This is like the only group where I don’t have mutual friends. Someone, please give me advice on what I’m supposed to do. My husband and I have a 21mo daughter, and we live w his parents and siblings. I get along fairly well w everyone here… except his sister. Let’s call her Jan. Jan, and I got along pretty well when my hubby and I got married three years ago. However, I’ve noticed little by little that it has deteriorated. Right now, she won’t talk to me; she won’t look at me, won’t even sit at the same table as me. And I get dirty looks CONSTANTLY. And yet she always gives attention and love to my daughter, has conversation w my husband, but for me? It’s like I’m not even there. She will talk about me like I’m not there… and we can’t leave bc we don’t have the money. My hubby is going to school to get a better job, and I’m a SAHM… I don’t know what to do. But this eats away at me bc I literally did nothing wrong. And it always feels so awkward… help. shes 22. I’m 26, hubby is 24. I worked w her on Saturday (family business) and she’s the manager. I worked for 8 and a half hours straight. On my feet, no dinner break, no bathroom break, nothing. She didn’t say a single word to me. Make it make sense.
8 hours no bathroom break…
I would ask her what is going on
have a talk just you and her no 1 to impress no1 but u 2 can hear or know what is said n talk like adults if it gets heated then yell for hubs or whoever but sumthing u did or didn’t do apparently rubbed her wrong n she needs to be an adult n either tell u whats up or come to an agreement to just ignore eachother (or whatever is in between)
Ask her what’s wrong? 
Not only is it immature it’s very dysfunctional for any relationship. It would simply tell her if there is something that I have done wrong or something I may have said to offend you please feel free to express yourself. If she continues to give you the cold shoulder and ghosts you simply return the favor not that it’s right but that’s what I would do
You need to sit down and have a talk with her
She needs to be a grown up and explain what her problem is.
Ask her wtf her issue is. Simple.
Call her out in front of everyone. Don’t be rude about it but just ask her. If you do it in front of everyone she can’t go back and tell anyone a different story to make them want to side with her. Honestly though it sounds like she’s jealous of something, either the fact that her brother is married with a child and she is not (assuming she isn’t), maybe if she was the baby of the family and now there is a new baby in the house, maybe she feels like she lost her relationship with her brother. Could be a number of things but until you ask you’ll never know.
I wouldnt worry about it.
Ask her what her deal is. That’s awkward as shit and I would hate it.
Ask her what her problem is, we don’t know if you don’t know 
question her INFRONT of family. Grow some balls & open your gob.
Very immature and very vindictive of her towards you is it maybe that baby is there now also as she had ur full attention before ur bub was born … also if she’s as bad as u made her out when ur talking I’d have my phone somewhere recording only because it’s her family home she could spin this on u very fast … at least u have something to back urself up with in d event she stirs the pot and says u said this and that … as for the manager side of things she knows she can do that to you cuz ur her sil she thinks she can get away with it and u won’t say a word … I pity ur hubby in this cus even tho u did nothing wrong yer both his family best of luck
You’re going to have to ask her what you did to figure out why. And try to really listen. Sometimes we really don’t know what we’ve done to "hurt " someone until they show us. Until then there is nothing but trying to figure out how to live on your own. I would be applying for every low income housing I could until I got out. Theres no shame.
My bfs siblings dont talk to me and dont like me and talk about me sometimes but oh well. The way I see it is if I am the only subject they have to talk about then they need to get new lives bc mine isnt that impressive. You dont have to get along or talk to each other at work as long as everyone is doing their job a d doing it right…
Hell at family gatherings or dinner y’all dont have to associate with one another.
Someone is filling her ears with crap. Find out what.
Have you approached her about this?
No breaks are illegal.
Try talking to her. If that doesn’t work I would just move on. I used to be close to my sister in law and now we don’t speak. Its not worth the drama to keep going if trying to talk and work it out doesn’t help
I’m sure she’s made comments to your husband or the family when you arent around, so they have to know why she doesnt like you. Usually there isnt tension or rudeness in a household for literally no reason. They know why, or someone does. You need to personally ask her, and if you dont feel like you can, have him talk to her & let her know how you’re feeling. Its as simple as that.
Throat chop her. Forreal. I’ve threatened to drag my sil out by the hair. Idc anymore. She’s trash and I was going to take her out like trash 
Get a job and move out. You are grown. No reason you should continue living there and deal with childish games. Just because she’s his sister doesn’t mean you have to like each other.
Are you close with your mother in-law? Maybe she’s jealous. Or maybe youve done or not done something around the house to cause mother in-law to complain to the daughter. 
