Well I would just tell him to go. You don’t love us no more. Just leave us alone
Nope you can do better
Leave. That is the stupidest shit I’ve heard from his side. Just move on. Don’t get married.
P s I put up with a lot of shit from my man. But cheating is a one way to the curb either way
Once a cheater…
That is a solid No from me.
You tell me you are not in love with me after you cheat on me? THEN you have the audacity to want to work shit out… just cause you went and got your dick wet and feel better about yourself does not mean we are okay.
Once a cheat always a cheat
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I look at cheating as a illness’s would you leave your husband if he had cancer??? Men who cheat need help they have programs for sex addiction. I can tell you this you will trade one asshole for another. Split families is extremely hard on everyone. I think a marriage is for better or worse and if your both willing to work on your Marriage. I would definitely do it. I wouldn’t let a one night stand ruin your family. Make it work but pay attention to the details. Start putting love back in your relationship.
Kick his ass to the curb
Tell him as long as he is into fucking everyone try fucking off! Blatant disrespectful asshole. 3 kids and 8 yrs. I’d love to bury him with his ass up so you had a place to park your bike
Me and my fiance have been together almost 17 years. About 6 years ago I found out he cheated. We had 2 kids at that point. I ended up hating him for it but tried my hardest to forgive. Didn’t work. He tried so hard to win me back. But I was done. I started dating and doing my thing. Moved out. Got my own place. Felt amazing. About a year after I left him he was still trying to win me back. Took almost 2 years but I decided to give him another chance. After a while I moved back in with him. And we ended up having our 3rd child. And here we are. But when I say it’s been hard. I mean it. We have our fair share of fights about the past. Him upset that I dated someone else after we split up. Acting like I cheated. When he is the reason we split anyways. Because he cheated. He is a narcissistic asshole and tries to blame me for everything. STILL. it’s been too long since everything happened for these fights to still be happening. My point! !!! It is extremely hard to move on after that kind of thing. I am currently looking for a place so I can move out Again. He’s trying to keep me with him. But I can’t move forward and I’m miserable and resent him. You’ll never forget. You can try. And maybe you’ll be the exception. But from my experience, it never goes back to how it was before and you’ll never get over it. It will eat you alive.
Girl get your shit together and show him how you can do it without a man. He’ll come running. And when he does make him earn and work his ass off for you.
He messed up not you! You did nothing wrong.
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O honey!! Prayers. You need to heal first, then work on the us.
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Dump that cheating bitch and dont look back. If someone told me that didnt love me anymore I would beat feet getting away
Leave you have nothing if I don’t have trust
Get rid of him. Know your worth.
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Pray and seek counseling
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U knw what to do just do it for u and ua kids my dear
Move on. He will never be satisfied and you will live this roller coaster for the rest of your life
Always follow what your gut is telling you
Pack him up and set his stuff at the curb. Your trust and belief in your relationship has been flushed down the toilet. When he says he would like to work on your relationship puts you in a position where you have to prove to hold you are worth his staying with you. Don’t be fooled or set up like that. Start a better life for yourself and your children. He is causing your kids to suffer with adult bullshit because how can you be the mommy they love when you are under this distress. Be done…you are valuable, you are worthy, you are deserving of a better life for yourself and your children. Best of wishes for you.
Adultery is betraying the WHOLE family, it is not an accident/mistake, its called FREE WILL
He would have to go out of his way to prove it, otherwise its time to bounce. Start thinking about yourself and what makes you happy outside of him. Move on if necessary.
Time for you to move on ,if you stay with him you will only be letting him know it’s okay and trust me there will be another .
I’d say no personally if they cheat once they’ll more than likely do it again…a relationship isn’t all hearts and roses sometimes we all feel not in love …BUT we still love that person we don’t cheat because we have respect trust and faith in them and ourselves…he’s not only let you down also himself he’s got to live with his choice he’s broken your trust and if there’s no trust there’s nothing…don’t waste your time or he’s…let him go back to who he cheated with
Once a cheater,always a cheater. He’ll do it again. He’s having a pity party.
Respect yourself. Leave.
