What he did sucks. But its not your sisters fault. And besides, 3 months?! She needs you right now because this guy sound like he is love bombing her. He’s off kilter. Its not normal behavior.
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Not your sister’s fault really and she’s likely embarrassed too. Most men do not have the mindset women do about their weddings. 3 months is really early though so that’s two strikes against him and not asking for her hand was third. Take her out to lunch and let her know this.
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Things happen. If the reason you had a wedding was for you to have some big day and not for you to just finally marry your spouse then your priorities are wrong. Should he have asked? Probably. Should you be upset about it to the point where as you stated you arent talking to your sister? No. Just be happy that not only did you marry the love of your life that day but your sister may have also found hers. (After 3 months of dating i doubt it but its her life so just be happy for her)
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I’m sorry this happened to you… I think that’s incredibly rude of him to do, he could’ve atleast asked you / husband…… hopefully your sister can see that side of it.
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It was inconsiderate, but that’s your blood and it’s not her fault he didn’t have better manners and regards for your family. Forgive and move on and pray for your sister as his regard of such will probably continue over time. Maybe he was moved by what you and your husband have and was moved to do such; while it was wrong it is best to move on. Life is precious and short to be holding grudges. Share your feelings with them, forgive, and move on.
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Honestly you are allowed to feel how you are feeling. It’s okay. Yes it was rude. Did he understand that, probably not really, so intentionally rude maybe not. However you should go directly to him, not your sister and tell him how you felt. Then you all get a piece of getting to know eachother and your’s or his intentions. Sorry that happened and that it had a negative affect on how you feel. 
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At my 1st wedding I had my bridesmaid and her bf get engaged. I didn’t really care. They love each other, it was also Valentine’s Day and it was an honor to see the love be spread! It was still your day. You’ll always have the memory that your sis got proposed to on that day. I’d be excited for her.
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I’d be super pissed. I would also convince my husband to propose to me at their wedding (even though it’s just for shits and grins) but I’m super petty
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Rude af, but what’s done is done. Why you mad at your sister? Not like SHE proposed to HIM. It’s ok to be upset, but move on. She did nothing wrong
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oooo, this just doesn’t sit right with me. several red flags from this guy. you are NOT overreacting.
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You (probably) spend hundreds if not thousands of dollars on your day, wore a beautiful dress and looked fabulous, had a whole day of your new husband and all the guests gushing over and adoring you… And you’re pissed because they took the spotlight off of you for 10 seconds? Get over yourself
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Tacky for sure…but what’s even more tacky is asking a grown ass woman’s family if y’all can get married.
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Like the meme says, I’m going to announce my pregnancy at your baby shower and die at your funeral. 
but seriously I would be very upset.
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They’ve been dating for 3 months. Why would you even allow him to be there to begin with? Your sister probably didn’t even know he was going to do it. Honestly she should probably get rid of him because that screams red flag to me.
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It wasnt your sister that did the wrong, if she knew about it beforehand it would be a whole other story for me, but since she didnt, what can she do? Was it very inconsiderate of him???..ABSOLUTELY…Im sorry you are hurt.
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announce your pregnancy at their wedding lol
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Have a gender reveal at their baby shower…. Plan ur funeral during their viewing.
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I’d be annoyed but no reason to let it ruin the day. It’s not like she had any control over it. Its an exciting time for her too even if it was ill timed.
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The DJ should have confirmed with you guys that it was ok . . So overall crappy for both of them.
I’d announce my pregnancy at their wedding 
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I’d be pissed. That’s very nervy and rude of him. Take it up with him. Talk to Your sister. She probably didn’t even know about it. He could have asked. It was you and your husband’s day!
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Why does she need permission to marry anyone?? It’s 2021 not the 1800s.
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If she’s happy celebrate with her! Don’t let it come between you two. Don’t let them know it bothers you. You will alienate your sister. She likely had no idea
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Your over reacting! Forget it or it will ruin family get togethers for years!! They may not even marry for gods sake!
