Tell her to fuck off
I’d be beefing with that neighbor. NOBODY has a right to tell a child to ‘shut the fuck up’. Hell no mama. Go wild
Just blow it off and forget about it. The more you stir the _hit the more it stinks !
Don’t let these people stop you from your freedom and rights. You can always apologize to your neighbor for the noise and try to maintain peace, however I disagree highly of the way the neighbor swore at your children and handled it very harshly. If the neighbor swears at your children I would tell her they have every right to play and make noise outside and to not be disrespectful using inappropriate language. It’s your yard. You pay money for your rights so there’s the bottom line.
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Girl!! DO! NOT! LET! ANYONE! TALK! TO! YOUR! KIDS! LIKE that!! What they do and say in their own yard is NONE of her concern! And if she came hollering and cursed at my kids you best believe I’m not going to be nice at all! Even if it’s just words, you protect your babies at all costs, your kids wasn’t doing anything to her, yeah may have been screaming and yelling but they’re kids they’re going to be loud, and your husband should see how wrong it is for someone who isn’t their parents to come up and curse at them
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I would probably do the same thing!!’ We don’t want to hear basketballs, screaming kids, fights, yelling… neighbours just want peace!!!
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I think it’s her words that would of sent me over the fence. She should of used a more tasteful approach when addressing someone’s children.
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Good for your neighbor!
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I get on my kids when they’re out back about screaming & fighting. Laughing & running around being a little loud is one thing but screaming & fighting gets on everyone’s nerves & you never know what your neighbors are going through maybe they were having a bad day trying to relax at home & all they could hear is kids trying to kill eachother lol
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Very easy… go grade the road with her teeth! Nobody is going to use those words at my child! Other words could have been said and I would have been fine.
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Id probably tell the neighbor to kiss my ass and then join in on the yelling with the children🤷♀️
She probably said what you wish you could. It’s annoying. YOU know this. Imagine how she feels trying to chill in her backyard having to listen to it. IT SUCKS.
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if u cant discipline your kids, somebody else will. if they’re laughing and playing im sure the neighbors wont mind, those are pleasant noise. but if your kids are shouting and fighting and u aint doing anything about it and your neighbors are obviously getting bothered, u shouldnt be surprised by their reaction. my kids, nieces and nephews are loud when playing, but they know when to stop when somebody asked them to stop
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Parent your kids so the neighbors don’t have to
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Momma you better than me bc I would be petty and tell them to yell and scream louder 
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I would check out your state by laws for one on noise… every state municipality is different. Yes kids can play, laugh but yelling and fighting are another thing. You need as the parent to control this just not say “ At this point I gave up”. Your the parent so parent. Yelling, screaming and fighting in a backyard is way different then playing and laughing dosent matter what time it is…fighting with neighbours can cause for a stressful, depression and a hard time while living beside each other. They have rights as well to enjoy there yard and house they don’t need to be hearing screaming and fighting kids everyday. Maybe go talk to her and apologize for the kids and explain to her the issue your having with them.
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It’s annoying asf and even you didn’t wanna hear it sooo 
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The language was not appropriate, but you yourself said you’ve given up on stopping their arguments. Maybe if they realize that they’re disturbing other people, they’d try to be more conscientious of what they’re doing? Idk. Sometimes kids have to hear it from someone else for it to get through, because parents’ voices were tuned out long ago, and kids will sometimes listen to a stranger better.
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If you read these responses, they are SPLIT. Just know that the worse position to be in is in the middle of world war 3 and stuck right next door to your enemy. Let it go, it’s a no win.
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As a neighbor that would frustrate me also. You need to step up with rules now. Bet they don’t do this in school because it would be solved. Sit down and talk to them about if continued there will be consequences.
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Good on your neighbor. Be a damn parent and do your job. You gave up trying to correct them, so you neighbor lent a helping hand (voice). My question is: Did it work?
Honestly, teach your kids some respect for others 
Sorry, but your neighbors deserve to be able to enjoy their yard just as much as your kids. Playing outside is one thing but if they’re just non-stop screaming at each other that’s really inconsiderate of everyone else living nearby. She was probably at her breaking point and exploded.
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Uh no ma’am. She needs to mind her own dang business and let kids be kids unless she sees something dangerous. And even if the kids were being super rowdy, she could have said something MUCH nicer! “Hey guys, try not to fight.” “Guys, play nice.” She did not have to cuss at them.
My husband and I would have been out there in a heartbeat and told her that if she ever verbally assaults another child whether it’s mine or someone else’s child, we will be calling the cops.
