I’d buy them a set of drums and start our own lil band, practices would be held right outside her fence
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Control your children
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Ppl really expect kids not to act like kids 
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I can understand her frustration. There’s a difference in kids just playing and then fighting. If they are happy sounds I’d be more annoyed that she yelled at them. If they are fighting then use discipline.
Just because they are in your yard doesn’t mean you can let them disturb all neighbors around. Explain to the kids to be respectful of others sound them and not be crazy loud.
Hopefully your kids were slightly embarrassed by causing a neighbor to have to admonish them when you didn’t. Since you’re not teaching them they need to learn that certain behavior is not acceptable outdoors in front of others. It takes a village.
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I think the neighbor had a right to say something if Mama don’t put it into it I guess the neighbor had to say something I could get very annoying
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I wouldn’t let anyone talk to my kids that way. They are kids. they fight, they yell, they play, your neighbor had no right to speak to your kids like that.
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I would write a note and put it on her her front door saying “I’m sorry if my kids were bothering you, but please, dont ever yell and cuss at them. If it becomes an issue again, please let me know(leave phone number). We want to be respectful neighbors and wish for the same.”
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Hmmm guess I’m the odd one out. I’ve got 6 kids 3 of them have ADD they all fight they all argue most times it’s over something stupid 90% of the time I let them figure it out for themselves I’m not always going to be there to settle all their fights they need to learn to settle fights on their own. I don’t let it get out of hand but typically it lasts less then 2 minutes. It’s not about terrible parenting there’s some kids like my 10 yr old that has ADD and ODD that flat out refuse to listen to a word you say no matter what you do.
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I’d be pissed, and wished I was outside at that time just to yell back at that person.
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Hmmm guess I’m the odd one out. I’ve got 6 kids 3 of them have ADD they all fight they all argue most times it’s over something stupid 90% of the time I let them figure it out for themselves I’m not always going to be there to settle all their fights they need to learn to settle fights on their own. I don’t let it get out of hand but typically it lasts less then 2 minutes. It’s not about terrible parenting there’s some kids like my 10 yr old that has ADD and ODD that flat out refuse to listen to a word you say no matter what you do.
I wouldnt care, they can deal with loud kids. It’s their problem. I probably yell back you shut the f up back… lol
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I would guess that it’s safe to say that you do not know exactly what is going on when they are outside. Your neighbor was probably at her limit. Teach your kids neighborly edicate. Children can do bad things when not supervised. We had neighbors where kids were jumping on a trampoline shooting birds with a bb gun. They damaged 4 surrounding homes with bullet holes. Another time they were throwing knives at a fence … one missed and it almost stabbed a neighbor. Pay more attention to what your kids are doing.
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Kids yell. That’s what they do. Unless she works 3rd shift she needs to be cussed at just like she did your kids. I’d love to hear kids playing outdoors. It doesn’t happen much anymore.
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You knock on her damn door.
I love children and honestly I have felt the same way as that lady. I have done the same thing without using f$&@. We all have rights to have peace in our yards and homes. If she saw one of your kids about to jump off of the roof would you want her to yell at them? If she saw one of the kids getting ready to run across traffic would you want her to yell? You need to teach your children some manners.
I am assuming the kids were outside because they were driving you crazy inside.
Listen, I am an old lady (55). I will tell you that allowing your children to treat each other like that makes deep mental scars. They will likely never be good friends and brothers because you are allowing them to behave like that towards each other. They are probably also talking to other kids the same way. I have owned 5 daycares with 2 after school facilities and I am a teacher. The lady did the right thing.
Your boys and you seriously should be ashamed of yourselves. Especially you because as a parent you should know better. All 3 of you should walk over there and apologize to that lady. You should thank her for watching after and correcting your children because you didn’t. If they can’t be nice to each other keep them working together doing chores instead of playing. Let them clean baseboards and stairs and rake the yard and whatever else you need done. Don’t be their friend be a mother and disciplinarian. They will both be healthier as brothers.
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Not to sound mean but your husband should handle it he shouldn’t be acting like a wife he should be acting like a man
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Ummm nope! Go over there and handle that but kindly.