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You have a reason to be angry just make sure you’re mad at the right person.
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I’d be pissed too but if it was because he was carried away with all the love around I’d make my peace with the fact that it was a wonderful atmosphere I got married in. It will always be your wedding day. No one can take that away from you. But now there is more to celebrate. Be the bigger person and wish them the best.
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I mean, if it upsets you that much, announce you’re expecting at her wedding, or something absolutely insane. Then drop the microphone. BOOM but seriously have to say, kind of crummy timing on dudes part, regardless if they were together 3 months or 3 years, I personally find it tacky.
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I would be mad too, but I wouldn’t not talk to my sister. I mean, I doubt she knew so why be mad at her…
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I agree. BUUUT coulda been worse… if it makes u feel a tiny bit better my sister got married and the guys mom literally joined in on their first dance… dancing behind her son… like HOLDING HIM 
I thought my sister was going to punch her in the face. His mom also was upset she couldn’t wear a white dress and bring sloppy joes if that tells u anything about this woman. Feel free to be like 
cuz they’re no longer married but I was sitting at the table next to the person recording and u can hear me say WTF! 
clear as day
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Not only is it rude altogether that he did that, but to go up and use your DJ that you hired to do something for free and unplanned for him?? I’m appalled. I’m so sorry this happened to you!!
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I’m kidding. Yes it sucks but remember the beautiful things not that one disrespectful part.
Your own thoughts will turn ur beautiful day into a bad memory
Radical acceptance
It happened
U can’t change it
I’m sure u looked amazing 
And u married your soul mate
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Your sister didn’t know… don’t blame her! Was it rude of him… yes!! What if he had asked you?!? What would you have said?!? I’m sure he just wanted family around to share in it… like most do! I think you had your day and it was special for so many other reasons as well! Let it go
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Think it was definitely rude but I also wanna know if he did it cause she’s pregnant and havent said anything yet
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You haven’t talked to your sister? Feelings can be hurt, however out of her control since it was a surprise. Try to look at beautiful moment for your sister and a great memory you two can share. Talk to her and make this right!
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That’s totally messed up. If you want to do that, check with the bride and groom first for one, but regardless, that’s so messed up, I’d be pissed too.
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I think this is very inconsiderate and you have every right to be angry 
But what’s done is done , don’t let it affect your relationship with your sister and remember your happy day with good memories xxx
I smell a rat. Something shady is going on. He didn’t ask you and did not ask your parents for her hand in marriage. What is he up to? He wants something bad enough after only 3 months of knowing your sister? My gut instinct says… Is his visa to stay in the country ending and he needs to get married to stay in the country?
Check it because this is too off the wall.
Please think about this first before taking action. Please Stay Safe.
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Maybe it’s me, but it wouldn’t bother me as long as my sister was happy. She’ll never forget your anniversary 
I’m not one for the spotlight so sharing any day with my Sister and adding to the overall love and happiness on my wedding day would seem like a win to me
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I’d definitely be annoyed at the situation if it was me but I wouldn’t be mad at my sister. It was rude of the bf and inconsiderate of him not to ask you but I’m guessing he’s young and doesn’t realize how much wedding days mean to most women
I don’t think you shouldn’t be talking to your sister? 100% so wrong that he done that but I’d say she felt just as awkward if he doesn’t know the family well and the fact it was at your wedding she probably didn’t even know what to say, I’d say it to him but don’t be mad at your sister she didn’t actually do anything other than probably be embarrassed
It was just a moment that’s all it was… it was still your special day, and you can’t really be mad at your sister she didn’t know it was going to happen. If you’re going to be mad at someone be mad at the boyfriend … I would be talking to him and asking him how long he had this planned and that he should of ran if past you guys first, if he already planned on doing it at your wedding or was it spur of the moment
No totally disrespectful it’s your day. It’s your moment to marry the person you love. He could’ve proposed any other day or time. That was special to you. I wouldn’t be to hard on your sister if she didn’t know about it either.
