Mind your own business, they’re not your kids
Let her parent her children her way. Sunscreens are not safe.
Zinc Oxide or Titanium Dioxide is your best bet. I found a recipe online so you can make your own sunblock! https://www.instructables.com/Homemade-Sunscreen/ Also encourage her to put them in loose clothing that covers the skin.
Look up the different spf qualities of regular oils like coconut oil, olive oil, avocado oil, etc. they all have very mild spf coverage which could be better than none
Your sister is correct and I’ll be glad when the rest of society catches up to this understanding.
My grandmother worked in the sun from a child to an elderly woman. In the late 80’s she started putting sunscreen on her face ONLY (because everyone was insisting that she needed to start wearing it). She never put it anywhere else. Keep in mind she continued to work in the sun all year long until the last few years of her life. She died in 2015. At this point she had skin cancer growths all over her face. The rest of her skin was flawless even tho neck/shoulders had just as much sun (if not more because she wore a sun hat that helped cover her face)…
It was at this point I realized that sunscreen was causing skin cancer.
I immediately stopped putting it on myself and my children. Today, I have the same growths starting to develop in all the places that I would cover in sunscreen. I’ve avoided the sun for a couple of decades and even wear long sleeve’s in the summer for the past 10 yrs. I’m currently 42 and was 36 when I stopped putting that garbage on me. Last week I had some of these places biopsied and they are in fact the same thing my grandmother had on her face. I have them on my arms and legs…… the areas where I diligently put sunscreen as a teenager and young adult. The areas where I didn’t use sunscreen (my face being one because my skin is sensitive and it burned like a chemical burn when I applied it) doesn’t have any signs of these growths.
This is not a coincidence.
I did some research and skin cancer was extremely rare until sunscreen became a common place thing.
I mean…your sister isn’t wrong, especially when this has just happened
I’d be more inclined to stay to my own lane, and I love my nieces and nephews like they’re all my own children. But I respect my sister and sister in law’s parenting choices, as I’d hope, and know, they do mine.
Maybe just mind your business
Mind your own business
If you want to be a parent have a kid. In the interim, respect your place and stay in it. She isn’t obligated to keep her kids safe by your standards or cancer free.
She isn’t wrong… most sunscreens do more damage than good. Shade and protective uv clothing are perfectly fine to use.
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Only time my child ever burned was when sunscreen was put on her when my back was turned… and the truth is alot of sunscreens are dangerous!!
Chemical sunscreens are safe but if she really refuses to use them they make mineral sunscreens she could try. The ingredients will read zinc oxide or titanium dioxide. I wear sunscreen every day I couldn’t imagine not doing it. Skin cancer is no joke.
Hopefully she uses hats and clothing to help cover skin as well.
Sunshield- by earthly. Not a sunscreen (because your sister is correct) but it can filter out some harmful rays. I also don’t put sun screen on my kids anymore.
Get a chemical free sunscreen
One bad sunburn and your sister can be charged with child abuse for refusing to put sunscreen on her kids. There are safe options out there, she needs to do her research.
OH FFS. A chemical is any substance whose chemistry is known and defined. So, water is a chemical. There is nothing special about natural chemicals. Arsenic will kill you real quick. Sunscreen won’t.
I also leave my son the first 20min or so without sunblock. Natural vit D for their skin and health. Then a sunblock
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Why are you up in her business? Let her raise her own kids and mind your business. Wow
I get paid over $150+ per hour w0rking from home. I never thought l’d be able to do it but my colleague makes over $ 20489 a month doing this and she convinced me to try. The possibility with this is endless.
How about mind your business. Busy body! Sunscreen chemicals cause just as much if not more skin cancer. Your a horrible sister in law and you sound like a Karen!
Worried about what… they burning from the sun or the chemicals.
Maybe just stay out of it?
Your sister should of been swallowed.
