Unpopular opinion here:
Kids tend to listen to outside adults more than their own parents some times. If it’s a daily thing, then yeah, the neighbor was justified. Ages 6 and 9 are old enough to know to respect other people in their surroundings. There’s other people and other lives on the other sides of those fences. You and your children probably need to start being more considerate of others.
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I think the best thing to do is go over to your neighbor and say “I apologize that the kids were so loud. If you have an issue with the noise again please address it with me and not the kids.
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Go outside with the kids and make more noise.
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Any of you all ever watch fear they neighbor people are crazy mean and a little unhinged nowadays. I would teach my my children respect the lady has a right to enjoy her yard the lady has a right not to hear your children bickering all day. I would not antagonize a situation that could get out of control real fast.
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My man woulda been the first one to get up and treat that lady. Then me. 
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She must be had enough…I’m just saying
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The shit people ask on here, if your kid’s fight and yell all during the day. Nobody and I mean nobody wants to listen to that shit not even you. You women that Don T discipline your kid’s are the problem. I personally would have knocked on your door and told you I was calling the police every time your kid’s are fighting and yelling. My last words to you would be have a great f…king day…
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Sounds like you have a b***h for a neighbor who needs a foot in her you know what. It also sounds like your kids need to keep playing outside, loudly. At 1:00 in the afternoon they did nothing illegal.
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You should have confronted her ASAP! No way did she have to use profanity
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I don’t mine the shut up ! But she shouldn’t be using the four letter word.
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You need to be more aware of the noise your kids are making. No one wants to hear bickering and arguing all the time. You can speak to her and just ask that in the future she let you know if they are being to noisy. I get they are kids and they make noise but there is a limit to everything. Kids are never aware of how loud they are. I have to remind my youngest all the time bring your noise levels down.
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Play loud music outside with them 
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She should not be cursing at your kids. I’m that person that will knock on their door. On another note if they’re fighting than just let one outside and have the other inside and they can switch off.
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Teach those kids how to behave now before you have to visit behind glass- but they probably learned that behavior at home
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She’s in the wrong here. She shouldn’t have spoken to the kids that way. In a reasonable universe she should have knocked on your door and explained what was going on that frustrated her so that the two of you could come to an understanding. But she didn’t. Your children are not breaking any law being loud outside at 1pm. That’s a completely reasonable time to be loud outside! You could knock on her door but based on just this instance (which obviously could be a one off but even so), I would be concerned about how the person would react and if it could lead to potential violence from them. Sadly, if it were me, I would ignore it unless it escalated further. Kids are allowed to be loud in the afternoon.
she needs a chill - this is 1 pm - kids are playing
Whoop her ass sea bass 
no but forreal they are kids they are going to play loud , argue and cause commotion, welcome to having children . And they are in YOUR backyard . Kids will be kids
Wow! I would be pissed. Go knock on her door & explain she is never to do that again
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I can’t believe all the people saying go make more noise. Why would you want to teach your boys to be disrespectful on purpose? I would’ve addressed it with her to apologize to her for the fact that “gave up” parenting my children. I can just picture her trying to enjoy some P&Q in her own backyard and having to listen to two rowdy boys fighting and carrying on all day.
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Well you can already see she’s an idiot so it would be useless to go on her property and try and tell her not to curse your kids. The adult thing would have been to come talk to you about it. Its 1 in the afternoon. Kids playing in their yard being kids. They gonna make noise. Best thing to do is have cameras put up that include sound. That will usually deter anymore bad behavior once she knows she’s on camera. Talk to your kids about screaming at each other and next time you see her ask her to come to you and not cuss at your kids again and if she acts like a wild animal then you know next time call the police and let them educate the nitwit and get a report because she could be possibly charged for harassment if she continues. Oh, and tell hubby to do the same and stop being a puss and help you.
I’d go over and tell her “Look, I get it. They never stop! But next time can you please refrain from using profanity?” I’d give her my number and tell her if they get too much, please shoot me a text and I will handle it.
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She was probably at her wit’s end, just like you!