If you’re going to confront her I’d do it in front of everyone because if it goes south at least there witnesses and she can’t switch the story. But maybe talk to your husband about it and have him bring it up to her. She might have a calmer approach with him. Either way it needs to be addressed before that blows up. Y’all don’t have to like each other but at least be cordial especially if you’re living together.
Why don’t you ask her what is wrong ?
Think shes jealous because u haven’t moved out yet
“Jan… can I talk to you privately?” “I was wondering why our friendship has deteriorated?” “I thought we were pretty close and then things slowly changed between us.” “If it’s ok with you I’d like to work on us being close and friends again because I miss your friendship.”
One of my sister in laws is like that and its really hard. She was one of my closest friends to and even played match maker on my husband and I but then she started hating me. For the longest time my mil hated me and my husbands youngest sister. I have an amazing relationship now with the youngest sister who became my double sister since she married my brother. My one sister in law still hates me after 10 years her latest thing is shes now allergic to me since none of my husbands family believes her lies anymore
get tf out of her mothers house then, then you won’t have to put up with it…
you could be like me and ask wtf her problem is, I’d let it be known in front of everyone she’s being an ass, and you want to know why.
Ask her and if she doesn’t speak to you, ask your husband to address it.
Maybe she feels as if you are taking advantage of her family. You said hubby is in school & you don’t work, so who financially supports your child?
Just ignore her right back, treat her as she is treating you, and dont complain about her to anyone who jas contact with her…
Talk to her about if she’s still being b*tchy stand up for yourself. Her making you work like that is illigal. She doesn’t have to like but she can’t treat you like crazy either
Maybe it’s time to get a job and get your own place. Overstaying your welcome is a real thing and can cause relationships to go south.
Move out. Get a job and get an apartment you can afford. If your man doesn’t work and goes to school he can stay home with the kid. You are a parent and should be responsible instead you’re whining about your in-laws
Maybe you did something without even thinking about it or even realizing it? It may even be something small that hurt her feelings. Normally there has to be a reason if you both got along before. Have you tried to talk to her and find out? That would be my first move. Try talking with her and find out whats wrong or why shes upset with you. May turn out to be nothing or a misunderstanding of sorts.
I’m confused why all these people are living in the same house? People go to school, work jobs, and are good parents everyday so your husbands situation isn’t making sense. You live with how many people, yet are a SAHM and can’t work? Sounds like it’s time to spread the wings and fly. There is no reason you both can’t work, save up and get a place you can afford. You could get state help with daycare, food stamps, and other help if you can’t make ends meet or don’t have a sitter. It sounds like you, your husband, and daughter need to start your own lives, and move forward. This doesn’t seem like a money issue, but a lazy issue. Your relationship could go back to normal once you guys are out of the house. It sounds like she doesn’t like her parents being used, and your welcome has been overstayed. Time to pull up the big girl panties, and enter the real world.
I don’t know, sit down and talk to her. You are both grown adults, surely you have an adult conversation to smooth things over.
You need to get a job and move. I don’t think anyone should be a stay at home parent while being broke and living off others. Surly if your in laws are letting you stay there they would watch your daughter while you earned income and got your own place or get a job working opposite of your husbands schedule. He could also be working on top of school- this isn’t anything Unusual. Why stay somewhere where you are miserable.
I think it’s time you get a job and get out of that house. If your husband is in school (most colleges are all online right now) then you can work. I work and go to school and take care of our 7 kids by myself and I’m pregnant, my husband works. No excuses, get you and your kid/kids out of that environment. I know (family or not) I wouldn’t be okay with a mom, dad and child staying with me and none of them working with me. Heck, I wasn’t okay with my adult niece and her bf living with me and them not working. After a few months I booted them out because there is no excuses to live with someone and have them support your family for you, especially for a long period of time. No reason to not get a job and save up to move out within a few months. Sounds like you guys are taking advantage of family to me.
There has to be some details missing here
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Jealousy is an ugly monster!
Find a way to get away together and sit her down and talk about it.
Get a job, move out! Once you’re settled and your husband is working at a better job you can quit and be a SAHM again.
