How can he support his children emotionally and financially?
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Personally, I would feel more disgusted that 13 of his children were aborted! Once is a mistakeā¦and even that is disgusting (to me).
Many men have had many lovers as well as many women have had many lovers. 14 lovers is a small number in todayās world. (I find that disgusting too) but everybody has a past. If he is just telling you this now he is a jerk. Those things should be discussed early on in a relationship/marriage.
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STD and HIV
I would be worrying about
Yukk 14 partners is a lot but his past is his past not a lot you can do about it but blimey he doesnāt like using birth control and the women too heās been ok with 11 termination blimey yes mistakes but after a few youād think heād be more careful but donāt let your hormones affect your relationship now you just if known this before surely
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I mean it doesnāt mean he had 14 different women pregnant. It couldāve been twins, triplets or maybe more. AND men lie alot too so he couldāve been exaggerating as well
Men do this have a bunch of kids with one then a bunch with another mom then another bunchā¦ just so they always got a place to go because they aināt shit and they know it!!!
None of your friends knew him before? I guess you could look at it like he is being honest
You pick him and clearly are still with him even after you claim disgust.?ā¦ā¦. Should have clearly gotten to know him much better bettors procreating with him
His past sexual encounters are zero of your business. Leave it alone.
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Reasons why men should be the ones on birth control
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That doesnāt say anything about how many women though?
Iāve had 8 pregnancies with 2 men. 5 with my first husband and 3 with my 2nd. (I only have 5 due to loss.)
Sounds like heās a breeding ground of not just fetuses but STIs.
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If you are with someone who sleeps around that much, heās trash and so are you.
I personally donāt think heās a keeper ā¦that doesnāt sound like someone who will around very long
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Wow that is not something i would be bragging about. That is pretty disgusting
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He sounds like a real winner 
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Iād be HELLA grateful to planned parenthood
Sounds like heās a slow learner.
No, he isnāt a piece of meatāheās a male slut. Plain and simple as that.
Heās a murderer kick him to the curb
Go get tested and leave him!
Ummm, rethink your relationshipā¦
send he wants to populate the worldā¦ the others knew what they was getting into . sorry
Kick him to the crub
He nasty, he needs the chop.
Thatās a lot of luggage
Run if theres that many & you included I doubt youāll be the last. Unless heās willing to do some type of therapy to figure out why heās doing this Iād say its bound to happen again.
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The past is the past. That was before you were with him and that should not interfere with your relationship now. Should he have said it, no. But whatās done is done.
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I think my face would have looked like this and I would have thought thank God I donāt have an STD. Just have to decide who he was back then and who he is nowā¦ Is it the same? Has he grown as a manā¦ Soul search girl, Soul search. Pray and ask God to speak to you and sometimes guys can be very, very insensitive with our feelings.
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Thatās awful! I couldnāt personally be with someone who had such shallow morals. And I would also get down to a gum clinic and get both of you tested for things as you can never be too careful! If heās been with that many people who got pregnant they were obviously not careful. Look after yourself youāre no.1!
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Well some are known for indiscriminately procreating. And I feel like the woman he was with should be labeled ājust as bad.ā Bc it takes two to tango, but him just randomly telling you that sounds like a d-bag thing to brag about. 
but if youāve been with him for 3 years shouldāve at least caught some red flags of this d-baggery. Lol
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Also why would he just now be telling you this after 3 years and having a child together
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Everyone has baggage. If he isnāt messing around now, all is good. You are taking it personally. Understandably so. However, you either need to move past it or end it.
Iād be making an appointment at the clinic to get checked. Fingers crossed heās not given you any thing nastyā¦.
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You shouldnāt judge someone for how many partners theyāve had. That has nothing to do with who he is now and your value to him.
HOWEVER
Causing that many unwanted pregnancies is extremely concerning. It shows immaturity, selfishness, carelessness and an insane level of disrespect. All qualities that would make an awful partner and father. Unless he has aggressively sought professional help, I would RUN.
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I mean this in the nicest way possible. This is why you really get to know someone before you open your legs for them. But he definitely sounds like a potential walking std but he could just be making it up as well guys think some of the weirdest shit is worth flexing. So I would def get checked out at a clinic for sure.
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So here is my question, why doesnāt have have all of these children? Iām more uncomfortable with the unknown of these other pregnancies, did he want them?