3 months? Oh jeez lol. Honestly if my sister’s boyfriend had done the same, I’d be happy for her. I mean 3 months is a little too soon but we’re all adults here. I can share the date with my sissypoo. I love her that much. What’s mine is hers. Except for my man 
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Maybe at her wedding announce that your are pregnant 
lol. All jokes aside I would be bothered by it I mean he didn’t ask and it’s your day.
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I’d be pissed too. Your wedding is YOUR special day. I wouldn’t want anyone doing this at my wedding, nor would I want to be proposed to at someone else’s wedding, family or not. I wouldn’t be mad at your sister though. I’m guessing she didn’t even know this was going to happen.
I would be a little upset at him maybe he got caught up in the moment and just wasn’t thinking about taking away your moment .I wouldn’t be mad at my sister unless she new .He had really know right to make your wedding about them .He just could of been not thinking .
I’d be royally pissed. That’s INCREDIBLY inconsiderate of him, and if I were your sister (assuming she didn’t know about this ahead of time), I’d have broken up with him then and there for the sheer disrespect. Gross.
I would have been upset but I would say something to my sister. It isn’t her fault. He took that moment away from your day, not her. It is very common but generally the people who’s wedding it is are asked. That to me would be common courtesy to ask. Then again anymore, no one cares and does what they want no matter if it is rude or not.
I get being upset I really do. It was disrespectful and stupid of HIM, but your sister didn’t have control over that.
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Talk to your sister, she was prob surprised too!! You’re absolutely right you will never get that moment back, but its a moment, id be more concerned about how much more time im wasting being angry at her about something neither one of you had any control over…be happy for her
He obviously had this planned because he had a ring and I feel as though it’s really rude that he didn’t communicate with you prior to asking, sometimes men just don’t think the way we do and he may have wanted to do a big romantic gesture with all her family there to share.
However I feel as though you’re taking it out on the wrong person, your sister would have had no idea it was happening and yes the way it was done was annoying, she would also be feeling sad too.
It’s an exciting moment and she would want to share that with you.
Personally I wouldn’t have minded if someone proposed at my wedding, they’re an atmosphere full of love and happiness so its understandable why people do but I definitely think asking the bride and groom if they mind first is just as important
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Im not going to read all the other replies. Now did your sister know this was happening or is it something the boyfriend just did spare of the moment. If she didn’t know don’t be to mad at her unless of course she made it a big deal. The one to be mad at is him. No it was not right for him to do that. It was your special day and he does not respect you or your sister
Wait until her wedding and announce your pregnant see how they feel it was your day not theres
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Yeah, that’s pretty messed up. I’d be pissed too! Is your sister all excited with rose colored glasses on or does she understand what really happened?? If she gets it, then I wouldn’t be mad at her. But definitely at him. But if she’s completely oblivious to the whole thing then she’s just as much the problem as he was. Talk about stealing someone’s thunder! Jeez
You are not overreacting. It was selfish and inconsiderate of him to use your special occasion to propose. Hr stole the shine. He could have arranged his own setup.
Talk to your sister about it. It’s not her fault coz she also didn’t know
I would say def don’t take it out on your sister. Not worth it and not her fault. And what’s done is done so allow yourself to feel how u feel. Distance yourself for a little bit if u need to until u get over it but Don’t overreact. I think the bigger issue here is ur sister said yes to someone she’s been dating for 3 months
Whats done is done. Let it go. Your feelings are valid, yes. But if the goal is to make them feel like shit and be heard then do what u need to do to feel better. It won’t happen again, obviously! Unless u re marry. But it’s too late for them to change or fix it. The only thing that will come out of it is making them feel the way they made u feel. Which is in itself ugly but I don’t think there needs to be a conversation odds are, ur not gonna get married again for them to ruin it again so I’d just finish venting here and then let it go and let them feel happy,not guilty.
