He’s your partner not your dad. Even your dad can’t tell you what to do, who you can spend time with.
2 Likes
He’s either tried to or had an affair with her. No other reason for him to be bothered by her being your friend.
26 Likes
Run he is trying to controll you
1 Like
My ex of 13 years did the same thing to me and I finally said enough is enough and my metal health was more important and left. Leave his sorry ass!
He’s trying to control and isolate you. Also you can’t “get in trouble” like a child if you’re an adult. Sounds pretty toxic to me. Unless he has a good reason like she always causes you legal issues there is zero reason for him to be that way.
2 Likes
Huge red flag. You aren’t going to a bar and leaving the kids. The park is totally acceptable. Period. Please don’t give you this friend. You may need her sooner than you think.
1 Like
Get the hell out girl!!!
1 Like
She busted him doing something. He’s trying to keep you guys apart so she doesn’t tell you. Been there, lived that.
6 Likes
Why does he all the sudden not like her? Ask him.
1 Like
Sounds like something happened between them … if it did she’s not saying anything and he is not maybe she didn’t want to continue to mess around and now he’s mad
I had a relationship like that. He’s gone now and she’s still here and has always been here.
1 Like
I say this as a sinner only saved through grace by the blood of Christ. Ignore all the worldly advice here.
This is not a blessed relationship. Please do not expect it to work. Prayers you get out of the unholy relationship and receive Christ. Watch your life change for the better! Hope is offered through Christ to you and your family.
Big red flag! Noone shouldforce you to choose. And he suddenly decided he doesn’t like her? My ex did that so I talked to him and my friend at the same time and he admitted he hit on her and she was trying to find a way to tell me! He’s gone and we are still besties 40 years later!
4 Likes
If you speak to your friend Be prepared for the truth. I’m afraid he’s hit on her, she rejected him. That’s why he’s upset. this he doesn’t want her around. She doesn’t want to tell you, and hurt you. Please believe her. I have been there. Almost didn’t believe my friend. Still have the best friend 20+ years. My ex got rid of him. Big hugs
9 Likes
He either cheated or wants to cheat with her…
3 Likes
Maybe she hit on him so now he doesn’t like her?? Or Maybe it’s the other way around??
3 Likes
Sounds like she knows something that you don’t know and he’s afraid she will say something. Maybe they messed around before, maybe he hit on her and she said no, etc. I could be completely wrong. Just thinking what if I was in your shoes. Unfortunately Im the type that thinks the worst
1 Like
Get out now or be controlled until one of you die!
Thankfully for me, I am alive. Not controlled any longer!
2 Likes
He’s trying to make you feel guilty for being away from him. It’s a control thing. Not necessarily a cheating thing. He can do what he wants, but you can only do what he says. Control! Watch out!
1 Like
Does he not like when u see your family or question u anytime you go out? If you answerd yes thats a narcissist trait and heading towards a bad relationship.
Ummm all the classic signs of something happened between them…better check your man and your friend
6 Likes
Something is not right
3 Likes
I’ve lost a friend to this scenario and it was because he made moves and I declined. Sadly, she took his side. I would ask her if she has an inkling as to why he would be so confrontational about her, and believe her.
3 Likes
I hate to say this…because this is going to hurt too…but that is emotional control and (borderline?) emotional abuse. Narcissists love to control things that way. He met you with your friend. You have done NOTHING wrong here. Yet he is giving you pay back. This doesn’t sound right AT ALL…but you’re having another child with him. From experience with a narcissist, I would personally stand my ground and remind him that she is your friend and has always been part of the package…and that this should be the LAST of that conversation. If he wants to give you ultimatums…you act like it doesn’t bother you (wven if it kills you inside) and tell him it’s all his choice, but you are not giving up a friendship that came with you from the beginning and remind him that he does not own you…nor you him. You are a team…and he should respect you as such. You are doing nothing wrong. If going to the park with a friend and the kids is an issue, he can go. Trust me…stand your ground or it will continue to get worse if you give into this.
Some have mentioned above that something happened between the two of them…that is a possibility instead of what I just said…and i would just throw it out there too and confront him. That could be part of the conversation. But this sounds like more of a control thing based in he how he has reacted.
6 Likes
There’s a reason he doesn’t like her all of a sudden and you need to look into it! Either get out now or just stay and be controlled. To me it sounds like something might’ve happened between them and now he’s scared because she might say something.