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You have to really get to know someone before having a baby with them. Not being mean but itās sad how many kids grow up in broken families these days =(
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I just saw this exact post a few days ago
Sounds like an unworthy partner.
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Sorry but he sounds disgusting with no respect 
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āTo him itās ok because only 3 of us have actually kept themā seems like the red flag here to meā¦sorry girl. Like did he not learn after the first timeā¦or twoā¦or threeā¦or tenā¦
That would make me really upset. I donāt even have advice honestly other than that would make me feel extremely uncomfortable. You have a right to feel weird about this. Donāt let him tell you otherwise. Again I am sorry and hope things improve and hope he is a better person now at least 
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So heād rather hit it raw and not worry about if it would lead to abortion14 times. Than use protection. Thats my issue.
Im pro choice, but he isnāt even trying to prevent pregnancy
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What in the world. Reading some of these comments is why we have men still acting badly. Women saying the past is the past leave it there. Umm no. He is who he is. Our past shows others who we are as well.
Only 3 women have kept his kids? Is he supporting the other children?
I am not sure i would stay in a relationship with someone like this.
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Iād be getting STD/STI checked if hes going in raw that muchā¦ 
Then Iād be re-evaluating our common morals and core valuesā¦
Sounds incompatible to me
I would never get with somebody who had 14 baby mamas lol that is just nuts
You know how many people have a shit ton of partners. Most people go through hoe phases. Yeah clearly he did not
Use protections. BUT if heās being honest with you why does it matter. LOL i know people who have had WAY more than just 14 partners. And theyāre happy in their marriages now. So if you feel some kind of way you have insecurities that you need to deal with.
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Yeah thatās gross but itās also in the past. Itād be kind of crappy to be mad at him for what he did prior to dating you.
Heās probably bull shitting with you
They didnāt HAVE to follow through. In the end itās their decision to make. BUT, more importantly, does he support the kids he has? If not donāt expect him to stick around and take care of the children you have with him.
I think I would ask why did these women terminate their pregnancies?
Well I mean my partner now has alot of kids, heās got 4 other little girls and Iām pregnant with his first boy. (Not including that all these women have had kids before his so heās got alot of step kids) but I mean 14 is alot on his own
we all have a past. just cause your finding out now???
Still has slept with the same number of women regardless of how many of them got pregnant or not. plus no way to have been sure if he was certainly the father of however many of those pregnancies anyway
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Are you looking for a reason to leave cause that is irrelevant at this point. What is important, is if he is treating you kind and taking care of his seed
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Thats one of those things that makes me wonder why on earth he would choose to tell you that info? Its an utter disregard to your feelings.
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I d feel like telling this dude what a condome is.
You went 3 years before finding out anything about your boyfriend??
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Wow. He should think about his relationship with someone is who narrow minded and judging him online with strangers.
Hmmmā¦ the term manwhore comes to mind. Run Run from this guy.
Sounds like heās extremely immature, heās probably not being straight about other things either, and honestly probably a nasty human being.
Everyone has a past, but he sounds like a loser. Do yourself a favor and get out before youāre baby mamma 15.
Yāall canāt just assume that he wanted the abortions, it doesnāt state that he made them get it. Those women could have wanted them & got them done. Yāall canāt always put abortions on the guyā¦ geez.
And see, thatās why no one should really know bout peopleās past, cause thatās not who they are anymore. Judge someone off their past then you will never be able to see a future with them. Might as well cut the losses.
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This may sound harsh, but if youāre that insecure or judgmental about your partners PASTā¦ maybe you arenāt ready for a serious relationship or should speak with a therapist to work through your own evident baggage.
That is a dick move ā¦ but I wouldnāt hold it against himā¦ itās in the past he has a baby with you ā¦ honestly probably a good thing he doesnāt have over 14 kids 
My partner and I have a baby togetherā¦ an he was a huge slut before meeting me but I never sit there an use it against him ā¦
Who are you dating, Nick Cannon?? He sounds like a total loser, no responsible respectable man would ever put himself in a position where he has 14 damn kids. How is he supposed to build any kind of life with you while paying child support for that many kids?
Stop it lol
What he did before you is literally none of your business.
Who he did before you again is literally none of your business.
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He is scum,get rid of him,also get a test for STDs.