But just to clarify, I would NOT let my kids fight like that constantly. They would be separated until they can play together nicely. I know how annoying it is to hear fighting children all day long.
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I got a restraining order placed on me for challenging my neighbor for being abusive to my kids…I would do it again in a heart beat, at least they knew I was going to take them to task for messing with my kids…
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Dude I would probably do the same maybe not the f bomb, but if I had to listen to it all day I would go crazy 
so maybe I would who knows, but take care of your noise kids… RUDE
That’s my girl a Mom taking care of and protecting her babies.I loveyou and I am so proud of you.
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I mean honestly… screaming and fighting is a bit much and I’m sure she snapped but I would be SO flipping MAD if ANYONE screamed curse words at my child, and I curse but she could have came to the fence and asked them to stop she could have yelled for you, told them to go get their mom or please keep it down or whatever… but she had absolutely NO RIGHT to curse at your children, she should have handled it WAY differently…
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I wouldn’t say anything to her but I would file a police report just so it’s on record because then if she does it again you can legally go after her for harassment. It’s not the fact that she told them to stop it’s the way she said it that is not ok. You should also talk to your kids too though because they shouldn’t be fighting that loud outside it’s a disturbance even if it’s on your property or not. Someone could file a complaint against you.
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Listen ever how loud my kids were if my next door neighbour came to the fence or wall and yelled at my kids
TO SHUT THE FU*K UP THAT NEIGHBOUR WOULD BE VISITING THE DENTIST FOR TREATMENT
Just ask me to keep the kids quiet
No one wants to listen to screaming kids or barking dogs all day a short outburst is ok but when it goes on and on it can get on your nerves
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Maybe your neighbors are fed up ( just like you) with having to listen to it. If it were adults fighting someone would probably call the police. He was just using his words, like your kids are.
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Tell your kids to make more noise if they dont like they can turn their TV up
Kids will be kids
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Bust that shit down im pissed for you wow
This thread has me wishing I had neighbors, I would send my kids out to be as loud as possible all day 
. THIS is what is wrong with the world. Stick in the mud, grumpy old people who just want to complain about everything.
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Maybe if you were telling them to shut the F up your neighbor wouldn’t have to 
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Go tell your neighbour to yell at them again if they are noisy but not using the f word …she could be doing you a big favor
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I would’ve been like “1st of all I hope you were not talking to MY kids like that, and 2nd of all yall kids need to shut tf up”
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Pray for her, there is a better way to tell children to quieten down,
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Kids are kids. We cannot let our kids run the streets like we did as kids, it is not safe anymore. They are either stuck in the house or in the yard. They still need to be kids. I would have a report made with the police due to her aggressive tone and language. I am very blessed that my community (neighborhood) is so absolutely amazingly supportive in keeping all of our kids happy and safe.
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Maybe you should have yelled first?
You know maybe you could go over to your neighbor and have a conversation with her kindly and possibly apologize that the kids were so loud and that in the future you would greatly appreciate if she would come and talk to you instead of yelling at your kids. I get both sides of it. However if somebody were to yell at my kids like that whether my kids are right or wrong we’re going to have issues. However I would at least go over and kindly talk with her first and then have a conversation with my kids as well
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Go knock on that damn door and tell her what’s up.
If your in your own yard tell them too shove it… I always have kids at my place along with my three girls an not one person ever says anything an their loud at times. Their kids…
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Mine came over and threatened me for asking her mother to move her car so I could see to get out of my driveway
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Yell at them not to talk to your children that way duh
After my husband and I raised our children, we still had 2 grandsons we were still raising. Our neighbors are up in age(we aren’t so young ourselves) if the noise level from them or their steroids got on the loud side, I would go out to remind them of the fact that most were elderly. I’d ask them to take it down a notch, because if it was bothering me, I knew it was bothering them. I also reminded them that I have to live here the rest of my life. They understood and was a bit quieter. I always stressed to them that we have great nieghbors that never complained when the family gatherings got noisy, so we just need to be more considerate. I do have fantastic neighbors and they understand, for that I’m grateful. I think also it was teaching them to be considerate of their neighbors now they are on their own with their own families. I would ask the neighbor not to curse at my kids, to just ask them to quiet down. Just don’t take offense when she does.
