Sadly unless you leave…your done having kids. As much as you love him staying will breed resentment…ending your marriage ( possibly ).
However if you force it …you will get the same results ( so don’t miss the pill deliberately).
Tuff call…good luck
You can’t force him to have more kids just like he can’t force you to have more kids.
Ask him why he feel the way he does. Maybe he feels 2 is enough to handle rambunctious kid wise and financially.
You know kids cost money. Maybe even if you could afford another, he may be thinking of family vacations for you all to take or building up college funds.
Just ask him but you need to have an open mind when he tells you how he feels.
Another thing to keep in mind is how would you feel if it was the other way around. You both need to respect each other’s feelings on this. Wish you the best of luck.
It is indeed, his life too. And if he is the financial provider…then that should be respected.
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It depends why he doesn’t want them. If it’s because you can’t afford them, that’s respectable. However, telling you to go have them elsewhere is neither respectable or acceptable. You also need to consider if he doesn’t want more and a third shows up, he may feel resentful towards that child. You need to respect his wishes too
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You should ask yourself why you don’t feel contented with what you already have. Women don’t pop out baby after baby unless there’s something going wrong emotionally, or they’rejust totally irresponsible. A baby is not a pacifier to soothe your own emotions and insecurities.
You’re in a marrige and you’re a mother. If you’re willing to break up a marriage over this and traumatize your kids then you’re just being selfish.
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Maybe go to dinner and say that you’d like to discuss it. I don’t think this is a reason for divorce.
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You want more kids. He doesn’t. Time to get a family dog lol
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“it’s not fair he can just decide my life like that” - it’s his life too
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My ex tried to get me to tie my tubes because he didn’t want anymore kids. I told him I wanted one or two more. Many people told me that I should listen to him because he didn’t want anymore and yada yada but I WASNT DONE! So I left him. I want more kids because I love being a mom. I’m not going to change my mind for someone else
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If he is a good father and a good partner you better count your blessings and move on because you may lose a good man. They are few and far between anymore.
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He’s not deciding YOUR life he has decided HIS.
You want more find someone else to have more with 
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Moving on isn’t a promise you’ll have more children. Having 2 blessings is more than a lot of people can say. I do however think there needs to be a rational conversation to find out exactly why so there isn’t resentment.
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My bf wanted to have at least one more, we have 2 we got the boy and the girl now. And I’m done mainly since it’s my body going through it all, he’s not going through anything physically lol And I also feel like it’s MY limit. So what I say goes, if he wants another he can go elsewhere as well. 
not much of a big deal though. He just wants another one to call it a “squad” lol like um no thanks
He isn’t deciding your life, He’s saying he’s done having kids, And if you truly want more you need to find that elsewhere for yourself, So you can have more kids, Just not with him, But you want to bully him into it.
You have no right to expect him to justify that.
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Everyone has there limits at first he might have agreed thinking it won’t be as demanding as it is then once the actual children came a reality check hit him and he knows he can not handle a big family don’t force him to that’s selfish and you will cry wolf if he leaves you with all the damn kids his letting you know he has reached his limit kids a a big commitment you have been told the answer except it mental wise the man is done reached his limit …
Me and my partner have come to the same problem. I have a daughter from a previous relationship and currently pregnant with my partners baby. I’ve had horrible HG with both pregnancies and been miserable. I feel like I am done and don’t really want anymore my partner on the other hand wants one more so would be a total of 3 kids. I know it’s not fair to him but I feel I should t be forced into having more. I know the more he brings it up the more agitated I get and will end up resenting him for it. But also know on the other hand he will resent me if I don’t have another. We’re on different pages but I told him that we can revisit this discussion in a year or two and maybe I’ll feel differently then. But to break up a marriage and your kids home over this isn’t something to be taken lightly. I hope you all can come to a compromise.
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If he doesn’t want more you either have to learn to accept it and embrace the two blessings you have, or find someone that wants more kids? It’s his life too, not just yours. Men are allowed to not want more kids just like women are allowed to have abortions and their tubes tied or take birth control or have as many babies as they want. But if the person you’re having babies with doesn’t want more, you also can’t force it. You can discuss it but maybe two is just his limit. I personally have only two, and I know my nerves couldn’t handle a third lol. Everyone is different. Also, some people may want multiple kids and decide they don’t after the first it happens.
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Get a couple of dogs.
Seriously, get a farm and raise some animals. They can be your babies! Dogs cats chickens bunnies baby piggies. They’re all so sweet and definitely fulfill that void of wanting actual children.
He knew you wanted a big family. If he’s backing out on that agreement, leave. Don’t regret missing out on your dream.