Hello judgement. What he did before you should have been discussed if itās that big a deal. And I would hope at least one of his exes tried to warn you. How many people a person has been with isnāt important, and if all those babies were aborted thatās not all on him. Maybe heās a piece of trash but apparently he gets with the same kind so I would focus on not being judged by that 
He sounds, stupid , nasty , & a deadbeat lowlifeā¦
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Melinda Paz-Contreras
Id have my running shoes in tbh x
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He sounds like an ass , and heās probably lying. And heās probably ugly.
Kayden Aramoana Tauranga your cousin 
Sounds like a worthless human being.
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Heās probably lying!
I would be absolutely disgusted. Does this mean 11 of his kids have been aborted? Horrific . Has he never used contraception?
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most men are like this lmao so what tho he got different women pregnant purposefully and they didnāt want to be pregnant or something ? thatās a crime first and foremost he sounds like a lunatic i would stay far away from him and his baby factory
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Jesus didnāt he ever hear of pulling out lmaoo 
I honestly am not trying to be rude but I would be afraid of STDās. He has apparently laid down with many women and when you do that your laying down with all their past partners as well. It also is disgusting about the babies aborted cause both parties were not using protection. I feel IMO that abortion is wrong, but to each his own. Everybodyās different. Just be sure he is good to all his children. And remember everyone has a past. I donāt believe he just settled down with you because if he didnāt want to be there he wouldnāt be. You do have a right to be mad so maybe try couples counseling to try and get over his past.
Is his name Nick Cannon?
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I dated a guy a few years ago with 8 kids. 5 years old to grown. Disaster. He was a weak ass bitch that will be paying child support until heās 80 and we would never have shit. I basically supported him because all the checks he got were mostly child support and rent. His kids were an afterthought. He was a shitty dad and turns out a cheater and a preditor. He fucked a 20 year old from work, he has kids older than her. Not to mention his 3 and her 2 we there in the one room house he lived in while he cheated. Karma is serving him nicely for the shit he done while together and child support enforcement is serving him the rest.
Oh Jesus take the wheel. Why are you with him? Get your STI checks regularly. Ick.
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Passed around like a piece of meat?
Sorry that is funny, he chose to have sex with them all?! Right?
Sounds like he needs to wrap it up or have better pull out game! 
My question is why did that conversation get brought up after yāall had a baby and not when you first met
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Get a very extensive STD panel asap. But as far as his past everyone has one and if it was that big of a deal then you should have had this conversation well before now
It is what it is, some women & men both have a past. If u canāt get over it then move on.
Get an STD check if that makes u feel more at ease. Also thatās his past which Iām sure u were not part of.
My partner had had many many serial partners before me. I feel the opposite if he didnāt stay with any of them and instead choose me. Makes me feel like Iām special because he has chosen me. Everyone has a past.
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Heās lying 
ā¦ smh 
For some odd reason he thinks this is cool I will call it immaturity
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You have it backwards. He has not been āpassed around like a piece of meatā. He has been enjoying a smorgasbord of what he has considered tasty dishes. You are just one of them. YOU are the āpiece of meatā of the moment.
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He is so lying for attention or he was literally just jokingā¦ Either way I guarantee his story isnāt 100% true.
Think present, not past. Youāll drive yourself crazyā¦
That is so repulsive.
To those saying how disgusting this is Iām going to presume youāve slept with less then 14 people.
So he waited until 3 months after you had his baby to tell you? Thatās a whole YEAR since conception. Ew. However, did you have that conversation? Did he lie to you? Or was this an ālie of omissionā? You canāt be mad if you never talked about it. Assuming makes an ass out of you. And me. But this has nothing to do with me, so itās just you. Says a lot about the guy though. He clearly canāt keep a relationship, or want one. And yesā¦ he has passed himself around like candy. But hey, we all have had our phases. Let him try to explain. Key word: try. Itās a no from me. Like, what are you? The 15th baby momma? This is not an unusual situation btw. Welcome to adulting.
Maybe one of his partners should have insisted on birth control.
I mean honestly to me it shows irresponsibility and makes me wonder what went wrong with all those other womenā¦but if he seems to be responsible and kind etc maybe there is more to it. You need to talk to him about it and listen to your gut. (Also look how he is a father to his other children and that will reflect a lot as well)
Heās okay with his women killing his babies? Not a good trait.
Wow the amount of judgemental people on here is disgusting.