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My ex cheated on me once, and said the same thing, and then continued to cheat on me with every other girl on fb and at work. Its hard because youre both comfortable in the relationship, thats why he doesnt want you to leave, but sometimes putting your happiness first is whats going to save you. You dont want your kids to see an unhappy miserable relationship and think that that is the goal. If you and him both really want to work on it, and you can forgive and forget, and i mean really forgive and forget all of it, then i would say counseling, and sitting down with him and being completely honest with how you feel, and vice versa for him. Always know your worth, and think with your head and your heart, not just one or the other💛
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He feels guilty, he probably is saying he wants to work it out to make himself feel better. I would just walk away. He already told you he wasn’t in love with you anymore, so with that said he will probably do it again.
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My ex cheated after wanting to work on us, he never worked on us.
Get. Out. Now. There’s only mistrust and heartache waiting for you. Sorry boo but it’s time to go.
You will honestly never be able to get over. It will always haunt you. He said he wasn’t in love with you. That is awful.
You will always second guess… once that threshold is crossed, shut the fucking door.
If you have any shot at making it out of this together, it is couples counseling. I think the part that makes me the most angry about cheaters is that they could get a disease then infect you. Make sure he gets tested
Leave before you get sucked in again and feel like you cant do this on your own.
You have a get out of jail free card right now. Use it.
And also. Hes a real POS for cheating on you. Thats not love or respect
The cheating aside, telling you that he’s not in love with you anymore should be enough for you to say goodbye.
Im different when you cheat on your partner its over theres nothing to work on cheating is the great Betrayal in a relationship
He said he is not in Love with you…that should b ur answer
One time you can work on it. 2 times out the door. Maybe some counselling?
Ive gone through the same I found out four months ago he was messing around with other women for six months before I found out. I can honestly say I don’t look at him the same anymore,I don’t trust him and never believe anything that he says. I hate living like this in constant paranoia and mistrust of the one person I feel should have my back and not holding the gun to my head while I’m not looking. I’ve been trying to move on,make things work out and try to move past this but a part of me still holds onto the anger,the disgust and resentment where it starts to grow a seed of hate in my heart. I really did want things to work but it’s true once trust is broken it’s impossible to get back or repair to it’s former form. I’d rather be a single mother,happy and at peace and able to sleep at night without worrying if I’m being cheated on again. This second time it’s happened to me and know love isn’t enough to stay, neither are children. You need to be able to be happy and at peace in your spirit nobody deserves to live in constant fear and worry over any man.
Leave now my ex serial cheated on me for 8 years he told me it was just a one time thing the first time it happened 8 years later he’d been doing it the whole time
Just fucking dont. I been with the same person for 5 years, multiple incidents and for some reason I thought I could change him, change the mistakes he made and I can say I’m never happy, living a hell, doubting my self constantly. You can do better anyone who cheats doesnt have a level of respect of love it takes to make a relationship last. Staying was the biggest mistake I ever made minsue my beautiful children I got from this giant mess! Currently 26 weeks pregnant with my 3rd and I want to seperate so bad it isnt funny. One day you just wake up and look at that person a completely different way. You also live the rest of your life with them always questioning them, always looking over your shoulder, always upset, always doubting your self and them… it isnt mentally, or physically worth it take it from me I’m 4 years after it happen the first time and I to this day will never understand why the hell he did it and who he turned into after showed how much of an ass hole he is. So do not. I repeat do not take pitty on his bullshit excuses or choices. He made a choice. He fucked it up and decided u weren’t worth it the moment he cheated. Run the other way. Once a cheater always and trust me it is not worth the emotional or physical strain In the long run. I am now 4 years deep into this after the first incident and 2 more kids added on I feel even more weight to stay but I want to leave
Listen to your gut. If he does it once, he’ll do it again. He has already shown his true colours. Good luck.
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If everyone left their spouse every time someone did something wrong, everyone would be divorced. In marriage you fall in and out of love and you make mistakes. It’s hard. If he is honest about what happened and says he loves you and wants to work on it, then you need to search your soul and decide if the work is worth it. I know a lot of people who had cheating in their marriage and went to counseling and are great now. I also know people who left and found another unperfect partner. Cheating is a symptom and odds are neither of you are the perfect partner. Im not condoning cheating at all, but sometimes people learn from their mistakes. Would you be happy if you were able to work through it? Is he someone you want to spend your life with still? Only you can decide on your happiness. Advice is good, but is based on someone else’s experience with someone else, not your experience!
