I’m sorry but I don’t think what he did was ok. If he had asked you and it was ok then that’s another thing. But it was your day. So bloody inconsiderate.
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The amount of nasty comments in this post is ridiculous. Do you not know how to say your opinion without being rude.
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You are allowed to feel upset, and don’t let anyone shame you for your feelings! Some girls dream of their wedding day from the time they are a little girl, and having something like this happen can be awful for some women. I think you need to have a conversation with your sister and her new fiancé (mainly cause you said you don’t really know him) about how what he did made you feel.
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I would talk to your sister about how u feel… its never appropriate to propose at someone else’s wedding… if someone did that at my wedding I would be furious. It isn’t their day.
Don’t ignore your sister as it isn’t her fault…but make it known that u wernt happy
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Yes that’s annoying. I can’t believe the dj allowed this to happen. You have every right to be upset. Not your sisters fault. But the boyfriend is a dick.
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Think you are over reacting. Life is too short to worry about this kinda stuff. I feel you have a love that was worth a marriage you should be happy for your sister.
Wow, im shocked at the amount of comments of people saying you are overreacting and that its not a big deal! You are definitely NOT overreacting and it turns your special day into someone else’s. Mind you, a guy who doesn’t even know your family and he is already starting the relationship with your family off like that! Wow, not cool new boyfriend.
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You clearly inspired them!
You are NOT overreacting at all. Most of these young girls telling you to get over yourself, don’t have a clue how much time, money and how stressful planning a wedding is big or small. That was your day and he had no right to take the spotlight off of you and your husband. That’s a big red flag for your sister though. Congratulations and I’m really sorry he ruined your big day!
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Wait until she gets married and announce your pregnancy at her wedding 
Personally, I’d be pissed too but it’s already done and there’s nothing you can do about it, so just talk to her and tell her how you feel. But first, talk to your parents and get their two cents.
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Wow. That is extremely rude! He sounds like he was too cheap to make arrangements for the engagement! I’m sorry.
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Don’t take it out on your sister it’s not her fault , be the bigger person and move on
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Cant see him ever being popular with the family i would certainly be pissed and wouldn’t want anything to do with him your not over reacting
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If he asked you I’m sure it wouldn’t of been a problem.
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This gives me monica Nd rachel vibes from Friends:joy:
The fact he didnt ask
Barely knows her or ur family
Did it in the most tacky way ever at ur wedding
Yea no I wouldve kicked him out entirely
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You haven’t over reacted, I’d also be pissed. However if your sister didn’t know he was going to propose then its not her fault
Is unacceptable for me, but don’t take it out on her, is the boys fault
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I would have been like excuse me there’s a time and a place and this isn’t it so move!!!
Tbh it wouldn’t bother me at all if someone got engaged on my wedding day but that’s just me also it’s not your sisters fault she didn’t ask him to propose to her
It was inconsiderate of him,no you are not over reacting
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He definitely should have asked if you and your spouse were ok with it. Very disrespectful to take away from someone’s day like that without approval. I’d be so mortified if my husband proposed like that without permission. If your sister had no clue, why are you ignoring her though?
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If your sister had been dating him for a year or more & he knew the family well, I wouldn’t mind it if he’d waited until the of the reception & would have been a special memory to top off your special day but 3 months and after your 1st dance? NoPE. I’d be pissed. Not your sisters fault though. Dont shut her out.
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He was wrong to do this. Your Wedding your day.
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Awww that’s amazing, congratulations to you and your sister. 
your a cry baby the attention was still on you but he didn’t have to ask u for permission it’s a free country u have a lot of mental growth to do …
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If that’s how He is it won’t last, he just wanted attention.
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Yeah the guy is clearly a dick.
Not a good start.
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If your sister said yes then she’s fucking nuts! Who in their right mind decides to marry someone after 3 months.
Hard to say like I feel like I would have to feel happy for my sister love my sister’s to much to put my own needs first .
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I don’t understand not talking to your sister, how is this her fault???
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Be happy for them. Move on.