You never know what others are going through. If that doesn’t work then time to step it up a notch. Please quiet down would be nicer for kids. Saying what your neighbor said wasn’t appropriate.
Tell Felicia to shut the fuck up! Lol 
let the kids play for the love of god! 
Did they shut the f up? Sometimes that’s what kids need. Is for someone else to tell them what your thinking.
ETA: how ever next time you see her, politely ask her not to drop the f bomb next time.
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One comment “nobody wants to hear your kids screaming and yelling” no SH!T ppl I’m sure the mother don’t wanna hear it either but kids are gonna yell and be loud and siblings will fight they are outside in their yard!!! I’m glad I live where we mind our business Im not gonna be a Karen and yell at someone kids for being loud OUTSIDEE
Knock her and the door
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Aye u gave up so give up. Someone had to do ur job bc u couldn’t handle it. Stay inside and hush like you’ve been doing while they’ve been disrupting the neighbourhood with their behaviour. She was at her wits end holding out that you would talk to your children now u dare to want to go knock on her door. They have to be considerate of others after all its just ‘words’ nothing physical so why u tripping. After all this was ur own logic.
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They’re outside playing. I’d definitely say something. Kids are kids. They’re loud. If someone told mine to shut the fuck up there would be a problem. When u buy ur home and it has neighbors, what do u expect
I would put the kids inside so they don’t need to watch you go into “don’t mess with this māma mode” and then go right up to her door and say WHO YOU TELLING TO SHUT THE FUCK UP. I’m sure then she won’t be as tough as she was to the CHILDREN and OVER THE FENCE at that !
Be pettu and put your stereo oitside and blast the most annoying song you can find!!!
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Lol I would send them outside with a drum kit
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Yes, kids yell and fight, even while playing,especially boys, and that can get really annoying if you’re a neighbor listening to it all day every day if you’re trying to have some peace in your own yard. I absolutely don’t condone swearing at the kids, but you as their mom need to reach some kind of compromise as neighbors. Talk to your kids and your neighbor about setting some kind of boundary where your kids can be outside being loud and playing and giving some kind of timeframe where your neighbor can have at least some time of the day where they can have some peace and quiet to enjoy their own time outside-and never just yelling and cursing at your kids.
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Unless they’re screaming bloody murder or completely out of control ( in your backyard)…tell her to mind her own or to come address one of you adults instead of screaming obscenities at young children. Never would I let anyone get away with that. After a ADULT discussion, if still no resolution, welcome her to call the police if she feels necessary. They most likely will not do a thing, as it’s not a noise ordinance, not illegal for kids to be kids, and it’s summer… that’s where kids should be is outside! Also, maybe ask them about her harassing your children in your own yard if she decides to call. Geez, my neighbors never complained when I was a kid we were loud but that was expected back then was for kids to be outside 
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I would of told her too shut the fuck up and let them continue 
yeah I try too tell my kids not to scream but their 5 almost 6 , 4 , almost 2 their not gonna Constantly be quiet
That’s not how you talk to someone else’s kids, I can understand if the neighbor was outside and was reading a book and asked your kids to please stop but she is inside her house?
Invite her over for drinks she just saved you from doing it and you’re officially family!
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U should go out and roar even louder with ur kids
Tell your kids to ignore her and make sure they are outside all. Summer. Long.
Take a speaker outside and play Baby shark on repeat.
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If someone told my kids to shut the fuck up, they wouldn’t be the only ones screaming
I think the neighbor had every right to say something, but she was wrong for yelling at the kids and using the F-bomb. She should have approached you or your husband.
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Enjoy the sound of your children playing and ask her not to curse. If she keeps it up call the cops.
Maybe it’s your fault . Your the mom get on them
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Most kids fight and argue so you send them outside because you don’t want to hear it. Maybe your neighbor doesn’t want to either.
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I’d throw a party cause ya
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Maybe the neighbor was having a bad day, if this was a first time occurrence of the neighbor maybe for now give the neighbor the Benefit fit of the doubt.