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They are kids. They fight. They play loud. If the fighting is that bad try what I did. When they started I made them sit on the couch or at the kitchen table. They could do nothing but talk to each other nicely. The first time they sat there forever. By the third time they got it & things were better. They would still fight but not as much
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So, by your own words - you quit trying to control your children and allow them to be outside to just run wild. Personally, I think you probably should’ve told your kids to shut the F up a long time ago, and your neighbor is probably sick of hearing them scream and fight constantly like wild animals (this is a totally different sound than children playing and it’s super annoying). However, I definitely think you should go knock on her door and tell her how you feel! 
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Become best friend with her.
Go and address the issue…do both. Talk to your kids and tell them to quit being so loud. Then go and tell her you’ve talk to your kids about the volume level. Tell her not to cuss at your kids and come and inform you. If my kids can’t respect other ppl will outside thy will have to stay inside.
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Knock on her door and tell her she needs to watch her mouth and not be screaming profanities at your children. Tell her if there us a problem come let you know and you’ll handle it.
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Knock on the door and just make a request to them that if there are any issues with your children. That they should contact you. This is for now, And any future needs. And thank you so much for keeping a watchful eye on them. If they do it again. Forget what your husband says, and let mamma bear have a chat with them. However, If they (your kids) were being combative to each other. It wouldn’t be unusual for a neighbor to holler “hey, you kids behave!” But yeah, Swearing at them isn’t ok. It takes a community to raise well rounded kids.
Quick question. Did they respond appropriately or did they give him the bird and smirk. Please teach your children to respect the neighbors. No matter what. You after all are the one that is going to have to deal with it later. Explain to your kids that the world holds lots and lots of different types of people. Overly happy people. And overly crabby people. Possibly, if your kids push it to where the neighbor has to yell at them, your kids need to be corrected before neighborhood is disrupted.
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Sounds like either the kids need to learn how to be quiet before they cause issues or go out with them and supervise them.
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I would’ve been right at her door as soon as she stopped talking. At the end of the day they’re children and her words were inappropriate.
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You gave up on parenting so why does it bother you that much?!
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When I first moved into our neighborhood after buying our house I had a similar problem best believe I let anyone and everyone know not to discipline or yell or bully or anything my kids if there’s a problem come to me. And everything has been good since.
But I’d definitely be knocking on the door as soon as I heard her yell like that at my kids! I’d be telling her not to be yelling at my kids bc it’s not her place and I definitely don’t appreciate her cursing at my kids! Next time there’s a problem come to me and I’ll deal with it.
Kids will be kids is what I say!! Fight and yelling is normal. Sorry not sorry!!
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I would tell her thank you 
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Woo… I would have been over there so damn quick to give her a piece of my mind. It’s the middle of the day and kids are going to play and even if they are being excessively loud there’s a way to handle that situation and it’s absolutely not by cussing and yelling at kids. If she’s got a problem she needs to stow the attitude and come talk to you about it like an adult
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Did your kids shut the “f “ up? If they did then at least they will listen to the neighbors
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I would confront them, language for young ones like that should not be used, you don’t want this to continue.
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Your children need discipline and structure for them to able to grow into good and respectful adults. Please try to teach them good habits and instead of ignoring their bad behaviors. Neighbor sounds like she is looking for trouble.
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While she could’ve addressed the noise with you I’m sure if they are as rowdy as you say she could probably hear it in her house. Many people work from home these days and your kids could possibly be causing her problems. Take accountability for your kids and parent them.
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Ask your boys to quiet down a bit. Part of what kids learn is to be considerate.
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Let her try and have a crack at them. I mean, if you gave up.
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So you’ve got Lord of the Flies happening in your back yard and since you’ve stopped trying the neighbor had to step in. And you are focusing way to much on the cussing. Maybe the kids were telling each other to shut the f up and the neighbor was just quoting them. Kind of like if kid one says shut the f up, then, kid two says no you shut the f up and then the neighbor said both of you shut the f up. You admitted that you are a bad neighbor by ignoring the fighting but you want your neighbors to respect you? Grow up
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When my boys (6) Plus friends would play in the yard chasing each other were always loud
Neighbors complaining once about how loud and angry they were
Do you remember the wrestling buddy pillows?