9 Likes
I honestly think they was messing around 
8 Likes
I think something went on between them.
4 Likes
I’m with a lot of the other women’s comments on this post. I had something like this happen in two relationships the first he cheated on me with the person he now hated while drunk the second was the first sign of the controlling narcissistic abuse my ex Husband was going to put me through during our marriage. Either way something is up that you aren’t party to and I would just straight up ask my best friend and if that is not it then I’d assume it’s the second and still leave.
2 Likes
I had an ex that wanted me to lose many friendships. Caused a lot of grief. He was controlling and threatened by my friends support, probably worried they would advise me to leave him as they saw through his bull
3 Likes
Wow … that sounds super controlling if he has a reason to not like her then okay understandable but that’s definitely not okay and you should let him know now that she isn’t going anywhere, u need ur friend.
I agree my first thought was that something had happened between them and it did go in his favor. But it is also possible he just wants to control and isolate you. Open up to your friend.
2 Likes
Isolation from friends is the first sign of abuse. I would get out now!
4 Likes
something happened between them!!
7 Likes
That’s why he don’t want you around her!!!
So my (now ex husband) was great with my best friend… until after out wedding night. He started trying to keep me from her and said she was a bad influence. Blah blah. Come to find out… they slept together after I passed out on our wedding night so he started making her out to be the bad person so the truth didn’t come out
7 Likes
I would DEFINITELY find out why he doesn’t like her. That seems super sketchy. This has happened to me and boom found out it was because they were a thing
5 Likes
If they used to get along, then I guarantee something happened between them. He might of made a pass on her or they ended up sleeping together and he wants to make you feel bad for hanging out with her so you don’t see her and so she doesn’t tell you.
5 Likes
I don’t have advice for all of it. My only advice is to not speak to your friend about your husbands issues, as you might work it out with him but it will always be there between them. Sorry I’m not much help, best wishes.
Either they slept together. Or he tried. Or she caught him doing something & he’s trying to keep you from finding out. Yikesss
16 Likes
Something happened between them , he’s trying to avoid you finding out
9 Likes
You are a grown woman. You shouldn’t feel like your “In trouble” for making a decision. Any decision. No need to entertain any idea that you need to change or lose a best friend because he doesn’t “like her anymore “. He can either accept it like use to, or get on someone else’s nerve with the BS. That’s all unnecessary stress!
2 Likes
Imma go on a limb and say maune she had stsrted doing bad things ive seen it in mine and thst type she would act like I was keeping her from her but that friend kept really grtting worse esp after she got divorced and stsrted dating and married the guy she is married to now. Ya I was right about it but I didn’t keep her from her though just felt she was always trying to interfere in our relationship telling her she dhoild divorce me and all sorts of things
1 Like
narcissistic behaviour, it won’t end there. unfortunately I think you need to make the decision of wether you want to stay and be told you can’t hang out with someone or go somewhere!
tell him to change his ways and accept he has no control over your choices or he can leave.
my partner has always been supportive of who I hang out with and has never told me otherwise, in fact he used to push me to go and hang out with my friends instead of staying home.
6 Likes
He’s controlling and it’s now escalating. Get out while you can.
3 Likes
Somebody knows something & doesn’t want to come clean. I have a feeling it’s him but you have to do your research to be sure.
Technically yes we will grow out of some friendships but the strong ones are there to be supportive.
We just finished a small birthday celebration for my best friends daughter. Yes they have butt heads but in the end they have accepted each other. We have even contributed to her daughter’s 15 and had many get together.
Something isn’t right. You really should find out some more information
2 Likes
Something up between them. You should investigate
4 Likes
Sounds lile he did something she knows about that he doesn’t want her to tell you about. Or they both did in which case cut them both out.
But just deciding out of nowhere that he doesn’t want you around her is super suspicious
4 Likes
Something happened between them and he is afraid she will tell you. You need to find what that something was and go from there.
6 Likes
I would discuss it with your friend because it will at some point ruin your friendship. As for your relationship -LEAVE- he is controlling and shows strong narcissistic behaviour. That’s toxic and emotionally abusive. LEAVE. go to your friends house with your child and work out a plan from there. He won’t change, they never do.
Did they hook up or did she catch him doing something shady? Maybe he hit on her and he is scared she will say something.