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It’s NOT an over reaction. He tried to steal the attention off your day. I’d be fucking pussed. Especially if they have only been together 3 months
Life is short. Maybe it was the spur of the moment on such a joyous day.
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It was completely inconsiderate on his part. But your sister didn’t know it was gonna happen. So maybe reach out to your sister and talk to her. I wouldn’t forgive him. I completely understand why your pissed. I would be too.
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Wow how rude!!! That your day, he could have picked any day but your wedding day!! But don’t blame your sister if she clearly didn’t know
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Well you can’t change it now so…
let it go… for your own peace of mind
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It was of bad taste that he asked her there. But it’s not your sister’s fault. She didn’t know he was going to do that. Dont know why you cant work it out with her. To me that’s selfish and immature.
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1.this story sounds fake
Why don’t you sit and cry that your sister got some attention on your day
You clearly don’t love your sister And you sound like a narcissist it should
All be about you
Grow up
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What the hell?! No you’re not being petty, a bridezilla or overreacting! You and your husband paid money for YALL special day. I would be pissed. All these people saying get over it would be acting the same way if it happened to them. It was rude, tacky, and disrespected! You have every right to feel how you feel. No, it wasn’t the sisters fault, but I’d definitely pull him aside and let him know how you felt🤷🏽♀️ There’s a time and place for everything.
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Wow!! I feel sorry for your new husband if that’s how you react to this situation. You are a selfish human being
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Talk to Hans and tell him he needs to get to know Anna better before they get married and it wasn’t cool to do that and not ask you
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It was not considerate for him to ask at your wedding at all but I would hope your sister didn’t know about it so I would not be mad at her .
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To be honest… You sound like my momster… 
She has narcissistic personality disorder. It’s me me me all day long! 
I would probably be even more happy as our love must have been contagious! If it was me…
Why can’t you just be happy for your sister? That’s the question here!
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Not your sisters fault, he was very wrong but your sister wasn’t aware of his intentions x🌹
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I get that it’s tacky to propose during someone’s wedding without permission but why would he need your parents permission?
They don’t own her
Also if 10 minutes without the spotlight ruins your entire wedding you obviously didn’t get married for the right reasons
A wedding is about your commitment to your partner not about being the belle of the ball
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I just thought it as an unspoken rule… you don’t propose at some else’s wedding UNLESS it’s been pre organised with the bride and groom and they are cool with it !!
But again the sister might have preferred her own special moment, so she maybe a little torn up about it, don’t blame her and lose that relationship…
There’s nothing wrong with wanting your own special moments in life … all these ppl saying that’s a narcissistic quality clearly aren’t educated on that disorder
Every human being longs for moments that a purely about them, made for them
We all long for something that’s for us and us only, thats a lot different to being a Narcissist, this word gets used to loosely that’s for sure 
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I honestly wouldn’t of mind… If she share a special moment on my big day… We have more to celebrate
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Keep calm… Give birth at there wedding and even the score😎 seriously though there’s nothing you can do about it, don’t let his silly error of judgement ruin your relationship with your sister.
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My sister got knocked up on my wedding night Instead of watching my kids like she was supposed to… The four years following that it was, “this is when I concieved” instead of “happy anniversary”… I get it. Definitely pissed me off. And I did go months without talking to her bc of it. You are allowed to have boundaries and cut people off when they cross those boundaries.
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I’m with you on this- a wedding is a big day about you and your husband coming together and likely would have been planned before they even met.
I wouldn’t be mad at the sister, but I would definitely make it clear that whilst you’re happy for her, that was not cool on his behalf and you do not appreciate it one bit.
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It may have been inconsiderate of him, but he did that, not your sister. You shouldn’t hold it against her, that’s just immature IMHO
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Okay why are you mad at your sister? Lol That’s just weird. She didn’t know and you should be happy for her. I’m guessing she said yes. The whole point of a wedding is for you to celebrate your union with you significant other with your family and friends. I would be happy and not bothered whatsoever. There’s something else going on here.
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Not talking to your sister is very petty and immature since she had no idea he was gonna propose .
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No. But don’t be mad at.your sister, she likely didn’t know.