That’s how they got their frustration out
By throwing them at each other
Jumping on them and wrestling with the pillows and each other
Neighbor called cops several times
Police would see that they were just being boys , having fun, and they even came by on one complaint and played water guns with the boys
My advice is to ignore the neighbors
And talk to your children to always be respectful to the neighbors no matter what
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Oh I most definitely would go knock on the door . No one would of ever spoken to my children like that . That’s horrible
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Tell her to come speak to you, if she has a problem with your children.
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Listen…It takes a village. And if YOU were at YOUR whits end why be mad when a villager stepped in to do what you could no longer. So what she said the F word. Sometimes it takes some harsh words and a tone to make them stop. Did they stop the madness?I can guarantee they have heard worse and have probably said worse. Thank her and move along.
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Knock on her door so she can tell you to shut the f up too your face too. LoL. Yes, kids will be kids and they can act however they want in your home and in your presence, but outside of your home their behavior affects others and some peeler will speak on it. Just because you tolerate and ignore their behavior doesn’t mean anyone else has to. And while it shouldn’t be a practice for any adult to curse at a child, not everyone is raised the same with curse words being taboo or rude. Maybe you need to address your kids instead of your neighbor.
Yeah i wouldn’t allow anyone to tell my kids to shut the fuck up , that’s just me tho
I would have been at her door
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Really u should thank her. Lol. Maybe ur kids will listen and stop the fighting If they hear it from someone other then you.
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Did they stop fighting?
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And this is why i Dont have close Neighbors . And if i did . And one spoke to my kids or nygood self it would be an all nighter.
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Troll them hard. Be the most annoying neighbor
Knock on her mf door
The amount of people who think its ok for random people to yell at your kids is ridiculous. Yall are seriously mental 
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Yeah I think you’ve been sent a clear message. Your children are out of control and the neighbors have also had enough of their screaming as well. You need to find a way to keep the noise level down. Everyone has the right to have peace. To me it’s as bad as letting your dog bark constantly. I’m sure if your neighbors had a dog that did that it would drive you nuts.
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I would knock on her door today and yell “DONT EVER YELL AT MY KIDS AGAIN” and then walk away! Period! Idc what your kids were doing or how badly they were bothering her! You don’t yell at other people’s kids…especially if you dont know them!!
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So you heard her from inside your house, like she heard your boys going at it from inside her house? 
your husband doesn’t want you to cause scene, probably because he agrees with the neighbors 
I’m sure your neighbor said it to get your attention so you could handle your business.
I’m also pretty sure she gave you enough time control your kids
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Well, you yourself said you have up, someone has to handle it, but let me just be real, if I had to handle your kids for you, and then you came at me for it, ID SHUT YOU THE FUCK UP TOO. THEN TELL YOU TO GO DO YOUR JOB!!!
You said you are over it and didn’t say anything to them so she did. What’s the problem? Did they stop fighting?
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Leave it be. Kids need to realize they are being disruptive to not just you but the neighborhood. I mean she didn’t need to cuss at them… but he’ll we got yelled at all the time from our neighbors because of balls in their yard, too loud, generally acting like kids… sure was it excessive sometimes but we learned how to respect them and be aware of people around us.
I mean, if your kids are being wildly disruptive (which is what it sounds like) then your neighbor has the right. Maybe they work third shift and can’t sleep. I also don’t understand why you’ve given up parenting.
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I don’t think they were any harm they probably just got tired of listening to them arguing
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Did they stop fightin? When she said that? 
