Do some real soul searching… Do what’s best for YOU.
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I’d give him one chance, he may have learned his lesson.
Better off without him. You deserve better & to be happy.
I would go to marriage counseling if you have a pastor go and talk to him- you obviously love him you’re obviously mad at him I would be to… And trust is like a crumpled up piece of paper- take a nice white sheet of paper which was your relationship before crumple it all up
And then try to flatten it out- sure you can get it flat but it’s just not the same… Talk to someone who can help you through something like this…to me marriage is forever…
But even I have been divorced
( He left, not me) I’m on husband number two and I love him with everything inside of me there are no trust issues neither one of us have any- we’ve been together almost 20 yes, ( first marriage was 14 1/2)
And just remember he’s going to be in your life for the rest of your life you have children… We did too… Chuck and I still talk on occasion…
When something comes up for our grown children ( and grandchildren) you look for the advice of the other one so even if you do break up- it won’t be comfortable at first but you don’t have to lose your best friend over a mistake… He’s not my best friend anymore but he’s still a really good friend
If he’s not in love with you move on it’s very lonely 
there’s always someone else
A relationship counselor sounds like the best option
Pray about it and go to God. Open your bible and read what it says about adultery and divorce. He will speak to you
He will do it again and even if he doesn’t, you will never trust him again
He sounds lost, confused n undecided himself and he is dragging you along…run!!
Check out the resources on marriagehelper.com. All the things you described is on the website. Hang in there! I know what you’re going through. It hurts!
Yeah he loves You until the next fling comes along get away from him the sooner the better
Nope nopity nope nope nope. He cheated and expects you to fix what he broke. He needs to go kick rocks barefoot
Run. Get out. Leave. He will continue to do this.
Sounds toxic walk away
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My advice is to always leave
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Leave him or U suffer easy 
life is beautiful not your loss you have 3 beautiful children
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Remember he is not in love with you now think about that
Girl love your self first let him go all y’all have is years
Run
He doesn’t respect you enough to keep it in his pants
I’m telling you I’m living your story for 18 years . They always need more I promise
I’m gonna keep it short. Not because I don’t have all the words you need to hear… but simply because you already know them. Don’t.
Girlfriend move on. He don’t know what he wants. If he gets it together you can work on it apart.
Leave him!!! If he even thought of cheating he doesn’t deserve you!!
Walk out and just become good friends.
You definitely should not marry him.
Once a cheater always gets easier I know
Your relationship has been over for a long time. Move on
Time to get out now, sad but true.
Get rid of him, if he is not in love you it won’t work ‘ he’s full of crap
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Once bitten shame on you…twice bitten shame on me!
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Run girl he did u a favor 
Move on you be better you and a better mom
Once a cheat always a cheat. Love your children and yourself. You will survive.
Give him up… he’s lost interest
Get rid of him, he doesn’t deserve you!
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Imho: run. If he’s already there, there’s no changing it.
Sorry but I believe if he cheated. He’ll cheat again.
Probably lying and done it more than once…once a cheat always a cheat x
Run very far very fast once a cheat always a cheat. How do you not know this…
Never take advice from Face Book!!
I agree with Linda Brunet you will never forget
Going on my experience if u forgive them once they will do it again
Leave. I wouldnt be able to look him in the face and not wonder if he even loves or when we have sex “who” is he thinking of me. Id lose my mind.
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What he cheats can’t do it all the time
Walk away cheats once he will do it again
Baby girl…move on.
Take your time if you want after a little break then go for it
They don’t change. Period.
Run. The trust is gone.
After 8yrs and he cheats makes me wonder if he’s done it before but niw starting to feel guilty…
Leave. There are better men out there.
If he’s not in love with you definitely not
Show him the door and don’t let him in the ass on the way out
He’s trying to make you crazy just leave
Tell him see the curb
Couples Counseling can help as long as you both are willing & able to have civil discussion.