The best sunscreen is diaper cream. I’m allergic to the sun and my daughter is extremely sensitive we were informed this by a md. It doesn’t matter what kind as long as it has zinc. People don’t like it because it’s sticky but it’s better than most high end screens and very safe
Your sister is smart. We don’t use sunscreen in my house either and I’m a Mom to four. Ever look at the ingredients in most skincare products? There are many other safer alternatives if you have skin that burns easily. I normally apply coconut oil with raspberry oil to nose and ahoukdwrau or use Badgers if I need something quickly and can’t make anything.
Wow some of you are assholes… she merely asked a question you all are a bunch of nasty Karen’s
This is a new thing, lots of moms don’t use sun screen because of this reason, whether the decision is right or wrong I don’t know
Mineral based sunblock are more natural I can’t use anything else. It burns my skin and eyes.
Tell her not to be a dick
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My kids use sunblock the first 2 days of direct sun and that’s it… guess I’m a bad mom too
Do yourself and your sister a favor, mind your business.
If/when you have your own kids you can lather them in as much sunblock as ud like
I don’t like to use sunscreen on my daughter bc of the chemicals however I use sunscreen with minerals in it. I use blue lizard on the face and goddess garden spray on the body . Any sunscreen that has minerals just make sure it has zinc oxide that’s the most important ingredient in sunscreen and also look for some that doesn’t contain alcohol in it that’s what burns the body from the sun. Hope this helps!
I totally get how you feel
Especially as the hottest part of the day is between 11am and 3pm
If I took my very young kids outside during the day
They had sun screen on and
I had a shaded area (under a tampolin )
That they played under
Mind you I’m in Australia and it gets extremely hot here
I’m pretty sure q.v. has a natural sun screen for kids
Melanomas can happen to people of all ages
Even in young kids
only the effects are not always visible on the surface for many years
Even a freckle or a mole can turn into a malanoma
As long as you give her current medical advice
There isn’t anything else you can do
If you are watching her kids so she can run errands , rub some sun screen on her kids and if She whingers just tell her you do it automatically
Look at sun as a glass of water… the more unprotected sun yoj get, your glass fills up. It eventually over flows with skin cancer.
Dermatology nurse here!
We cut skin cancer off YOUNG adults ALL the time. Melanoma can KILL you.
Use a zinc based sunscreen. Pleaseeee sunscreen your kids.
They aren’t your kids. When you have your own kids you can raise them your way. I don’t speak to my sister because she inserts her opinions where it isn’t wanted. Becareful pushing your opinion on her. She may decide she’s had enough.
Don’t let your kids out in the sun, wear hats, tshirts remember SLIP SLOP SLAP. Sure there is a sunscreen with no harsh chemicals. I am from Oz
Keep nagging your sister about how she raises her kids and she might cut you out of their life. Mind your own business. Even if my siblings tried coming at me with chemical free sunscreen I would tell them to fukk off.
I never used sunblock and 35 years later im fine. Not your kids stay in your own lane. I have always rocked an amazing tan . It is what it is
Sunscreen actually causes skin cancer. Research that. She’s doing the right thing. Mind your business.
We dont use sunscreen either. Your sister sounds like she has looked into this and they are doing what she sees is best. And you won’t change her mind just like she won’t change your mind.
Honestly I’ve never used sun screen on either one of my children, I make sure they drink lots of water and take breaks to sit in the air or share for a few after being in the sun for so long.
But it’s definitely a parents choice as to if they want to use the protection of sun screen or not. Everyone is different
I think it’s great you are looking out for your nieces/ nephews. It takes a village. I also applaud your choice to help your sister find a safe alternative. I read a few articles about this and they say to avoid the carcinogen benzene. I would suggest giving her this article.