By teaching your kids not to yell at one another like that… AAAND talk to her… both problems addressed… there
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If this is an ongoing problem and you’re not doing anything about your kids invading the tranquility of the neighbor being able to enjoy their own back yard, then yeah, your neighbor has the right to tell your kids to shut up. As you say, it is invading the neighbor’s yard. However, no adult has the right to drop the “f” bomb when speaking to children. It sounds to me as if there’s more to this story and we’re not being told all the details. For instance, how long has this been an issue? what steps have been taken to correct it before this? If this is the first time your neighbor has done this, drop it immediately. Your neighbor probably got rid of a lot of frustration and has calmed down by now, and the kids have probably moved on as well. They may even be a little quieter now, not wanting to disturb that “mean ol’ neighbor.” Yes, kids should be allowed to be boisterous in their own yard, but they also need to be taught some boundaries, and those include letting your neighbor enjoy his back yard too. By continuing to worry about this and bringing it up, you just might be the person who creates a mountain from a molehill.
Any of y’all that think this is okay or are blaming the children or mom for someone else cursing at children are the problem. Y’all probably see nothing wrong with it because you do it too. Y’all gonna do it one of these days and find out.
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You legit just said you gave up on their bickering .
My momma always told me … if you dont want other people disciplining your kids, DO IT YOURSELF . Adress the situation right away . It teaches them respect for you and you’re teaching your kids how to be respectful and considerate of others .
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What yo husband doing? You driving your energy up the wall with these fights as the man of the house where he at??
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Let’s get this straight. You don’t want to parent your kids so you allow them to fight and yell unless of course they hurt each other 
. ANNNND, you don’t want anyone else to parent them either.
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I don’t have kids but I did text my neighbor the other day, just to see if me mowing would bother her, since she works from home, or her kids. There’s like 40 feet between our doors and even a mower being run while doors are closed can be loud and distracting when working or kids are napping. She could have come to you or messaged you and told you they were being too loud especially if she is working from home. There are dogs on every side of us, and if my 3 start to get loud I will tell them to be quite, give it a few minutes and if they aren’t quieting down they come back inside.
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I mean she just “used her words” since you obviously had given up on parenting your kids.
I understand being at your wits end, truly. But if you’ve given up, you can’t get upset when people step in because your kids are affecting them.
Everyone deserves peace. 
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I had children 2 years ago the neighbor had a woman over for the night she hung out in the middle of the afternoon of the window with nothing on I told my kids to be quiet in no uncertain terms because she wanted to sleep. They weren’t fighting they were just playing and she was nude and didn’t even live there. Nothing I could do either
,tell her next time she has a problem with your kids to call u and never cause at your kids again…she sounds like real trouble…0
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My question for you is, do you have a water hose with a spray nozzle? SPRAY HER next time she wants to yell at your kids. Girl, I would not have even had time to make this post 
ain’t nobody yelling at my babies. I’ll be damned lol
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Turn the water hose to her face and explain she can talk to her kids how she wants but it’s not her place to speak to your kids period! Wash that F bomb right out her face
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I’d go over and apologize to.my neighbor
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What you should do is quiet your kids down and have some courtesy for your neighbours. You were all done hearing it and they are your kids, imagine how others feel lol.
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Personally I would walk your boys over to her house and make them apologize to her for the disruption. If children have to take accountability for their actions they are more likely to self correct
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I would of told my kids to stfu before the neighbour ever had a chance
Some of you are wild with these comments. I’m guessing your kids go outside and are perfect and stay quiet? We have two boys also, 8 and 9. We also have two girls 3 and 5. Their loud when their outside. Even when the boys friends are over. Their loud. There was zero reason why the neighbor had to yell that at kids! Especially brothers who probably wrestle and act crazy lol!
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Oh god… I’m reading some of these comments and I’m like wtf . Those are your kids and you discipline them how you see fit. If the neighbor had a problem they could’ve said it a little it nicer cause it is children they are speaking to not an adult in a bar. Your neighbor needs more class cause kids will be kids. Plus they are in their home where they should feel comfortable. If the neighbor has a problem she should address it to their parents not to the kids!
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Every time she’s outside now and makes a noise I’d yell shut the fuck up at her. But I’m petty.