7 Likes
BIG RED FLAGS 
ID DEFINITELY SAY SOMETHING TO HER! Maybe he came on to her and she turned him down now he hates her just saying you never know!
2 Likes
Gonna be honest. Only time I’ve dealt with this is when some ish happened. Theres more to the story between them.
5 Likes
They fucked that’s why caught the red flags
2 Likes
I think something else is going on with your partner. Maybe some insecurities leading to either wanting more attention or trying to isolate you. Either way it should be brought to attention. Maybe therapy if a direct conversation doesn’t work…
Ummm…HUUGE sign of narcissistic behavior. Hell no.
2 Likes
In trouble? A grown ass adult in trouble?
I’d be telling him to grow tf up. Can’t tell you to stop chilling with your friend.
Legit, first signs of isolation and control. First friends then it’s family. Do not ignore those warning signs.
7 Likes
They prolly slept together or she caught him doing sumtin he shouldn’t have. Dig, but be prepared, if u dig for dirt u find dirt ijs
10 Likes
He sounds like a child that needs to grow up.
Sooooo
My husband and one of my best friends don’t get along and that’s okay I mean honestly yes it makes things tough but I’ve told them both I’m not picking between them I’ve been friends with her since I was 3 and I’ve been with my husband since I was 16 I love them both dearly and can’t imagine my life without either of them…
So when hubby is at work I will go hang out with her (husband knows) or we go do things for her birthday or mine and he keeps our kiddos but I need them both in my life…
You need to flat out tell your friend what he’s saying and how he’s behaving and ask why this change in him against her?
He came on to your friend
6 Likes
The controlling behavior will only get worse. Get out before this affects your kids.
2 Likes
So this happened with my ex and he hated my “best friend” who was also my babysitter so I could work and she stayed home with all our kids. They “hated” each other… Until one day I came home from work early and all of our kids were taking a nap and they were in my bed. This is why I do not trust many people…
Either he tried and she denied him, or she caught him doing something and he don’t want her to tell. I would talk to her about it and if she’s truly your friend she will tell you. His behaviors are very controlling and wants you to be “alone” do not do that, don’t let him do that to you or your babies.
11 Likes
If he’s changed the way he feels about her something has happened especially if he’s jealous you spending time with her.
4 Likes
I would be questioning if she made a move on him or vice versa. If not then why would he want you to have a friend? Hopefully not trying to isolate you.
Get them in a room, you’re all adults and question it. Until an answer is provided I would assume the worst case scenario
If they got along in the beginning and now all of a sudden hates her … something happen between them … theres definitely some suspicious…I would ask your friend …he don’t want u hanging out with her " BECAUSE " he scared to death she will tell u whatever happen between them…
9 Likes
Please update us on this tall when you have it cause I am invested now. I want you to try and be calm and have a healthy rest of your pregnancy
3 Likes
Hes a narcissist! Get out.
2 Likes
If they got along before and now don’t, somethings either happened between or shes caught him doing something he shouldn’t and he’s trying to keep u away from her so she doesn’t tell u. I would speak to your friend and see what she has to say, but please don’t get to stressed as u have the baby to think about to, I really hope you get to the bottom of it and things turn out good for u xxx
5 Likes
This is a major red flag. Tell him this behavior is unacceptable and if he says the same thing or continues. Leave. No if ands or buts about it.
1 Like
I don’t wanna be “that chick” buuuuuut I’d be suspicious of him cheating with her🤷🏻♀️
8 Likes
Maybe ur bestfriends knows something that u didnt knkw and hes scared that ur best bestfriend might tells u…
6 Likes
Leave it won’t change, I’m so sorry
1 Like
Why do women keep having children with men who treat them so badly? I’ll never understand that!
3 Likes
Banange read btn the lines seriously they used to get along so what happened leave us some things u dont even need to seek for guidance some women like pretending anti not to see
1 Like
His insecurities are trying to control you.
3 Likes
What an immature nasty bully
Well what is his reasoning for hating this best friend? Or him in this best friend having a fling or have they had a past intimate relationship or relationship with some sort? Has he or she made a move on the other or flirted hit on them etc? There has to be a reason or something that he doesn’t want you to find out has she caught him cheating or in a lie? Or is this a simple fact of manipulation and control that he wants over you
13 Likes
He slept with her, Or is still sleeping with and doesn’t want her slipping up and telling you. 
percent guarantee it.