Next time you see the neighbor just say something like “hey, I heard you yelling at my kids, I hope they weren’t doing anything wrong”
That’s hard one as I would not appreciate someone yelling at my child like that, especially with the language used but I wouldn’t let it go without anything being mentioned.
Tell the neighbor if the kids are doing something wrong to contact you.
Having a bad neighbor or a problem with one can make things uncomfortable at home. I have one two houses down who causes a TON of problems with other neighbors and a few years ago he pushed me to my limit over the summer and snapped one day and told him off. That didn’t make things necessarily better but he stopped the nonsense.
Omg such a rude neighbor! I wouldn’t let anyone yell at my kids that way. I’m in my house you STFU!
I would knock on her door. First they should swear at your kids … second it is day time they can make as much noise as the want… third buy them drum sets for out side
the neighbor should just turn on loud music or something like that…perhaps that will shut them up…kids…gotta love em…lol
If your children are fighting so loud that it’s disturbing her you need to talk to your children. Maybe she works night shift and she is trying to sleep and all she can hear is the fighting. No she should not have swore at them however by your own admission this happens frequently and I am passing no judgement I have 4 of my own kids and would do the same thing. Maybe reach out to her apologize about the noise but explain they are children and she should not have spoke to them that way and see what can be done so everyone is happy.
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I’m sorry? You heard it from inside the house?? So she screamed at your kids. I’d literally be screaming straight back. I don’t think so smh
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I’d knock on her door 
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Well in her defense she is probably sick of listening to your kids fight all day long while she is trying to relax outside, no she shouldn’t have said that and could have come to you but I would be annoyed to if all I heard was kids fighting next door and never got silence to relax
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My neighbor was this way for 10 years! We even had to go to court bc we had it with her. We finally stopped the mess about 2 years ago and it’s nice to go outside without hearing her nasty mouth. All I can say is, try to keep your cool and have a civilized conversation. If not, these people will never go away and be a pain for your child’s entire youth! My neighbor said some even more disgusting things than just the F word so Mama and Papa Bear went directly for the jugular! And that continued for years…only reason why I say try to be civilized…even though you want to rip her head off! I know I know….good luck!!
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You don’t live in the country where u can scream and yell all you want. Have some respect. Teach your kids some respect. Have a talk with your neighbor tell her if they get too rowdy to talk to you not them. She obviously had had enough. It’s her space too she should be able to enjoy it.
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Keep playing in your yard
I’d be knocking on that door real quick.
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Idk I’m petty we would end up being louder. I’m a give respect to get respect type of person. We’re matching energy 
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Lol I’m wondering if the neighbor has a toddler or baby to put to sleep. Or since the mom admits she doesn’t even bother with the kids she’s given up trying to stop them, how long has the neighbor been dealing with the kids acting up. Idk just needs more info to the story. If the husband isn’t mad too and says not to cause issues he’s probably been dealing with this for a while and sounds like a husband who knows his wife can be dramatic.
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I like to enjoy my back yard and my kids make that near impossible. Does that mean she should have to endure what you don’t want to deal with?
When my kids are being extra aholes I tell them to shut the banannas up.
Yes, kids are free to be kids but do we allow them to make everyone miserable because they are “kids”
She was done.
She wanted to enjoy her space and your kids were fighting…as you said and have been to the point where you gave up.
Split them up. Let your kids enjoy some time without each other and let your neighbor have some peace.
All yall talking about go confront her. Have yall seen id? Unless you are close to her id reconsider that.
And why am I the only one who things thos is hilarious?!? I would have said preach sista!!
Are yall really this cautious with yalls kids 
?!?
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Seriously if your kids are constantly fighting and arguing outisde i think your neighbors had every right to say something especially after u said u gave up dealing with them. On top of it you heard her from inside the house so i wonder how loud ur kids actually were.
Why is it ok for ur kids to be arguing and screaming at eachother but not ok for your neighbor to say something about it.
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Sounds like your neighbor has an inconsiderate neighbor problem.
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I’d bang on her door, and tell her next time she sees your kids, she can shut the f**k up 
idc the circumstances,. No ones got a right to yell at kids that age like that
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Kids will be kids !! I would be knocking on that door ! Kids are going to scream play etc what do they expect them to do play in silence to not disturb anyone !! As adults we should behave like adults and cursing at kids — I don’t think that’s adult behavior !!