Maybe get some constructive behavior out of your kids, family need to care about each other, maybe a doctor could help in that department 
, its not healthy for them, praying for your family
Idc what my kids are doing, no one has the right to tell them to shut up. Period. I’ve got a big mouth and a taste for drama so I’d def say something.
No the neighbor shouldn’t have cursed at your kids, but she probably had enough. No one wants to hear kids bickering & fighting constantly. Your kids are old enough to know better. Instead of “giving up trying to stop them” do your job as a mother. It’s your job/responsibility to teach your kids. Sounds like your kids need to be taught respect for each other and for other people. If you’ve given up on stopping the issue, don’t get mad when your neighbors step up and do your job for you. This is the problem with kids today, their parents don’t teach them anything but get pissed when the world around them does. Do your job as a parent and you won’t have neighbors yelling/cursing at your kids.
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If I were you I would take the boys over knock on the door and let them apologize. This is a good teaching point for the boys. That their words and actions carry over the fence. You may have given up and just accept their behavior but the neighbors haven’t. In the end you might just make a lifelong friend. A little accountability goes along way in this day and time. Sure kids make a racket from time to time but if it gets to the point of bothering the neighbors it’s a bit much. Now go ahead ladies roast me for not siding with the kiddos and their gentle vulnerabilities.
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If my kids are in my yard playing or arguing , whichever, it is still my yard. She had no right to speak to your kids that way. That’s the problem now! Everybody thinks kids are supposed to stay cooped up and quiet. Let them get outside and get loud if need be! I’d definitely be speaking to this neighbor!!!
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If you want to tell my child to be quiet while using expletives, then you need to tell that to me. I agree her peace was disturbed which happens a lot when houses are close together but to curse… well… she need to save that for her own kids. Knowing the people may have an issue with nose, the author should be a bit more mindful, like I said, close homes allow everything to be heard. That’s it.
Jude you would be the one yelling the F word
Oh hell no ! You got me f**** up . I’d take my ass right over there and confront them
I would be mad, as a parent if my niebour said that to my kids. You can’t always step in they gotta figure it out. Kids are loud if the neibour don’t like they can go inside. When my kids are to loud for a long period of time I would tell them to be quite or come inside but atthe same time there kids let them play
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Knock on that bitches door momma
Go knock on her door.
Whether they were fighting or not, what if they were running around screaming and playing, would she have done the same? All of these people saying that she should apologize to her neighbor or that she’s in the wrong, what if the situation was different and they were yelling and playing together and she came up and told them to shut the f up? Would it be different?
I’ve had a neighbor say the same thing to my kids and I told them if they didn’t like it then maybe they shouldn’t be in a neighborhood with kids. You don’t cuss like that at children no matter the situation.
Knock on the door? Kick her door in
Wow these comments are wild lol I remember when I was younger my friends and siblings and everyone was always loud outside. It’s literally the one place that’s acceptable 
plus they’re on their own property in their own yard. If they were at the neighbors sure or they already asked the parents to have them be quieter for whatever reason I would be like sure tell them to be quiet but they don’t need to curse at them either. I’d personally be like next time come talk to me about it don’t scream at my kids 
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At 1 pm, eh I would tell the neighbor to go get a job or something. Its the middle of the day, so I wouldn’t be monitoring them. If it were early morning or evening, my response would be different.
This is also why we live on a farm lol my kids don’t know how to be quiet 
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I would call neighbor and apologize but would tell her I want to send boys over to apologize themselves if she would allow. Then, I would tell her “while I am sorry they upset you, I hope you won’t yell or curse them again. Please call me if there is an issue”. Then send boys if she was good with that…. If she wasn’t…… tell boys to be more respectful in the future and not to make too much noise. If future problems, you and husband may need to go have a talk and remind her it was 1:00 pm and kids should be allowed to play and disagree during those hours… especially in their own yard
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I don’t understand the comments to apologize to the neighbor ??? They did nothing wrong. they were in THEIR back yard. If anything, SHE should be the one to apologize as she yelled at them!
Regarding bringing it up, maybe let it go this time as you have to live next to her. Next time it’s another story then I would approach her.
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