Get packing girl… walk away
China should be responsible,covid,s breaking every 1 up…js
The other girl turned him down…
You can’t save something that someone else fucked up on🤷♀️ that’s on him 100%
You can’t ever go back…
Throw him out and get a puppy. End of story.
Once a cheater always a cheater,haven’t you learned anything
…get out and be tested for disease…
It sounds like you already have the answer.
Once a cheater always a cheater.
As my dad used yo say ‘You made your bed, now sleep in it’
Run far, run fast. Don’t look back.
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Reaching out for help by having sex with someone else and telling her, then telling her he’s not in love anymore?!! SOUNDS LIKE GAS LIGHTING TO ME!!! Classic narcissistic move.
Your heart tells you.
Second chance yes!
Omg some of these comments are horrible, its a hard one love, its so easy to just say leave but not every cheating case is the same, I fully understand the pain and torment ur going through as I am going through the same thing at this moment, ur mind doesnt stop, the visions, the dreams the tears, questioning urself whats wrong with u that he did that, mine didn’t tell me i found sex messages, everyone is telling me to leave him but it’s not that simple, firstly he told u the next day which is a positive he knew he made a mistake and he respected u enough to tell u the truth which also shows he’s sorry and remorseful, there’s a few steps u can take but only u can decide what’s best for u, leaving him ur heart will break more but in time will heal and with kids involved they would need a councillor to help them process it, if u stay together it’s going to be hard work but if both of u want it u will get through it with time and healing and hard work especially on he’s side to build ur trust up again, there is relationship councilering which can lead u on the right path to mending relationship, if u do it together it’s a lot of communication talking about it openly it’s not a matter of pushing it under a rug and forgetting it, it has to be owned, things have to be worked out as
How will he prevent it happening again
What actions will he take if he gets in that position again
What things can he do to try build ur trust again
You need to set ur standards clearly to him what u will do if this happens again, what u will except or wont except
I really wish u and ur family all the luck on figuring out what’s best sending hugs ur way xx
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Honestly, it’s hard. My now husband cheated before we got married. We have been together 8 years, five at the time. He didn’t tell me until well after it happened. I was so hurt and had such a hard time with getting through it. I felt alone, and didn’t want to tell anyone, so I kept it to myself for 2 years which is hard because you feel so alone. I actually talked to the person he cheated on me with, confronted her in the most polite way. Asked her why she did it, told her how hurt I was, that it has caused me so much anxiety and panic attacks, one of which I went to the hospital for. She actually cried and weird enough I felt bad because although what she did is awful and something I’d never do to anyone’s relationship, it was never my intention to make her cry. Afterwards spoke to my husband. Told him how I truly felt. ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING didn’t hold anything back. Told him I spoke with her. And it really helped. Yes I still get in my feels, the hurt is still there, not something I can ever see going away, but I know deep down he was sorry and he has since done everything to make up for it. Open communication 24/7. He knows I still hurt. Sometimes even cry and he comforts me, never tries any excuses. Apologizes even all this time later. But it has helped me get through the hurt and I’m so much better that what I was. Not saying all guys will be that way but maybe try talking first, like a real sit down heart to heart. Bring up concerns of how all of a sudden he wishes to work it out, after saying he isn’t in love. Does he regret what he did? Does he see it as a problem? Just be 10000% upfront.
Get a STD test and block him
Once a cheater always a cheater. You deserve better. Ive tried making it work with a cheater and it doesn’t. I was sad and miserable the entire time. Just do what your HEART tells you
First I want to say I am so sorry you are going through this. It is a very difficult position to be in. In this situation, only you can make the decision that is best for you and your family. I can share mine with you if that will help but still yet, every situation is different, every person and relationship are different.
