My partner makes me feel worthless

I’ve been with my partner 4 years married since December, we have 2 kids together. He has been doing things that people question me about. The way he speaks to me is shocking, he makes me feel worthless, he drinks beer every single night, leaves me to pick everything up after him. I think he has anger issues and I feel as if I’m walking on eggshells all the time, I met a couple who have a child so me and my kids have been spending time with them and my husband has done nothing but argue with me about it and scream at me about it. He wants me to wait at home for him to finish work and not be home later than him. I tried to leave him at the weekend, so he punched a hole in my wall and refused to leave.
I have a very big heart and I want to make this work for all of our sakes, every time he says he will change nothing ever does. He’s said he will do some anger management as long as I stay with him.
I don’t know what to do as I do love him and if I tried to leave again he will just reject my breakup again. but I’m not the happiest I could be and I’m only 22 I have so much more life left

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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My partner makes me feel worthless

Leave. Pack up the kids and leave. That can escalate so fast. It’s super abusive behavior. Your kids will foster that behavior, if you have a son he will treat his partners that way, if you have a daughter she will look for someone who treats her that way. Is his behavior something you want your children to be when they are grown.

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Punching a hole on the wall is a step closer to it being your face. He’s starting to control your life, he will start to twist your words around and making you think that everything is your fault, Leave. I know you’re scared… but you have got to make the decision to leave. He is not going to change. No matter how many times he says he’s going to. Do not make any appointments for him for therapy, HE has to be the one to do those things if HE wants to change. You cannot make him change no matter how much you try. I know first-hand. So pack your stuff and get out before things get worse… I don’t know you but I know that you are beautiful, you are worth it, you are more than enough… He has made you feel so worthless, but you are worth more, you were made for so much more greater things… If you are scared of leaving you can call the police to help you escort yourself or him out of the house. You tell them you do not feel safe. File for a divorce, for a restraining order, &get custody. I know It’s hard, and scary, but YOU have to make those first steps if you want to live, for the sake of the kids, for your own happiness. You are young and you should be able to go out and have a little fun here and there without being scared of what he’ll do or say… I wish you the best, && I hope you take our devices…
:heart: “virtual hug​:hugs:” you got this.

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Get out right now and take the kids. He’s controlling you, stopping you from seeing people, emotionally and verbally abusing you and the physical abuse isn’t far off, he’s already punching walls to control you.
Get your kids and fucking run.

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Make him the apointment see if he goes. Tell him this is his last chanse. He goes to that apointment or one day hes gonna come home and your gonna be gone… take the kids, they dont need that in their lives, file for full custody. By the sounds of how he is youll win… side note tho has he always been like this or did this start after you guys had kids? If hes always been like this you should have thought about having kids with him in the first place… people dont change unless they want to :woman_shrugging:

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Gtfo while u can if u stay it ends in one of 2 ways a miracle washes across the land and he does a 180 with his behaviour or instead of using walls he will leave u I understand that u wanna make it work but when one side is aggressive about it and they think they have power over you can’t be equals in that relationship and if he says he will only do the anger management if u stay then it is just an excuse

Get out this is only the beginning. Ppl like that go for women with big hearts unfortunately bcs they know you will take it.

Pack his stuff, place it outside, then change the locks while he’s at work

Leave him. This is toxic for you and your children

Call the police and leave him. He’s not the one sis