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Maybe he did want a big family at one point because he didn’t have any at that time. After having two, maybe he decided that having more may prove to be a struggle financially or he’s truly happy with just the two of them. If you can’t respect that and realize that his choices matter as well, divorce him and go have more kids elsewhere just don’t be one of those that leaves a good man thinking there’s something better and get stuck pregnant with a deadbeat who ends up walking out of your life
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I’m not trying to say anything bad but sis if he was that straight forward with telling you to leave if you want more kids, you may want to sit him down and talk, it sounds like possible cheats on his side, only because he was so forceful with the no and telling you to leave if you didn’t agree. Hope all works well you.
A baby is a long term responsibility and maybe he doesnt want that. You may be the one to carry and birth a child but this choice affects him just as much. Imagine if it was the other way round and he kept wanting more and you didnt…therefore take his feelings into consideration or leave.
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Goodness gracious me…why ask the advice from a lot of strangers on such a personal issue…it staggers me…
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Sounds like y’all need to talk.
If you wanted to have more then just make him a donor. Lol just bone him when your ready and good luck. Anyways you can have your tribe
Because that baby would be half of him too. Fathers have a right in whether they want more kids or not too.
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If you don’t agree then move on, he was real clear about what he wants.
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You cant force someone to give you babies lol
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He isn’t deciding for you either, that only you can do❤
In my opinion, two kids is more than enough. It’s expensive and kids need lots of attention.
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Girl the world is already overpopulated. Keep your 2 and go enjoy your life.
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You cant force someone to have kids. If you ever go im reddit there are actual people who confess that they were forced to have more children or loose their spouse, the end result is that they dont love their children. They feel awful about it but they never wanted these kids.
So to turn the tables. What if a lady didn’t want more babies and her husband did. People would be saying it’s her body her choice right? So shouldn’t he have the same right??
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When you first met and got together did you talk about it first? What was the plan? Just wondering if you two ever talked about how many kids you wanted, etc. Does he say why he doesn’t want more kids? Maybe it’s financial reasons or something else. If you knew his reason for not wanting more maybe you two can work through it. Good luck.
Sounds like you need to work on your marriage and communication. Sit with him and ask him why. Since when has he felt like this. What changed his mind. Is there anything that might change it again? Why does he sound like he doesn’t care if you leave? Does he still love you or not? Those are all things you need to find out and fix before you even THINK of having another baby.
You guys are a family. Just like you feel like he is deciding you life he should be feeling the same. it’s not just about you or him! You have two kids. How would another baby impact those kids lives?
It’s time to Think REALLY deep girl. Think about how YOU would feel if you were him. Etc etc. Think really hard. Look at your mistakes etc and then have a really calm, really thoughtful, inquisitive , AND HONEST conversation with your husband. And then think some more!
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I think it takes two to decide these matters! With only one vote on your side, I think you got a hung jury. Besides, have you worked out all the details of how you’re going to provide for your kids’ undergraduate and graduate education and for your own retirement? If you have, and realized you have a surplus of money, go ahead and have 5 more children regardless of what the guy says–ill-conceived! (Pun Intended)
Tie him down and TAKE the babies from him😈
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My friend forced her man into a third baby and they split up soon after birth… she hasn’t had a particular happy stress
Free journey since.
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Splitting your family just because of this is the most petty choice you can make. You have 2 kids already. Your life is not your own anymore. Talk to your partner rationally. Understand their perspective first.
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Poor guy these comments are terrible ! Just make him the donor or hes obviously cheating …
If he has already given you two kids and now feels he doesn’t want more then he already compromised by giving you the first two ! Fathers have just as much rights just because “it’s my body” it’s his life …
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It’s a two way street. You can’t expect him just just do it because you want it, especially if he is the bread winner. Children need alot of attention, & not just from their siblings, but from their parents.
It’s his choice to, don’t forget men are supposed to be the bread winners and support the family, so you having another kid means him working harder to provide, unless you can provide for all three kids and him then Respect his choice,
I mean if he doesn’t want more kids and you do, you guys should sit down and talk. But him saying for you to go elsewhere if you wanted more is really messed up. It’s over the top mean and makes it sound like he doesn’t care about you enough to even sit down to have a discussion about the issue. He does NOT love you if he can say that so easily. I’m not saying leave him but y’all need to sit and have a serious discussion cuz I’d be seriously hurt if my husband ever told me that. I mean he basically told you to get another man if wanted more kids. What caring husband would say something like that?
That’s hard. If you have always been up front about wanting a large family and he was on board and has now changed course, then you two need to have a serious talk about the future and if that’s together.
The environment agrees with your husband
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if he can tell you to go somewhere else to get pregnant then he must not love you,