It was 1pm. You’re kids are in their own yard. Tell your neighbor to shut the f*%k up and mind her own business.
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You can’t really judge her without knowing her situation. Alot of people these days work night shift. Also, she could easily call the police and tell them your kids are outside fighting and yelling and it would be considered “disturbing the peace”. If your kids are constantly arguing and fighting, she’s probably been holding back for awhile now and she probably got tired of listening to it.
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It’s outside. OMG people. So if I baby is screaming next door are you going to walk to the fence and tell the momma to have a talk with their baby to keep it down? They’re outside. Where they can be loud. Y’all a bunch of angry Karen’s. Wanna tell her to have a talk with her kids about being loud. OUTSIDE. Tell your neighbor to pizz off and then continue to join in the screaming. Jesus.
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So when people are mowing their lawn or doing construction on their home at 1pm they have to be quiet? Bullshit. They are kids and she needs to get over herself. I would be knocking on her door.
I wouldn’t put up with an F word yelled at my crazy kids at all. No way, no how. Nope! All three of you go knock, and don’t leave until it’s mutual apologies all around.
When my kids, 5 and 11, start getting crazy in the afternoon I send them outside and I’m sure they sound just like your kids. I try to have them be respectful of the neighbors, especially if one of them is outside or I notice they have their windows open. I don’t want to listen to their crap so why would I make my neighbors listen to it? May be unpopular opinion but if I heard my neighbor tell my kids that I would let it go if it actually made them shut up and think about how loud and rude they are. If you felt the need to say something it maybe should have been after you heard your neighbor say that and not after you have set around and gotten more upset about it. I think it would just cause more problems than it would solve.
I mean if I live next door and the kids are always fighting outside and your not saying much I might yell over the fence maybe it helps mom out as the boys would be shocked someone else is yelling at them … If this is the only time let it go but if this becomes a regular thing I’d say something and talk to your boys about playing is fine but yelling and fighting with each other no one wants to hear it🤷🏻♀️
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And did your kids actually shut the f#%k up when she told them too?
Some kids need to be taught to respect other people around them including neighbours. If it was me I wouldn’t of yelled at your kids but I’d be playing some pretty loud music and making you understand boundaries when it comes to living close to others. You’re their mother, take control of them so other people don’t feel the need to take upon themselves. Clearly this neighbour has had enough of you not dealing with them.
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Its ur job to teach them to respect neighbors. They said something cuz it was annoying to them. U werent outside dealing with it so how excalty do they get u 2 control ur own children? Inside fighting is 1 thing…but when other people are trying to enjoy the outdoors 2
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Yes kids do fight and argue. However if it is constant i think you should be stepping in. Perhaps time outs in their rooms, or extra chores etc. If it is physical, they need to know that behaviour will not be tolerated! Also if you and your neighbour have always been on good terms, then perhaps an apology is on order from yourself and/or the boys. I disagree with the language she used but perhaps you can overlook it this once. Time for you to step up mom and parent your sons. It will get worse as they grow older if you don’t deal with it now
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I would have told my kids “see. Now I told you to shut up”
No… she didn’t need to ever curse at your children. But, Yes… you need to not, ‘give up’, discipline your children and raise them to be civil & respectful to others.
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Knock on her door and tell her about it. That’s not how you handle children of any age.
Probably sick of it herself but not jack she can actually do. Not much you can do either because I’m sure this neighbor doesn’t give a hoot when instead of knocking on your door to let you know its annoying her she cusses at them. I’d let it go. F her. But if it becomes too often od have a talk with this neighbor. They’re outside in their own yard. There’s nothing either of you can really do. Live your life. Siblings fight and argue. It’s what it is.