Sounds like way too many people in the house to begin to get along. And sad that your hubby doesn’t step in to handle his juvenile sister
Confront her abt it …alot of times at that age it could be jealousy even …I’ve no time for pettiness life is too short … im all abt women empowering women …but say you did something to offend her unknowingly …wouldn’t you want to make it better
Just guessing here, but she might not like having so many people in her home, you don’t say how many siblings your hubby has, nor how long you have lived there. She may even be upset about feeling you and your hubby don’t pay your fair share. As far as you helping with her business it is your fault for not taking breaks, don’t blame her if you do not take the time to eat or go to the bathroom while pulling in a day of work. The only way you will find out what is wrong is talk to her, if you can’t do that get off of your butt at least a part time job, with that many adults in the house you could find one that works around other peoples schedules so you don’t have daycare costs, and if you do get a job offer to pay your hubby’s parents some rent/bill money, it is only fair.
everyone needs to move out oh my goodness grow up
Sadly this kind of thing got way worse for my husband and I after we moved out and stopped paying their bills. 12 years later we don’t speak to the mil or sil anymore. Some people will literally create issues where there aren’t any just to have something to do. Rise above and for goodness sake, move out. Living with family always ends in disaster no matter how close you are.
Yo if you live with family that’s the perfect opportunity to WORK and stack money to get out sooner.
Just ask her what have you done for her to be acting like this and God well help you to have right words with known one only you and her out side would be best.God well be side you .Amen my pray with you.
Stop letting her sick your positive energy and enjoy the break from people-ing if she wants to be petty, that’s fine. But if she wants to be an adult and solve whatever her problem is, she will have to climb up to your level and handle it maturely.
I would confront her no one would treat me that way in front of my husband and my child I would def ask her what her problem is and get to the bottom of it cause that’s childish
Fuck her… Live your life…
There will be a reason, you need to ask her outright. Dont be aggressive but be firm ,tell her how she is making you feel, and how it is affecting the whole family. Others will know what’s wrong you can guarantee it.
Your entitled to haap towards rent as your part time and hes a student get out and stand on your own 2 feet then you wont have to deal with her .
Do u have any other family or friends u could go and live with this is a very toxic situation for u to live in
Communication is KEY! Have you asked HER about the problem? There has to be a reason for her behavior, either real or imagined, but you won’t know unless you address it.
3 years of living with in laws? Was there time limit set? Having a baby while financially dependent on your in-laws?
You need to focus on you and your little family!! Your 20s are about growth and better believe that means you will lose people who are not good for mental and emotional health whether that is friend or family!! U have too much time on your hands worrying about a relationship that she may not care for…either address the elephant in the room or turn your focus on your future
Good luck
Your married and have started a family of your own. Time to move out . It’s great your husband is going to school and all but its a poor example to his younger siblings. And Sister in law probably has lost respect .
She might feel resentment because you all have lived there 3 years rent free and maybe the parents are not allowing her to do things because of money issues so she’s mad at you both
Well your husband should be saying something to her…any good husband should always defend his wife… especially against his sisters cruelness…
Time to move out. Nothing good will become of this. Its going to get violent pretty soon. Time to stand on your own 2 feet and move out of your inlaws house.
Get a place of your own. Been there to long
Probably something to do with living under the same roof.
You need to move out. Nobody says they don’t want y’all there but it’s getting awkward
Ask her what’s wrong. Have you spoken to your husband about this. Sounds like she’s jealous of you. Time to move. Even if it’s a 1 bedroom.
Have a talk with her!
Just ask her what the problem is she has with you. If she don’t tell you then you start ignoring her until you can move out
Move far away from her
Just remember when you move out you get to invite who ever you want over
Jealousy??? For sure leaving is the option, can your husband perhaps ask about her behavior towards you? Might get some insight if shes willing. Hubby should say something, but might become awkward. 22 and acting this way. Shes not acting like an adult at all.
When you work its different you have rights as an employee to take breaks and bathroom breaks if shes gunna make it awkward. Maybe time to stand up my dear.
Possible her issue is also, youv moved in and she may feel like youve taken attention away?? Space, and attention 
cannot know for sure unless shes willing to talk to someone.
She young and stupid and I mean stupid
I know your feelings are hurt, but she’s acting like hers are too. Even if you feel you’ve done nothing wrong ther could be something she’s upset about that you don’t understand.
Discuss this with your husband, becaus maybe he knows. But otherwise approach her with grace and humility and tell her that you miss your friendship and that you want to make whatever is broken right again. If your goal is to have a relationship then full on confrontation isn’t going to work-if she could handle confrontation she would have communicated what was wrong instead of being a passive-aggressive cow about things.
Honestly she sounds like she’s jealous, or she feels you’re taking advantage of the family by being a SAHM.