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Skin cancer causes more cases of cancer than the sun. Mind your business and let her keep projecting her kids
I’m sure she already uses coconut oil or carrot seed oil.
u don’t have comment about sun screen but I have to add …
As I am some what older and bad as I hate to say it … ( not senior citizen old but middle age ) so I’m not sure about ur grandpa age but even at my age sunscreen wasn’t much of f a thing my younger years it wasn’t heard of so I’m guessing grampa was probably the same and didn’t start using sunscreen until later years…
So that can be argued.that the sunscreen didn’t work …
There are sunscreens that do not contain harsh chemicals. She can buy badgers or kiss my face, I know there are a few others but I can’t think of them atm… shoot if I were you I’d buy one & give it to her in a nice way like “omg sis look what I found, sunscreen for the kids that doesn’t have those harsh chems, I got it for you to try!”
I am a derm nurse. Use only physical sunscreen where the ingredients say zinc or titanium. Those are better than the chemical sunscreens.
Mineral based sunscreens are best if you have a very fair skinned child that tends to burn. Unless your sisters kids are walking around with sun poisoning then I would mind your business. And judging by the way she has researched for her kids safety, I sure she wouldn’t allow that either.
Worry about your own kids, I think u should do some research
For those of you saying you’re fine… you’re correct… For now, you ain’t out of the woods yet, but what about the others who weren’t so lucky? Sunscreen doesn’t stop you from getting a tan, it protects your skin from the ultra violet rays that causes skin cancer and others. If one of the kids die or get badly sick, knock that dumb b into next week! That’s all I got.
We only use sunscreen sometimes, and when we do it’s organic sunscreen with zinc.
She’s done her own research and doing what she has decided is best for her children. It’s not your place to tell her otherwise.
Tell her everything is a chemical and she needs to do better
If my daughter , dad and I don’t ware sunscreen we burn like lobsters , we are red heads
Y’all are being awful rude to someone who is just trying to help. Cut the shit out and offer safe alternatives like she asked or actual facts about it or keep scrolling.
Girl sit down… your sister kids aren’t the only kids in the world who don’t wear sunscreen
Probably just let her raise her own children. Usually the best idea when it comes to other peoples children.
Thinkbaby is a great clean brand
Blue lizard sunscreen
I don’t use sunscreen unless we’re by water… they are your sister’s children and unless they are severely sunburned it’s not your place to get involved… the kids are coming in with burns then I would say something… not everybody has to parent the same way you do
Leave it to a post about sunscreen of all things, to get the pent up mom’s foaming at the mouth and ready to go.
Sunscreen is pretty bad. Mine was allergic to sunscreen and i still use Blue Lizard. Shed burn without anything. I dont wear sunscreen but kids skin is much more delicate
I don’t use sunscreen for the same reason. We buy suits that cover the shoulders, wear hats, and limit exposure and my kids never burn.
You did hear about all those sun screening in the news last year right 99.9 percent of them even organic have some deadly chemicals they found making people sick and making them burn 3x as bad !!! My daughter got a third degree burn from two different ones !! I would let her decided ps maybe buy the kids sets of swim suite with long sleeves shorts and sun hats as a I love you this will help
This is gonna be a tough one, but let your sister figure things out for HER kids by herself. It’s not your place to raise them or to tell her how to raise them. It takes 0 effort to just mind your own.
There was no sunscreen when grandpa was a boy
Eh my daughter is read head and we only use sunscreen when we swim. It’s not a big deal. My husband doesn’t use sunscreen at all.
How about back off? Not your kids so not your problem. Easy peasy
I think there are organic sunscreens now. I could be wrong tho…
Get her an Aloe Vera plant for some all natural after sun care for those kiddos
I mean this as nice as possible…
Stay in your lane
Still don’t use sun screen on myself n still haven’t had any issues. My kids depend on how hot it is out and how long we will be out. But I don’t force my kids to put it on its their choice so maybe since they aren’t your kids you should accept its not your choice? If you have a problem with it help her find healthy alternatives
Your sister is their mother, PLENTY of people don’t wear sunscreen. Let her parent her own kids…
Of she’s worried about chemicals in sunscreen the all natural solution is to cover the kids head to toe in mud and let it dry. Natural sun protection
ThinkBaby is a great mineral sunscreen.
Not your kids so not your business tbh. Sunscreens have been known to be awful for quite a few reasons. If she chooses not to use them, her choices.