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You deserve better, forgive him but move on. Once you develop that pattern of taking him back he will continue to do it. Remember the first time to do something wrong is the hardest time afterwards it becomes easier. He said he was no longer in love with you, obviously he felt in love with the other person and he is back now because it didn’t work. But you know your situation…do what is best for you.
Dump him, if he has to question his feelings for you over and over again he’s not worth fighting for ! a man is supposed to make you feel like you’re #1 not #3 in a relationship , Think of princess Diana‘s marriage , your sounds a lot like that one 
I myself have been in a relationship like that and it’s a yo-yo relationship the man knows whether or not he’s totally in love with you he doesn’t have to question it ! run from him !!! My favourite saying this (fly) first love yourself.
Honestly, it’s time to let go and walk away. He will never love you like you deserve. Take some time finding out what it is like to just be you before you even consider trying to"date" again.
I would go your own way. The world is full of marriages for the wrong reasons. Part of what is going on right now is spirtual cleaning. People need to ascend and be more authentic. You will find your path and your own true connection with whom you’re supposed to be with. Dont pass up your chance and your husbands for true fulfillment.
I left and divorced. Don’t tell someone you love them then make a conscious decision to cheat. Cheating doesn’t just happen. You know it’s wrong but do it anyway. Once my trust is broken it’s never put back together.
The fact that he actually told you, that is a positive. Most men are not vocal, some continue cheating and show no remorse. I think you have a good man who is not perfect and I think kneel down ask God for guidance and try again. He is even asking for you to give it a try then give him last chance. Also take note of the fact that satan hates marriages, he uses different things to break marriages apart because he knows it’s power. Divorce that happens to an undeserving family destroys so much. It may affect your kids to the worse.
If your husband is not abusing you and your kids and shows love and respect, give him another chance. Even if you can leave him, you can find and even worse one. My boss always says from headache to cancer.
it’s a lost cause, once someone falls out of love it’s time to move on. i know the feeling, i was so upset to hear from my husband that he fell out of love so i was blessed with someone who knows what true love is that’s been through the same, you have to go through the bad to experience the amazing
Been there done that and let me tell you GET OUT now before things get worse, there is a wonderful man out there waiting for you so go and find him, If he did it once he will do it gain and life is too short…
If you are going to forgive him you are not going to bring it up, remember men will never change a woman for something better, just for something easier. Oh and it takes a lot of work and JESUS both ways but mostly from you men tend to forget faster. Wish you the best what ever route you choose always put God first:pray:t3: it makes the difference 
I don’t think anyone can give you the answer to something like this because no one has to live with the decision you have to make. I would probably suggest taking sometime apart to get your mind clear and think about what you wanna do and if you can forgive someone like that. Personally I wouldn’t be able to because it would be in the back of my mind that he’s cheating every time he’s not with me. Good luck with your decision.
Been there…kinda still there. My advice would be to leave the situation. Clear your head and think about what you want. If you feel like you would like to work on things then do so. I can’t stress this enough though…GET COUPLES THERAPY! You can not do it on your own. If you try and do it on your own you’ll fail. You have to have clear communication and you’ll need that other person there to help you along. I’ve tried doing it myself and have failed. Its been 7 years and I’m still not 100% if that tells you anything. You should seek separate therapy too. Believe it or not going through something like that is trauma. It will help to manage your own thoughts and feelings. I hope this helps.
Do you have a daughter? If so what would you tell her if she was in your shoes? I think if he proposed literally a few months ago and already cheated what kind of life are you signing up for? I’m all about working things out and getting counseling! Marriage is HARD work but if he has 3 kids with you and still cannot commit I don’t know if that’s a life I would sign up for…for my sake and especially my children’s sake. You all deserve the better than that!