10 Likes
What advice would you give if you were reading this as someone else’s post? Take your kids & go somewhere. Anywhere. File for custody too.
1 Like
Sounds like he is just using her as an excuse to argue… hes cut because u and the kids went to a park with a friend and her kids. Ask him why he dont like her all of a sudden… the both of them together
2 Likes
Maybe he made a pass at her and she turned him down and he’s worried that she might say something to you. Sounds like a horrible situation to have children in either way. And if you’re about to have another you’re about to be alllll kinds of hormonal. Find somewhere with someone who can help you. Friend, family, wherever. But get away from him. For a while anyway. You don’t have to make permanent decisions right now. But you may find your life to be better and less stressful without him. And you’ll also find you’re stronger than you think. Best of luck.
2 Likes
Sounds like he’s bonked your mate 
3 Likes
Yeah I’d have to agree with the 99% here, something happened between them… definitely. Question her and see her reaction, see if its defensive. Then question him. Youve never questioned before so they’ll be caught off guard but one of them will spill by saying something stupid! Xx
2 Likes
Maybe he’s slept with her… first thing that sprang to mind
4 Likes
I’ve been the hated best friend and I can say with 100% certainty that none of this affair/making a pass/rejection thing happened!!! So it’s not a certain fact!!! He just hated me because I represented the friend having a life outside of him which he hated.
So don’t take all of this advice as 100% gospel.
In any event though, get out the 
.
4 Likes
Sounds to me like your friend may know something your partner doesn’t want you to find out about. Could be:
-
She may have caught him cheating
-
He may have made a pass at her
Or,
- (And I really doubt this) something may have happened between the two of them
Or, she may not have any clue why. Have you tried asking her?
He sounds shady anyway. Like he’s trying to isolate you from your support system. If you allow this, it’ll only escalate from here. Next, it’ll be your mom or sister who “are always in your business”. Serious red flag to me
2 Likes
Sounds like a jealous child trying to control you. It’s your friend, your doing nothing wrong. If there’s no legitimate reason for him to not like her, then he’s trying to emotionally manipulate you. Don’t allow it. If you stop seeing your friend today, then tomorrow he’ll want you to do something else. He may get worse when the baby gets here and not want you going anywhere. Don’t allow him to control your actions by making you feel a certain way. He’s going to get worse if you allow him.
1 Like
Are we allowed to be seeing our mates in lockdown?
1 Like
And if he makes you choose then always choose the other person, no one should make another person choose?
Maybe u run to ur friend with all ur private relationship stuff and she’s been bad mouthing him and u told him or mentioned that she said u must leave wen u had a fight or he saw msgs of the sort on ur fone?
What does your friend say about your boyfriend
1 Like
He probably made a move on her and she refused now she’s the enemy or they got something going on and he can’t bare her being there for his conscious sake!
1 Like
Find a new man, this one’s a control freak. Remind him that door swings both ways and he’s got to remember… what’s good for the goose is good for the gander.
1 Like
Oh, he moved out?! There’s your answer! Change the locks and count your blessings. Find someone more mature to share your life with.
7 Likes
They always like the bestie …at first. They need the bestie to approve. Then once they are in the abuser suddenly cant stand her. They’ll make you choose between them or her and nine times outta 10 she chooses him. Now, no more outside agitation.
Classic manipulation
43 Likes
It’s all about control
You are an adult and can decide who you want to be friends with without having to walk on eggshells or wait for the backlash of what he will say about it.
Start establishing boundaries that you should have established 7 years ago or choose to be controlled, guilted, manipulated and walked over
Good luck
4 Likes
Hmmm. I know it’s not the popular vote, but perhaps this is just a symptom of an already fragile relationship? If he has insecurity issues, mental health issues, etc…maybe he just wants more of you? Maybe he’s just reaching out?
I believe in balance in a relationship, where each partner has their own lives as well. I’m just trying to say that maybe he has concerns that he needs to voice…
8 Likes
That’s straight up manipulation. He’s literally isolating you. That’s how abusive relationships start. You need to take a good long look at him, set him straight and tell him that she’s staying a part of your life and get over it. Or leave. Because this most likely will not end good. Good luck.
85 Likes
Hate to say it but has something happened between him and your best friend? A fall out perhaps. You don’t suddenly go from getting along really well with someone to not liking them without good reason!!
4 Likes