She’s probably upset that you 3 are taking advantage. Do you help pay the bills? My husband and I got married at 18 and our son was born when I was 20. We had to work hard but did it on our own. The whole thing! Rent, utilities, child care and everything else! We only had high school diplomas. He did get his associate degree after a few years of hard work. It’s tough but not impossible. If you couldn’t afford to have a child, why did you get pregnant? I just don’t understand so that might be my problem but we were both raised that you have to take care of yourself b4 having a family. I’m not sure if this is the problem but I know that if this happened to my parents I’d react the same way. Yes, I’d have loved to sit on my butt all day and complain but we decided that we wanted to be homeowners and worked to meet those goals. Covid has been hard but so far we are making it. I even added a dog to the pack.
Talk to her about it. Don’t be confrontational, just listen. She could just be acting up but there is a reason that she is doing what she is. I’m surprised you haven’t asked her before. As soon as I noticed a behavioral change in someone I love I immediately go after it. It’s best not to let these things fester.
I would confront her (with husband there for proof so she can’t say u said things that u never said) ask her what her problem is? Explain that u are confused by her behaviour as u have done nothing wrong and ask how use can repair ur friendship. I am glad she is nice to ur daughter 
some adults can be so cruel to children just because they don’t like their parents 
Sounds like you need to get yourself a job that doesn’t have you working for his family. Possibly invite her out for a lunch date and put everything out on the table and see what her issue is(respectfully). You and your husband are married with a child. You both need to be working to get out of his parents house.
There could be an issue with you that you’re oblivious too.
Way too many adults in one household, heads are bound to bump.
I’m sorry if this is harsh, but I think the answer is obvious. Y’all got married, had a kid and don’t work and live for free in his parents house. This is an issue and is easily solved, and a chat with the sister to find out for sure what’s wrong will help.
You need to ask her. Just because you don’t realize something happened, doesn’t mean it didn’t. Maybe something as small as a joke you made that she was upset by. You just need to talk it out with her.
But maybe you did do something to hurt her and you’re just not aware of it. Just flat out ask her. If you didn’t do anything then flat out at her why you’re being treated that way
I’m going to assume that if you have a 2 year old and this has started about 3 years ago, it was around the time you got pregnant. Did you live with her parents before you got pregnant, did you have a job before you got pregnant? I would not be surprised if this is because you’re living with her and her parents and not working but she is. But the only way to know for sure is to ask her
Oh no… She has Made you an Unperson. You did something wrong and she’s furious. You have to find out what you did. OR ignore her and double your work and your positivity. Maybe do both.
I’ll only be comfortable with being a stay at home mom if me & my husband had our own house not living off his family 
I would ask my husband to sit in and just ask her what her issue with me is.
Damn peeps jump to assumptions. You are in a position that can be criticized, but… I’m not sure what culture you guys are. Who knows, maybe they are the e type of family who babies the males and not the females? Do what you can to get your own place… then see how the test plays out. Maybe she can’t have kids and feels some way but if he allows this nonsense to exist toward you, maybe he tells his sister things about you? Are you cooking? Cleaning? Keeping up with the home? Idk. Ask.
You all live together? I’m surprised you all don’t want to take each other’s heads off. There’s no way I could live with that many other adults!! You say you’re a sahm, how much do you chip in around the house? Maybe she resents you for something she feels like you could be helping with more…
I don’t feel like there’s much back story here, and it’s too hard to tell what’s going on. All you can do is ask her about it.
Who’s the owner at work? Talk to the owner first of all bc she’s abusing her “power!” Secondly, I would have a family discussion at home and see what her issue is… there must be someone in that home she vents to? Get the info and talk it out.
Everyone assuming her husband doesn’t work but maybe he is going to school and working?? Daycare can be very expensive and maybe if she worked all of it woulf go to daycare anyways.
Ask her what’s going on!
Be honest with yourself about how you have treated her, how many resources you consume in the household and whether or not you could leave. She resents you.
She thinks you should be doing more. Whether you should or not is between you and your husband but chances are he’s complaining to her about you and she’s taking it to heart. He will never admit that and he’s probably just venting. But there’s no such thing as unfounded anger. Confront her and ask her what the problem is.
I would just ask her if you’ve done something wrong to upset her because it feels like she’s giving you the cold shoulder
All of you living together can be hard… You see and hear things you normally don’t. Just ask her, sounds like you’ll be there awhile.
I guess she wouldnt wamt to look after your kid so you can go make some money?
You can let your own mind drive you crazy or just straight up ask what’s up. Might be something a decent conversation can fix or it just be closure
Try to put the baby in daycare or find someone reliable and trustworthy to watch the baby. You should try to get a parttime job and save as much as you can , so y’all can get out faster and you won’t have to deal with that…smh. or you can try to confront her? She’s childish smh
Ask her what the problem is.