of the many reasons my husband made the choice for his mom to not be in our lives. She didn’t respect boundaries, never wanted to actually see my children but steal pics and post them on her social media to make it seem like she was actually active in their lives. Thank goodness my husband dealt with it so I didn’t have to! Talk to your husband!! She doesn’t have a right to anything that has to deal with YOUR kids if she can’t respect you!

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People have become so paranoid about pictures on Facebook she’s a grandmother and proud of her grandchildren .

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Watermark, report, done.

Maybe you should be glad your child has grandparents that love them and want to show them off. Alot don’t. And how sad so many people saying to cut the grandparents out of that child’s life is she doesn’t respect your ridiculous wishes. Grow up. Punish your child by taking away a grandparent is a big mistake. Your child will hate you for it in the future and miss a lifetime of memories they could have made with people that love them.

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Post her kids as well including your husband

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Maybe she is proud of her grand babies and wants to share her excitement with her friends

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Do you post pics of your kids? Just curious. Or is this like, an actual safety thing/wanting to be in control thing?

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