As an Aussie tell her to put long sleeves in her kids. Head to toe. Sunscreen is a lot safe then sun cancer
Sunscreen is the biggest scam going. Why would you think its ok to slab yourself in a tube of chemicals and then make sure to bake it into your skin by sitting in the sun. Health stores have non toxic sun screen.
Mineral sunscreens are the way to go but also it IS ok if you dont use any and sounds like she does do some preventative by having them in the shade for 15 mins every 15 mins… if they arent burning i say let it be… any kind of sunscreen will actually block vitamin D…. And certain sunscreens once it hits chlorine is when it has some sort effect where it can then cause skin cancer… mineral sunscreen does not plus is safer for wild life as well… i would definitely use that if my kids and i are either at the pool or beach… but any other time limit time in sun and shade, alternating
Not your kids. Mind your business. The only time we use sunscreen is when we go swimming… her kids will be fine…
Gramps sunscreen was quite lame, if that her excuse.
“Turns out, the protective sunblock that we’ve doused our children with is relatively new. “In the '60s and '70s all we had was suntan lotion with an SPF of 2, to take a little edge off the sun,” Dr. Rigel said. “The first SPF 15 was introduced in 1986 and 30 SPF not until the early '90s”
(NYTimes)
My kids play outside all day with no su screen. Mainly use it at the beach or if they aren’t wearing shorts and tee shirts. They RARELY get even a little red. A light base tan basically.
That’s called “Ignorance”
My dermatologist gave me blue lizard years ago. Depending on where she lives she should rethink it. They have all kinds online that are kid friendly
An easy google search will turn up results for this
That said… I didn’t speak to my SIL for years bc of stuff like this and we had this EXACT issue… I only put on chemical free and I didn’t ALWAYS put it on, I’m a fan of vitamin D too. I think my SIL like you was genuinely worried for my kids, ALL THE TIME… and believed I was doing EVERYTHING wrong… it slowly destroyed our relationship. In raising children, there’s no right and wrong. There’s a whole set of pros and cons that go along with all parenting techniques. YOURS TOO!!! My advice is step out of your self righteousness and let your SIL make choices for her own kids WITHOUT your judgement. She thinks you are harming your kids when you put cancer causing chemicals all over them… but I bet she zips her lip
I don’t recommend babygancics kind, its like the thickest toothpaste of a sunscreen.
Look up all the sunscreens that got pulled a couple years ago because they have chemicals that cause it.
We don’t use anything either and protect ourselves as .much as possible.
Rash guards I have seen used as a UV deterrent also
Mind your business and parent your children the way you want and let your sister parent her children the way she wants.
That’s what you should do.
Coconut oil is a natural sun protector. I wasn’t sure it would work because when you think “oil”, you think of tanning, but I’ve used it on scorching days and it works great.
Just mind your own business. They are her kids and not yours. Most of the people from my generation never wore sunscreen when we went outside all day long and most of us aren’t dying from skin cancer.
I only put sunscreen on 2 of my 5 the 2 are the ones that burn they got there daddy’s fair skin. Vitamin D is important and the only natural source of vitamin d is the sun…sunscreen blocks vitamin d from being absorbed into the skin. I have an auto immune that makes me vitamin d deficient to start out causing all kind of issues. I need the unblocked sun or I have to take a supplement which I do anyway because 75% of ur skin needs to be exposed to the sun for a few hrs everyday to get the proper amount of vitamin d from the sun and for me that’s impossible.
Mind your business and leave her alone……
girl mind your business
If your sister’s children were any harms way that is on your sister not you. She made a position clear and you either respected her you don’t. Do not enforce your beliefs her on her you were causing more serious problem.
It’s called stay in your lane, they’re not your kids. It’s not your call. Let it go.
As long as they aren’t “fried”, they’re fine. Let her parent her way. Although making them stop playing every 15 minutes to sit in the shade is a bit much, IMO. Everybody parents different.
Australian lizard I found is great
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