I was 16 dating a 20 year old… we’re still together over 5 years 
I have a 15 year old son and I will never let him date a 18 year old. She is too old to be dating someone that young. What is her intentions ? That’s great he came to you but you should think about it. Parents are here to protect and guide he is still young.
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When my brother was 15 he had gf that was 25 . Claimed she couldn’t get pregnant and in fact she got pregnant by my brother.
Then she took the baby so our family could never see him.
So please talk to ur children
I think a lot of these people have never been parents to a teenage boy lol. I personally have had 3. If your son has come to talk to you about this then you have already won the biggest battle. Looking at some of these comments I can see why some teenagers never talk to their parents. I got stuff wrong with my boys but I was lucky (like you are) in the fact that they trusted me enough to come and talk to me about pretty much anything. One of my boys had (still has) a liking for girls older than himself. When he was younger 15/16 and we would talk about it, my biggest concern was that if he started to become sexually active that he made sure he protected himself…
I knew that if I jumped up and down he would simply stop talking to me and do what he wanted anyway. So I gently guided him in the right direction. Talking to them (and listening!) often helps them make the right decisions off their own back.
All 3 boys are now in their 20’s (just got my girls to go lol!) and there have been no dramas, no pregnancies, no real “girl trouble”. A few broken hearts along the way, but nothing time didnt heal.
Keep talking to him, you are doing a really great job!
To me, its not a big deal at all. Imagine if he started dating younger, say a 13 year old. Then they stay together and shes underage when he turns 18… there isnt even a 3 year age gap here… come on. People rarely find someone their exact age… give tha kid a break. Meet tha girlfriend and her family and then decide
I would meet her as well but remember 18 year olds are very naive and just food for thought they may both be at the same level of maturing i would monitor the situation very closely
Yes meet her. U will only push your son away if u don’t.
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He came to you and he was honest. That is huge. Dont lose him while trying to control the situation. He’s 15 and she is 17. Meet her, get to know her before you judge her. He respects you and he trusts you so don’t break or lose that. If more kids could talk openly to their parents do you know how much better things would be? Everything will be okay❤
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I think its about perspective and the attitudes of both teenagers, a 3 year difference dosent seem like such a big deal but id definitely meet her and see whats she is like and see if its appropriate in your eyes. Me and my partner have a 10 year age difference but because hes the older one it never seems like such a big deal to people (when in reality it isnt as 2 consenting adults)
Meet her and go from there.
Anyone under the age of 16 is illegal in Mass!! You have to check the law in your state
Sure, meet her.
I see no issue with the age gap. Not sure why she likes younger guys so soon but maybe your son is more mature than most his age…
Yea its kinda weird that an 18 year old girl would be with someone younger, something is not right, and the female can catch a charge if you choose to pursue that option
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I would just wonder about her mental age wanting to date a 15 yr old boy…
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I was 15 and my husband was 13 when we started dating. It is a challenge! Yes we were told by family members as well as friends how hard it was going to be and yes they were right! After a few breakups and both of us dating other people we finally got married after 7 years of dating. He was 20 I was 22 and have been married ever since 30 years this year!! and we’re doing just fine! Let your son be he’ll find his way!
No way! 18 yr. Olds are doing stuff that 15 yr. Olds shouldn’t be doing!!
That’s a hard age to decide what to do, once he’s 18 and he were to date a 15 yo opinions might be different. I’m three years older than my bf but we are also in our 30’s, atleast he came to you and maybe just talk it out with him voice your concerns and let him know you trust him to make good decisions. Good luck!!
Idk how I feel about THIS because if my daughter was that age and came to me saying she’s dating an 18yr old I would be upset. I have a boy and two girls so I can’t say I’d be ok with him doing it if I wouldn’t let my son do it.
Teens are teens it’s a government standard at what point an teen is legally an adult.
Age is just a number she isn’t that much older than him just have him invite her over for dinner so you can meet her
Let him know that when he feels serious enough about her or when he’s ready to he should bring her over for dinner and a movie night with the family
Definitely meet her before you reach a decision
I wouldn’t allow it personally, what 18 year old would be interested in a kid? To me I think it’s not right.
But
The other side of me says meet her and see what she’s like, if you push her away from him it could hurt him.
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Statutory laws fall into place. I would not allow it all cost.
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I was 16 and my boyfriend 20.
We talked a lot about what we would and wouldn’t do. He was very respectful and so for us there was not a problem. We have been married 44 years.
You can’t always go by age sometime it has to be by maturity and their way of thinking about things.
Reading these comments and i have been through a similar situation with my daughter she knows that she can come to me and i cherish that. Now comes my question they want ti soend time innher room with the door open watching tv and playing on her playstation. Her room is directly across from my room
What’s the problem? Give him a high five and tell him to wrap it up everytime.
It’s a little over 2 year age difference no big deal
Yes, he trusts you, so please be the same with him