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Imagine getting mad because kids are outside doing what they do, being loud 
… get a dog too and make sure it barks in her face
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What you do is nothing, don’t change anything, don’t make them be quieter. Etc she could have been much nicer. Ignorance gets you nothing
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You should be a better parent 
“Giving up” on kids aged 6 to 9 but wanting to … “knock on the neighbors door” says your priorities are messed up
Imagine when the kids are older and have real issues, are you gonna check out then too
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I don’t see what the issue with the neighbor is? They are outside and in their own yard? So what does it matter if they are being loud? They are outside. Are kids supposed to whisper when they are outside now? I think not. One of our neighbors did this about a week or so ago. My girls were outside (4 and 6) playing in THEIR OWN yard on their swingset. She lives across the street. She came all the way over to tell me my kids were being too loud. I told her tough shit. They are outside playing on their swingset. And kids tend to be loud outside. I’m not going to make them be quiet while being outside. Absolutely ridiculous.
Stay at the ready and next time she shouts at the kids have your hose in hand 
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Tell your children to stop yelling. You have neighbors. Use some common courtesy.
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Idk. That is unpleasant situation but I don’t think I would do anything they were obviously really loud and driving her crazy 
she shouldn’t of cussed but can’t control people. The kids may be more aware of their volume and their neighbor (who we kidding 
) did she get them to quiet down though? Lol take her some muffins as a peace offering and if she feels your kids are being to loud just don’t cuss at them 
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You curse at my kids I’m cursing at you tenfold
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As far as I know they are not aloud to use profanity when speaking to minors
I mean, I understand letting kids be kids. But you also have to teach your kids respect for the community.
The sweet sounds of children’s laughter and the sounds of constant fighting, bickering, and random outburst can get annoying after a time. Especially when they are not your kids. No, they can’t move to a neighborhood where they are guaranteed there will be no loud rambunctious kids. Just like you can’t move to a neighborhood they only has children.
So it’s give-and-take. You don’t want to have problems with your neighbor. I would talk to your kids first. You can’t give up. They have to learn how to get along and respect others.
Then I would go talk to the neighbor and tell them that you talked to the boys about the noise as you understand they can get out of hand some times, but you don’t appreciate them cursing at your children and if they have a problem to next time speak with you directly.
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She has the balls to yell at someone else’s kiddos, she better have the balls to man up to the consequences of cursing at another persons child.
Nope….I’d be knocking on her door asking her what was it that caused her to THINK she can tell MY KIDS to STFU???
ask her to speak to you or your hubby not your kids!!!
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DO NOTHING. Use her as an example of what not to do.
If there is an issue, she should have approached the parent. Not the child.
I get it, sometimes neighbors can be loud and it isn’t always pleasant but that’s life. As they get older you can try to curb that but geez. No one should ever just scream that at someone else’s child.
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I mean maybe you should tell them to shut up first. I treat all kids as I would my own kids. So if these kids were getting that annoying I probably would have said similar. Honestly I don’t know if I’d leave the f bomb out or not. Depends on the day. But I know darn well if I see a kid doing something they shouldn’t be I’ll tell them straight up you shouldn’t do that. I expect the same from my neighbors and village.
Im a mom here and have those same kids on the other side of my fence. I am not above it;They should probably shut the f up. We only yell when weve had enough. We want to enjoy our yard also 
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I would tell her nice not to yell at my kids. If she has a problem with what they are doing then come to me and I will handle it.
Possibly let the kids know other people are affected by their behavior and those people have a rt to their feelings
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I would have been at her door so quick…
Knock on that god damn door Lmao
It all depends on what words they were using. Some 9 year olds can be quite vulgar and the 6 yr old could be learning from him but on the other hand the neighbor may not have needed to use a foul word in her reprimand either.
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If I can enjoy my own backyard because your kids are being rude and obnoxious and loud and inappropriate and I’m gonna yell over the fence too
I would both tell my kids that that’s what happened when other people hear them behaving that way. But also I’d be at the door letting that other person know to never speak to my children in that manner again
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I wouldn’t want to be that neighbor if that was my kids hook the hose up and just spray the fence where he is standing if he scream at them again lmao
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Knock on her door. Nobody is supposed to be cussing at your kids.
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I understand kids are kids and they are outside, but you have to be respectful of neighbors too. We live in town, have some Billy’s that let their kids scream, yell, chase, scream and BEAT their dog, (WHICH I DID KNOCK ON THEIR DOOR ABOUT BEATING THE DOG) but no neighbor wants to sit and listen to screaming kids all the damn time. Teach them some respect and common sense so everyone can enjoy being outside. 
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I would have been at that door as soon as I heard that.
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If I had two kids screaming at each other in the back yard all day I’d say something too, but I probably wouldn’t curse at the kids.
If you don’t parent your kids, someone else will.