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It isn’t your sisters fault. She didn’t plan it. It was poor planning and inconsiderate of your future brother in law to do on your wedding day. But at the end of the day he is going to be part of the family and you can’t change what happened. You need to put it behind you and move forward. 3 months isn’t very long of a courtship, let’s hope for your family that their marriage will be successful.
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Definitely messed up. Do we know how this guy treats her? The first thing that came to my mind was there’s no way to say no in that situation…
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it was down right rude.
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You have every right to be pissed. It’s your special day!!!
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I think you have every right to feel cheesed off about it! But what’s done is done and being upset won’t change anything. Your sister most likely didn’t know a thing and the new bf may have been doing it with the best intentions.
Try to concentrate on the rest of the day and the happy memories not the inconsiderate act.
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Your sister did nothing wrong
Just gonna throw this out there 1. He was wrong af for doing this. 2. She probably didnt know it was gonna happen so dont be mad at her but still talk to her about how you.feel. 3. If they only been together 3 months chances are it won’t last. I have seen countless couple “get engaged” after 3 or 4 months together and either they end up engaged for 5 years breaking up and getting back together again constantly (toxic) or the relationship ends before a wedding can even happen. Try to take away the good memories of this because you cant change what happened, only your reaction to it.
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Oooohhhhh. Yeah this isnt good. I would be pissed too .
3 months?! He sounds like a psycho. Ur poor sister has a psycho on her hands. U should watch out for her
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It isn’t your sisters fault.
Sharing aSpecial day for you both is nice, however, what you say speaks about his character- rude, inconsiderate. Sister is going to need you.
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Maybe you should be happy for your sister and that your wedding inspired the proposal!
Celebrate together
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No one can make you feel anything. You chose to let it ruin your “special day”. No one can take it from you. You control your own emotions. Was he wrong? Probably. A bit rude to intrude, but let it go. You can spend years being upset about something inconsequential or you can let it go. And the fact that you cite how much it costs tells me that the money is more important to you.
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Idk I think I would be happy for my sister. Rude to not ask yeah but my sister is my best friend and I would want her to be as happy as I am. Still your day but share
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I think you should be ticked off
But it wasn’t your sister who did it. It was her boyfriend
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I’d kinda be happy it’s like I inspired someone else for love. I’ve witnessed people getting saved at funerals I’d just be touched I inspired someone else.
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He shouldn’t have done it on that day
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It isn’t your sisters fault but I can see why you are mad. The fault lies more with the boyfriend, now fiancé for doing that though. He has only been with your sister three months, which is a concern though.
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Yes…pretty selfish … i would be pissed too. BUT pls dnt fall our over it…lifes too short and she probably didnt even know he was going to do it. Talk to her and clear the air… i wish my brother was still here to fall out with… but sadly not. Hope you sort it xx
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I bet it was the sisters idea 
rude AF though
I think the worst thing here is the fact they’ve only been together 3 months! So what if he proposed at your wedding? I domt understand the big problem! And do men actually still ask His girlfriends parents?
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Announce you’re pregnant with triplets at their wedding
Leave her be otherwise, she must be embarrassed being proposed to in such a trashy way
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Don’t blame ur sister she clearly wasn’t aware it was going to happen
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It’s not really your sisters fault but??? Anyway if it was me I wouldn’t be angry at all. If anything I’d feel so special to share that moment with my sister who I might add I can guarantee had no idea it was coming …
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Not your sisters fault, however……fuck that guy. Shows no level of respect to you or your hubby. He’s obviously quite immature and doesn’t care about other peoples feelings.
Also if I was your sister I’d probably feel embarrassed that’s he’s done that to you. I’d try to make amends with her and get her side of the story. Maybe she’s feeling shitty too?