Why should anything be special. You never expected anything in the first place. You had three kids with him and no commitment. Move on.
went through this in my marriage after22 years he left but he was the one messing around and it still hurts
Seriously speaking, right after you find out is the hardest part, but it will resurface. Counseling. Now. Even if you eventually split up, you will have done your best, and that will help YOU.
He loves you but is not “in love” with you. It’s over. You need to move on cuz he already has.
Once a cheater always a cheater… mine was 27 years and I said three strikes and your out. I dont ever wonder where he is anymore.
Get out… run… don’t freaking listen to the lies. They only do that if they’re realizing what they’re actually losing… just run
I’ll be blunt , get rid…once unfaithful, will do it again, especially if he’s actually admitted that hes not in love with you any longer, gees it only been 8 yrs…you have a long time ahead of you girl, he’ll do it again. shame coz it sounds like you want to give it a go…once a cheater always a cheater…( as soon as someone gives it up, he’ll take it and probablyget away with it next time)…don’t be a doormat…
It is normal after 3 kids to feel that way. Go on a trip just the 2 of you and try to bond again
Big difference about loving someone, and being in love with someone. Get out now. You deserve better and to have a loving relationship with someone who never cheats. Don’t settle. You will be happier in the long run. Good luck to you.
He just wants a place to live and of course wants to be near the kids but also wants attention from others
When trust is broken it can never come back… it’s time to haul out the trash and leave it at the curb
Church together, Counseling together, time together and prayers
That whole thing sounds sketchy. Leave. You’ll be happier in the end. 
be tough.
Let it go. U dont need that type of emotional stress. N someone who loves u wont do that type of bs. Hes not a real man
Dont work it out. I’ve been through it and couldnt get over the infidelity.
He k no don’t do it go on your own be happy don’t depend on a man that don’t deserve you and your fam
Kick him to the curb. There are wonderful men out there who will not lie and
Cheat
He’s not in love with u … Go
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My ex cheated with our 16 yr old babysitter said he’d stop and I forgave him but he didn’t stop so I divorced him left to raise our 4 children on my own at 23 yrs old with no help he didn’t want the kids cause cheap and didn’t want to pay child support but he wanted to still be married but with girlfriends it was tough trying to support 4 kids on my own. Sadly my oldest son decided I wasn’t a good mom because we had a tough time and 42 yrs later he stopped talking to me because of his childhood! I’m not the one who destroyed things by cheating
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Nope. Once they stray they will continue.
Take him back. Just deal with it
The fact that he cheated AND TOLD YOU ABOUT IT means he doesn’t give a ‘sheet’ about you.
Move on.
Consider it a loss.
Oh well.
You lose some you win some.
Mistakes are made. My husband cheated on me about 6 years into our marriage. I forgave him and luckily had him in my life for 46 1/2 years before cancer took him away. If you love him, give him a chance, it could mean a life time of love. If not you can always leave later
Go to you tube marriage helper.
He is playing head games. Narcissistic abuse. Uribe some videos on it. They suck. You will be happier without him abusing you. Your kids need to see a strong mom. Not a doormat. He is bad. I feel it.
Leave you DESERVE BETTER.
Honey LET GO AND LET GOD, LET THE DOOR HIT HIM WHERE THE GOOD LORD SPLIT HIM
Send him on his way. He said he didn’t love you, it’s Time to Say Goodbye
LOSE HIM!! PEACE OUT BOY SCOUT!! 
Your children will thank you in the long run!!
Get a good lawyer and say bye bye
Once a cheater always a cheater
Stop wasting your time Sis… let him go
Once a cheat always a cheat
I hear you Sista 
I have been in your (similar) shoes, so wanted to respond. Infidelity hurts so much, but I speak from experience that you can both heal from it. For me, cheating was just one of the ways my husband used to hide and suppress a number of issues he had going on.
If your husband is serious about getting help with understanding what’s behind his infidelity and agrees to working on this with a therapist and do the things he will need to do in order to begin to build your trust again, then yes of course you can both get past this. You really can.
The alternative is you split and run the risk of repeating the same patterns with a different partner.
Either way, you both will need to heal from this, and you can try to do it together or separately. I think it’s worth really giving it a go with a good therapist before making that big decision if your heart is still in it. trust that gut feeling, it will lead you in the right direction 