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Tell them to make more noise. Give them some pots and pans
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Well they probably need to shut the fuck up
Sounds like both the neighbor AND you are in the wrong. Your neighbor should not have addressed your children as they are children. That should have been an issue that they took up with you. You’re in the wrong because you literally gave up on that specific part of parenting. Your kids need to learn boundaries and it is your responsibility as a parent to begin instilling respect for others and you’re not; one, by allowing your children to scream and yell at one another without any regard with how that may make each, individual child feel and two, by not consciously making an effort to remind your kids how screaming and yelling all damn day might be bothersome to other people also trying to enjoy their backyard at a home that they also have the right to feel comfortable in.
Yes, go tell your neighbor not to EVER approach your children again and instead to take that concern up with you but also acknowledge that you hold responsibility in this matter and apologize to your neighbor for not teaching your children what boundaries are for certain behaviors.
Just remember, the way your neighbor spoke to your children, ya know, the same behavior that is making you so angry… is the same way you allow your 6 and 9 year old children to speak to each other regularly and do nothing about it…
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Get them a drum set and a clarinet to play outside
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Oh I would of ran out that door soon as I heard her
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Your kids were probably being annoying. Did they shut up?
I would have been outside asking who the F she’s talking to like that right after she said that to my kids. I wouldn’t wait to discuss it with anyone. You don’t talk to other people’s kids like that. But you shouldn’t let your kids be so annoying the people next door have to say something. Kids playing outside is normal, kids screaming and fighting all day is annoying to anyone. You need to discipline your kids. Giving up is never an option.
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Ya’ll are both wrong. She has no business yelling at your kids and instead should be yelling at you. You also have no business letting your children act like ass holes. If they’re playing that is one thing. But it is your responsibility as a parent to raise them and teach them how to get along with others. This starts in the home with their siblings. Do people sometimes fight? Yes. But for it to be a constant thing like you are suggesting is out of control and you need to get control over your kids. Take them to counseling if necessary. My dad just “let kids be kids” and I have 3 older sisters that are grown adults and have all had problems with drugs, alcohol, and even some problems with the law. And 2 if them literally tried fist fighting each other at a funeral. Do you want that to be how your kids turn out? Figure it out.
I would give my kids some megaphones and send them back into the yard to continue their fight. But my neighbor knows better than to mess with my kids.
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Wow I’m really shocked at some of these comments. I would be whooping someone’s ass. Nobody would be talking to my kid like that
I’d say the same to be honest
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The second I heard her say that. I would have been out there. I would have let her know no body not even her is gonna cuss at my kids. I don’t wanna be in fb jail so I’ll leave it at that. But I would have put a quick stop to that if not it’ll get worse
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Good I do the samething - if you can not be a mother someone has too
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She shouldn’t have used language like that to your children. If she has a problem she should talk to you. See to has a right to enjoy her yard. I didn’t let my kids act like that. I’m an old school mom.
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I bet they shut up didn’t they?
Oh yeah I’d be walking my a$$ right on over there
I would have rather my neighbor told my kids to shut up over the fence than call the cops like someone did a few weeks ago because they were being ‘too loud’ playing outside.
Let it go and teach your kids to respect the people around them.
Anyone that said that to a child,will knock you out,if you knock on their door, so be prepared.Handling in an adult manner will not be possible…
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If she had a problem she could have knocked on your door and said something to you. I would be out there turning on some loud music and making sure the kids are extra loud. If she yelled again, I’d be yelling right back
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First of all that neighbor wouldn’t have had time to go back home before I said something. Secondly, keep your kids inside until they can go out without fighting 
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If the kids are just non-stop yelling and screaming at each other I separate them and will not let them near each other.
There may two sides to this story. If it’s really a bad situation where the neighbor never sees Mom outside attempting to wrangle her kids, I could understand her frustration. But for her to use the F-word is totally unnecessary. She could have easily said “YOU NEED TO QUIET DOWN OVER HERE RIGHT NOW! OR I WILL GO GET YOUR MOM MYSELF AND HAVE HER TAKE YOU INSIDE”
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Knock on that bitches door
Natural consequences for them lol
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Teach your children how to get along with each other. This was a reminder to you. What if something was wrong and because your kids are always loud, no one checks to see if they need help?
I’d be at that door as soon as I heard her yell… it’s your house! How is she gonna tell your kids to not only shut up but shut the f*** up!
in your own home!