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I’d be mad! Technically isn’t your sisters fault but I’d still be annoyed…just make sure you announce you’re pregnant the day she’s given birth and die at her funeral… then you’ll be even
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I wouldn’t be mad at my sister , she didn’t know he was gonna do that. I would talk to her and tell her how much you don’t appreciate her boyfriend doing that and he needs to keep his distance for a while because you are not happy with what happened
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How dare he. I’d be pissed ! He should’ve at the very least asked u and ur now husband. And. Only together 3 months and proposed!? And she said yes!? Ummm 
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Nah I’d be upset too girl. A womans wedding day is a womans wedding day. Now what you should do is announce a pregnancy at her wedding. And if your sister and her mans has an issue with that just tell them the same lame excuses these other people are giving you in the comments. “Dont be selfish, a happy day is a happy day, the day was still about you, don’t be petty.” And call it a day. Personally I hold a grudge until it is paid back in full. Hell I’d even make the petals that the flower girl carries down the isle pink or blue and announce the gender there too. It seems like he rushed the proposal to be literally on your wedding day. My 2 cents though you can take it or leave it 
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I think you’re over reacting. Tbh. It was a cute moment and you should be happy for your sister. My husband and I got married after only 6 months of dating and he never once asked for permission to marry me and he didn’t even know my family yet. We’ve been together 6 years now with 2 beautiful children. And my family loves my husband.
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Your feelings are valid! It’s very inconsiderate to take a special moment/day like that away from someone.
REGARDLESS though, communication is the key factor & you should express it to your sister. It’s not her fault!
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You are allowed to feel the way you do, let’s not invalidate your feelings. So feel upset about the situation, But you can’t be upset with your sister about it. She probably did not know. So be upset express your self to your sister’s fiance in a respectful manner and then get get over it and enjoy your marriage. It was a moment this guy got caught up in because your wedding must have been so beautiful and he probably felt inspired. We sometimes are not in control of situations but we are in control of our response to it. Try to find joy in your special day and life ahead with your husband and get some peace that it happened
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This used to be the norm. He probably should’ve waited till the reception was further along. It was a day of love and he was feeling it. You should probably sit with your sister and be honest about your feelings. Although apparently he didn’t see a problem with it… you are clearly having a problem with it. So it’s a problem. Dont let it take so much from ur day. It was still ur day
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I think you’re over reacting, you say it was your day and your moment which it was, you got married and had a beautiful ceremony. Why would your sister being happy ruin that for you? Definitely don’t stop speaking to your sister over something she had no idea about and the whole not asking permission thing is irrelevant, it’s your sisters decision not your families. I would let it go, enjoy your new marriage and the future you have ahead of you together
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Now, you’re just being petty. Why does the fact that your sister being happy bother you so much? Or you wanted her boyfriend to propose to you? Stop being selfish. Happiness is not something autonomous that is reserved for some people and denied to others.
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Your feelings are justified and your DJ should have 100% checked with you before giving the mic to anyone
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The whole thing seems iffy, him not knowing the family well, and them only being together 3 months… aside from that, he should’ve asked for not only your parent’s blessing but for yours and your husband’s permission.
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She needs your advice more now then ever. I know it is so upsetting. But she is probably freaking out herself and knows it bothered you and she don’t know how to approach the situation bc she wants everyone to like him. Bad move on his part but people do do that a lot at weddings. Bc they aren’t expecting it. It’s a younger things I guess. But. Really reach out to your sister.
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Yes it’s very rude. Your wedding is about YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND . It’s yalls day. He ruined your day. I don’t think your sister knew that was gonna happen or course. I would tell your sister about how you feel and Maybe she can let her boyfriend know that you didn’t appreciate him doing that. What he did was VERY rude!
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Yes it was rude,however personally,I’d let it go. Being upset isn’t going to change anything. If you bring it up to your sister, it’s just going to cause problems between the two of you. I’d just leave it alone fr 
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It was tacky. Nothing you can do about it now. Be supportive of your sister, at 3 months making a display like that, he may be controlling and possibly abusive . If they do get married, she will need your help and unconditional support.
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First they 99.999% will not make it to the alter. Second I’d be pissed too, your DJ should have asked you first. Unless your sister knew about it too then she’s innocent in the matter, you need to speak with her though because proposing after 3 months together is all kinds of red flags…hes most likely psycho get her out now! On the other hand some times you just know when you’ve met your person but 3 months is WAY too soon to be proposing.
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