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I wouldn’t have cared. If anything I would have been happy to see that my getting married inspired someone else to take the plunge. It’s all about how your mindset. You had your big day why is that not above everything else? Why is that not enough to opaque EVERYTHING. I do think it’s kind of weird that he would propose after three months, creep alarm…
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You can not be upset with your sister, she had no control over him proposing. how could she have?
Your day, your moment, will only be ruined if you allow it. It is all about perception.
(However, I am not saying you are wrong for being upset. My monster in law I thought back then ruined my wedding with her shit attitude - but it was only ruined for as long as I allowed it)
It sounds like love bombing and a manipulation tactic to put her on the spot. These usually lead to toxic relationships. I doubt sister is to blame. I would definitely be worried about your sister and get the details on his past relationships. One classic behavior of an abusive narcissist is to ruin special occasions. If he gets away with this, more will follow.
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Honey, relax. He is a dramatist. He will not marry her, he just likes to be the center of attention and that will end their relationship. Saw that happen before.
I don’t think your sister was expecting it, was it rude, yes! But don’t fall out because of it, she is your sister, I would let it go until you get pregnant, then announce it on their wedding day all the best and congratulations xx.
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If I were the bride I’d be pissed and if I were the sister I’d be pissed. Being put on the spot like that, at someone else’s wedding, in front of your whole family, after dating for three months? Alarm bells and red flags everywhere. Be mad at him for sure, but when the dust settles maybe check in with your sister. This feels very off.
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That’s pretty much universally known as the absolute last thing you do. Now if a couple agrees to it, go for it! But it is pretty much considered incredibly tacky and low class to divert attention away from the couple actually being married
There’s a chance he didn’t realize how very tacky was but it really doesn’t matter. He needs to apologize.
Sister has nothing to do with it. It’s not like she was in on it
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Well no it was not the most appropriate timing BUT it’s over and not something to ruin your wedding or relationships family over (heck he might have felt overcome w love, pheromones or alcohol). It is not your sisters fault and she is probably as embarrassed as you! Don’t be a bridzilla. If they do get married make an embarrassing toast about how they “ruined” your day.
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I’d be mad but ultimately it’s not your sisters fault so don’t hold it against her please. I’m sure she didn’t know that was going to happen!
It was YOUR DAY. Cut them off. That is so shitty of them!! It was your day with your marriage. I’m so sorry that happened.
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No, you are not overreacting…
The least he could do was ask your permission…
It’s your day and you should’ve enjoyed it to the fullest
You have every right to be upset for ALL the reasons you explained. I would speak to her bf and just say, he should of out of respect asked you if was ok…VERY rude disrespectful and inconsiderate what should have been you and your hubbys special day…PERIOD
Just remember your sister didn’t know but for the boyfriend he was absolutely inconsiderate!!! Sorry for your wedding but time now to enjoy your husband. Hoping your sister said no for two reasons one she doesn’t know the man in 3 months but 2 she learned he has no consideration for others. CONGRATULATIONS
Definitely wrong… If you don’t have brides permission that is soo tacky. I know some brides even put out there before, this is a no no at my wedding. & Tell Dj don’t give anyone that 
. It’s sweet when you’re on board & want to share with… But I’d have tackled him or something
I wouldn’t be mad at my sister if she confronted him about the situation and sided with me. However I’d sure let her boyfriend/fiancé know just how I felt. I’d congratulate her and be happy for her however I’d want to know nothing about wedding planning anytime soon. Completely disrespectful and wrong on every level. Nope not ok and not acceptable
Yes, you have a right to be angry with him, not your sister and you have a right to be upset that he did such a thing. It shows his immaturity and it certainly is not the way to make a good impression on your family, especially your parents.
Please extend an invitation to your sister and her boyfriend to your home for dinner and after dinner sit and let them know you are upset and list all the reasons you are upset with his actions. Perhaps he will see his mistake and apologize.
Don’t take this thr wrong way plz. Yes it was wrong and rude of him to take the spotlight off you and your husband, but ask yourself these questions
Are you happy?