We were newly married when my husband had his first affair. So much goes with that story however, he blamed me. I didn’t find out all the truth until recently, 7 years later but I knew it in my heart. My 3 kids loved him, still do. I chose to stay. It took years to forgive and move on. He told me I had to “get over it or move on.” It was a tough road but I did it. I did trauma work and healed from my own childhood trauma and found my worth. I thought things were good. Well, this past October 2019, to my surprise, I learned of a new affair. See his affairs come with one sexual affair and 2-4 emotional affairs. I kept it from my kids until we sorted it all out. The girl was someone he supervised. So he lost his job. I stayed to support him through it but knew I could not stay. We were going to end it but decided to try and make it work. I never told the kids. But I’m miserable. I can’t stand him. I resent him and will never trust him again. Recently my daughter found porn so, I’m even more repulsed and I cringe when he touches me. There is absolutely no intimacy. He broke my heart and I can’t move forward with him. I’m still with him but dying inside. My kids love him. They are older now and would be okay and support me, but he’s been more of a father to them then theirs.
There is so much more but I think you get the idea. I think sometimes we make mistakes, but some people this behavior is addictive or some people have addictions that impact their lives to the point that it is destructive to themselves and others. Do what is best for you and your family. Those who truly love you and support you will still be there. Everyone will have an opinion. Do not listen to them. Again I am sorry you are going through this. Feel free to reach out to me any time! Sending prayers for strength and discernment your way! If you stay, set boundaries and require complete openness. 
Well he is a liar and a cheater. He has not married you. What are you waiting around for. Still trying to decide if you want someone who doesn’t want you. WALK AWAY. SALVAGE A LITTLE PRIDE
I caught my husband cheating after 2 yrs of marriage. He denied it, saying he did nothing but texting…i accepted and moved on. My life has been a hell ever since cause i didnt trust him anymore and was always checking on him, stalking his fb etc… Ive noticed many suspectful things which led to fights, cause he always denied them. After 11 yrs of marriage, after i confronted him, he finally admits hes having an affair. He chose to leave me and our son for the gf. He asked for divorce end of last year and is living with a new gf who’s now pregnant.
Please don’t rush into marriage. Try to work it out but still stay on your guard. And if you find that you’re not feeling any change or effort from him, leave. And trust your instinct!! Cause this never fail you!! And also surround yourself with family and friends, cause trust me, you will need lots of support and love to go thru this. Hugsss
I would leave because he sounds like he would cheat on you again. He seems confused. Once a cheater, always a cheater!
RUN RUN RUN. I guarantee it was not the first or the last time he cheated. And he is not sorry he cheated…he is sorry he got caught. Dint be one of that stupid desperate women that cling onto unfaithfull men because they can’t stand being single. Get smart and kick his ass to the curb.
Once a cheater always a cheater 
once a cheater, always a cheater, kick him to the curb
Once a cheater, always a cheater
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Leave, get out now.
Once a cheater always a cheater 
DUMP HIM!!! Do yourself and your children a favor and love yourself MORE 
You’ve been together 8 yrs and have 3 children together he FINALLY asks for your hand in marriage then goes and has a one night stand and tells you he’s not in love with you anymore then wants to work on it??? He’s a narcissistic POS
Hun, you don’t need him. You’ll be better off by yourself than some cheating scum…
for someone to do this to someone they “Love” means they don’t care how you feel. I’d never trust the prick again. Once a cheat always a cheat!
Once a cheater always a cheater
Pray for the two of you. Let God do His work for your relationship.
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Ok him wanting to work it out after saying he loves you but not in love with you anymore is bullshit. Reason he followed up with the whole let’s work out is because apparently the other woman dropped him flat or told him she wanted nothing more to do with him. In the end women are the ones who forgive the most. He knew what he had at home and if it was so easy to have the “one night stand” how many other possible one nighters could’ve happened
Darling you are bein USED
Don’t get involved. Love you
Fuck him. If you can’t trust your partner then why be with them?
He fucked up why are you the one trying so hard… just know that someone else will always treat you better don’t settle for a piece of shit cheater you’re better then that and you deserve better… 
you deserve better …
Get out of the relationship!!
Let him go… you all deserve better
Follow your heart even if it hurts to do it walk away
Noooooo!!!
Girl…Move on!! 
Fuck him. He’s a fucking piece of shit dog
Exit this relationship NOW