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Although her yelling/ cussing at your children isnt okay, its also not okay for your child to be out screaming, fighting and arguing loud enough the neighbors had to say something to them. Maybe next time correct the behavior of your children before the neighbors have to.
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No adult should speak to children like that, period
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Yell over her fence and to get ear plugs and also to F off 
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Honestly, if they are that loud that it disturbs their backyard peace and you can’t tone them down, it will become a problem. Her use of language was a bit much though. Kids are loud and they were in their own yard so at this point ???
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You should go knock on her door and apologize. You literally gave up vs parenting your children forcing her to do it for you. It’s not fair to ruin everyone’s yard time because you refuse to teach your children how to behave.
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I’d leave it alone. Kids are kids and she’ll get over it or do something else.
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When it comes to my children not even my husband can tell me what to do !!
Do what you feel is the right thing to do 
Seems like they were/are/continue to be loud. That could get annoying. You even said you gave up, so someone else has to hear it?
On the flip side, I would’ve gone to the house to have an adult conversation. Maybe there’s things you need to hear too. 
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Obviously your kids have been doing that for sometime. You as a parent should have taught your kids to have respect and common curiosity for neighbors along time ago. So tell your kids to stfu
Maybe be a parent and have them behave themselves to a point where they’re not disturbing the neighbors to that point. If they can’t behave they come inside. Sounds like your kids are the ones who owe your neighbors an apology. There’s a lesson to be learnt we here.
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As for me I would have gone across that fence after her and it wouldn’t have been pretty. I never allowed anyone to mess with my kids or grandkids. But that’s been a while ago so if I were you I’d call the cops and file a complaint against her for yelling and using that language.
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Um she started the issue first, I’d of said fuck right off … just me tho
- If I tell my kids to stfu. Mind ya business cuz that’s my business.
- If you are yelling that at my kids most likely we’ve already had issues. And this just became the next issue.
- If we haven’t had issues then we just started over this. Because as 1st offense. You come to me and address the issue as an adult. Period!!!
it takes a village to raise a kid. But the village should be on the same fucking page as me! So hit me up 1st before you just fly off and tell my kids to stfu.
Also. I raised 7 kids. And this squabbling bs is normal and I let my kids figure it out among themselves. It’s called learning!!! And let me tell you. Sometimes my kids taught each other lessons with their fist. I let them do that too. Why…because they need to learn that you don’t always get to say what you want with out repercussions.
Noise ordinances usually aren’t until dusk…I’d be right outside yelling and screaming with my kids daring the neighbor to say something so I can give her a piece of my mind…but I’m petty like that.
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Although it’s rude af to cuss them out, I always tell my kids to be mindful of all our neighbors and not be screaming outside or be fighting to where everybody in the neighborhood can hear them. And when they do act up I’ll make them come inside. Kids get loud I get it, but there should always be a limit.
Yes tell her not to talk to them that way EVER!! They are just KIDS having fun!! Period!!! And if she has a problem to come talk to you…. N u can tell her !!
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The kids next door to us - specifically one in particular- screams bloody murder and yells “help” while in their pool! I have yelled “stop” before because it’s unsettling! He needs to be taught not to do that while in the pool - because what happens when it’s a real emergency!
Your neighbor shouldn’t have used the language, but you also need to be respectful!
Really!? It’s the middle of the day during he summer. Kids are going to be loud whether the were fighting or not.
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There will be a fight if that happened to my sons. Nobody disrespects my kids like that n I act like nothing was said
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I would first talk to my kids about their behavior, but let the neighbor know They are kids and at least they are having a good time in their own yard, and please do not talk to them that way. And I doubt they were hurting her anyways.
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Never stop parenting even when you are exhausted. When you stop, you get this mess and it gets worse the older they get and seriously infringe on someone.
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Let your kids play with the hose Spray her .say ooops I’m kidding kinda but kids are gonna be kids neighbor could handle their reaction differently and come to you. I’d much rather someone be annoyed come to me even if I didn’t agree then cuss at my kids …I’m more likely to calm them down and do the right thing but now you cussed at my kids I wanna be an ass too … I’m sorry.
I’d of brought pots and pans. The clicker for the car alarm and any fireworks if I had them and had a heck of a time in the backyard with my kids. I’d of lit the yard up like the Fourth of July.
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I would have marched my ass out there and asked WHO THE F she was taking to!?!? I hope Karen can catch hands as well as she catches an attitude
Walk over and let her know that’s not gonna happen again!!!
The husband shouldn’t be ok with that period! There’s nice ways to tell people to stay out your business. Use them !
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