Did yall get pictures and/or video?
Did yall make memories?
Like I said I know it was wrong but try and look at the bigger picture.
Try to take all the happy moments and thrive on those.
As hard as it may be, don’t dwell on the incident that has you upset. Good luck figuring it out. Hugs and Congratulations on getting married
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Im the kind of person who thinks this is romantic and a happy celebration. You are entitled to your opinion for sure, but the “me, me, me” mentality is disheartening. Everyone wants everything to be “perfect” and there is no such thing. Sharing joy is better than trying to keep it in a bottle for yourself. Totally my opinion tho. I would be elated if anyone did that, and share in their happiness.
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I don’t think it’s your sister fault , unless she planned it. It is wild he did that after 3 months at your wedding. I would be upset too.
Well it’s not your sister‘s fault, so why are you not speaking to your sister? It’s over it’s done put it aside and move on and be happy for everybody, or Karma will come back for you
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I met and married my husband ten years ago after less than three months. 
It DOES happen from time to time. Just saying.
However, in this situation, him not saying something first was…off…but it’s not your sister‘a fault. If you cut her off now it’s only gonna push her closer to him. Don’t make that the end game or you’re stuck with him forever. Or without your sister. Communication. Just because he didn’t doesn’t mean you can’t.
She didn’t propose to herself so don’t be mad at her.
Girl say something!!! I would hate for someone too that at my wedding! And the fact that he didn’t even ask of ridiculous! We pay thousands of dollars for the wedding to be about us not them.
Absolutely 100 percent rude. I would be livid that someone decided to take from the ONE day about you and your love without permission! I wouldn’t blame your sister since she had no idea. I would totally put her sudden man to marry on your s.h.i.t. list…as my momma would say.
I’d be very upset. Don’t take it out on her though. She probably had no idea he was going to do that. Very inconsiderate of him
it all seems dicey. he should have consented with you first. communicate your feelings to him. really just try to focus on the positives of your day! my mil wore white to our wedding and said it was her day which was not ok but we didn’t let it ruin the rest of the wedding, which was awesome.
Don’t be upset with your sister. He probably did it with out her knowledge. A 3 month relationship is too soon to talk about marriage. They are riding on the lust train. Focus on the beauty of your wedding day and let it go. She probably needs your input on her whirlwind proposal
I would be pissed and upset but I also see it as your beautiful day being an inspiration for him to get mushy… the romance probably rubbed off on him! Was it spontaneous or
Did he have an engagement ring prepared ?
If there was a ring then it was pre planned and this idea is crap but I’d say if he didn’t he probably wasn’t intending to even propose but got caught up in the whole atmosphere of the day
Honestly if someone proposed to someone at my wedding I’d be pretty annoyed, it’s the one event that is solely for you and your partner. Would be slightly different if asked and agreed but otherwise its just rude
Had your husband proposed to you at someone else’s wedding, would you have said no because you felt it was inconsiderate to the couple getting married? Seriously, what does that couple have to do with the rest of your life? Absolutely nothing! Bravo to the romantic couple that became engaged at your wedding. What an honor to you and your new husband this was.
You see…it’s all a matter of perspective and attitude. At the end of the day, love is love. What a beautiful moment your love for your groom inspired in another couple. It doesn’t get any better than this.
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It certainly wasn’t appropriate at all, it really was a shit move on his behalf, but I don’t think your sister should bare the brunt of his actions.
Yes it might have taken the spotlight away from you & your husband, but at the end of the day, your marriage isn’t about the wedding.
Please don’t blame your sister. Have a chat to both of them & express your concerns, but don’t hold onto the anger. Life’s to short.
You’re feelings are valid and I know being upset but try to remember this as something hilarious that happened at your wedding. In 20 years, “remember when my sisters weird boyfriend proposed”
Very inconsiderate. Your wedding is for YOU the bride and your new husband. Even if they were a long term couple and you were waiting for them to get married, he still should have made the event some special for him and your sister not steal your thunder. Just rude.
Don’t be mad at your sister though. Not her fault but it’s fair to be honest with her about your feelings. Try and think about all the other wonderful memories of your day. 
What was the answer did she say yes that young man is PW he just wanted to get lucky don’t take it out on your sister she’s family. She’ll wake up and she’ll be all done with him in 6 months but as far as your wedding goes congratulations I’m not the marrying type I was just one of those type of men and brought up everybody else’s children I just wish you and hubby the best of luck call your sister don’t ever let an a****** get in the way of family
First of all you are NOT overreacting!! Id be pissed if anyone did that at my wedding and you have full right to be angry. However if your sister did not know then dont be upset with her but let her know exactly how you feel and why its not ok. I would also have some serious words with the DJ for allowing random people to just come up and make announcements without asking whats going on and consulting with you first
Clearly this isn’t your sisters fault of intention so cutting her off was kind of rash… However since this new guy hasnt earned that place yet might as well tell him off now and get that out of the way incase he does sick around for years lol shitty that he stole your thunder but I don’t think it’s worth losing your cool over with your sister… It’s only been a few days, enjoy your husband lady…
I wouldn’t dwell on it. And why are you not speaking to your sister? She didn’t do anything wrong
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They would of been escorted out… no “brother in law” of mine would do that shit. Nuh uh no way I would be LIVID!!! I’m mad that it happened to you and idek you.
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I wish I knew my baby daddy’s true colors at three months or else we wouldn’t be together. I hope she RUNS
Weddings supposed to be conjoining family members but often push them apart when everything not exact to plan. Personally (and this is just me): simply enjoy that everyone likes being there for the wedding. If not everything perfect be thankful for what goes right. Way too much pressure for perfection with Weddings and so often family members fall out and hold grudges. Apologies if offend but I’d value my sister and share the spotlight so everyone has a great day 
lifes too short for grudges etc. Me I had a backyard wedding and the fact everyone was relaxed and had fun was all I needed to make my day
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I honestly think you have every right to over React your wedding your day your special moment. Regardless your feelings are valid. BUT you should not be upset with your sister it’s not her fault and She didn’t know her boyfriend would propose to her at your wedding. So all a side I get your upset with her but she knows you’re from not talking to her and obviously it seems like she hasn’t reached out because of the situation but on your end you should tell her that it really bugged you and your husband and just say how it’s very inappropriate the way he came out and did that without consulting you guys first . Better yet you should tell the guy that it was very disrespectful to do so. Cause I know everyone on there own wedding day would not like that if it happened to them on their day. So just be open and the day is over with already so just come out and tell her how you feel. That’s it squish the problem because the problem is with the guy not your sister and only that you only get so much time with your sister ya know. Life goes on and anything can happened time is not promised neither is tomorrow so make the most of it and forgive one another!
I feel you, that was your day. But if your sister was truly surprised. Try not to be mad at her. But you should express to them how you feel. And if they last…When they get married…Announce you’re pregnant even if you aren’t!!! Lol!!!
Congratulations 
Your not wrong feeling the way you do that was your special day no one should have tried to take that away from you. He not only disrespected you he disrespected your parents by not asking permission and in my opinion it was even more inconsiderate when he barely even knows your sister 3 months and he felt he knows her well enough to ask for her hand and knew you well enough to do it at your wedding he barely knows any of you. Maybe if he had waited till the end when everyone was getting ready to leave it might not have been as bad but even then poor taste in my opinion because every thing at a wedding you only plan to do once so each thing is special. If I said something to my sister I’d tell her it’s no I’ll feelings towards her it’s her boyfriend your upset with because she probly didn’t know he was doing it and if he didn’t have a ring on him when he did it then he was trying to be the center of attention and steal your special moment because you don’t announce a proposal without a ring at a big celebration or anywhere really
Red flags. He proposed after dating her for three months? In front of your entire family? At YOUR WEDDING? I’d want no association with that person they sound toxic
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